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I don't think I'm really "qualified" per se to help people, I'm not a professional nor do I hold any degrees or anything of that nature, I just like giving advice when people ask for it and hopefully the mistakes I've made in the past can help someone else from having to go down that road. I'm very honest. I'm not going to sugar coat anything.
I love spending time with my son, everything is an adventure to him and he is discovering everything for the first time. And he says the funniest things at the perfect moments like he times them. I also love spending time with my family (most of the time) My mother passed away last year and I have four sisters and two brothers, we are all very close, I help out when I can.
I love movies. Due Date was hilarious! I love Supernatural, 1000 Ways to Die, Bones (excellent show) and Gilmore Girls (we share an addiction to coffee although I can't drink it now). Recently went and saw Rango, very cute movie.
"I want urine samples from everyone and a latte. Don't mix up the two."-Rango (Johnny Depp)
I wish everyone the best as we travel through this crazy complicated thing called life and hopefully with this website it will help us make it through just a little bit easier.
"The hardest thing to do in this world, is to live in it."
"Live life to the fullest moment, cause you never know if it's going to be your last."
"Enjoy your time as a teen; after that it gets so complicated."
"A mother holds her child's hand for a short while, his heart forever." |
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Baby daddy family drama
Q. Okay. My son's father, we will call him Cord, died in June of '09 he fell of a roof and broke his neck (he was drunk)and my bf, Michael and I have been together for two years almost. Anyway, Cord was never there for our son. When our son was hosp...
A. 16 November 2010: "Cord" is her son. He passed away last June. Her whole family has used drugs in the past, hers within the last year (once). One of her family members is using that I know of and he lives with them.
Michael doesn't want her coming to our home to s... (read in full...)
Is it possible that my wife could've cheated on me and the baby is not mine?
Q. I am suspicious that my wife might have been pregant before as she acts wierd in front of the doctor when he asks - also is it possible that she could have bled after conceiving and as such is it possible that she could have cheated on me, and the ...
A. 16 November 2010: Hospitals aren't legally allowed to alter the results of tests, no matter if they think you will be upset.
Get a paternity test if you are really skeptical about the origins of the child.
Did your wife do something to make you beleive that she... (read in full...)
He flirts with her all the time and I feel like second best here! What should I do?
Q. Dear cupid, my boyfriend has this female friend hes always flirting with. ever since the beginning of our relationship it has been causing serious problems..ive even broke up with him over leaving flirtatious picture comments on her profile.he ...
A. 16 November 2010: He isn't going to change. Dump him. It sounds like he wants to be with her. If my bf did that for a day, it would be over. I don't play second.
You don't deserve this, find someone who will give you his undivided attention and make you first. I'm ... (read in full...)
Is he still in love with me or am I just his sex partner?
Q. Hi I have a problem with the father of my son, we've been together for 6 Years now everything is fine except he doesnt take care of me I mean ,he didnt pay for my son and he never proposed to me , he doesnt help me with anything like buying ...
A. 16 November 2010: You are reporting to him before you go out? You are asking him for permission to go out? I'm sorry. Is he giving you the same courtesy? No? That is ridiculous. I wouldn't put up with that.
You are way too young to be putting up with that crap. He s... (read in full...)
Baby daddy family drama
Q. Okay. My son's father, we will call him Cord, died in June of '09 he fell of a roof and broke his neck (he was drunk)and my bf, Michael and I have been together for two years almost. Anyway, Cord was never there for our son. When our son was hosp...
A. 16 November 2010: Michael has informed me that he wants me to choose between Cord's family (his mom) and him (Michael).
He told me that everytime I mention Cord's mother he is reminded that he really isn't the father and that I had my son with another guy who isn'... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a teen to masturbate?
Q. im a teenage girl and this past year i have had relationship problems and feel like a part of me is missing without him. i started humping a towel rolled up and waiting until i got a good feeling. is that considered masterbaition? also, is it wrong ...
A. 15 November 2010: Don't masterbate with anything that is not meant to go into the vaginal canal. Cucumbers, carrots, pens, markers, etc. There was a woman who masterbated with a carrot (she shaved it first) a piece of the carrot broke off while she was thrusting it ... (read in full...)
Is there a reason I literally have no emotion towards anyone right now?
Q. About 2 or 3 months ago I broke up with a girl I had been dating for about half a year. I fell in love with this girl and felt things I had never felt before, but she left for college and we couldn't make things work between us because I have trust ...
