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I live in Wyoming with my four year old son, my two year old daughter and my boyfriend of four years. I am the second oldest of seven children, five girls and two boys. My mother passed away in 2009 and I've felt her loss every day since. I miss her dearly. My kids are my world and I wouldn't trade them for anything.

I don't think I'm really "qualified" per se to help people, I'm not a professional nor do I hold any degrees or anything of that nature, I just like giving advice when people ask for it and hopefully the mistakes I've made in the past can help someone else from having to go down that road. I'm very honest. I'm not going to sugar coat anything.

I love spending time with my son, everything is an adventure to him and he is discovering everything for the first time. And he says the funniest things at the perfect moments like he times them. I also love spending time with my family (most of the time) My mother passed away last year and I have four sisters and two brothers, we are all very close, I help out when I can.

I love movies. Due Date was hilarious! I love Supernatural, 1000 Ways to Die, Bones (excellent show) and Gilmore Girls (we share an addiction to coffee although I can't drink it now). Recently went and saw Rango, very cute movie.

"I want urine samples from everyone and a latte. Don't mix up the two."-Rango (Johnny Depp)

I wish everyone the best as we travel through this crazy complicated thing called life and hopefully with this website it will help us make it through just a little bit easier.

"The hardest thing to do in this world, is to live in it."

"Live life to the fullest moment, cause you never know if it's going to be your last."

"Enjoy your time as a teen; after that it gets so complicated."

"A mother holds her child's hand for a short while, his heart forever."

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I don't want to be gay!!

Q.   I am a Baptist Christian guy. I know the Bible prohibits homosexuality, or bisexuality etc. But I feel attracted to mens bodies. It's not like I love men. It's lust. And with girls I'm not attracted to their bodies as much but I love them for who ...

A.   2 March 2011: God made you. He made you the way you are. Whether you believe homosexuality is "caused" by environmental factors, biological ones or if it's just God's grand design or whatever, you cannot help who you are and fighting what you want or in this case ... (read in full...)

I don't want to be gay!!

Q.   I am a Baptist Christian guy. I know the Bible prohibits homosexuality, or bisexuality etc. But I feel attracted to mens bodies. It's not like I love men. It's lust. And with girls I'm not attracted to their bodies as much but I love them for who ...

A.   24 February 2011: Trying to stop being gay is like trying to stop being straight. Homosexuality is a big issue, especially in religion. What I don't understand is people claim the bible says that homosexuality is against God, but if it is, then why would God make ... (read in full...)

Is it bad to be scared about 1st time sex?

Q.   Ohkkay im 16 and my boyfriend wants meh too have sex. I have to say i wanna too buhh he will be my first and im really scared too? Is that bad?...

A.   24 February 2011: You know what you are young, but we were all young once and most of us forget what it feels like to be young. If you want to have sex with your bf and you feel like it's right for you, then good for you. 16 is the age of consent in most states. ... (read in full...)

I overheard my boyfriend bragging to his friend about using me for sex and then breaking up!!

Q.   hi everybody I've been crying my eyes out all day because when I was walked into the passway leading to my boyfriend's dorm room I overheard him bragging and giving high fives to his roommate about how he was going to break up with me after he ...

A.   24 February 2011: First, I am so sorry that you are going through this. I've been here too, except I didn't find out what his plans were until I had already given him my virginity. It really sucks. I'm glad that you found out before you had actually given yourself... (read in full...)

195 pictures of porn stars in his phone!

Q.   i am very saden with my baby's dad recently i wanted to surprise him to make a picture collage with the pictures that he had in his phone with my little girl and for my surprise he had 195 pictures of naked women specially with porn stars and i ...

A.   24 February 2011: I don't care if he is a guy. 195 pictures of porn on his phone? Wtf is that? Is he a sex addict? Is he trying to prove something? I find this very disrespectful to you and your even paying his phone bill? Stop paying his phone bill until he agree... (read in full...)

My friend and my boyfriend are messaging each other, should I break up with him or ignore it?

Q.   My BF and I are totally in love he even asked me to marry him. I told him I would in a few years and we have planned everything out..............Now his parents are a little iffy about him and me dating. Not only b/c of that but b/c he is two years ...

