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I don't think I'm really "qualified" per se to help people, I'm not a professional nor do I hold any degrees or anything of that nature, I just like giving advice when people ask for it and hopefully the mistakes I've made in the past can help someone else from having to go down that road. I'm very honest. I'm not going to sugar coat anything.
I love spending time with my son, everything is an adventure to him and he is discovering everything for the first time. And he says the funniest things at the perfect moments like he times them. I also love spending time with my family (most of the time) My mother passed away last year and I have four sisters and two brothers, we are all very close, I help out when I can.
I love movies. Due Date was hilarious! I love Supernatural, 1000 Ways to Die, Bones (excellent show) and Gilmore Girls (we share an addiction to coffee although I can't drink it now). Recently went and saw Rango, very cute movie.
"I want urine samples from everyone and a latte. Don't mix up the two."-Rango (Johnny Depp)
I wish everyone the best as we travel through this crazy complicated thing called life and hopefully with this website it will help us make it through just a little bit easier.
"The hardest thing to do in this world, is to live in it."
"Live life to the fullest moment, cause you never know if it's going to be your last."
"Enjoy your time as a teen; after that it gets so complicated."
"A mother holds her child's hand for a short while, his heart forever." |
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How old were you when you kissed someone?
Q. just asking, how old where you when you kissed somebody or anybody?????...
A. 10 July 2013: 18 when I first kissed a boy and 20 when I had what I consider to be my first real kiss.
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My cheating ex is making me feel bad because I had a one night stand after we broke up. Am I in the wrong?
Q. Me and my boyfriend broke up around about 3 weeks ago due to him cheating on me. He's cheated on me multiple times, and now I've had enough, we broke up and ended and the break up has been challenging to say the least. ...
A. 26 June 2013: Your ex apparently has a double standard for himself. HE cheated on you. He was sleeping with other girls who aren't you while you two were together. That is wrong and completely disrespectful.
YOu two were broken up and you slept with a friend o... (read in full...)
How to reach a decision with my unplanned pregnancy?
Q. i'm 26 and had planned to go back to study. I discovered I was pregnant a few months after getting laid off my job. Can things get any worse? My boyfriend wants to keep it but I'm not sure. I've been to counselling and it hasn't helped much. I'...
A. 17 June 2013: I have two beautiful children who I wouldn't trade for the world, I didn't plan the first one, I was only 19, but the decision to keep him was the best one I've ever made.
You have to do what is right for you. I've struggled along the way, but... (read in full...)
G/f can achieve orgasm only by herself not through sex. I'm starting to love her less and less
Q. Thanks in advance for any replies. Basically my girlfriend rarely achieves orgasm when we are together. We've tried the obvious things from me going down on her for a long time, to putting a pillow under her hips for when I am on top. When she...
A. 11 June 2013: Have you considered using a vibrator on her while you are penetrating her? Most women can't orgams from intercourse alone and need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm.
I don't believe that she has sex with you just to please you, I find sex... (read in full...)
How much weight loss would be achieveable in 4 weeks time?
Q. Ok I know this is not a diet and exercise board, but I also know a few of the aunts/uncles have mentioned losing weight in previous posts so I thought I might get some good advice here. So last week I started an exercise/fitness regime to try to...
A. 8 June 2013: Go to drfuhrman.com and get the eat to live book. Guaranteed you lose at least twenty pounds, healthily, if you follow his plan. He is amazing and it's well worth the thirty dollars.... (read in full...)
Is this normal for a 22 year old and her dad?
Q. Hello, So my boyfriends sisters lets call her "x" has always been super close to him, doesn't have any friends of her own. They are a year a part. He is 23 so she is 22. He mentioned a while back that his X told him that their dad had been doi...
A. 6 June 2013: No it is not normal.
It's called molestation and she has probably been molested her entire life without anyone else knowing about it.
She needs professional mental help and her father should be locked up. How the hell did her mother miss her ... (read in full...)
How to reach a decision with my unplanned pregnancy?
Q. i'm 26 and had planned to go back to study. I discovered I was pregnant a few months after getting laid off my job. Can things get any worse? My boyfriend wants to keep it but I'm not sure. I've been to counselling and it hasn't helped much. I'...
