Are any women actually trustworthy?
Q. I'm losing faith in humanity in general and myself in particular here. A little more than five weeks ago, my fiancée dumped me. I'm 25, she's 21, and we had been together for over 3 years, engaged for over one year. We were making good progress pl...
A. 29 October 2009: I met one of my best friends online. We tried dating, but it didn't work out. He and his wife are joining me and my boyfriend and a few other friends at my boyfriend's LakeHouse this November for my birthday.
The right connection for you will... (read in full...)
Do you think a man who lies about watching porn will lie about other things?
Q. Do you think the man who lie about watching porn can lie about other things? I have never thought that my husband lie until I married him. We were in different country before we got married, I knew he was watching porn because he had no women ba...
A. 2 October 2009: This clarification softens my opinion a bit. It is possible that he has a porn addiction, but it isn’t something I know a whole lot about. Speak to a family doctor, go on the birth control pill and ask about porn addictions; get a referral to find ... (read in full...)
I miss him so much
Q. hi i was really good friends with this boy in my class and we used to have fun hanging out tgether. We were reasonably close for about a month but then suddenly on monday, i went to school and i felt like he was cold shouldering me. I thought it...
A. 2 October 2009: You like him. I knew THAT from the get-go.
Move on. Leave him behind. Don't act desperate.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't acknowledge my hurt feelings!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for over two years now. Last week, he left to go out of town. We made plans earlier in the day to see each other that evening. As we were talking, he stated to me he was going to call me back. He ...
A. 2 October 2009: Thanks for clarifying, anonymous. It helps when trying to develop an informed opinion. :-)
I am only going to tell you how I would handle it.... you can take that information, pick it apart and take what is useful and abandon what is not to y... (read in full...)
Are any women actually trustworthy?
Q. I'm losing faith in humanity in general and myself in particular here. A little more than five weeks ago, my fiancée dumped me. I'm 25, she's 21, and we had been together for over 3 years, engaged for over one year. We were making good progress pl...
A. 2 October 2009: Yes! Here's to Q and his being him. (Raises a drink)
And here's to our friend, Illithid, who does NOT think all women are whores, and is dusting himself off and trying again.
Have a wonderful date. Take it one day at a time. Remain true ... (read in full...)
Why does my husband feel the need to lie to me about silly little things?
Q. its been like 1 year for my marriage and now for few months i have come to my moms house for some work and i talk to my husband daily over phone and we chat online also but sometime he lies to me. Like, if i ask him what are you doing now he says ...
A. 1 October 2009: Wow. When he answers that he is doing nothing, it means "nothing worth discussing."
You sound suspicious. Like you're LOOKING for something to be upset about.
A better question would be: Why do you need him to disclose every mind-numbi... (read in full...)
Do you think a man who lies about watching porn will lie about other things?
Q. Do you think the man who lie about watching porn can lie about other things? I have never thought that my husband lie until I married him. We were in different country before we got married, I knew he was watching porn because he had no women ba...
A. 1 October 2009: People sometimes lie. That doesn't mean they will lie about everything. He is lying because he may feel ashamed or that you will not understand him, and clearly he would be right.
Someone may say, "You look great!" if they haven't seen you in a... (read in full...)
I'm big, she's tight and it really hurts her. What do I do?
Q. ok so the problem is my penis is a bit bigger than average and my girlfriend is fairly tight and we had sex for the first time a couple of weeks ago and when i tryed to put it in her she said it was stretching her which i figured was normal but ...
A. 1 October 2009: How experienced was she before you? Women are built to stretch (child birth).
I'm not a doctor, but presuming she is just like every other woman on the planet, if you spend time on foreplay and take it slow, she should eventually be able to ... (read in full...)
Younger men, can you tell me if he is telling the truth, or is he trying to control an older woman?
Q. Well here is my drama I am in a strictly sexual relationship with a man 14 years younger than I am and he has told both while drinking and sober that he wants to take our relationship further. He has told me that he wants to take things slower as ...
A. 1 October 2009: Six months and he loves you? Hmmmm... (no comment).
Essentially, he is saying he wants to get to know you better because he is ultimately looking to settle down and he sees potential in you. He didn't ask you to marry him. Is that right?
... (read in full...)
I asked him if he liked me on facebook, and now I don't know what to do!
Q. There's this guy who i used to go to school with when i was at primary school and i liked him for the last two years of it. then we left for different seccondary schools and i rarely saw him but everytime i did i realised that i still felt something ...
