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I don't think I'm really "qualified" per se to help people, I'm not a professional nor do I hold any degrees or anything of that nature, I just like giving advice when people ask for it and hopefully the mistakes I've made in the past can help someone else from having to go down that road. I'm very honest. I'm not going to sugar coat anything.
I love spending time with my son, everything is an adventure to him and he is discovering everything for the first time. And he says the funniest things at the perfect moments like he times them. I also love spending time with my family (most of the time) My mother passed away last year and I have four sisters and two brothers, we are all very close, I help out when I can.
I love movies. Due Date was hilarious! I love Supernatural, 1000 Ways to Die, Bones (excellent show) and Gilmore Girls (we share an addiction to coffee although I can't drink it now). Recently went and saw Rango, very cute movie.
"I want urine samples from everyone and a latte. Don't mix up the two."-Rango (Johnny Depp)
I wish everyone the best as we travel through this crazy complicated thing called life and hopefully with this website it will help us make it through just a little bit easier.
"The hardest thing to do in this world, is to live in it."
"Live life to the fullest moment, cause you never know if it's going to be your last."
"Enjoy your time as a teen; after that it gets so complicated."
"A mother holds her child's hand for a short while, his heart forever." |
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She cheated and I forgave her. Now she's doing it again. How do I deal with it?
Q. Hello, a year ago my gfriend cheated on me. We broke up for a short period then I forgave her. A year later, now, I discover she is still chatting online with the guy she cheated with. Frankly I want to dump her. It took me some stomach to take her...
A. 13 January 2011: You don't have the balls to stay with her? She doesn't have the respect for you to keep her pants zipped up.
I believe you did the right thing in leaving this woman, she sounds very selfish and only concerned for herself with no regard to anyon... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has an irrational fear of pregnancy, even though we never had sex!
Q. My girlfriend has an irrational fear of pregnancy I'm afraid. It's not a matter of sex even though, she gets super freaked out about touching my penis in case it somehow got her pregnant. She is even acts worried in the hot tub about over exciting ...
A. 13 January 2011: She is taking a certain dosage of birth control to help her with her periods but its not enough to prevent pregnancy? Where did she get that idea from? Birth control is made to prevent pregnancy and as a side affect it also helps girls with their ... (read in full...)
How do you formalize a breakup without a lawyer?
Q. Section breaking up. Hello, I wanna break up with my gfriend for cheating, but I would like to avoid going to a lawyer. We have a 2 year old. I figure if I pay for: 100% the apartment they live in including utilities 50% the kinder garden...
A. 13 January 2011: Well, if you and your gf can come to an agreement that you both are good with then I don't see why you would need to go to a lawyer as long as you have documentation that you are providing for her and your children (bills and whatnot) so she can't ... (read in full...)
She cheated and I forgave her. Now she's doing it again. How do I deal with it?
Q. Hello, a year ago my gfriend cheated on me. We broke up for a short period then I forgave her. A year later, now, I discover she is still chatting online with the guy she cheated with. Frankly I want to dump her. It took me some stomach to take her...
A. 12 January 2011: I am sorry that your gf is putting you through this. I would dump her. She cheated on you in the past with this guy and now she is talking to him. Talking isn't cheating, but talking to someone that you cheated with is disrespectful, especially to ... (read in full...)
How do you formalize a breakup without a lawyer?
Q. Section breaking up. Hello, I wanna break up with my gfriend for cheating, but I would like to avoid going to a lawyer. We have a 2 year old. I figure if I pay for: 100% the apartment they live in including utilities 50% the kinder garden...
A. 12 January 2011: Why don't you want to go to a lawyer?
You might want to go to a lawyer to establish custody, child support (so she doesn't come back at you for it later where you would have to pay back child support).
Your son lives with her? Is he both ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has an irrational fear of pregnancy, even though we never had sex!
Q. My girlfriend has an irrational fear of pregnancy I'm afraid. It's not a matter of sex even though, she gets super freaked out about touching my penis in case it somehow got her pregnant. She is even acts worried in the hot tub about over exciting ...
A. 12 January 2011: Irrational fear. Perhaps one day she will realize that sperm doesn't have egg seeking radar and won't just impregnate her on a whim while she isn't have sex.
A lot of my friends share that same fear although not to that extreme. Its cool that she... (read in full...)
