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I don't think I'm really "qualified" per se to help people, I'm not a professional nor do I hold any degrees or anything of that nature, I just like giving advice when people ask for it and hopefully the mistakes I've made in the past can help someone else from having to go down that road. I'm very honest. I'm not going to sugar coat anything.
I love spending time with my son, everything is an adventure to him and he is discovering everything for the first time. And he says the funniest things at the perfect moments like he times them. I also love spending time with my family (most of the time) My mother passed away last year and I have four sisters and two brothers, we are all very close, I help out when I can.
I love movies. Due Date was hilarious! I love Supernatural, 1000 Ways to Die, Bones (excellent show) and Gilmore Girls (we share an addiction to coffee although I can't drink it now). Recently went and saw Rango, very cute movie.
"I want urine samples from everyone and a latte. Don't mix up the two."-Rango (Johnny Depp)
I wish everyone the best as we travel through this crazy complicated thing called life and hopefully with this website it will help us make it through just a little bit easier.
"The hardest thing to do in this world, is to live in it."
"Live life to the fullest moment, cause you never know if it's going to be your last."
"Enjoy your time as a teen; after that it gets so complicated."
"A mother holds her child's hand for a short while, his heart forever." |
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Are my ex's family being inappropriate?
Q. My son's bio father, we will call him Cord, his family randomly called me the other day over and over and over and over. WHen I listened to the voicemail it said,"Wow you sound really down on your voicemail. You need to call us. (pause) I need a...
A. 7 April 2013: I have terminated contact with this family. She threatened to take my son away from me and never let me see him again.
Her son and I weren't married. He slept with me, knocked me up and then ditched me. I was on semi-okay terms with her but am no l... (read in full...)
How do I make cheating boyfriend realize I may not always be around?
Q. my ex tells me he doesnt want to be with me right now? what does that mean i love him a lot but i need to be strong how can i make him think that i aint going to always be there? i mean thats why hes says not right now right? i mean the only reason ...
A. 23 March 2011: Don't be available. When he calls, don't answer, when he texts, don't reply. Him calling and texting you is his way of keeping tabs on you. He cheated on you and is now out having fun with the girl that he cheated on you with and you're just sitting ... (read in full...)
I confessed to my wife that I went to porn sites and now she doesn't want anything to do with me
Q. I have problems, my life, sucks and im to blame for it. I messed up the relationship with my wife, and my family. Let me get to the beginning, my wife gave birth of our first and possibly last child a little over a month a go. A boy whome we both ...
A. 23 March 2011: YOur wife is upset because you looked at porn although porn doesn't consume all of your time and that's not all you do? I guess depending on her view point porn is bad.
I don't think parents should stay together for the sake of their child if... (read in full...)
The woman my ex cheated with sends me photos of them together
Q. Help please. I broke up with my ex about a year and a half ago. It ended badly (I caught him cheating) after 5 years of being together. I contacted the other woman (that's the nicest I can say about her is that she is a woman) and told her what he ...
A. 23 March 2011: Wow, she sounds very mature. Some women have low enough self esteem they will take whatever man they can get, regardless of his moral stances/issues or inability to maintain and uphold a committment. I can't believe he did this to you, let alone ... (read in full...)
Are my ex's family being inappropriate?
Q. My son's bio father, we will call him Cord, his family randomly called me the other day over and over and over and over. WHen I listened to the voicemail it said,"Wow you sound really down on your voicemail. You need to call us. (pause) I need a...
A. 18 March 2011: I don't have communication with them as they to my knowledge are currently using recreational drugs and the only time they have ever talked to me is when they need something that they can't get for themselves.
I'm more afraid of this woman th... (read in full...)
Do I keep the box of momentos from my son's bio father's funeral, or get rid of it because it will hurt my fiance?
Q. I was going through my son's closet today and I found a box that has mementos from my son's biological father's funeral in it, we will call him "Cord" I don't know if I should show it to my fiance, we will call him "Michael" or if I should just hi...
A. 18 March 2011: svf-Wow. Well, I guess thank you for your input. I don't understand why you are keeping a keepsake box of things your ex has given YOU and not the things he has given your daughter.
When at any point did I say that he would make me throw anything... (read in full...)
Do I keep the box of momentos from my son's bio father's funeral, or get rid of it because it will hurt my fiance?