A. 6 June 2013: What do you want? What will be best for you?
Your boyfriend may or may not be there for you and your baby. He can leave at anytime and most do. I wouldn't count on him being there or giving him any weight in this decision.
Is your mother goin... (read in full...)
Would it be a bad idea for me to continue dating this guy who lives with another female?
Q. Hey everyone I have a question. Would it be a bad idea for me to continue dating this guy who lives with another female? I've been dating a guy who's roommate is his best friend and it's a female. He jokes around saying he loves her and that she's ...
A. 6 June 2013: I personally would meet her. Hang out with the two of them together and see how their relationship is. If it's too flirtatious or I sense that something else could be going on, then yes, I would end it.
It's also a good possibility that they are... (read in full...)
Sexting gone wrong
Q. I am a college student and fairly religious so I understand this post will sound really bad of me. I'm also a virgin because I'm waiting to share that with the right guy. After a bad breakup with my most recent boyfriend, I met a guy at a party and ...
A. 6 June 2013: The thrill of a bad boy to an innocent virgin. Oh yeah. Been there and it went very badly.
I would listen to your friends and family and severe ties. He doesn't sound like he is good for you at all, and you two probably don't have anything... (read in full...)
Is it healthy to have a relationship with violence in it?
Q. dear cupids my boyfriend of 11 month have a bad habit of hitting me gently on the face, it doesn't hurt but it does bother me, i have told him so, and always ask him to stop it. he stops it for a while and then do it again! today i acted violent an...
A. 6 June 2013: I like light violence in the bedroom. Shoved roughly, spanking, to each their own.
He hits you gently in the face in a way that you don't like and you have asked him to stop doing that and he doesn't. He retains the habit.
Have you stressed to ... (read in full...)
Is it common that I can't orgasm? I'm only 18
Q. Hi people. I am 18, I want to know if it is common for a woman not to be able to orgasm at my age? Or feel that cumming sensation without helping my self during sex? My boyfriend says it's weird and it hasn't happened with any of his ex's. It's ...
A. 6 June 2013: You aren't weird or abnormal or anything of the sort. Perhaps your bf's exes were too nice not to say anything about his performance in bed, there are very few women who can orgasm just from intercourse, most need their clits stimulated as well as ... (read in full...)
So my problem is my husband says I must convince her to move back. Or he is divorcing me!
Q. My problems with my 25 year old step-daughter have once again reared their ugly head. She moved in with us about a year ago and it was very difficult living with her. I wanted to sit down before she moved in and discuss, like 3 grown roommates, how ...
A. 5 June 2013: I am a mother of two small children and to me, my children always come first.
But this is just ridiculous. She is 25 years old going on 16. Her dad sounds absolutely ridiculous to be giving into her demands and you have to as well or he is going... (read in full...)
Was I wrong because I asked my g/f to let me know what's going on rather than making me wait for hours to find out?
Q. I had plans with my gf last night, that we had made weeks in advance, to meet up at ten pm as i was winding down from work. I'm a bartender and Thursday nights are crazy. And she was going to come when she knew we were going to exchange shifts and I ...
A. 1 June 2013: No you are not selfish for asking for her to be considerate of your plans that you had made weeks in advanced. She could have told her brother that she had made plans with you a long time ago, her phone is dead, can I please let him know what is ... (read in full...)
Is cyber sex considered cheating?
Q. Hi all, Just a question I would like to ask other users here. If you are in a loving, committed relationship with your soul mate whom you love dearly but find out they have meaningless cybersex (without masturbating) would you consider it chea...
A. 1 June 2013: Not your fault. This is his fault and he is flipping the roles so you are the one that feels guilty. Don't wait it out, move on and far away from him.
He can't trust you? He is the one that was caught and he cheated on you. This is not your faul... (read in full...)
How do you know if attraction is mutual?
Q. Is mutual attraction usually mutual? I have been in a situation where I have always wondered if this particular man was ever attracted to me. Has anyone been in this situation and what are the signs the attraction is mutual, not imagined? Thanks...
