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I don't think I'm really "qualified" per se to help people, I'm not a professional nor do I hold any degrees or anything of that nature, I just like giving advice when people ask for it and hopefully the mistakes I've made in the past can help someone else from having to go down that road. I'm very honest. I'm not going to sugar coat anything.
I love spending time with my son, everything is an adventure to him and he is discovering everything for the first time. And he says the funniest things at the perfect moments like he times them. I also love spending time with my family (most of the time) My mother passed away last year and I have four sisters and two brothers, we are all very close, I help out when I can.
I love movies. Due Date was hilarious! I love Supernatural, 1000 Ways to Die, Bones (excellent show) and Gilmore Girls (we share an addiction to coffee although I can't drink it now). Recently went and saw Rango, very cute movie.
"I want urine samples from everyone and a latte. Don't mix up the two."-Rango (Johnny Depp)
I wish everyone the best as we travel through this crazy complicated thing called life and hopefully with this website it will help us make it through just a little bit easier.
"The hardest thing to do in this world, is to live in it."
"Live life to the fullest moment, cause you never know if it's going to be your last."
"Enjoy your time as a teen; after that it gets so complicated."
"A mother holds her child's hand for a short while, his heart forever." |
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I feel selfish for wanting to move away when my mother is ill, but I want a future of my own!
Q. I am the full time carer for my Mother. I have brother's but they refuse to do anything for her. I am in love with a man in another country and I really want to be with him, he feels the same way as me, but circumstances won't allow him to immigrate ...
A. 23 November 2010: I'm so glad that you and your mom worked everything out (I'm sorry that your brothers aren't there for you or your mom, that's gotta be really irritating.) I'm so happy that you are going to be with the man you have loved. Love is so rare. Congrats ... (read in full...)
She's married, but won't leave her marriage for me! How do I get over her?
Q. I'm married and have been having an affair with another married women for the past 5 years. My children are married and on their own, she has a 13 year old at home with her and her husband. She has said she will not get a divorce for the sake of her ...
A. 23 November 2010: You are cheating on your wife with a mutual friend of yours? Wow. I think you need to decide who you want to be with for the rest of your life. In my opinion when your wife started gaining weight and not taking care of herself, you should have said ... (read in full...)
How do I know when to stop drinking?
Q. I went out with some co-workers last night and got way too drunk. I am really starting to realize that for some reason A) when I drink too much I become aggressive, not in a mean way. For example when i drink I have the courage to do anything hit on ...
A. 21 November 2010: Drinking and getting really drunk in front of people you work with, would understandably make you feel like crap the next day and anxiety over? What you did? Depending on your size would determine how much liquor you can drink. I am the world's ... (read in full...)
She's married, but won't leave her marriage for me! How do I get over her?
Q. I'm married and have been having an affair with another married women for the past 5 years. My children are married and on their own, she has a 13 year old at home with her and her husband. She has said she will not get a divorce for the sake of her ...
A. 21 November 2010: Your wife should be the most beautiful woman on this planet to you. What about your family? All of your children are married and on their own, so that must mean that you and your wife have been with one another for quite sometime. Do you think she ... (read in full...)
Am I just another girl on his list! Help!
Q. I have recently been going on dates with a boy from my school. He broke up with his girlfriend the day before he told me he likes me.. So I am the reason he dumped her. I have never dated a guy before, because I think that serious relationships ...
A. 21 November 2010: The funny and sucky thing about players? Is that you don't even know that they are playing you until it's too late. I was in a very similar situation that you are. I didn't date until I was eighteen and I was still a virgin. This boy comes along an... (read in full...)
Lack of sexual chemistry, do I leave my husband?
Q. Asked By: ineedhelp07 less than a minute ago, 3 days left to answer. I had arranged marraige, he wanted nose job for me, done it 10 yrs ago. Have two kids, he has his ex in his relative circle, though she is married with kids too, he does mee...
A. 21 November 2010: I think there can be love without sex, but only in a friendly way. Where you two care for each other on a friend level and don't feel the need to consummate that love with making love.
I don't think sexless marriage can last on cuddles and kiss... (read in full...)
Getting mixed signals...so is he into me or not?
Q. Ok, so i like this guy at school. We are major flirty when we are together, but when he's with his friends, or when im with my friends, we don't talk, but we do make eye contact. I mean, the only time we don't talk when we're with our friends is at ...
A. 21 November 2010: At your age, most boys are timid when it comes to girls their age. He might be unsure of your feelings and doesn't want to say anything to you until he knows for sure so he doesn't feel like an idiot.