Q. I was going through my son's closet today and I found a box that has mementos from my son's biological father's funeral in it, we will call him "Cord" I don't know if I should show it to my fiance, we will call him "Michael" or if I should just hi...
A. 17 March 2011: Thanks for the answers (all of them). Michael is a very understanding and mature person, but not when it comes to this matter involving my son's "father".
My son is two years old and never knew his father. Ever. When I got pregnant he claimed ... (read in full...)
How can I be a player?
Q. How do I play players back who have hurt so many girls? What is their game and mindset? I want to think like them so hopefully I can hurt them when they get their guard down. Any tips or suggestions? ...
A. 16 March 2011: I think it depends on the type of player you're dealing with and his individual game set at the time, I did the same thing when I was played
I'm not really sure on all the details though as to what type of player you are dealing with... (read in full...)
How can I stop being so jealous?
Q. Hi everyone, I have been dating my boyfriend now for almost a year. Started going together last April, but I moved away in August. We decided to keep things long distance. Hard. Anyway, back in December his friend that is a girl asks him to kiss...
A. 16 March 2011: They haven't given you any reason to trust them when they are alone together especially since she got him to kiss her while you two were dating but fighting. So what is to stop her from swooping in and "saving the day" when you and your bf have ... (read in full...)
Do you consider watching porn cheating?
Q. How can watching porn be cheating? Random question.. girls/guys some thoughts??...
A. 16 March 2011: The porn industry can get a little "out there" there are some porn scenes and fetishes that I just can't watch because they are too disturbing. The facial shots for one, yuck. But, just because your bf watches these types of things, doesn't mean he ... (read in full...)
Do you think he will want biological children in the future?
Q. My boyfriend and I, both 24, were talking about kids yesterday and he said that he wanted to adopt 3 kids. And he wanted one to be named after him. And I asked him if he wanted to name his biological child after him. He said his mom tells him that ...
A. 16 March 2011: Although depression and bipolar disorder are hereditary they can be treated and managed in a healthy way, I thought you were talking about schizophrenia the way his mother said, "bad genes."
Its sad but true that some parents give their children... (read in full...)
Do you think he will want biological children in the future?
Q. My boyfriend and I, both 24, were talking about kids yesterday and he said that he wanted to adopt 3 kids. And he wanted one to be named after him. And I asked him if he wanted to name his biological child after him. He said his mom tells him that ...
A. 15 March 2011: Depending upon what type of illnesses his father and his sister has would indicate the percentage that the genes will be passed on to his children.
I understand your bf not wanting to pass on "mental illness" genes to his children, but adopting... (read in full...)
Do you consider watching porn cheating?
Q. How can watching porn be cheating? Random question.. girls/guys some thoughts??...
A. 15 March 2011: I don't consider porn cheating. I like to watch porn with my fiance every once in a while and I think that's okay. If a person is watching porn every waking minute and you have to get the jaws of life to get them to leave the television, then it's a ... (read in full...)
I don't want to hang around just because her kids dad is here!
Q. i am changing the names in this so no one knows who it is directed to... my girlfriend and i have been dating for the past 8 months. we have known each other for about 3 years now. she moved in with me about a month before we got together and now ...
A. 15 March 2011: A relationship with children involved is a very complicated thing.
Perhaps she thinks that not bringing you along on the children's outings with their dad is saving your feelings? Or she thinks it would be awkward?
If you want to move awa... (read in full...)
Would you rather be single, or with someone you don't know is lying to you about having cheated on you?
Q. Is it better to be alone or in a relationship with someone who has betrayed you in the past by cheating, and who continues to lie about having been faithful and committed throughout the relationship? Is it true that what you don't know, can't really ...
A. 15 March 2011: In a healthy relationship there is no room for lies. None. Complete honesty and communication.
I would rather be single than to spend my time and energy into a relationship with someone that is cheating and/or lying when I could be investing my t... (read in full...)
Boyfriend always accusing me of doing things wrong!
Q. Well.. my boyfriend and I have been dating for nearly 2 years now and everything's been going pretty well for the most part, but it just seems that he is always accusing me of things I'm not doing, and it really hurts me, and I don't know what to ...
A. 15 March 2011: Trust in a relationship, even an established one is hard to build, especially if one of the parties has been hurt in the past. You know that you are trustworthy and now all you can do is prove to your guy that you are.