A.   24 February 2011: I'm confused. Is your bf and her messaging each other mutual texts stating that she and he would date each other if they could? Or is your friend texting your bf about being with him and it's bothering him? From what your original post said the... (read in full...)

6 months pregnant, 16 and boyfriend treating me badly

Q.   well i am 16 years old. and i am now 6 months pregnant with a son of my boyfriend for 3 years. he wanted me to get an abortion but i couldn't bring myself to do it. he kind of got used to the idea or so i thought. now he is treating me like shit by ...

A.   23 February 2011: I am so sorry that you are going through this and at such a young age and pregnant. Congratulations by the way. Your bf sounds like a typical 16 yr old male, even at 25 men are still running from having children and committment shocker there. ... (read in full...)

Are men and women really that different in terms of our sexuality?

Q.   Perhaps I'm wrong, but it seems to me there's a tendancy these days to want to think that men and women are identical, or close to it, in most or all respects. As an (obviously unscientific) experiment, I created both a fake male profile and a fa...

A.   23 February 2011: I don't think you can group all women into one group and all men into one group. Every person is different on an emotional and physical level, especially when it comes to sex. I love sex with my fiance, I thorougly enjoy it. I feel close to him and ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend's kids caused me trouble with neighbour but I am afraid to speak out.

Q.   I live alone.My boyfriend and his 2 children came to visit at the weekend. Apparently they vandalised and damaged my neighbour's garden and wrote on his walls. He claims to have a witness to this behaviour. I am probably going to have to pay him ...

A.   23 February 2011: Yes, boys will be boys and boys will continue to be boys until they are taught that destructive and undesirable behaviors are not accepted. Your bf should be made aware of what has happened and you and him, along with his boys should go talk to ... (read in full...)

Should I be suspicious she suddenly knows different sex positions?

Q.   After 4 years of hardly any sex, because my girlfriend wasnt into sex, she suddenly wants more sex and is using positions I never knew she knew. When we had sex before, she would only let me do doggy or missionary. We talked about different ...

A.   23 February 2011: Have you asked her where she learned these new moves from? I was in the same situation with my bf, but I went online and looked at positions and how to pleasure him more so I would know, because I felt like i wasn't pleasing him in bed. It co... (read in full...)

Why am I bleeding after sex?

Q.   everytime lately when i have sex i bleed what is the problem?...

A.   23 February 2011: If you are well lubricated while you are having sex and he hasn't ripped you or anything like that and you are still bleeding, you need to see a doctor as that could be a sign of something worse than just rubbing friction. Check out this link to ... (read in full...)

Questions about sex......

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for just over four months and we've just lost our virginity to each other. It was awesome and totally unlike how I was expecting, but I have two questions about it. Firstly, after each time we've had sex I've been re...

A.   23 February 2011: When you lose your virginity it's normal to experience soreness (first time usually hurts) and for a while after you start having sex you will experience soreness, especially if he is a larger penis. To help with the soreness, before you guys sta... (read in full...)

Why doesn't sex mean anything anymore?

Q.   Nobody seems to believe in waiting for that one special person anymore. As a society we have come to expect sex all the time, and people don't care if it's with someone they truly care about or not, all they really want is thrills and excitement. ...

A.   23 February 2011: Whether to have sex before marriage or to save yourself for marriage is a very personal question and I think it's based mostly on 1. Religion 2. How you were raised 3. Personal beliefs 1. Religion-it's a sin to have sex before marriage, even tho... (read in full...)

My ex accuses me of being slutty but I'm not!

Q.   My partner and I were together for six years. We have two kids together. We are splitting up but can't afford to move out right now so we are currently living in the same house. He is the one who broke up with me but whenever I leave the house (I ...

A.   23 February 2011: He broke up with you and you aren't pining for him? Or crying in a corner asking yourself, "why?". Male ego is a very fragile thing and instead of handling this like a mature adult, he has taken the road of calling you names because in his head ... (read in full...)

My friend and my boyfriend are messaging each other, should I break up with him or ignore it?

Q.   My BF and I are totally in love he even asked me to marry him. I told him I would in a few years and we have planned everything out..............Now his parents are a little iffy about him and me dating. Not only b/c of that but b/c he is two years ...

A.   23 February 2011: You're friend "B" doesn't sound like much of a friend considering she wants to date the guy that you are with, which goes against every friend "code" that I know of. Each other's boyfriends are off limits, I don't care if he is your "soul mate" it's ... (read in full...)

