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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 4 months.I'm 13 and he's almost 16. I think were ready to have sex...we've hooked up before but Ive always stopped him. Whoever awnsers this question could you please tell me*where we could have sex its not like we could use our bedrooms*are we to young to have sex(he promised me that we'd use a condom)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): If you can't tell your parents what your doing then you are too young and you know your doing something wrong. What will happen if your parents find out. Of course your too young to have sex, you don't even have a place to do it in. What you going to do, have sex in your bedroom so your parents can walk in the room, beat your boyfriend up and kick him out of the house. How you gonna explain to your mother why your bedroom looks a certain way. How you gonna hide what happened, how you gonna explain why you've changed. Not a good idea babes, as well as the problem of split condoms. Sex changes a relationship, I guarantee you if you have sex with him, you will feel differently and he will feel differently and you two will break up. You want to have sex, why, what do you think will happen. If your expecting it to feel good and be fun, it won't be. Your too young, it will probably hurt and be a shock.
Your too young to have sex. Go and study your books and get an education, make something of yourself and develop some pride. Do you think sex at 13 is so clever, it's not, it's a stupid idea that you will eventually regret.
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reader, babewithbrains  +, writes (4 July 2008):
 Woah, steady on!
Kissing and cuddling is all good and well, but sex is a whole new level of bleedin dangerous! I think you know the age of consent, (In UK) is 16, and I don't think it's any less in USA. This means it's illegal, and if your condom splits, you have a whole new range of problems... Such as:
If you sleep with your bf after he's 16, then he is goona get done for having sex with a minor.
Do you think you'd be able to put up with all the snide comments that come with underage pregnancies, like "slut" and "Easy"?
Do you talk about sex with your parents? I think you should.
God Luck, and remeber, until u r 16 it's illegal NO MATTER WHAT!
Jelly
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reader, jmd89 +, writes (4 July 2008):
If you are asking that question, you are not ready. Its is however normal and healthy to know your own feeling. You are both at ages where your hornomes and bodies are developing and you feel like you are ready. It is important to understand, recognize and accept how you feel and are developing. If you feel you are ready, do more reading on human sexuality. If you feel you are ready, talk with your parents not about if you are ready to have sex if where you can, but rather, while it is difficult at first, explain to them that (and they already know this is happening to you) but talk with them about sexuality. If they are uncomfortable, do not worry, but talk with a counselor at your school on what you can find out more age appropriate human sexuality information. As your bodies begin to develop is a healthy part of human life and experience. It is important to know what those changes are and how they make you feel so you are better able to make positive healthy decisions. Once you keep reading na dknow more you will understand why many of your peers have waited. But still even though you wait, it is ok to say how you feel that you feel ready that you want to, but once you educate yourself you will understand better and choose to wait a few years and revisit why these feelings are occuring.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): you'll regret it your too young
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): My daughteris 13 and I found a note in her room that she wrote about having sex with a boy. I was devastated..We kinda talked but assured her is not her time yet for that sort of things. She was so so sorry and told me they didnt go all the way.... A time passed and I told her I was to go on a date and she asked if it was with a man and I said yes... she cried and begged me not to go because men can hurt me... I wonder now if it was not mutual consent but forced. She refuses to talk about that night now. Young girls and boys should not have sex so young or get in this kinf of hard situations. You guys are not physically or emotionally ready.... Please dont do it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2008): Please forgive me: I am sitting here with tears in my eyes;
Vow, yeah, do get emotional too!
I always wanted a little girl; but I am very blessed with to wonderfull sons that I love to bits;
HOWEVER
I want to talk to you as if you are my daughter; I hope that is OK with you;
You are young and have a whole life ahead of you; there is so much for you to still discover and explore; you are dating and yes, your hormones are reacting; very normal, showing you are starting to develop;
Why do you want to spoil it all, by having sex so soon?