Can a relationship recover after cheating by a partner?
Q. I'm very curious about this because I have been cheated on. I would reallly like to move past it, and still be in a relationship with this man. He has done everything he can to earn my trust back and I do completely trust him again. I don't think he ...
A. 12 January 2011: He needs to earn your trust back if you want to continue a relationship with him. I think you need to decide what you want to do here before you can move on to the next step.
Do you want to try and work things out with him? Is he willing to do th... (read in full...)
How do I attract the bad boys?
Q. what is it abour me that attracts unattractive guys i mean my mom always told me to be nice so i am and i attract boys who i dont like how do i get the ones wh i like what do i do.ps i like the bad boys...
A. 12 January 2011: SO you want a guy who is sweet and caring to you, but doesn't give a rats butt what other people think? That's not really a bad boy, at least, not the extremely bad kind which isn't a bad thing.
You say that you are always attracted to the guys... (read in full...)
Can a relationship recover after cheating by a partner?
Q. I'm very curious about this because I have been cheated on. I would reallly like to move past it, and still be in a relationship with this man. He has done everything he can to earn my trust back and I do completely trust him again. I don't think he ...
A. 10 January 2011: I have been cheated on (he never did anything physically with her) with my bf that I've been with for two years now and I've moved on from it. It takes time obviously and a lot of love from both of you and understanding.
Relationships can heal aft... (read in full...)
Why did he have to be so graphic about this woman?
Q. I sometimes work on the holidays, during school vacation...so... I knew this guy for about two years. We are kinda close but I only would like us to be friends and nothing more. We would talk about many topics: marriage, sex, life...in...
A. 7 January 2011: Either trying to make you jealous or just being a guy. Men are naturally pretty graphic when it comes to describing women who are "gifted" to a man.
SOunds like you are territorial over him, but I think he likes you as it really sounds like he ... (read in full...)
What does he get from being with them rather than our son and me?
Q. Been with my spouse for 5 years now, but he has cheated in the past. However the past year he has been the worst to me and put me through an extreme amount of hurt. He cheated twice this year but not just gone and slept with some one he's left our ...
A. 7 January 2011: Leave. Leave him. Leave him and do not look back. I am seriously questioning why you are even still with this guy after all the emotional abuse he has put you and your son through. Don't let him do that to you anymore.
I know it's really hard, bu... (read in full...)
He touches himself and then denies it!
Q. my boyfriend knows about my 1st relationship and how screwed up it made me especially being so young and finding my bf/baby daddy watching porn and jacking off instead of getting it from me.there were other sexual traumas but this alone affected me ...
A. 7 January 2011: I don't know if he would be classified as a sex addict, but there are a lot of reasons why guys choose masturbation to actually sex with a woman, for instance, he already knows what he likes and therefore knows exactly what to do to get himself ... (read in full...)
Its the old triangle thing all over again.
Q. Any opinions or help will be appreciated :) My best friend liked a mutual friend of ours (lets call him 'J') and they kind of had something going for like a week but it fizzled out when she started going out with someone else (lets call this one...
A. 7 January 2011: I don't know all of the details of her relationship with him, your relationship with her or your relationship with him.
How serious was their "relationship"? She broke up with him? How long have her and her current boyfriend been together and how ... (read in full...)
Do guys like their hair being played with?
Q. Do guys like to have there hair played with? Not just when kissing...
A. 7 January 2011: eyeswideopen=that made me smile, thank you, I'm having a bad morning.
As for the question, I think it depends on the guy, some guys do and some don't. My fiance loves it when I play with his hair, it lulls him to sleep all the time. ... (read in full...)
My friends are trying to convince me the age gap is a problem
Q. I'm 20 and my current boyfriend is 33, we've been together for 10 months or so. We met via work (we play pro badminton) and I used to play mixed doubles for a little while before we got together, which is where we initially got to know each other. (...
A. 7 January 2011: I don't think the age gap is a problem as long as you two are communicating about what you want and expect from the relationship that you are in. Since he is older, it is more likely that he will want to settle down and have children, get married ... (read in full...)
My hubby is cheating! What should I do?
Q. I'm 28 and live with my 30 year old husband and 3 kids. I'm in a weelchair so we live in a bungalow , however latly I'm not sure if my hubbys been so honest or faithful to me. It started about 1 month ago, my husband was coming home later and l...