You need to sit back and relax. Your rela... (read in full...)
I have a baby with a married man. Now what?
Q. I am a 36 year old single woman who has a daughter with a 50 year old married man. He has no children with his wife. I am so in love with him but I want a complete family. Is it wrong of me to want him to leave his wife? And if he doesn't (which ...
A. 21 November 2010: I don't think it's wrong of you to feel that he should leave his wife for you and your child that you have together. What person out there doesn't want a whole family?
Engaging in an affair with a married man, it is almost concrete that if you were... (read in full...)
Will he leave her for me?
Q. So i've been with this guy for a little over a year i love him and i know he loves me but recently we've had some problems i was kicked out of my home and for some reason i couldnt stay at his house he made me stay at a hotel until i made up with my ...
A. 21 November 2010: If he doesn't want to be with her and you have been seeing him for a year, then why couldn't you stay at his place even if he is living with a girl? I'm not understanding why you are asking if he will leave her for you, is he seeing her or you? She ... (read in full...)
Should we get married?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for nearly 11 years we have 2 children together aged 9 and 8. She really wants a commitment from me in the form of marriage but I haven't given it yet. I have never had an interest in marriage but it's really important ...
A. 21 November 2010: "I love her and want to spend the rest of my life with her." I think you answered your own question.
Eleven years? Sounds like you two are already committed and all your missing is the rings and the marriage certificate. If you want to spend the ... (read in full...)
How do I ask a guy out?
Q. Hey guys! I really really like this guy and I think he likes me too as he's always laughing at my jokes and smiling at me! The thing is he is single but I've never asked a guy out before and I don't know how to! Please help!...
A. 20 November 2010: I asked my boyfriend out and we have been happily together for the past two and a half years. This is the 21st century, if you want to ask a guy out, ask him out. Tell him you would like to go out on a date? Or maybe just as friends at first (but ... (read in full...)
I cheated with him when he had a g/f and now I think he's doing that to me!
Q. help me! i was looking through my boyfriends phone and we were just messing about, but in his inbox it said stuff like "dont worry babe mattys here for you xxxx" and thats the sort of stuff he says to me! its not fair i started crying to i tihnk he ...
A. 20 November 2010: Usually when a guy cheats with you, he will cheat on you. There are some rare cases where they don't though. You need to confront him about the texts and if you can't tell if he is lying, then research on the net ways to tell if he is lying.
R... (read in full...)
Is it ok to still be friends with my ex?
Q. my partner for 9years left me for a woman 5years younger than me,i have a 4 year old baby boy. Is it right to still be friends with him? thank you...
A. 20 November 2010: Of course it is. If you two are friends it will also be a much healthier relationship with you, him and your guys' baby. As long as you feel comfortable being his friend and if you don't then don't be his friend.... (read in full...)
Why does he have to speak to his ex every day?
Q. Why is my boyfriend doing this?? am i overreacting? my boyfriend speaks to his ex gf everyday..i read the convo and he said "hows my wife doing??" he talks about her all the time to me...every convo he has to bring up something about her.. i ...
A. 20 November 2010: Because of your insecurities? WTF?! Big red flag. If he loves you, then he wouldn't need to talk to her and I don't think it's right for him to ask his EX girlfriend advice on you and his fights. Thats letting her know that you two are having a ... (read in full...)
She never shuts up about him!
Q. okay, so I have this one friend that I love like a little sister. She comes to me a lot with her issues because I'm two years older than her. So, about 5 months ago she got her first boyfriend. I was naturally happy for her when times were good ...
A. 20 November 2010: If she asks for your advice/help with her boy troubles, then help her. I know that this gets really annoying when it's the only thing you talk about, so don't let it be the only thing you talk about.
Inform her that you two are friends and you aren... (read in full...)
How to get rid of lovebites/hickeys and how to cover them?
Q. just a few questions about lovebites/hickeys really. 1- What's the best way to cover them? 2- And how long do they usually last? Any help would be appreciated. So far i've tried to cover them with concealer but it's too dark to cover ...
A. 20 November 2010: Okay, when I get a hickey I throw a spoon in the freezer and wait until it's cold. Take the spoon out of the freezer and stick the back of it on the hickey. This should take the swelling down (hickey=bruise). After you do that, take toothpaste (yes ... (read in full...)
I found a letter from his ex-girlfriend what should I do?
Q. ok me and my bf have been together for six months and we have liked each other for five years i cleaned his room today and found a letter in his dresser from his ex gf it was in the open so he must know its there what should i do? ...