It takes time, but it's wor... (read in full...)
Irrational insecurities around boyfriend going out drinking?
Q. Hi everyone. Here is my problem. My bf of over a year has started to go out drinking with his friends more. It is about once a fortnight. I have just noticed that he is going out more and I feel terribly insecure and wonder if I am being irrational? ...
A. 11 March 2011: Once every two weeks? That's doesn't seem like a lot to me. Is it a guys night? Are you not allowed to go with him?... (read in full...)
Boyfriend always accusing me of doing things wrong!
Q. Well.. my boyfriend and I have been dating for nearly 2 years now and everything's been going pretty well for the most part, but it just seems that he is always accusing me of things I'm not doing, and it really hurts me, and I don't know what to ...
A. 11 March 2011: If you are his first gf, then perhaps past relationships (not necessarily romantic ones) have left him scarred or perhaps he grew up in a house where trust wasn't there. Most people carry around "emotional trauma's" from previous emotional ... (read in full...)
I like this Capricorn guy
Q. Just a heads up for anyone who doesn't believe in them - This is a question about star signs/zodiacs. I respect a lot of you don't believe in them, but I do. So please don't comment saying what crap it is. I like this Capricorn guy. He's the de...
A. 10 March 2011: I love astrology!! Find out a lot about yourself from the Zodiac.
WHen is his birthday and when is your birthday? Date, month, year, time (if you know it) and place.
I'll chart you guys if you want. If you don't want to do that, then what is your... (read in full...)
I like this Capricorn guy
Q. Just a heads up for anyone who doesn't believe in them - This is a question about star signs/zodiacs. I respect a lot of you don't believe in them, but I do. So please don't comment saying what crap it is. I like this Capricorn guy. He's the de...
A. 10 March 2011: I love astrology!! Find out a lot about yourself from the Zodiac.
WHen is his birthday and when is your birthday? Date, month, year, time (if you know it) and place.
I'll chart you guys if you want. If you don't want to do that, then what is your... (read in full...)
What can I do? because my reading is, he wants to break up.
Q. I'm really worried. I think my boyfriend wants to break up with me! He told me he loved me though. Today at lunch my friend pulled him over to sit by me and we didn't talk once. We didn't even look at each other. Then We started texting and ...
A. 10 March 2011: Men at any age are confusing, especially teenage boys. Be blunt with him sweetie. Ask him in no uncertain terms if he still wants to go out with you or not, because if not you have better things to be doing.
He doesn't sound like he knows what he ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has this malicious female friend who is way too close to him, and he's told me to get used to her being around. What's that all about???
Q. my boyfriend of over 3 yrs has a friend who is a girl. I also have make friends but I am becoming slightly alarmed with the amount of defense he puts up for their friendship. I have expressed my uncomfort for a while now but I have got nowhere. T...
A. 10 March 2011: Wow, perhaps he should just date her. I wouldn't tolerate this bullcrap either. I don't care how long they have been friends, you are in a romantic intimate relationship with this man, she is just his "friend" and she obviously doesn't respect that ... (read in full...)
Husband cares more for his family than he does for me
Q. I have been married for 2 years and recently seperated because he cares and does more for his family than me. We lived next door and all they had to do was call and he would run no matter what we were doing or planning takes care of their house and ...
A. 10 March 2011: His family is his family, he can't change that. As his wife you should be by his side helping him in anyway you can. You cannot ask a person to choose over their family and another person, it will always be the family.
What family are you talk... (read in full...)
Boyfriend always accusing me of doing things wrong!
Q. Well.. my boyfriend and I have been dating for nearly 2 years now and everything's been going pretty well for the most part, but it just seems that he is always accusing me of things I'm not doing, and it really hurts me, and I don't know what to ...
A. 10 March 2011: Stop trying to please him, your his girlfriend not his mother and even she didn't have to work so hard.
He does sound very insecure with himself and perhaps he has had past relationships that didn't go so well and now this is just his natural ... (read in full...)
I don't know how she feels and I cant get a straight answer out of her
Q. ok, well my situation is this, im a college student attending Utah State University, and ive fallen for a friend of mine, the feeling has grown over the past five months, shes a beautiful girl and very intelligent, with a very unique personality. ...