A. 30 May 2013: Attraction is not always mutual, but if it is there is usually adorable/cute seductive looks at each other. Hugging or kissing, even just friendly touches. Always wanting to be around each other. Enjoyable conversations with each other.
There... (read in full...)
Suspicious email to husband--he denies he's signed up. Can I believe him?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a problem. I just got married. I h ave been with my man for a long time. I was looking through his emails and came acroos a email from XXXXbook [mod note: actual site name removed, it is not facebook]. I wouldve just deleted ...
A. 30 May 2013: The fact that he was sent a login and username through an email is kind of fishy, but there is a chance his account was hacked and they sent him an email to his email instead of the hackers, or both.
Slim chance, but a chance. If you've been wit... (read in full...)
I'm scared to ruin this friendship. But why hasn't he made a move, when he knows I like him?
Q. I'm friends with a guy at college and I really like him. He knows, but not from me. He doesn't act on this though and he seems to like someone else. I'm so conflicted on what to do. Should I seek advice from his friend? I'm scared to ruin our frie...
A. 30 May 2013: Sit down and talk to him, maturely. Tell him you like him, either he will return your feelings and you guys can go from there or he will tell you he doesn't feel that way about you and you'll be crushed. But at least you'll know and you won't be ... (read in full...)
My ex and I are in contact again but I wonder if the bad way I broke up with him will stop us from having a future?
Q. Hi, in a bit of a pickle at the moment! I dated this guy while at uni, four years ago, when uni finished I was in a bad space and broke up with him without a proper explanation. I defiantly handled it the wrong way and regret that soo much. 4 years ...
A. 30 May 2013: Everything WiseOwlE said was right on!!!!... (read in full...)
The light switch relationship--now she's pregnant with someone else's baby and I don't want kids!
Q. ok so. i got this on again off again relationship for about the last couple years. shes 20 im 23. seems every time we have a drink together we end up in the sack together. shes always telling me im the sweetest guy she knows. and stuff like that. i ...
A. 30 May 2013: She sounds very immature and flakey. I don't think you are doing anything wrong. She was promiscuous, kept you on the back burner and because she knows you're there for her, she came running to you when she got pregnant with someone else's kid.
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Is he just a total liar? Why would he put up pictures that are found online? And make out that they are him?
Q. There's this guy I know and who hits on me a lot. We've hooked up quite some times. He tells all this stories about being in the military, being deployed, being hurts in battle, the military training, the special courses he has, that he wakes up...
A. 30 May 2013: You shouldn't be embarrassed or feel naive. I know a lot of guys, even ones my age, that do this too.
I don't know if they like the attention, feel more important for doing it or if they actually just believe the delusion, but they do it.
M... (read in full...)
Should I text him? Or forget him?
Q. Hello, Hey so I got the number of this guy I'm into from my friend about a week ago. I sent him a text saying it was me and I was sorry for getting really sloppy while drunk. He replied in about a minute saying it was fine. We then sent about te...
A. 30 May 2013: Hang out with him where there isn't any alcohol or drugs so he can get to know the real you and you won't forget anything.
He could have not replied because he didn't know what to say and he could have just thought you were a hookup. I know that... (read in full...)
I'm having a difficult time getting over an abusive man
Q. Dear cupid My bf of 3 years dumped me a week ago. I'm still trying to move on even though for the last 6 months he was very abusive (verbally and emotionally) towards me, called me whore and slut while dumping me thru phone. I know I didn't de...
A. 30 May 2013: i'm sorry to hear about your breakup, have you considered counseling? To help you rebuild your self esteem and to help you become able to stand on your own two feet without needing someone to be with you. Co-dependent?
Find out who you are and ... (read in full...)
Was my boyfriend just being friendly or too curious?
Q. My boyfriend asked his friends girlfriend if she was still with her boyfriend, should i be worried? My boyfriend was friends with her boyfriend first, so that is how he knows her. Do you think he was just asking to be friendly, or what ?. I saw th...
A. 30 May 2013: The second you have to play detective in your relationship, there is a problem.
Have you talked to him about this? perhaps he knows something that he wants to tell her, but doesn't know if he should.
He could just be being nice. Contrary t... (read in full...)
