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writes:Hey everyone i need some advice...My girfriend and i have been dating for almost a year now and we've talked of our future. Although we're in a LDR we truly love each other but im just so afraid of losing her in the far future... I dont know what to do and i REALLY hope it doesnt happen and she's promised and swore up and down she loves me too much for that to happen. I'm so afraid of losing her that sometimes i think about breaking up with her just so i dont feel such a heart break if that happens... I know it sounds selfish but i dont know what i would do if something happened that far up the road. Reply to this Question
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (16 September 2009):
 When we invest a lot in ourselves, as the others have said, there is a tendency to worry about the worst case scenario regardless of how "good" things are in the present.
However, I recommend worrying about things when it's time to worry about them. You've said you worry about this in the FAR future. That indicates your relationship appears healthy at the moment.
If you constantly ask for reassurance, and worry about what may never come, you may be bound to make you fear realize itself. It could be a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Stop worrying about it and enjoy what you have now.
Good luck.
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reader, unknown71121  +, writes (16 September 2009):
HelloI understand how you feel. But just remember that everything happens for a reason. and if its meant to be you will stay together.Just relax and cherish every moment you spend together. Worrying about this could actually effect your relationship. Being paranoid most of the time may change the way you act and think. So relax and let loose, be yourself.You said you both love each other so there's nothing to worry. And if you ever get in a disagreement or a fight. Dont stress. We're all human and have our moments and we all will disagree with one another now and then due to different perspectives and opinions on certain things.So keep good communication between each other, trust and respect each other, be faithful; and most importantly be yourself. If you stick with those basics; everything should be fine.Be happy :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009): This is how it is in all relationships. When you love someone so deeply, it will hurt even more of the relationship ends. Its the chance you have to take in order to win love.
You just have to take the leap, trust your girlfriend, trust your own feelings, and go with it. You dont know what will happen. You are scared. Its normal. Now ask yourself if you are gonna let that fear stand in the way of what could possibly be the best thing that ever happened in your life?
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