A. 7 January 2011: Its highly unlikely your husband will get custody of your children since you can prove his unfaithfullness and unless he can prove that you are an unfit mother the worst thing, you'll have joint custody.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend makes me cry every day
Q. My boyfriend When he gets mad he says mean things to hurt my feelings -your a bitch/whore/loser/pathetic Gets madder, and makes fun of me and acts like a complete jerk when I'm crying over him Wont listen to me when I tell him that I nee...
A. 6 January 2011: This is very simple. Leave him. Get out of this abusive relationship right now, I know it's hard to leave, but it has to be done. This relationship isn't going anywhere except down the road of "going to get worse" so you need to get out of it now. ... (read in full...)
I'm worried my girlfriend fancies someone else
Q. Hi People, I'm not sure if this question is stupid or not but it has been playing on my mind ever since. I have been with my gf for almost 6 years now and I don’t want to wreck it from paranoia. The other night we got abit drunk and were pla...
A. 6 January 2011: You know this could go either way, she could like him and she could not and it was the drink talking. I would observe her and this person when they are together and notice their body language and the way that they speak to each other should give way ... (read in full...)
We're not in a serious relationship despite having a child, always hanging out and sleeping together
Q. I am still inlove with my child's father. But we havnt been together in years. And weren't even together that long before I got pregnant. We get along great ( minus the few times we do argue) and we still sleep together off and on. I do so much for ...
A. 6 January 2011: You aren't doing anything wrong. I was in the same exact situation with my son's biological father before he passed away in June of 09'. I bent over backwards for him, gave him money, rides, a son, and did everything in my power to please him ... (read in full...)
How do I control my insecurities between dates?
Q. I've met someone who I am very taken with. We've had two dates, then Xmas came and have had to wait about 2 weeks before seeing her again. We've arranged the third date for this weekend. We've talked a lot inbetween. I don't know what my prob...
A. 6 January 2011: Sounds like a normal beginning to a relationship. I still have some of the text messages my fiance sent me when we first met each other, so it's normal, what you are doing that is.
Don't stress too much about it. Everything has it's own way of f... (read in full...)
Should I get back together with my first love?
Q. right, basically, me and my ex boyfriend split up 5 months ago after a year and a half, 3 weeks after he started driving and i havent been able to get over him. i still see him around, we have been through a lot of crap, he wasnt very nice and ...
A. 6 January 2011: Do you want him back after he dumped you on Facebook? Can you handle that again if he does that? He is "best friends" with one of the girls who was supposed to be one of your friends, do you think they are going to stop hanging out with each other ... (read in full...)
Sex: I tend to do things I don’t want to, to avoid making a scene
Q. I'm basically just curious I’ve only slept with a few people and tend to do things I don’t want to, to avoid making a scene... I guess. It's just a few general questions about sex and what other people think. You don’t have to answer them all, ...
A. 6 January 2011: 1) Keep a trash can close or a kleenex on hand
2)Personal preferences. I do not like that, I think it's gross, but some people out there thoroughly enjoy that sort of thing. Depends on the person.
3)The guy can get rid of the condom or the gi... (read in full...)
My hubby is cheating! What should I do?
Q. I'm 28 and live with my 30 year old husband and 3 kids. I'm in a weelchair so we live in a bungalow , however latly I'm not sure if my hubbys been so honest or faithful to me. It started about 1 month ago, my husband was coming home later and l...
A. 6 January 2011: Do you want to reconcile with your husband? Attempt to make things work? Were the text messages sexual?
Make arrangements to where the kids aren't around, let them go to a friends house or your parents' house so they aren't around when you conf... (read in full...)
Why can't I get over this unhealthy relationship?
Q. I was with my ex for 14 years. However, for the last 4 years we had a purely platonic relationship. This ws difficult for me as sex had always been important to me. We eventually split - relatively amicable too. VERY shrtly afterwards I was ...
A. 6 January 2011: This woman came into your life after four years of a very long dry spell and blew your mind. Perhaps what was lust was mistaken for love.
You recognize her abusive tendencies and low tolerance to alcohol and you asked her to leave, without ... (read in full...)
Help. Baby daddy family drama part 2.