I am still attracted to her and enjoy sex, but I don't feel like I love her anymore. Should I break up with her?

Q.   Basically I have been dating this girl for two years now and she's the only girl I have ever dated. She's a great girlfriend but I just feel as if this relationship has ran its course. I may sound horrible but when I'm about to meet up with her to ...

A.   23 February 2011: YOu shouldn't hold off on breaking up with your gf because you don't want to ruin her grades, I understand that a break up can be a very emotional time (especially for women) and should be handled delicately. If you don't love her anymore and you ... (read in full...)

What does "did you finish" mean?

Q.   What does it mean when a guy asks "did you finish" when dry humping? me and my boyfriend were doing this and we got really into it. he later slowed things down and asked if i finished...i had no clue what that meant and i was to embarrassed to ask b...

A.   23 February 2011: You're 17 right? In most states the age of consent (to have sex) is 16 which means as long as you are both consenting it should be okay. I know here in Wyoming, if there is a four year difference the parents can press charges still even though the ... (read in full...)

Is there any way that I can save this relationship? I've really messed up...

Q.   I really messed up and I need some advice. I have been with my boyfriend a little over a year. We have a 2 month old son and are very much in love. I have never cheated on him or even thought about cheating on him since the day I met him. We had ...

A.   18 February 2011: 1. He completely tore down your self esteem after you had his child (very touchy time for a woman and her self image because you just put your body through hell) you are one of the lucky few (I'm so jeaous) that didn't get stretch marks and didn't ... (read in full...)

Is it worth it to wait for him?

Q.   Okay guys. I'm absolutely, ardently in love with this guy, let's call him Brian. I would do anything for him. He and I are really good friends and incredibly close. We do like eachother, the feeling is mutual, but he has a fiance. I love this man ...

A.   18 February 2011: From what you just described of the feelings you have for this man, I think his fiance is justified in her "freaking out" if she were to find out that her fiance is meeting up with another woman at three o'clock in the morning. You sound like you... (read in full...)

Why DOESN’T my boyfriend take issue with anything I do?

Q.   *Dave is great. We’ve been together for two years, and we’ve had a pretty smooth ride so far. He’s my first guy, and I’m thankful for the relationship I have with him. I love him dearly, and definitely see more years by his side. What stumps me, ...

A.   18 February 2011: Perhaps this is just how "Dave" conducts himself and how he handles his emotions or perhaps from past relationship experiences he has learned to tread lightly in case of upsetting you and having you leave him. Either way, you need to let him know... (read in full...)

How can I reassure her that she's not fat?

Q.   how can i tell my girlfriend she is NOT fat or ugly? every time i tell her she's beautiful she gets mad at me because she thinks she is ugly. how can i show her she's beautiful how can i make her not think so negatively about her body?...

A.   18 February 2011: Give her specific compliments to specific parts of her body. I love it when my bf does this for me. I don't believe it when he just says that i'm beautiful, but when he says something like, "I love your hair, it's so soft and long." or "I love how ... (read in full...)

Do I let go of my b/f of seven years who cheats?

Q.   hi, well am 25 and in a little dilemma...am sorry my email is going to be a little long so as for the one who answers it knows exactly what is happening.. i have been on and off with this guy for 7 years now. we were good until i had to go off to ...

A.   18 February 2011: Just stop what you are doing right now. The guy you have been with for seven years is cheating on you and apparently could care less if you find out about the two of them hanging out. He obviously has no respect for you as a person, let alone as... (read in full...)

What does "did you finish" mean?

Q.   What does it mean when a guy asks "did you finish" when dry humping? me and my boyfriend were doing this and we got really into it. he later slowed things down and asked if i finished...i had no clue what that meant and i was to embarrassed to ask b...

A.   18 February 2011: He was asking you if you had an orgasm/if you got off. Don't be afraid to ask him a question, no matter what type of question it is. 21 yr old should at least be mature enough to handle a sexual question with maturity. FYI-most guys like to know if ... (read in full...)

I really love her. Do you think she could learn to want me to be the one?

Q.   Hey guys, so I love my ex girl friend. I would do anything for her. We broke up because she was confused about whether she loved me or not. We broke up twice with the same issue. She was confused, not knowing whether to pick me, or her best...