A. 10 March 2011: Utah is a very religious intolerant place, I live in Wyo and go down there often.
Have you been blunt and straight to the point with her? Perhaps she isn't clear all the way of your feelings and doesn't want to say anything first? Perhaps she is u... (read in full...)
I think I've ruined my genitals forever and I'm not even 16 yet!
Q. Okay, this is SO embarrassing but I don't know who else to turn to and the people on this site seem fairly nice. If you're gonna' be a douche, okay, I guess. It is the Internet, but please... I've been FREAKING out about this since it happene...
A. 10 March 2011: Wow. Calm down.
Kegels do work, as a 21 yr old mother of two I can attest that they do work. Abstinence from sex/masturbation should also help as long as you stick to the plan of not doing anything sexually.
We woman are designed for a b... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't have my number saved in his phone!!!
Q. I've been seeing my boyfriend for a little over a year now. One day, he lost his phone at my place. We decided to use my phone to call it hoping to follow the sound of the ringer. When I found it ringing, I noticed that my number was not saved in ...
A. 10 March 2011: Is it possible that he has those peoples numbers saved so if they call or text him he knows who it is so he doesn't answer?
There are so many different connotations as to what him deleting your number from his phone could mean, I honestly don't kn... (read in full...)
Need help with drug addicted boyfriend
Q. Hello. I seriously need help. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly two years. I am 26 and he is 25. At first, things were great. We got along really well and had lots of fun together. I knew he had problems in the past, and had do...
A. 10 March 2011: Being with someone who has a drug addiction or an addiction of any kind of really hard, because you feel that you can/should help them in anyway you can and you don't just want to abandon them. I'm sorry that you are going through this, your bf ... (read in full...)
Do all teenage boys masturbate?
Q. This is kind of a weird question, but do all teenage boys masturbate? Like 13 year olds? I'm 13 and I do and I'm afraid I'm the only one in my class who does. So do all 13 year old boys masturbate?...
A. 9 March 2011: Not all teenage boys masturbate, just like not all teenage girls masturbate, but a high majority of them do.
Trust me, you are not alone in you endeavour.... (read in full...)
Do I leave my abusive wife or stay and suffer for our kids?
Q. My wife and I are from different religions. We have been married for 16 years and have three beautiful kids together aged 8,10 and 12. Initially things were great but the last eight years have been the most miserable of my life because she has been ...
A. 9 March 2011: Is your relationship with your wife completely passed the point of where you want to try and make things work with her? Counseling can help, but it's extremely rare that counseling has a permanent effect on an abuser.
Don't stay and suffer f... (read in full...)
How much space should I give him
Q. I have been with my Bf for 4 months, but we were best mates for 3 years. The 1st 2 months were perfect, we went on holiday together evry thing was great then Out of the blue a local girl announced the baby she has just had is his. DNA test been ...
A. 9 March 2011: Wow, that is a plateful.
I understand that he is going through a lot right now and I'm assuming the DNA results came back that the baby is his? Why didn't this woman tell him about the baby while she was pregnant?
I would sit down and talk wi... (read in full...)
Why would he give permission to sleep with another man if he loved me?
Q. I feel totally stuck in a rut situation. My relationship broke down recently, we were together 7 yrs on and off with him going between 2 homes mine and his mums, he is 42 and his mum 72. We parted at xmas and have recently starting getting along ...
A. 9 March 2011: I sympathize where you're coming from it feels like she is always trying to out do you and he just has it too well off there that he never wants to let go of his mother's apron strings.
She sounds like she is just being a grandmother and a mother... (read in full...)
Help. He's texting his ex. I don't want to lose what we have
Q. Please help. my boy friend and I have explosive arguements when he tells me he doesn't want me and wants to find someone else. He really makes me feel useless. we usually make up in the end. we've been together two years and i've found that when...
A. 3 March 2011: I had the same problem with my bf at the beginning of our relationship, I wasn't an open person emotionally and felt that I had to hide my feelings or he wouldn't accept me.
THere are some cases where a guy and his ex gf can be just friends,... (read in full...)
My baby's dad walked out on me, my friends have their own life, and I feel there is no hope for me to ever be in a relationship again....