A. 20 November 2010: I would mention it to him. Be understanding and not "WHAT'S THIS." Or he more than likely won't tell you the truth. Depending on what the letter said, I don't think you should freak out too much, unless the letter was just recently written and he is ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does not celebrate X-Mas and I'm hurt by his apparent disregard to my my feelings
Q. Me and my boyfriend are on the verge of breaking up over this.. He doesn't celebrate xmas, he's not from the UK, but he knows how important it is for my family to be around each other at that time, and this year has been one hell of a difficul...
A. 20 November 2010: Two very different cultures.
I think that if he loves you like he says he does then he should go with you to your families' place. I know that he doesn't like Christmas and doesn't share the customs, but who can't respect a holiday that brings fami... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my guy friend & I'm leaving town soon. Help!!!
Q. (beware of long, rambling story. YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED) I'm in love with my friend. We have history; we had a short fling at the beginning of our friendship which never went anywhere. We've both dated other people since then and we've become...
A. 19 November 2010: Are you ready to live with yourself and ask yourself what could have been? You will never know how he feels or if you two will ever work if you don't try and say something.
Could you handle him being with another woman?
Can you handle not knowing?... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants me to hurt her during sex, is this normal?
Q. MOD NOTE: 2 posts combined ive been in a relationship for a year and 4 months now and my girlfriend has changed in terms of our sex life. she keeps asking me for 'punishment sex' and when we are having sex she tells me to hurt her and make her blee...
A. 19 November 2010: There are a lot of different fetishes out there and she might just be interested in trying something new. I love bondage play and things like that, the rough sex, but i wouldn't like to be cut or made to bleed.
Some people enjoy blood play, talk... (read in full...)
Should I be worrying about this sex stuff?
Q. well im 20 and a virgin and i wont be afraid to admit im nervous to have sex, mainly just scared that when we are going at it, ill be so nervous that ill hold myself back and not be able to climax :/ its not like im completely inexpereinced, i...
A. 19 November 2010: Hey twenty years old and a virgin, that's awesome. Don't worry about sex stuff, it will happen when it's the right time and you feel more comfortable with it. I rushed myself and now I really wish I would have waited for the right guy (the one i'm ... (read in full...)
Have I been a good friend in all this?
Q. This is a very complicated problem, im not sure where to start. My best friend for 10 years is in love with my ex. It isn't a crush, he loves her like he has never loved anything else. I was genuinley happy that he did, because she deserves that ...
A. 19 November 2010: Rob probably shouldn't be with her anyway if she can't promise to stay away from drugs, that's not really something you or anyone for that matter should get involved in as it's a dangerous road.
He will eventually move on. People can't help how they... (read in full...)
When might a larger gal start to show?
Q. Hello everyone. =] I just have a question about showing during pregnancy. I am a pretty hefty girl. I wear size 12/13 pants. I am 2 months pregnant but I was just wondering when I will start showing? I know that smaller people normally show sooner ...
A. 19 November 2010: I was 118 pounds when I got pregnant with my son and I didn't start showing until I was seven months. Some of my friends didn't show until their eighth month, so I really think it depends on the woman. Typically between two to five months is when ... (read in full...)
Are these signs of cheating?
Q. Hi everyone, I am suspecting that my bf is cheating on me. There are many reasons why I feel this way. - I came home to him today showering, which he would never do this late in the day - he wanted to change the sheets because he claimed tha...
A. 18 November 2010: I would keep digging. All of this sounds very suspicious.... (read in full...)
No trust or breathing room in our relationsip!
Q. I am not allowed to go have quality time with my close friends after work at there place. I am not allowed to go have a drink with my close friends after work. I am not allowed to go to the room and use my computer when I am at home If I ...
A. 18 November 2010: You need to get some counseling. He is extremely controlling and seems to want you secluded from the world. Leave him or tell him to change his ways.
Don't let a man control you. What will he do if you have dinner with your mother? Or go out with... (read in full...)
I want to go out with friends on my birthday and now she's threatening to break up with me!
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for 6 years now. Since the beginning she's always been hard to deal with when a disagreement arises, and she always refuses to compromise. It seems to me that she blames every fight on a failure on my part. Most ...
A. 18 November 2010: Stop apologizing to her, unless of course, you are actually in the wrong. You are letting her control you emotionally. She needs to compromise and if not, then find someone new. I realize six years is a long time, but do you really want to deal with ... (read in full...)
Am I angry she was taken advantage of or angry that she's been with other men?
Q. Right, I dont really know how to put this simply.. Basically my girlfriend of 18 months, has only slept with 2 guys other than myself, and both have been bad experiences, Partially down to naivety/vulnerability, and them also being complete a...
