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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (20 January 2014):
 Maybe he thinks you think you aren't 'pretty enough for him'? Maybe he's trying to figure out how low your self-esteem is and how it will affect your relationship?
What did you reply?
"Yes, I'm definitely pretty enough for you, are you man enough for me?"
"What a weird question, why on earth would this come out of nowhere on a text message? What are you trying to say?"
"Gosh honey, I'm really confused by this last text, could you make your question clearer?"
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reader, mystiquek + ♥, writes (20 January 2014):
 He has a strange sense of humor? He's an idiot? Its so hard to tell from text messages what someone really means because you can't hear their voice, you can't see the expression on their face. Who knows? I personally would not be amused by such a question and would actually be insulted. I'd probably fire back "Are you serious? Too smart AND too pretty for you" and drop him like a hotcake...but that's just me. If you really like the guy and aren't insulted ASK HIM!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2014): I don't agree it's nasty at all.
Maybe you come across as very insecure, maybe that's something you've discussed earlier, maybe you told him you felt he was out of your league or something.
There's only person who can tell you and it's not any of us.
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reader, llifton +, writes (20 January 2014):
 Ummm .. I don't know, but that question would immediately make me change my mind about him completely. What an arrogant, douchebag question to ask someone.
I'd say "too pretty." Then never text or call him again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2014): I would ask him. It's either really bad joke. Or he's an idiot.
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (20 January 2014):
Dear OP,
There are two options: Either it was a really lame joke (he wanted to be funny when he's actually not..) OR he is a really arrogant and stupid person who doesn't deserve your attention.
To me, this doesn't sound like he wants to get more serious. It just sounds like he wants to have sex with you then dump you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2014): I would have sent the same message back to him in response.
Then followed-up by asking him if his spell-checker knocked his text message out of context?
Including an emoticon that expresses confusion.
(i.e.) :c/ ??? or :-( !!!?
My phone has some really cute animated symbols!
Such a request does not deserve an intelligent reply.
That is the most stupid head-scratching curved-ball brain-poop you could ever send a lady.
How did you interpret that as wanting to be more serious?!!!
Give him a chance to clean that up, before you put his cocky ass on a catapult; and project him into oblivion.
That was insulting!!!
The better response:
"I'm sure I'm too intelligent to be asked something so stupid!!!" You're kidding right?
Be gone with this jerk!!! NEXT GUY, please!!!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 January 2014):
 Uhm, because he's an idiot ?....
Although, that's the problem with texts : no context, no facial or vocal clues... maybe it was a joke, what in person could be inncuous, funny banter, by text comes off as rude and arrogant..
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (20 January 2014):
 He thinks himself too good for you!
Dump him...he sounds like an idiot.
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reader, Ciar  + ♥, writes (20 January 2014):
 Ready to be more serious? Um...that would not have been my first guess. Especially since he asked it out of the blue via text.
He wants you to start doubting yourself so he can have the upper hand.
Toss this one back into the sea.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (20 January 2014):
 Because he wants YOU to feel grateful that he is seeing you? Or because he senses that you have insecurity issues?
Either way, I would have asked him to elaborate instead of guessing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2014): If someone asked me that question I would assume they think they are in a higher league than me.
I would find the guy arrogant or conceited.I would stay away from the guy and go no contact.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2014): It soundsl ike he doubts whether you are. What a nasty thing to say.
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