Q. My son's biological father, we will call him Cord, died in June of 2009 he was drunk on father's day and fell off of a roof. My son was six months old at the time. 1. Cord was never there for our son even before he died. He never helped me financ...
A. 5 January 2011: Thank you. All of you. I had a phone call from the 14 year old cousin and it made me feel really bad that I'm not letting them see him, but letting one of them in will eventually lead all of them in and I don't want that.
Thank you all so much for... (read in full...)
How do I attract the bad boys?
Q. what is it abour me that attracts unattractive guys i mean my mom always told me to be nice so i am and i attract boys who i dont like how do i get the ones wh i like what do i do.ps i like the bad boys...
A. 5 January 2011: Um, what is your definition of a "bad boy"? Cause there are a lot of varying degrees of bad.... (read in full...)
I love you? versus I'm in love with you...hmmm
Q. Hello, I was wondering, my soon to be hubby says "I love you" and I love him too, but is there a difference between saying "I love you" versus "I'm in love with you"? Don't get me wrong, but we both love each other, however, I was told by a gf tha...
A. 5 January 2011: i think it depends on your views on that. I'm in love with my bf but I don't say, "hey baby, I'm in love with you." I tell him I love him.
If I tell a friend I love him/her, then I do love him or her, but I am not in love with that person. ... (read in full...)
Am I a terrible person to behave this way when I should be giving support?
Q. Am i a terrible person to behave this way when i should be giving support? My partner and i have been having this on off relationship for sometime now, he has moved out. The thing is we have 2 kids, my youngest is 2 and when he was a baby, about ...
A. 5 January 2011: He sounds full of crap. A man that has been caught in his lies and is now backed into a corner.
No you are not a bad person for telling him that you no longer want a relationship with him, cheating is a deal breaker for me not to mention the lyin... (read in full...)
Why don't I enjoy anything sexual? How can I enjoy sex ?
Q. I am 19 and only lost my virginity a month ago. Since then, I have had sex with my boyfriend twice, both times very uncomfortable and don't feel anything unless it is pain. I know this is quite common after you lose your virginity, to be painful ...
A. 5 January 2011: Was there anything else in your past that was traumatic for you during a sexual experience? I know a lot of women who go through this problem.
Do you and your bf use foreplay? Preheat the oven and all that? Do you love him? I found that if I don... (read in full...)
I feel like my infertility is hindering his happiness....
Q. I am aged 31 and have been married for 3 years. I have had an admired relationship with a faithful husband who has always been on my side and supported me. By the time of our marriage, my husband had a 4 year old son who we have happily lived with ...
A. 5 January 2011: My boyfriend was told that he couldn't and never would be able to have children and I am now currently pregnant with his child.
The doctors told my mother she would never be able to have children in her lifetime and she had seven children... (read in full...)
Help. Baby daddy family drama part 2.
Q. My son's biological father, we will call him Cord, died in June of 2009 he was drunk on father's day and fell off of a roof. My son was six months old at the time. 1. Cord was never there for our son even before he died. He never helped me financ...
A. 3 January 2011: Thank you all so much for your answers, they have helped me a lot. I'm 11 weeks pregnant with MIchael and extremely stressed out.
My extended family (grandparents, Uncles) on my mother's side (she died last year as well) all say that I am being... (read in full...)
Help. Baby daddy family drama part 2.
Q. My son's biological father, we will call him Cord, died in June of 2009 he was drunk on father's day and fell off of a roof. My son was six months old at the time. 1. Cord was never there for our son even before he died. He never helped me financ...
A. 2 January 2011: Cord and I were never married. He is deceased now.
His mother (not my mother in law) is threatening to take my son away from me and my bf (we are having a child i'm 10 weeks pregnant). I have not talked to Cord's mother or sent her any texts, noth... (read in full...)
Why does my best girl friend need to get jealous of my girl friend?
Q. I'm 15 and I have a girl friend who's amazing. But I also have a girl bestfriend who I love. And now that I have a girlfriend my girl best friend gets all jealous and says I'm still hers. But she said she doesn't like me. But why would she get ...
A. 30 December 2010: You love your best friend? As a sister or something more than that?
Girls are naturally possessive even of their guy friends and perhaps you are a little too preoccupied with your gf and don't get enough hang time with your best friend and perh... (read in full...)