A. 18 November 2010: Its in her past. So let it stay there. I understand about you being angry because they took advantage of her, but there isn't really anything you can do as it is in the past. I think you should check out the article that Honeypie posted a link to.
G... (read in full...)
Girlfriend constantly wants me to chose her over my family!
Q. My girlfriend continually demands that I choose her over my family, and refuses to compromise about the issue. She comes from a broken family, and has picked fights with my mom, sister, and brother over menial issues. She demands that I take her ...
A. 18 November 2010: For me, family comes first and if my significant other asked me to choose between them, I would pack his bags for him.
You need to tell her that it's important to you that she gets along with your family or at least attemtps to get along with them... (read in full...)
Can the depo shot stop your period right from the first time you take it?
Q. So, just got my depo shot on the firtst (first time ever). And I still made the mistake of having sex before my week was up (3 days before). My period was supposed to come around this week and hasn't shown. Needless to say, I miss Aunt Flo and am ...
A. 18 November 2010: The depo shot has been known to stop periods, even within the first month or so of receiving it, but i think you should take a pregnancy test anyway, just to make sure. I doubt you are pregnant, it's probably your bodies reaction to receiving the ... (read in full...)
How can I start enjoying my youth again?
Q. Since been 14 (I'm now 16) I can't wait to be an adult/grown up etc. I've never been in a realtionship or anything, and that honestly doesn't bother me (plenty of time for all that lol). I'm doing my A levels now but I just want to be through with ...
A. 18 November 2010: You know, when you are a teenager you can't wait to grow up, to go out into the world and be independent and be your own person and have no ones rules but your own. Then you turn eighteen and you realize that there is rent, bills, car payments, gas, ... (read in full...)
I cheated, confessed, my wife forgave me but I feel horrible!
Q. So this is my situation: recently I cheated on my wife...mostly emottional but it did almost go to the point fo having sex. I almost began the "act" with my lover but deep down I felt horrible and stopped. I just walked away and never looked bac...
A. 18 November 2010: She has forgiven you, so forgive yourself. We are human and we are all flawed.
It happens. Be there for your wife. Tell her you love her. Don't start buying her a bunch of stuff or acting completely out of the ordinary, that will just remind her ... (read in full...)
I gotta feeling..He wants a threesome!
Q. Well i just talked to my boyfriend and he says he is perfectly happy with me and our relationship. But i kinda get the feeling that he wants to bring another girl into our relationship because he keeps talking about it. such as asking me questions ...
A. 18 November 2010: Threesome's ruin relationships and I'm kinda mad at him for saying "I would be so in love with you if we had a threesome". He should love you anyway. Oh, makes me mad.
I wonder if he would be as into it if it were another guy and not another girl... (read in full...)
My baby daddy's family drama!
Q. "Cord" is the biological father of my son and "Michael" is the man who has been helping me raise my son since he was 5 months old. Cord died in June of 2009, he was drunk (on Father's Day) and fell off of a roof and broke his neck in three pl...
A. 18 November 2010: "Michael" and I have discussed the possibiltiy of her coming to our house to see her grandson, but he doesn't want her in our home as she is a "crackhead" to him and he doesn't want me meeting her anywhere or going to her house at all. He wants to ... (read in full...)
How do I stop this retroactive jealousy? Help!
Q. I went out with my current girlfriend for about a year, then broke up with her for about three years, then got back together about 9 months ago. I love her, and she says she loves me and wants to get married to me. But, I've been struggling with ...
A. 18 November 2010: If you don't want the answer, don't ask the question. Vaginas are made to stretch, that's why us women get the lovely opportunity to have children.
Vaginas do stretch over time, but kegels help with the tightening back up of the vagina after it has ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my cheating husband or stay for the sake of the kids?
Q. I often caught my husband cheating. We are married for 8 years and has 2 children. 5 and 2 respectively. In 8 years of our marriage, he always cheats. But I always forgive him as I don't want to have a broken family. I am trying to save our ...
A. 18 November 2010: Um, leave your cheating husband. You don't deserve that. It sounds like your kids don't really see your husband that much anyway and your high school sweetie sounds like a winner. What would the kids think if they knew he was cheating on you?
L... (read in full...)
I'm so obsessed with his ex girlfriend I have made friends with her!
Q. Let's see where this gets me, if anywhere... I've written here in the past quite a few times, always inquiring about the same thing, only now the situation has changed drastically, but my feelings still haunt me. My fiance is 23, and I am 21. We ...