A. 15 November 2010: It sounds like you aren't over your last girlfriend yet and your new girlfriend sent you into a kinda shocked state. You need closure from your last relationship before you can really move on.
You might have depression and may need anti... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a teen to masturbate?
Q. im a teenage girl and this past year i have had relationship problems and feel like a part of me is missing without him. i started humping a towel rolled up and waiting until i got a good feeling. is that considered masterbaition? also, is it wrong ...
A. 15 November 2010: Use a toy instead of a rolled towel (friction/burn over time is owie) or your own fingers after you have washed them.
It's extremely normal to masterbate, especially during teen years, that's when your body is going through the most hormonal chan... (read in full...)
Even though people have reassured me so many times, I still feel so insecure about my penis size. How do I get over this?
Q. I just can't get over this fear and paranoia that girls are going to make fun of me or dump me because my penis is less than average sized. For what information is worth, I've got a 4 inch, yes that's when it IS erect, penis with less than satisf...
A. 15 November 2010: Honestly, size isn't everything and men with extremely large penis' tend to hurt a woman and aren't enjoyable during sex.
You are perfectly fine. Girth is great. Women don't care about the size, we honestly care if the guy knows how to use it or i... (read in full...)
Disastrous first attempt at sex
Q. I had sex for the first time today and it was kindof a disaster. We were both really nervous, and he kept loosing his erection for a while, and then he finally was able to keep it and he clumsily put on the condom. It was really hard to get it i...
A. 15 November 2010: Wasn't trying to yell at you or anything for having sex young, people have sex way younger than 15 and I think its awesome that you are aware of the consequences and protection and all of that, most people aren't these days.
Ease back into the sex,... (read in full...)
My b/f's baby momma is causing a strain on our relationship
Q. i have been in a relationship for 4 years and my boyfriend has a baby momma that wont go away. he can only see his kids at her house. its causing strain in our relationship we recently broke up because of her what should i do he wants to be with me ...
A. 15 November 2010: She sounds very unreasonable and controlling. How does she come into the visitations he has with his children if they are at his house? Can he not set up visitation where he comes and gets them and then he drops them off, so you and his baby's mama ... (read in full...)
What is the big deal with ones partner watching porn?
Q. I always see a lot of married couples or people dating complaining about their husband/boyfriend watching porn. Why dont they like it when they do it? Because really I would be up for watching it with them, but other people dont seem to feel that ...
A. 15 November 2010: I watch porn with my boyfriend. Most of the time we watch it and comment on the fakeness and things like that. Other times we watch it just to watch it. Men are visual creatures, hence, porn.
I don't see what the big deal is. Unless they are watc... (read in full...)
He's in his 20s but his sex drive is down to nothing
Q. hey all! ive been with my boyfriend for 4yrs now, we have a 1 yr old daughter together. but the reason that im asking this embasasin question is because its bugging me! we had a fairly modern sex life up to 2 yrs ago. and now im lucky if i get it ...
A. 15 November 2010: My boyfriend and I were going through the same thing. He was a man whore before we got together, so his sex drive is def not up there where mine is. I try to entice him as much as I can.
Not to plant this in your head, could he be cheating on you?... (read in full...)
Baby daddy family drama
Q. Okay. My son's father, we will call him Cord, died in June of '09 he fell of a roof and broke his neck (he was drunk)and my bf, Michael and I have been together for two years almost. Anyway, Cord was never there for our son. When our son was hosp...
A. 15 November 2010: THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH FOR YOUR RESPONSES!!!! Caringguy, I have no problem telling my son who is real father is when he is old enough to understand, but for right now, to him, Michael is his father and they are doing everything in their power to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a crush on another girl!!!
Q. So I have been dating my boyfriend for 1 month and before he meet me he had a crush on this girl. Recently I found out that he still has a major crush on her, he also wrote on her facebook wall that she was gorgeoous...she I be concerned?...
A. 15 November 2010: I don't want to be mean, but it sounds to me that he really doesn't care about your feelings. You two have been together a month? I would say good bye. I know that that is really really hard to do, especially when you care and like someone a lot. ... (read in full...)
I see the "texting on the wall".
Q. I am 40 years old, mom of one. My boyfriend and his daughter have been living with us for the past 3.5 years. To be honest, this is the first time I've felt that "in love" feeling...deep, caring love. BF had to go stay with his best friend for ...
A. 14 November 2010: Red flag. I would lose him. He sounds like an ass and as if he has been using you. Why did he have to go stay with his best friend if his friend was at work. He pretty much confirmed that he cheated on you and the fact that he was trying to get ... (read in full...)