A. 1 October 2009: Just walk on by and don't say anything. You've made your move and he hasn't responded. The ball is in his court. He should have replied, if even just to say he is flattered by not interested.
And don't presume the FaceBook comments on his wall... (read in full...)
Surprisingly old for a raver!
Q. I'm not attracted to women my own age, either socially or sexually. I'm a healthy, tall and well educated man, single but looking after two children who are now both teenagers and quite independent. Over the years relationships have tended to l...
A. 1 October 2009: Should you worry about being attracted to younger people and a younger lifestyle?
No. My boyfriend is 24 years my senior and also in his fifties. He enjoys clubs, concerts, travelling, playing the guitar and all kinds of other things. He says ... (read in full...)
Why does he keep showing up when I'm dating a new guy, and get my hopes up?
Q. Me and my ex were together for near 2 years, we broke up about 8 months ago.. Because well, he changed basically.. He wasn't like the guy i fell in love with. I still love him and think i always will, but everytime i get into a new relation...
A. 1 October 2009: Question: What do i do?
Answer: Stop letting him play you.
Have some discipline and self-respect. Next time he tries, remind yourself he is the type of guy who keeps leaving you hurt. Is that the kind of boy you want to be involved with, even i... (read in full...)
Are any women actually trustworthy?
Q. I'm losing faith in humanity in general and myself in particular here. A little more than five weeks ago, my fiancée dumped me. I'm 25, she's 21, and we had been together for over 3 years, engaged for over one year. We were making good progress pl...
A. 1 October 2009: My poor, broken-hearted friend... I will forgive the "are all women whores?" question because you are hurting. :-) No hard feelings, ok?
Yes, plenty of girls are honest, moral, Christian, slightly geeky and won't betray you. You have only dat... (read in full...)
My EX boyfriend wants to get me pregnant!
Q. He broke up with me about 2 weeks ago and I ended up moving out. He said he was unhappy and needed space. He said we both had realtionship issues we had to figure out before we could try again. He wrote me a 4 page letter telling me how much he ...
A. 1 October 2009: Umm... DANGER, Will Robinson, DANGER!
This guy wants to stay broken up but wants to get you pregnant? I don't think he knows which end is up, right now.
PLEASE take what he says with a grain of salt until he sorts out his feelings.
Goo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't acknowledge my hurt feelings!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for over two years now. Last week, he left to go out of town. We made plans earlier in the day to see each other that evening. As we were talking, he stated to me he was going to call me back. He ...
A. 1 October 2009: It's unfortunate that he can't at least say, "I'm sorry you got hurt," but he may not wish to say that because he thinks you are over-reacting. Frankly you could be.
He was about to leave on a plane trip to go across country. Is it not possible... (read in full...)
If he really cares about me and wants to be with me for xmas wouldnt he do anything for me?
Q. Hi, I'm 20 years old and my boyfriend 21. Its been 1 year and a half we are together but more and more we experience problems and more often we fight. Even if i know it might be early i always keep thinking of the future and imagining my life wit...
A. 1 October 2009: I certainly expect my boyfriends to take me out every now and then, but I would not put my relationship on the line for frivolous trips, etc... and I am not a student. I date full-timed employed men.
You sound as though you are often asking a... (read in full...)
My ex is my best friend...we dated and now I can't get him out of my head
Q. Hi! My ex is also my best friend. We only dated for 4.5 months, we've been broken up for 4 months. He continues to be my best friend. I love this guy (as best as my teenage brain can comprehend that, hahaha) in a romantic way, yes, as far as I kno...
A. 1 October 2009: Odd that you're asked if you have had sex. I don't see how that would make a difference here. :S
You have a couple of options. The first is to continue what you're doing. But that isn't working for you as you know, or you won't be here.
... (read in full...)
Is his financial irresponsibility a sign of things to come?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been through ups and downs. We just started semi-living together. We stay together 3-4 times a week. He lost his job a few months ago and is just getting by with the unemployment that he receives. In some ways, he is very ...
A. 1 October 2009: It's possible that with time he will "grow up" and be more mature with his money-habits, but I would never recommend that you "bank" on that (pun intended).
Put your foot down about your car and let him pout. Ignore it. It's childish.
If h... (read in full...)
My husband always finds reasons for me not to visit my family, how can I make him see that I want a relationship with my family?
Q. Everytime I have the opportunity to spend time with my brother, sister, dad who all live out-of-state, my husband seems to find a reason why I should not visit or take part in the event. His main argument is that they don't plan well and don't give ...