A. 18 November 2010: Gorgeous vs substance? You can't have both. She sounds like my younger brother's ex girlfriend, whom I completely loathe, I hate that girl on a cellular level. I hate her parents for bringing her into this world.
I couldn't be friends with my boyf... (read in full...)
Caught by her dad in a compromising position, what do I do now?
Q. I just had sex with my girlfriend...she consented to it of course but... we're both 16 and we did it in her dad's office. we did it when everybody was out and her dad came back earlier than expected...she got caught with me in an awkward position ...
A. 18 November 2010: The vision of you screwing his daughter in his office is probably burned onto his retina.
You are going to have to face him sometime. You can't just run away from this, be a man, talk to him face to face. Over the phone if you feel safer with that... (read in full...)
Should I go to the party or stay away?
Q. I'm thinking of going to my friend's party but im not sure if it would be wise of me to go. The thing is, she invited this other girl who I hooked up with a few months ago, and the problem is, after I hooked up with her and text her and stuff, I...
A. 18 November 2010: You should have informed her before you two hooked up that you didn't want a serious relationship.
Explain what you just said to us, to the girl. You can't let her presence at the party keep you from going, she might not even be there. She will prob... (read in full...)
Why don't my parents want me to grow up?
Q. I'm 23 and still living at home. I envy my cousins who are in their twenties and have children with their partners out of wedlock. My parents are really conservative and I'm not. They think that you have to be married just to leave home! I ...
A. 18 November 2010: You are 23 years old. Do you have a job? Save money, enough to move out and do it. Your parents aren't going to change, so it's completely up to you to take charge of the situation you are in.
No, you don't have to be married to move out. You have... (read in full...)
I feel selfish for wanting to move away when my mother is ill, but I want a future of my own!
Q. I am the full time carer for my Mother. I have brother's but they refuse to do anything for her. I am in love with a man in another country and I really want to be with him, he feels the same way as me, but circumstances won't allow him to immigrate ...
A. 18 November 2010: How ill is your mother? Do your brother's live where your mom is? Locally?
Perhaps you leaving to be with the man you love (true love is so rare) will give them the kick in the ass they need to start helping your mother. It's not fair to you that... (read in full...)
Can he take me to court or stop me from leaving the country? Or is he just pissed?
Q. okay my ex and are not talking and yesterday i sent him a text saying 'i know that car was your gf's she told me (bluff). how could you leave me in a hosiptal all alone crying my eyes out and thinking my baby was going to die, while you were ...
A. 18 November 2010: He is going to stop you from leaving the country and take you to court?
What is he taking you to court for? Unless you threatened him or damaged some of his property or something like that he can't take you to court because you blew something out ... (read in full...)
Baby daddy family drama
Q. Okay. My son's father, we will call him Cord, died in June of '09 he fell of a roof and broke his neck (he was drunk)and my bf, Michael and I have been together for two years almost. Anyway, Cord was never there for our son. When our son was hosp...
A. 16 November 2010: "Cord" is her son. He passed away last June. Her whole family has used drugs in the past, hers within the last year (once). One of her family members is using that I know of and he lives with them.
Michael doesn't want her coming to our home to s... (read in full...)
Is it possible that my wife could've cheated on me and the baby is not mine?
Q. I am suspicious that my wife might have been pregant before as she acts wierd in front of the doctor when he asks - also is it possible that she could have bled after conceiving and as such is it possible that she could have cheated on me, and the ...
A. 16 November 2010: Hospitals aren't legally allowed to alter the results of tests, no matter if they think you will be upset.
Get a paternity test if you are really skeptical about the origins of the child.
Did your wife do something to make you beleive that she... (read in full...)
Baby daddy family drama
Q. Okay. My son's father, we will call him Cord, died in June of '09 he fell of a roof and broke his neck (he was drunk)and my bf, Michael and I have been together for two years almost. Anyway, Cord was never there for our son. When our son was hosp...
A. 16 November 2010: Michael has informed me that he wants me to choose between Cord's family (his mom) and him (Michael).
He told me that everytime I mention Cord's mother he is reminded that he really isn't the father and that I had my son with another guy who isn'... (read in full...)
Baby daddy family drama
Q. Okay. My son's father, we will call him Cord, died in June of '09 he fell of a roof and broke his neck (he was drunk)and my bf, Michael and I have been together for two years almost. Anyway, Cord was never there for our son. When our son was hosp...
A. 15 November 2010: THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH FOR YOUR RESPONSES!!!! Caringguy, I have no problem telling my son who is real father is when he is old enough to understand, but for right now, to him, Michael is his father and they are doing everything in their power to ... (read in full...)
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