Why does my best girl friend need to get jealous of my girl friend?
Q. I'm 15 and I have a girl friend who's amazing. But I also have a girl bestfriend who I love. And now that I have a girlfriend my girl best friend gets all jealous and says I'm still hers. But she said she doesn't like me. But why would she get ...
A. 30 December 2010: You love your best friend? As a sister or something more than that?
Girls are naturally possessive even of their guy friends and perhaps you are a little too preoccupied with your gf and don't get enough hang time with your best friend and perh... (read in full...)
Why do I pee during sex???
Q. My boyfriend and I have a great relationship and a great sex life. We talk about everything and are very comfortable with each other. During sex, I usually come a lot, and again and again but lately I've been having trouble coming during sex. It's ...
A. 30 December 2010: Are you 100 percent sure that the fluid is urine and not female ejaculate?
I thought the same thing when I first started having sex with my current bf, but it turns out that he just really knows what he is doing and really turns me on so I cum a ... (read in full...)
Why won't she let me finish her?
Q. whenever I go down on my girlfriend, she pushes me away when she's about to cum. when I ask her why she wants me to stop she just gasps "no" like she's afraid of something. I don't understand why. She says that she enjoys it. why won't she let me ...
A. 30 December 2010: There could be a number of reasons.
Bad past experience, perhaps she is afraid of what she tastes like? She could just not be comfortable with the idea of cumming in your mouth as some guys aren't comfortable with that either.
It sounds lik... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend and we're in an amazing relationship even though we're so far away....then why did I cheat?????
Q. Ok so here's my situation I'm with the love of my life and she's the bestest person ever and we share and talk about everything Everything is great and i truly care for her and miss her and always think about her and she has the same feelings fo...
A. 30 December 2010: Perhaps you cheated because although you love your girlfriend you can't express that love physically whenever you want because of your long distance relationship with each other.
I don't tolerate cheating that's a deal breaker for me, but I do... (read in full...)
Help. Baby daddy family drama part 2.
Q. My son's biological father, we will call him Cord, died in June of 2009 he was drunk on father's day and fell off of a roof. My son was six months old at the time. 1. Cord was never there for our son even before he died. He never helped me financ...
A. 30 December 2010: Thank you all so very much for your answers, they help me a lot. I question myself if I'm wrong in not letting them see him because they are his family by blood, but blood doesn't make family.
Cord was never my husband, we were only together... (read in full...)
Adoption? Abortion? Or keeping the baby from an unplanned pregnancy?
Q. This isn't a relationship question really. But out of blatant curiosity I was wondering if people out there would share their opinion on whether they think adoption, abortion or keeping an unplanned baby is the best option and why they feel that ...
A. 30 December 2010: I am pregnant but my boyfriend and I both don't believe in abortion and I am too selfish to give my child up for adoption. I have a two year old son who is my whole world and I know I'm fully capable of taking care of another child. I was raised t... (read in full...)
Do father's tend to be closer their sons or their daughters?
Q. hi my question is do dads tend to be closer to their sons or their daughters?? ...
A. 29 December 2010: Depends on the father and the kids. My dad is close with all five of us girls and also close with his two boys.
In Sigmund Freud's theory, the girls first loves are their fathers and that is who they model their boyfriends/husbands after. The moth... (read in full...)
Should I really be doing this or am I getting a little ahead of myself?
Q. Okay, so I'm 14 years old, and just recently, I've made plans with this guy, a friend, who I've known for years, to lose my virginity...and I know a lot of people might say I'm too young, but I know what I want.. my thing is, I have a fear of ...
A. 29 December 2010: I think you are getting a little ahead of yourself. Why do you want to experience your first time with him and not someone you love and trust?
I rushed myself like you are right now, I had sex at 18 before I was ready, before I had met the guy ... (read in full...)
Torn between the love of my life and being my mother's full time carer, help!
Q. I am in love with a *British male beauty pageant winner*. I am in Australia and I have known him for years but I am finding it very difficult because I know he is the one for me and he feels the same. The problem is that I am my Mum's full time ...
A. 29 December 2010: Is he incapable of moving to Australia?
Have you talked to your mother about your current situation? I'm sure as your mom she would be more than understanding about you finding love and having to pursue that. It's hard taking care of a parent. ... (read in full...)
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