A. 1 October 2009: If it were me, I wouldn't waste breath trying to explain it. I am sure he is aware of it.
I doubt he has a problem with you spending time with your family. At least based on what you’ve written, it sounds like HE doesn’t want to spend time wit... (read in full...)
Is he in love with me or a pedophile?
Q. He is always talking to me at least more than 20 comments a day. He's a couple years older than me though. I know this isn't safe, but I met him online. Well anyways, each time we have a conversation, he'll be talking about how he wants to see me in ...
A. 1 October 2009: If you are under 18, and he is that much older then run, but assuming you are actually 18 or older, he is not a pedophile. Still, depending on how many "a few years" actually is, it may be a wonderful fantasy to him to be with one as young as you. ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me because he was too impatient to wait for sex
Q. My ex bf broke up with me and hurt me really bad during the relationship. He broke up with me because he was too impatient to wait for sex. I wouldnt have sex with him because I didnt feel he respected me and I had a feeling in my gut that he was ...
A. 1 October 2009: Wow! I like this poster. Anonymous Australian female, you were brilliant!!
Despite temptation and pressure, you trusted your gut instinct with this boy. You remained true to yourself, even if it was difficult sometimes, and you were proven r... (read in full...)
Why would he just come up and hug me?
Q. I was going to sit in the computer lab to get some work done, and I saw this guy that I had a huge crush on from last semester, sitting at the piano and singing. I did not say anything to him because he was talking to this guy from his class...I was ...
A. 1 October 2009: No one will know why he hugged you. It may have been just an innocent and friendly gesture, without any meaning behind it.
Don't read anything into it. Just take things at face value and put it out of your mind. If he likes you he will let you ... (read in full...)
He doesn't know any of my friends but I invited him to a party, was that the wrong thing to do?
Q. I've known a guy for 2 months and been dating him for the last month. We see each other about 3 times a week and he always initiates getting together. I've been invited to my friend's birthday in a week's time and I told him about it. The other day ...
A. 1 October 2009: I agree completely with the anonymous reader below.
Have fun! :-)... (read in full...)
What does it feel like to lose your virginity?
Q. how does it feel to lose ur virginity?does it hurt?how does it feel when guys come?how does it feel wen a guy is hard?how does it feel wen a girl comes?how do girls come?help me please...
A. 1 October 2009: I can answer a few of those questions.
1) For a girl, it hurts to lose your virginity. It can be VERY painful. You will bleed a little afterwards. This is part of the reason we advise young women to wait until they are in a stable and loving m... (read in full...)
Is unprotected sex the only way to catch chlamydia?
Q. Hey, this is probaly a really stupid question, but is unprotected sex the only way to catch chlamydia? Im thinking of sleeping with my boyfriend for the first time, but I wont be his first. Hes had a test done and hes all clear, and they offer th...
A. 1 October 2009: Good! I'm glad you are taking everything seriously.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
Emotional abuse?
Q. hi, i desperately need some advice, i have been with my partner for over 3 years now and then i found out that before i met him he used to download illegal porn and sell for money, as he said he needed the money. I found out that he lied on a few ...
A. 1 October 2009: Anyone subjected to emotional abuse would feel depressed.
Depression is often anger turned inwards. You are angry. THAT is a NORMAL reaction. However depression is counter-productive to well-being. Using your anger as a tool to aid you in l... (read in full...)
If you were me you can forgive a cheater? Do you think cheater will repent and stop hurting others?
Q. We married 23 years and have 3 lovely children. He is 56 and me 43. I am a teacher at school and I am a nice woman. We have a happy marriage and he never intended to leave me. We are French and live in US. One day I found out he cheated on me wi...
A. 1 October 2009: DID he choose you? I thought, by what you wrote, that it was the other woman who contacted you after SHE dumped him. It seems to me that SHE made the choice for him.
I am sure he cares for you, and it's possible he loves you, but I doubt he... (read in full...)
Can anyone make any sense of this???
Q. I am in desperate need of advice. I began seeing this girl back in the winter of 2007. We became official before christmas of 07 on the phone when she was in her hometown. She called me and asked me what we were because some guy was 'chasing her...
A. 1 October 2009: Dear Jand_z,
I am very happy if anything I said was any help to you. I really feel for you because I sense your feelings of isolation and I am sorry your friends can't be available as an emotional "stabilizer" for you while you endure this.
... (read in full...)
I'm beginning to think she isn't ready to date. All I want is to get to know her a bit better!