A.   18 February 2011: In my experience, if you are in a relationship and the other person has an opportunity to be with someone else and says they don't know who to pick, then it's time to move on as she obviously doesn't know what she wants right now. I don't think a ... (read in full...)

How can I find out if boyfriend is watching porn?

Q.   Other than the history, how can you find out if porn is being viewed on the internet? or webcams being viewed? boyfriend vows that he hasn't been watching it anymore, but how can I be sure? He lives with me and uses my computers, I have thought ...

A.   18 February 2011: I agree. If you two have an agreement that he doesn't watch porn (as you don't) and he is lying to you about watching porn, then it is an issue. I'm not sure what you can do to go about finding out if he is lying or not short of putting a camera up ... (read in full...)

Why does he ask "are you finished?"

Q.   what does it mean when a guy asks "are u finished" when dry humping?...

A.   18 February 2011: Most men usually don't care whether a woman has orgasmed or not, as long as they themselves got off. But some men feel better (adequate) when they know that they have satisfied your needs as well as their own, you lucky girl you. Yes I do believe ... (read in full...)

I was rejected because of my height

Q.   A girl i liked rejected me because of my height, i am 5'7 and i never thought twice about my height, it hurt because i cant change how i was born.my question is are all girls that way? I was very good to this girl in every way....

A.   17 February 2011: At a whopping five foot four (me) and my bf being six foot one, sometimes I wish he was shorter but I love him just the same. No, not all women will treat you this way, she sounds very shallow and I think you need to forget anything she has said... (read in full...)

195 pictures of porn stars in his phone!

Q.   i am very saden with my baby's dad recently i wanted to surprise him to make a picture collage with the pictures that he had in his phone with my little girl and for my surprise he had 195 pictures of naked women specially with porn stars and i ...

A.   17 February 2011: I'm a little confused. He had 195 pictures of porn star or pictures of porn stars and local girls? I would be very offended as well and I think you should let him know that. Would he be okay if you had that many pictures of naked guys on your pho... (read in full...)

Why does he ask "are you finished?"

Q.   what does it mean when a guy asks "are u finished" when dry humping?...

A.   17 February 2011: Did he say it with a mean undertone or was he just simply asking you a question? IF he was just asking you a question then he wants to know if you got off (had an orgasm). ... (read in full...)

How can I find out if boyfriend is watching porn?

Q.   Other than the history, how can you find out if porn is being viewed on the internet? or webcams being viewed? boyfriend vows that he hasn't been watching it anymore, but how can I be sure? He lives with me and uses my computers, I have thought ...

A.   17 February 2011: Trackers/loggers are illegal (as already mentioned) and I want to ask you why you are so against your bf's viewing of porn. I don't share my bf and he feels the same, but it's porn. He's never going to get to touch any of them in reality and men ... (read in full...)

Porn video sent to me, how will g/f react?

Q.   ive been with my girlfriend for over 1 year and 6 months and she wanted me to give up p*rn after we first had intercourse which i understand but i failed about 4 times breaking her heart which made me relise what a twat ive been about it and for ...

A.   17 February 2011: You were sent a porn video. You didn't go seeking it out and even if you did you're a red blooded male. I don't see anything wrong with watching porn, it's harmless. It's not like you or anyone for that matter will ever actually get to sleep with ... (read in full...)

Help needed with his psycho ex-girlfriend!

Q.   Ok so i have been dating this guy for only a few weeks. Everything has been lovely, but since this weekend his ex gf has been causing problems and sending him messages about her and other guys. Since this he has been really down. I don't know what ...

A.   15 February 2011: He does sound like he is still into his ex, as her texts about her and other guys to him bothers him and it sounds like she is into him as well. With her feeling the need to inform him of her escapades. Have you talked to your bf about him being ... (read in full...)

My mother treats the dog better than me!

Q.   Okay My mother has been out of work for over a year my mother is obese she is 400 pounds and im 6 months pregnant and I'm going to go get my g.e.d and my mother keeps on calling me a low life peace of shi* and tells me that hopefuly m...

A.   15 February 2011: Your mother has emotional issues of her own to deal with and you shouldn't take anything she says to heart (even though it's hard not to.) Since you are in the U.S there are a lot of states that offer low income housing to single mothers (you're not ... (read in full...)