Close pictures with other girls, acceptable?
Q. Just wondering when photos of your boyfriend close with other girls (as in faces touching close) becomes unacceptable? Is it normal drinking behaviour for guys to go out and take close pictures, or is it a sign of something more? I have asked that ...
A. 14 November 2010: No close pictures, especially when the guy is drinking. That would be completely unacceptable to me, would he be comfortable with you doing the same thing?
Since you said that he has cheated in the past I don't think that you asking that those type... (read in full...)
Girlfriend texting my best friend!
Q. thanks for the last help guys and girls it really helped me out. ive got another one for you now. my girlfriend and i have been dating for about 2 and a half months now, and i think were both pretty happy with our relationship. at least i know i am, ...
A. 14 November 2010: I don't agree with having your bf's best friend comforting you over something your boyfriend said, that to me, is stupid. Your girlfriend shouldn't be talking to your best friend all day. That is kinda weird. If they were talking about you or if she ... (read in full...)
He has people watching me while he's away!
Q. hi ive been dating this guy for a while and hes really nice. i have a wild streak and u know am a free bird and sometimes can do some pretty crazy things. ive never hidden it from him and was open with him from the begining of our relationship. he ...
A. 14 November 2010: It sounds like he is more worried about your safety than you cheating, "watching your back" sounds like he is scared for you. I don't know what you mean by weird or impulsive things. Be honest with him
Did he mean watching you as in every seco... (read in full...)
My b/f's baby momma is causing a strain on our relationship
Q. i have been in a relationship for 4 years and my boyfriend has a baby momma that wont go away. he can only see his kids at her house. its causing strain in our relationship we recently broke up because of her what should i do he wants to be with me ...
A. 14 November 2010: It sounds like he is trying to control how often he sees his children and perhaps she doesn't want them around you. Why can he only see them at her house? Has he gone to court to set up joint custody to where he can take the kids for the weekend to ... (read in full...)
I gave him an ultimatum but am having second thoughts
Q. my boyfriend broke up with me 4 months ago and im carrying his child and i still want him back so bad we were seeing each other for 6 years before the break up he was kinda talking to me giving me the signals that yes he try again but he said he ...
A. 14 November 2010: Hey is he doesn't want you or the baby there are plenty who will in America!!! Safe journey by the way. He should be there for you and the baby anyway, he doesn't know what he wants? He should have thought of that before you two got pregnant. I ... (read in full...)
Feeling insecure because my partner gets so many compliments
Q. Ok, here’s the problem - hope some people feel they can offer a little insight: First, to avoid confusion, I’m gay. I’m in a relationship, which appears to be showing signs of being serious. My boyfriend and I have an age gap - I am 33 and he...
A. 14 November 2010: There is a reason he chose you and not someone else. Have some confidence. Be proud that YOUR guy is getting compliments, its almost like you are getting compliments for you. My bf is just delicious and he has women hit on him all of the time, he ... (read in full...)
I want the relationship to be like when I was home
Q. I am currently in college about 2 hours away from home, so I see my girlfriend once every couple weeks if I'm lucky. Since I have left she texts me continuously and tells me how much she misses me. I don't have a problem with that, but it seems ...
A. 14 November 2010: Tell her that you are at school and you miss her terribly. Text her randomly and ask her how her day is or how it went. I'm sure she will be more than willing to share the details of her day with you. It does sound like she misses you alot. Have you ... (read in full...)
Do guys usually open up after sex?
Q. Do guys usually open up after sex? What makes them want to talk about their personal stuff and feelings?...
A. 14 November 2010: In my experience, guys are more closed up after sex. Unless you have a relationship with them before you have sex and they trust you, are comfortable with you and love you. If it's a random one night stand or you two had sex so he would open up, ... (read in full...)
He's too gentle! I need it rough!
Q. well.... I use to go out with this guy who loves to have rough sex. I use to hate it, but I eventually got use to it since its the only way to have sex with him. Now i love rough sex, but the problem is, the guy I'm dating now doesnt. He's a softie...
A. 14 November 2010: You'll never get anywhere by faking, he will continue doing what he is doing because he thinks he is king of the world and you will continue to be miserable. I agree, just take incremental little nudges and introduce new things to him. Don't do it ... (read in full...)
Any tips for having anal sex?
Q. Hey, Me and my boyfriend want to try anal sex, we have attempted it before but I want to be prepared this time. I got an anal douche, but I don't know how long before sex I should use it. Also, I travell up to his on the train (3 hours) will ...