Q. I pretty much know the anser to this but want some feedback! About three months ago I met a girl and it was an instant connection, something I have not felt in awhile. She was in a stifling relationship so we just met out a couple times not...
A. 30 September 2009: When she said she doesn't want to just be friends, she meant she likes you as a potential lover, but isn't ready for it now. That could mean she was trying to spare your feelings, but I suspect she meant it.
However, I recommend you back away and... (read in full...)
Had to leave her due to accidental sex, want her back!
Q. i had a girl, because of an accidental sex i had 2 leave her. but now she's out and i'd like the first one back. (i dont know whats in her mind. what shall i do?...
A. 30 September 2009: If you cheated on your first love with a second who is now out of the picture, you can beg your first love to take you back, but no guarantees.
I'd be inclined to think the sex was not so "accidental" since it was followed by a relation... (read in full...)
Like father, like son, in sexual habits! Should I talk to him or be worried?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for 2 years and have since the very beginning been very comfortable and sexually open with one another, more so than any of our previous relationships. He has several unique fetishes and I've never thought much of ...
A. 30 September 2009: Being "freaky" is wonderful, providing everyone is happy and no one is being hurt.
Unless he is displaying odd behaviour, I would leave him alone. Would you have thought he needed counselling or that you were doing anything wrong if you had not ... (read in full...)
Is unprotected sex the only way to catch chlamydia?
Q. Hey, this is probaly a really stupid question, but is unprotected sex the only way to catch chlamydia? Im thinking of sleeping with my boyfriend for the first time, but I wont be his first. Hes had a test done and hes all clear, and they offer th...
A. 30 September 2009: If you haven't had sex, you are not likely to have a sexually transmitted disease. However, HPV can be obtained through receiving oral sex from someone with a cold sore, and so there are other considerations.
If you are both clean, then go to th... (read in full...)
Should I pursue it and give him signals back?
Q. I am 25, a single mum and rescently gone back in to education. I think my teacher fancies me. He focuses on me in every lesson, he asks me questions through out in front of the class and quietly asks my opinions on things when the rest of the clas...
A. 30 September 2009: I don't know about the issues he may face being involved with a student regardless of age.
However, if a relationship will not lead to being fired or disciplined, send a few signals back. ;-)
Enjoy and good luck!
... (read in full...)
I miss him so much
Q. hi i was really good friends with this boy in my class and we used to have fun hanging out tgether. We were reasonably close for about a month but then suddenly on monday, i went to school and i felt like he was cold shouldering me. I thought it...
A. 30 September 2009: 1) Email?
2) Phone Call?
3) Approach him in the hallways at school when he is not around his friends?
Why would he get angry with you?... (read in full...)
Can anyone make any sense of this???
Q. I am in desperate need of advice. I began seeing this girl back in the winter of 2007. We became official before christmas of 07 on the phone when she was in her hometown. She called me and asked me what we were because some guy was 'chasing her...
A. 30 September 2009: Whoa... I don't think anyone can fully "get" it.
Okay (big deep breath)... We are going to avoid succumbing to the temptation to pointout all of your idiotic moves here. ;-) You appear to recognize your part in this, and so that will be a waste ... (read in full...)
I regret the name I gave my baby! What can I do now?
Q. Dear all, I have a problem that is in my head! I know many of you wouldnt think its such a big issue but i just delivered my baby girl on july 14th and called her a name i really liked at the time.. and we agreed on... on the 6th day he went to r...
A. 30 September 2009: Her name doesn't matter. What matters is that you loved it until a pile of inconsiderate people inappropriately commented on the name and changed your mind about it.
You are being influenced by "the crowd"!
You and your husband liked th... (read in full...)
My ex is sleeping with his girlfriends best mate
Q. Hi everyone Well my ex bf is now like my best friend we get on really well even if we do have are little tiffs, But basically he has a gf who is pregnant and i slept with him once after that and it hasnt happened since as i felt guilty even th...
A. 30 September 2009: As the others said, this is none of your business. Do not say anything about it.
You've already tried to explain to your ex that his behaviour is hurtful and inappropriate. I presume he is a big boy. I bet he knew before you told him and didn... (read in full...)
Nothing concrete but more seems to be going on than meets the eye!
Q. Hi, I'm new around here and could do with a bit of advice, sorry for the novel. I have two young children with my husband of 7 years, he is a builder an works quite closely with his customers in his home, which normaly I dont have a problem with. ...
A. 30 September 2009: I'm inclined to agree that your instincts are right.
Speaking for myself, if the only way my husband could support his family is to have him work for a woman who obviously has feelings for him and behaves inappropriately, I would find that una... (read in full...)