Q. I am a single mum. My baby's dad walked out when she was only 19 weeks old due to me finding out he had been cheating on me, for how long I have no idea but I was crushed. I have been single for almost a year now. I know I am not the first female...
A. 2 March 2011: Congrats on becoming a mom, it's the most awesome club in the world.
Don't despair. I am 21 years old, I had my son when I was 19 and he is the best person to ever arrive in my life. I felt exactly the way you did right now. Depressed, I can't ha... (read in full...)
Help. He's texting his ex. I don't want to lose what we have
Q. Please help. my boy friend and I have explosive arguements when he tells me he doesn't want me and wants to find someone else. He really makes me feel useless. we usually make up in the end. we've been together two years and i've found that when...
A. 2 March 2011: I think you have every right to feel this way. My bf and I firmly believe that exes are exes and you don't stay friends with them. His exes still text him, but he never says anything back.
He shouldn't be texting his ex, especially that often an... (read in full...)
My boyfriend goes to parties and takes pictures with girls that I do not like.
Q. My boyfriend goes to parties and takes pictures with girls that I do not like and dont have the best reputations, their sluts. He as he arms around them and they always include one girl inparticular, this same girl I think has feelings for him and ...
A. 2 March 2011: Have you told your boyfriend that it upsets you when he takes these pictures with these girls even if he says they're nothing? If they're nothing, then why can't he just stop taking his picture with them if it's not a big deal? Especially since they ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is using me and he has never put me first
Q. Dear Cupid I fell in love with a person younger to me by 3 years and he said he loved me too. We are together for past 1.5 years. I love him dearly and i always put his needs over mine. But lately i started realizing that he is using me and i n...
A. 2 March 2011: Yes, he could be using you and he could just be unaware of what he is doing.
I'm leaning in the direction of he is using you, didn't get you anything for your birthday? He's gotta go.
It's very obvious that he doesn't really care about how y... (read in full...)
My husand used to abuse me, but has stopped...Is this real change?
Q. Its been 7 months since my husband has been verbally or physically abusive to me or anyone else. He says he is changing,and has been on meds for the last 7 months. we have been together for almost 6 years. At the 4 1/2 yr mark is when he bacame ...
A. 2 March 2011: I'm glad that he has stopped abusing you for now. Seven months is a long time and while I believe that people can change, I highly doubt he has changed just from taking antidepressant medications.
It's very hard for a woman to leave an abusive ... (read in full...)
How do I let her down nicely?
Q. I'm a 24 year old guy. I'm a bit shy, I'm not a lady's man or anything, but older women sometimes hit on me in an aggressive way. The thing that really bothers me is that sometimes it's as if they do it only because they know I'm shy. p / p / L...
A. 2 March 2011: It sounds like she likes you and doesn't know how to go about telling you that she likes you in a subtle way.
Since her advances are unwelcome and you are a shy one, pull her aside and tell her your reasons for not being interested. You don't li... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with me or is it him?
Q. I am a 36 year old Im at my sexual peak and want sex all the time I try to wear sexy clothes for my 40 year old boyfriend and try anytime to have sex with him day or night but he says im not normal people dont have sex that much because I want it ...
A. 2 March 2011: I think you are perfectly normal. I have the same problem with my bf and I thought men were supposed to be the ones that want to have sex all of the time. I'm lucky if I get it once a week.
There isn't anything wrong with you. You just have a h... (read in full...)
I don't want to be gay!!
Q. I am a Baptist Christian guy. I know the Bible prohibits homosexuality, or bisexuality etc. But I feel attracted to mens bodies. It's not like I love men. It's lust. And with girls I'm not attracted to their bodies as much but I love them for who ...
A. 2 March 2011: God made you. He made you the way you are. Whether you believe homosexuality is "caused" by environmental factors, biological ones or if it's just God's grand design or whatever, you cannot help who you are and fighting what you want or in this case ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be gay!!
Q. I am a Baptist Christian guy. I know the Bible prohibits homosexuality, or bisexuality etc. But I feel attracted to mens bodies. It's not like I love men. It's lust. And with girls I'm not attracted to their bodies as much but I love them for who ...
A. 24 February 2011: Trying to stop being gay is like trying to stop being straight. Homosexuality is a big issue, especially in religion. What I don't understand is people claim the bible says that homosexuality is against God, but if it is, then why would God make ... (read in full...)
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