A. 14 November 2010: Lots and lots and lots of lube. Make sure you are comfortable before you start. Hands and knees hurts the most. I find that laying on my side or if i'm the one on top it doesn't hurt as much because I control everything. Try fingering first if you ... (read in full...)
Do men fancy their female friends?
Q. What is it with men and female friends? I have just had a major argument with a friend of mine about sex. Specifically the fact that because I am his friend, he would never sleep with me. I thought men were attracted to all women? Everythi...
A. 14 November 2010: Most guys I know see me as a sister to them, so they aren't attracted to me sexually, thank God. Little awkward. If you want a boyfriend, then you have to leave the comfort of friend zone and find a boyfriend. Some guys are attracted to their female ... (read in full...)
I charge my sister to clean the bathroom! Am I cheating her?
Q. Do you think its wrong that I charge my older sister 15/20$ to clean the bathroom for her? Meaning she don't have to do anything, no sweeping, no mirror cleaning ect. She has the bathroom 2 times a in a row and then I have it 2 times in a row. What ...
A. 14 November 2010: Nope. If she doesn't want to do the chore then why should you have to do hers and yours for free? I don't think there is anything wrong with you charging your lazy sister for you to do her chore.... (read in full...)
I feel like a freak of nature!
Q. First I have to inform you all on the story, before my question makes some sense. Okay...Teens/young adults my age usually, already have sex or have sudden urges to do the said act. But...I find myself not feeling those urges, and frankly I don't ...
A. 14 November 2010: There is no set age that you have to lose your virginity by. You should be confident in the knowledge that you are waiting and not ready yet. When you're ready you'll know and until then you shouldn't feel like a freak of nature! I waited until I ... (read in full...)
I'm becoming a nervous wreck to the point where my mind plays tricks on me.
Q. I'm becoming a nervous wreck because I can't trust my boyfriend, please help? I keep looking at my boyfriend's past messages and looking for times that he may have said something he shouldn't have to another girl. I've been looking through his...
A. 14 November 2010: He clearly does what he wants (even behind your back) knowing that it would hurt you. My bf and I went through the same thing with Myspace and Facebook to the point of where we made a deal to delete them. He shouldn't be hiding things from you if h... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a crush on another girl!!!
Q. So I have been dating my boyfriend for 1 month and before he meet me he had a crush on this girl. Recently I found out that he still has a major crush on her, he also wrote on her facebook wall that she was gorgeoous...she I be concerned?...
A. 14 November 2010: Um that would royally piss me off to find that my bf had told another woman she was gorgeous. I would at least confront him about it. Guys don't think with their brains, gorgeous vs. substance?
He told you that he has a crush on her? ... (read in full...)
Disastrous first attempt at sex
Q. I had sex for the first time today and it was kindof a disaster. We were both really nervous, and he kept loosing his erection for a while, and then he finally was able to keep it and he clumsily put on the condom. It was really hard to get it i...
A. 14 November 2010: Sounds like a normal experience for a first time, don't feel bad or embarrassed. You guys sound like you love each other. Just relax. You love each other and that's what you are expressing.
More foreplay. Exploration. Go slow and enjoy each othe... (read in full...)
I'm torn on whether or not I should divorce my alcoholic husband.
Q. I'm torn on whether or not I should divorce my husband. A year ago, pill popping and alcohol abuse led to him physically abusing me. I called the police (later dropping the charges) and left the house for two months and got some therapy. I went ...
A. 14 November 2010: It sounds like you are enabling him to continue his drinking since you are supporting his habit. Get out of there. Divorce him. You have given him his chances and its time for you to move on. You only have one life, live it for you. He is not going ... (read in full...)
Big nipples vs. Small nipples, which do guys prefer?
Q. Girls have all different sizes of nipples and we dont really pay too much attention to it until it comes down to having to strip down and reveal them to boys..soo what do guys prefer...big nipples or small ones? or does it not matter at all? ...
A. 11 November 2010: They are breasts. That's all a guy is really concerned about. How boring would it be for everyone to have the same pair? Or look like each other? Boooorrrrriiiinnng. I'm sure they are fine. Be confident, be proud.... (read in full...)
I hate that his friend is also his ex!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year, but he has remained friends with his ex-girlfriend, who doesn't like me, throughout our relationship. I have never met her, but can tell she still has feelings for him as he is the one ...