If you were me you can forgive a cheater? Do you think cheater will repent and stop hurting others?
Q. We married 23 years and have 3 lovely children. He is 56 and me 43. I am a teacher at school and I am a nice woman. We have a happy marriage and he never intended to leave me. We are French and live in US. One day I found out he cheated on me wi...
A. 30 September 2009: It is tempting to psychoanalyze this man and your marriage, but from an outsider's perspective, with such limited information, it is unlikely we will be accurate, or that we will have any revelations new to you.
To answer your question: I do NOT... (read in full...)
Its all about him getting off and he never takes the time to pleasure me!
Q. why do men think it's okay for them to just raise up their woman gown and go in? the men get ready easy they can get horny just by looking at you or by kissing or just by rubbing your breast but yet they think that just because they are ready we ...
A. 30 September 2009: Men like feeling as though they are pleasing their wives. That yours is impatient does not mean this is an issue for all men.
You may tell your husband that you want him to give you more time, but you do not actually change your actions, do you? ... (read in full...)
Which of us is the problem?
Q. When we romance with my husband his dick is always strong but when we start having sex his dick becomes weak. who's the problem me or him?...
A. 30 September 2009:
Why does either of you need to be the problem? It is more important for you both to work together to find the solution.
Sexual Intimacy is best when it is the extension of Emotional Intimacy. A good marriage (like any relationship) is... (read in full...)
I miss him so much
Q. hi i was really good friends with this boy in my class and we used to have fun hanging out tgether. We were reasonably close for about a month but then suddenly on monday, i went to school and i felt like he was cold shouldering me. I thought it...
A. 30 September 2009: I am not sure if you read everything I wrote. You don't know he said you were desperate. You heard from someone else that he said it. You don't know what (if any) misunderstandings may have been involved.
Ultimately, you have two choices.... (read in full...)
Relationship Crisis: he cheated but I want it to work!
Q. So this month has been my worst month ever, boyfriend cheated on me and everything. I took him back we had a long conversation and I told him that it will be a long time for me to trust him and I continue to ask him to keep 100 with me all the time. ...
A. 29 September 2009: I think the best way to stop hurting is to let this relationship go.
He's broken your trust and he is supposed to work to earn your trust again. He appears a bit busy for that right now (for whatever reason).
You said wanted to forgive him a... (read in full...)
What makes a man lose his hard-on during sex?
Q. What makes a man lose his hard on during sex?...
A. 29 September 2009: In addition to what the others have said, alcohol and for some men, condoms. (Don't let them take it off, though unless you have an equal or better alternative for both STDs and birth control.)
I've found both can be overcome. ;-)... (read in full...)
Is my husband looking elsewhere because he's not happy anymore?
Q. I often feel that my husband is looking else where for relationship's. He often has female friends that I am sometimes aware of but do not have contact with for one reason or another. In the pass year he has been in a friendship with another women, ...
A. 29 September 2009: Isn't it amusing how many people will throw away a 20 year friendship and keep a 12 year marriage when the friend and the husband both did the same thing wrong? I don't judge you for that. So many people would have done exactly the same thing, ... (read in full...)
Why do girls look for robot guys?
Q. Why every girls hate emotional guys? Why they look for robot in guys? Would anyone like to guide me on this? Zahir, Pakistan...
A. 29 September 2009: I don't know any women who like men with no feelings. We generally do not like men who are "emotional puddles" or are overly emotional.
To help more, I would need more details. Do you have a scenario you'd like to put forward so we can understa... (read in full...)
I miss him so much
Q. hi i was really good friends with this boy in my class and we used to have fun hanging out tgether. We were reasonably close for about a month but then suddenly on monday, i went to school and i felt like he was cold shouldering me. I thought it...
A. 29 September 2009: CaringGuy is right.
One thing you should learn about school is that rumours are to be ignored; and I say that not caring how good the friend is who whispered it to you. They are not above mistakes.
In grade (grammar/primary) school in Canada... (read in full...)
Emotional abuse?
Q. hi, i desperately need some advice, i have been with my partner for over 3 years now and then i found out that before i met him he used to download illegal porn and sell for money, as he said he needed the money. I found out that he lied on a few ...
A. 23 September 2009: You obviously do have a self-esteem issue. Women who are confident in themselves do not allow themselves to be used by men.
His family probably doesn't like you because he has lied to them about you. He is engaging in behaviour with women th... (read in full...)
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