Poetry, do guys like it?

Q.   Just a random question for the guys... What do you think about a female sending you poetry? Would you appreciate it? Or think it was strange? What if you had been hurt by someone, and they sent you a poem saying that they were sorry, what would...

A.   15 February 2011: My experience with men is that they like simplicity, so if you want to write him some poetry then keep it sweet and simple and straight to the point. Don't drag it out. Most guys like when a woman writes down on paper how they feel about him, the... (read in full...)

I'm tired of always being the romantic one!

Q.   Hi everyone, I am feeling a bit neglected. I am the one who does all the romantic things in our relationship like flowers and planning nights out. I planned our last anniversary and even was the one who proposed. ( I had to go and pick up my own r...

A.   15 February 2011: I am so sorry that you didn't get the Hallmark card definition of a Valentine's Day. What was he so busy with that he can't take half an hour at most to go pick out a card, call a few restaurants and buy some flowers? He sounds lazy. A man should ... (read in full...)

Is it ok for a woman to chase a man?

Q.   I'm confused with my role as a woman in the flirting section of a relationship. I've been told plenty of times that it's the man that really must take the first steps but I feel I'm a very dominant woman (and I can tend to choose men that are ...

A.   15 February 2011: You sound like a confident and capable woman, if women were to go with society rules about how they should conduct themselves, then we probably still wouldn't be able to vote, own our own land, have careers out of the home or be able to go to ... (read in full...)

I've never given a gift to a guy before and I'm confused!

Q.   Hi everybody...i been with my boyfriend for a month an things are good an as we all know valentines day is around the corner....an I need all of you alls help...whats a good gift to get for a guy?...HELP ME...ive never gave any guy a gift for for ...

A.   4 February 2011: Gift giving, especially to a new bf is very stressful. You don't know what to get and if you get the wrong thing he could get a wrong message. I have found that the best gift is the thoughtful and heartfelt kind. I know that sounds cliche, ... (read in full...)

How do I stop being a crazy girlfriend?

Q.   Ok there's a million things leading up to this, but here's what happened today: Tomorrow is the 6 anniversary of someone very close to me dying. This morning I texted my boyfriend to talk to him about it. I was feeling positive about it, and w...

A.   4 February 2011: Most people try to bottle up how they truly feel because they feel that those feelings aren't valid or they are inappropriate, but they're not. You can't help how you feel. I think it to be rude and insensitive of your bf to not be there for you ... (read in full...)

After a year of dating I still can't climax

Q.   so me and my boyfriend have been dating for about a year now. i like having sex with him and everything its just that i never climaxed, i was just curious if anyone had any suggestions or maybe reasons why this is? Thanks!...

A.   4 February 2011: One of the great things about sex is is that you get to explore each other and find out what makes each other hot. Do not fake an orgasm with your bf, I know a lot of women do, but that's not helping your bf to know what you like and it's not ... (read in full...)

Should I divorce my husband so he can have a child?

Q.   We are a couple in our 40's and childless...An ex-boyfriend of mine is having a baby, so now I realize it is me who cannot conceive. Though my husband of 5 years have resigned ourselves to not having children (which I desperately want) should I ...

A.   4 February 2011: I'm so sorry to hear about this, it's very hard when you're trying for children and you can't conceive. Have you been to a fertility doctor? Have you been tested, both you and your husband to see if it is a fertility problem? My mother was told... (read in full...)

Is my wife still attracted to me?

Q.   Me and my wife have been married about 2 years now and we have a beautiful baby girl. However recently our sex life seems to have plummeted. Nowadays I can be romantic and seduce her, or I can come close to begging, yet she rarely ever will accept ...

A.   26 January 2011: Most couples often experience a plummet in their sexual lives after a baby enters the picture. All attention and focus is on taking care of the baby and so there is rarely anytime for you and her time. So you need to make time. Nap time or put t... (read in full...)

Are my gentials abnormal?

Q.   This question has to do with the design of my genital area. I do not have that loose flappy skin that kind of looks like a thinner floppy second set of lips in between my vaginal lips. I've seen women in this x-rated magaizines with that. Is ...

A.   26 January 2011: Vaginas, like breasts and penis' and everything else on people, all have different looks. As long as nothing is purple or blue, swollen or oozing pus, you're fine. Completely normal.... (read in full...)

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