Is I t wrong to watch each other having sex on camera?
Q. I was wondering, i have been dating my boyfriend for a while, but we live far apart (about 5 hours. And well the other day he asked me if id watch him masturbate, cause that would really turn him on. So I did and i also took my top off. I was kinda ...
A. 30 May 2013: As long as you know for a fact that he isn't recording you, sharing these private times or anything like that, then I see nothing wrong with this. You love him and he loves you, it's like phone sex but visually.... (read in full...)
Is cyber sex considered cheating?
Q. Hi all, Just a question I would like to ask other users here. If you are in a loving, committed relationship with your soul mate whom you love dearly but find out they have meaningless cybersex (without masturbating) would you consider it chea...
A. 30 May 2013: If you both aren't aware of what is going on, if your relationship isn't an "open" one or the person is hiding it from the other, then yes, it is cheating.
Although if he is your "soulmate" i don't understand what he is doing in an online c... (read in full...)
My husband always looks at other women and tells me that's normal. I can't bear it! Help?
Q. whenever i am out with my husband, he always look at other womens which i can't bear. its hurting me always. due to which i don't talk to my husband 2-3 days. but still he does the same. i spoke to him about this. he says it's normal. but i can't ...
A. 30 May 2013: I find this extremely disrespectful and unnecessary. If he wants to check out other women, check out other men. If he thinks his behavior is normal then you noticing other men should also be normal.... (read in full...)
Help!!! Am I being irrational?
Q. Hello:) Recently I've been having some problems in my relationship. It started when I started to feel a bit taken for granted, all me and my boyfriend did was sit in at mine or his, and then go out with friends, which I love doing... But sometime...
A. 30 May 2013: Implanon. Yes, I've heard of that.
I'm sorry to hear that you and your boyfriend have reached this rut. My boyfriend and I were stuck in this too, where we just kind of got too comfortable and didn't try to woo each other anymore. So we talked a... (read in full...)
How on earth do you break off a friendship that you feel is dragging you down?
Q. Hi, I have a friend who I have slowly been trying to move away from. We live in different cities and frankly i feel as though we have nothing in commmon. He is a gay man who I feel doesn't take me or anyone seriously. I also feel disrespected and...
A. 29 May 2013: Break it off like you would if you were breaking off with a boyfriend. Tell him that you've outgrown him and don't feel like you're in the same time frame in your lives.
I've had friends like this before and I explain my position, they leave me... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm losing my g/f completely and I don't know what to do about it
Q. i seriously don't know what to do. i feel like i'm losing my gf completely. i've been with her for about 8 months. within the last few days, things have gotten really hard. she's working on a lot of things in therapy and one of them is learning how ...
A. 29 May 2013: Being passive is one thing and just saying negative things all the time is another. She can learn to express herself and speak her mind in a positive way. In a way that isn't so destructive to the people around her. Especially you.
Inste... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend not my ex, but how do I convince my boyfriend of this?
Q. Hi everyone! I'm 24 years old and have completely landed myself in a hopeless situation. I am in a relationship since a month with a new guy after I broke up with my former boyfriend. The issue is that I am still friends with my ex and my presen...
A. 29 May 2013: REally not a good way to get your bf's attention by putting a picture of yourself with your ex on facebook. All that says is that you're rubbing your relationship with your ex, in the face of your current boyfriend. Going on the internet and ... (read in full...)
Help!!! Am I being irrational?
Q. Hello:) Recently I've been having some problems in my relationship. It started when I started to feel a bit taken for granted, all me and my boyfriend did was sit in at mine or his, and then go out with friends, which I love doing... But sometime...
A. 29 May 2013: What do you mean implant contraceptive?... (read in full...)
Does the father of my child want me to chase him?
Q. My boyfriend of two years who is now the father of my child will not live with me. He says I've kicked him out too many times in the past for him to just leave his stable home with his two friends and move back in.. I told him I didn't want anything ...
A. 28 May 2013: He has learned that living with you will result in him getting kicked out and why trade that with the stable home he now has.
You two have a daughter together and you need to put her first. If he wants an update on her as her father, you as the m... (read in full...)