A. 11 November 2010: The fact that you have never met her and that he likes to keep you two separate is a big RED FLAG for me. He should respect you and the relationship you two have enough to say, hey this is my girlfriend and deal with it. Have you talked to him about ... (read in full...)
Tough love or mean parent?
Q. Ok guys this is a question that is not about love or sex this is a very hard tough love question. My son and his wife split up and i let him move in with me. I am single and have new house and car and bills. He knows i make good money. He has no job ...
A. 11 November 2010: Sounds like you have always been there for him? And if so, then he knows that you will always be there for him and he is expecting you to take care of him. Nine hundred dollars? I would have told him to leave as well. It's time to grow up and be a ... (read in full...)
A whole lot of baby mama drama
Q. i am in a tough situation, im a mother of twin boys they are 6 years old and the father was in the picture when they were younger then he disappeared because he got with another women. That kept him from seeing his kids but his mother always called ...
A. 11 November 2010: Wow. Lots of drama. Lol. Maturity. He can't expect you to accept his ex calling all the time and what not and he can't do the same for you? Your kids' father hasn't seen them in how long? Maybe he really did change and wants to be a good father, ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever come across the male counterpart of a cock-tease?
Q. Hello all. I was talking with someone earlier this evening who told me a story of coming across a 'minge-tease' or the male equivalent of a cock-tease in her recent dating life. I was wondering, if any of you had ever come across this yourselves ...
A. 11 November 2010: Um, maybe he is gay and was testing that theory. Drunk and perhaps wanting to have a little fun. Could have been a dare. Guys do some really weird things in their shenanigans.... (read in full...)
Would you consider making a pass at my best friend cheating?
Q. My gf made a pass at one of my best friends late one night. When he told me I knew it was true, because that was the exact same way she expressed interest in me the first night I met her. Is that cheating?...
A. 11 November 2010: My boyfriend would consider that cheating even though nothing physical has actually happened. I think it's a point of view thing really. She could have been kidding around, especially if she knew he was one of your friends? Sounds maybe like an ... (read in full...)
I feel like us not arguing it unhealthy!
Q. Hi! I'm a new user though I've been reading for a while and I've decided to ask an for an opinion. It's simple really :) Let me start out that my boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months, are very close emotionally, and confide in each ...
A. 11 November 2010: The couple who stops fighting is the couple who has stopped caring. As long as its a "good" fight. Constructive fighting is a lot different than those fights that belittle and are critical to the other person. My boyfriend and I have been together ... (read in full...)
Ladies, what is the perfect duration for sex for you?
Q. Ladies, what is the perfect duration for sex for you? By that, I mean from the time penetration starts till he comes...so excluding foreplay and stuff. If you like it long, do you expect him to get it up again soon? For those who like minutemen, ...
A. 11 November 2010: Different positions, slow and soft; hard and fast. It really depends on the mood you two are in. For me an hour and a half is a quickie. The longest I've ever gone with my fiance is six hours, that was the first time we ever had sex with each other ... (read in full...)
Why does this 40 year old man want my virginity?
Q. I've been speaking with a 40 year old man for about 4 months on the internet. Don't tell me about the fact that I'm 18 and he could be my dad. I am aware of that. That's not the advice I'm seeking. Or tell me that he's going through a midlife crisis ...
A. 11 November 2010: Experience has told me that any man, no matter the age, likes, enjoys and wants sex. Some men that is all that they think about night and day and others can go forever and ever without it. You need to figure out which one he is. Whether he is ... (read in full...)
Why does this 40 year old man want my virginity?
Q. I've been speaking with a 40 year old man for about 4 months on the internet. Don't tell me about the fact that I'm 18 and he could be my dad. I am aware of that. That's not the advice I'm seeking. Or tell me that he's going through a midlife crisis ...
A. 10 November 2010: Guys, no matter what their age, love virgins. The seductions, the plan and the execution. To be the first for a woman, especially in this day, is like the ultimate accomplishment for a male. Especially with him being 40. And you seem to be a little ... (read in full...)
Ladies, what is the perfect duration for sex for you?
Q. Ladies, what is the perfect duration for sex for you? By that, I mean from the time penetration starts till he comes...so excluding foreplay and stuff. If you like it long, do you expect him to get it up again soon? For those who like minutemen, ...
A. 31 October 2010: I'm 21 and been with my current boyfriend for almost two years and the first time we had sex was six hours and 43 orgasms later. Not I like about 4 hours, enough time to explore and have some fun while we make love. I honestly think it depends on ... (read in full...)
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