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reader, goodiea  +, writes (25 June 2008):
you've hit the nail on the head she had her chance and blew it. It seems that you have found a nice girl dont let this woman get to close keep her at arms reach with dirt under your finger nails. and enjoy your time with your new partner good luck your friend lu
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2008): Its almost typical in breakup. It's the "I don't want you but I don't want anyone else to have you" way of thinking. One of my ex's broke up with me & a few weeks later texted BEGGING me not to have sex with any of the girls I was hanging out with that night (she didn't know any of them personally). She just wants you to still be all about her. It'll pass the moment she finds someone herself.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (25 June 2008):
 Maybe she always used you as a confidence boost?
It is one thing for her to reject your love, quite another for you to take it away.
Oh and ask yourself how this question makes you look. Do you even care about the other girls feeling? perhaps the first girl was right in rejecting you because she spotted a player.
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reader, lexilou +, writes (25 June 2008):
 She has told you she was not interested but obviously enjoyed the attention you gave her. I would think she is now jealous as you are giving that attention to another. I personally think if you dump the other girl and go for it with her she will back off again.
Forget about her and concentrate on the new lady in your life x
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reader, Al 2008 +, writes (25 June 2008):
I think it depends on what type of girl she is (the one that you have liked for a long time), how well do you know her? is she likely to try get you to prove a point to this other girl or to make herself feel good? If she is then i wouldnt go for her, she may just use you and wait till the next person comes along that she can use to make herself feel good with. If your getting on really well with someone else, ask yourself; are you getting on with them better than you ever did with this other girl? If so, be careful not to blow your chances with her. It is a possibility the person you have been after for a long time might of realised they like you but on the other hand they may just miss the attention that you gave them. The only question that needs answering is who do you like most? Who would you prefer to be with? - Make sure your answer is for the right reasons, you like the person they are etc not just for a trophy girlfriend. Dont put all your eggs in one basket at this stage.
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reader, mikejb73 +, writes (25 June 2008):
 hi there, that seem quite similar to what i experienced when i was 20ish...i had the hots for a girl and she always kept blowing me out (we were friends thou)...excatlly like you thought oh well and moved on met a girl and as soon as this girl found out she was phoning me texting me basically saying i don't want you to be with her be with me so like a fool i dropped this girl and went for the one who was ringing/texting me...what a bad mistake she dumped me about 2 weeks after and told me to get on with my life...so basically matey be very careful if she didn't want you before ask yourself why does she want me now!!!! good luck!!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (25 June 2008):
 I think she is playing you. She doesn't really want you but she doesn't want someone else to have you and take your attention away from her. She had her chance. Focus on your new girl. Good luck Buddy.
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reader, superbunny +, writes (25 June 2008):
 I'd say she is interested, girls don't get jealous over nothing! But do you really want someone who's going to mess you around? Maybe she's just making you chase but I don't think I'd personally try to impress anyone who'd previously turned me down. Make her chase if you're going to want her again. x
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reader, No1AgonyAunt +, writes (25 June 2008):
 This may sound bad and maybe not what you expected or
wanted to hear but it sounds almost as if she wants
when she can and liked the fact she could have had you if she wanted even though she wasent attracted to you in that way.
It sounds like she had you wrapped around her finger and
you was in the position where she said jump, and you said how high? She liked being in control and now
you have realised it was going nowhere and shes lost the control shes trying to make you think there is a posibility
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