It bothers me that my b/f has a tatoo on his foot of the day his g/f died
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year. He has a tattoo on his foot representing the date that his first girlfriend died in a car accident several years ago. At the beginning of our relationship I didn't mention the tattoo, but ...
A. 28 May 2013: Obviously he cared very much for this girlfriend and the tattoo is in remembrance of her. If you can't get over that or support that he had that kind of love for someone else BEFORE he met you, then you better just move on.
It's his body. If you w... (read in full...)
I have a live-in mother-in-law who criticizes everything I do!
Q. Hi, This is my first post. please be kind to me and excuse me for long boring passage. I have a mother in law who criticizes everything I do or say. It goes from a simple recipe to how to take care of my baby. She lives in with us. My husband...
A. 28 May 2013: Talk to your husband, does he know the extent of her critisicm? Tell him that you can't and won't live like this, this is your house, you pay half the rent and you have a baby. You shouldn't be stressed out in your own home.
Consider putting momm... (read in full...)
Should I write to my ex or not?
Q. I left a 5 year on-off relationship about 20 months ago. He was seeing other women. I said I will stay friends but I read few articles about 'no contact rules' to heal myself so I followed it and have been fine. I am fine as I had closure. ...
A. 28 May 2013: You can't write or call his mother yourself?
I don't think it would be a bad idea for you to write to him just to ask how his mother is doing. It's been almost two years, what would be the harm.... (read in full...)
How long do I give him this 'break' for? Should I get in touch to clarify this?
Q. I am really confused - my fiance had been blowing hot and cold since February this year basically since I lost my job and things were financially hard for us. We got engaged on New Year's Eve and I thought it was a new beginning for us - we have...
A. 28 May 2013: Your fiance doesn't sound like he is ready to get married or be in a committed relationship. He was messaging other women behind your back and lying to you about it, he broke your trust.
Why do you still want to marry him?... (read in full...)
Is it even worth it to have my mother in my life?
Q. I'm at breaking point in my relationship with my mother. We've never had the best of relationships anyway but I'm seriously considering cutting her out of my life. My mother has never liked or loved me as a person. I certainly have never felt it or ...
A. 28 May 2013: My boyfriend has a similar situation with his own mother. She abused him as a child, physically and verbally and always believed his adopted sister over him. She even admitted to me that she had stabbed him a few times. He has tried over the last ... (read in full...)
How do I get my husband to focus on me in bed?
Q. Hi guys. My hubby and I have a good sex life. But I was wondering how I can get him to focus on me in bed? He doesnt give oral- so thats out of the question. When we are intimate, I think I initiate a bit more, Ill kiss him rub his body, give him a ...
A. 28 May 2013: Have you talked to him about maybe slowing down and spending some more time on foreplay? Maybe being more vocal on what you like or direct him where his hands should go?
Does he not perform oral on you because of his own preferences or beecause... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is controlling and I don't know what to do.
Q. Thanks for all responses. Much thanks. This is a long complicated story so bare with me. My girlfriend and I have been going out for 4 years now. It has been kind of a decrescendo it seems. She was brought up without a Dad and her Mom taught her t...
A. 27 May 2013: Break up. Someone with controlling behavior is ever able to stop being that way. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with this girl? Unable to see your family just to avoid a fight with her. She shouldn't be asking you to stay away ... (read in full...)
Am I dating someone too young for me?
Q. I'm a 26 year old mature student and I recently began seeing another student who is 18 about to turn 19, it took me a while to go on a date with this guy cause of the age difference but we get on really well, however I am still really worried about ...
A. 27 May 2013: Perhaps he is a mature young man and enjoys your company more than those of someone his age. I don't think this is a big age gap, he is an adult, legally. He is 18. I don't see any problem with this.
You seem to be having some problems with thi... (read in full...)
My Sister and my second cousin are in love. What can I do to prevent this going even further?
Q. Hello, I love and care about my little Sister a lot and I want to always support her decision's in life. So far online after researching this issue that I am about to discuss... I realized that they are a lot of cousins that have fallen in love...
A. 26 May 2013: Have you talked to your sister about this?... (read in full...)
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