There is so much more to enjoy at this stage in your life;
don't allow this guy to push you or "bully" you into having sex; save that for a few more years;
If I had to say to you here is your Christmas present; it is so exciting; but you have to wait for Christmas to open it; if you open it before Christmas; once you take the wrapper of.... the excitement is gone; now comes Christmas; you have your present but the fun and the excitement is spoiled;
Does that make a little sense;
Please wait....allow the exitement to build up; wait for the right time, with the right guy; this one is not;
Why am I saying his not; If he cared about you, honestly cared for you the person; loved you and respected you; he will NEVER expect from you to have sex now!
SAVE sex, for when you are a little older; with the right guy; Don't remove the wrapper yet;
You have your entire life ahead of you; many years to enjoy sex; enjoy your youth now; you don't ever get your innocence and childhood back!
BE STRONG; not what he wants; BUT what you want; take care of yourself;
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2008): I personally think you are not young to have sex but you're just plain 'young'. He's 16 so that obviously means he's older than you. If you were to have sex with him, he could keep pushing you into having sex more and more and this might turn into a bad thing so...just think about it
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reader, LIERIN +, writes (26 June 2008):
 Do not have sex yet
You are too young
You will regret it later on!
DOnt listen to him .. if he is pushing you into it, just say no!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2008): you are WAY to young. believe me. i only started having sex this year (19 years old). and now iv stopped. i had been going out with this guy for about a year now. and its stil a very young relationship. sex isnt good for a relationship so new. you dont no how commited he is. you dont no if its all about the sex thats keeping him with you. sex is a very special thing that you need alot of trust in. you WILL regret it if hes not the right guy. especially with your age gap. say you are in what u would think to be a serious relationship. Theres alot of pressure on both of you then. he mayb afraid he cant perform right, you might worry u cant perform right. you can get paranoid about your body etc etc. and ur only 13. it will hurt. you wait til your older and itl hurt less. your body isnt ready for it. at 4 months in a relationship that is absolutly nothing. that is like noing him for 5 minutes. you tell him you want to wait till marriage or something. you wait til you hit one year. if he is stil as nice and as faithful and still wants to be with you and respect you, then u can think about sex. you need to no you can trust a guy. thats most important!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2008): hey there is no need to rush in to things enjoy life while u can go to the cimema or anything no need for sex yet!!!! life will be over before u know it especially if u get pregnant enjoy each ohers company u will know when ur redy for he nex step x
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reader, lexilou +, writes (26 June 2008):
 You are too young for sex yet. Wait a while longer, there is no rush. and you have your whole life ahead of you so dont spoil it by getting pregnant or an std at this stage of your life. If he loves you he will respect that x
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reader, goodiea +, writes (26 June 2008):
there is no way yourself is ready not even him and if you decide to go through with it he is breaking the law you are underage, just think twice before you do anything.
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reader, sam123 +, writes (26 June 2008):
hi i had my first bf at 12 we were together until i was 14, he always went on about sex, i use to think i was ready but all the pressure he but on me i decided not to...! believe me i'd wait until your a little older, say that to the guy that u wanna wait,if he's happy to wait then you'll know he really cares for you, if not then you had a lucky escape and know he only ever wanted one thing...! im happy i waited as i went on to find a guy who i fell in love believe me please wait ;-)
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (26 June 2008):
 He kind of isn't too young, but you are....yuck, I know, not the answer you were looking for. But because his hormones are raging and he will kind of put the pressure on you, you need to be strong, put him to the test. If he really cares, he will wait a couple of years. Your body is not yet done developing, and even condoms have had history of not always being effective. I wouldnt chance it, sweetie. When you are 16, and you guys have come that far, I would invest in a night stay at a hotel room. Make it comfertable, because losing your virginity can be very uncomfertable. I hope you listen to the advice of the aunts and wait.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2008): i think your to young to have sex and even know he said he'll use a condom but it can split and you'll end up with a baby and he could be useing you for sex
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