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I don't think I'm really "qualified" per se to help people, I'm not a professional nor do I hold any degrees or anything of that nature, I just like giving advice when people ask for it and hopefully the mistakes I've made in the past can help someone else from having to go down that road. I'm very honest. I'm not going to sugar coat anything.
I love spending time with my son, everything is an adventure to him and he is discovering everything for the first time. And he says the funniest things at the perfect moments like he times them. I also love spending time with my family (most of the time) My mother passed away last year and I have four sisters and two brothers, we are all very close, I help out when I can.
I love movies. Due Date was hilarious! I love Supernatural, 1000 Ways to Die, Bones (excellent show) and Gilmore Girls (we share an addiction to coffee although I can't drink it now). Recently went and saw Rango, very cute movie.
"I want urine samples from everyone and a latte. Don't mix up the two."-Rango (Johnny Depp)
I wish everyone the best as we travel through this crazy complicated thing called life and hopefully with this website it will help us make it through just a little bit easier.
"The hardest thing to do in this world, is to live in it."
"Live life to the fullest moment, cause you never know if it's going to be your last."
"Enjoy your time as a teen; after that it gets so complicated."
"A mother holds her child's hand for a short while, his heart forever." |
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I slept with my dad's best friend!
Q. okay so my dads best friend is 8 years younger than my dad so he is 30. any ways he lives with us in our house with me and my dad . my dad is divorced because my mum is a alcoholic. anyways i came back from school on wednesday and i had stayed b...
A. 1 December 2010: Hey anonymous, why are you so judgmental? People are human, we all make mistakes. Calm down.... (read in full...)
Loss of feelings and now I'm pregnant
Q. I have a problem I don't think I'm In love with my boyfriend and I'm prego and also has no sex drive at all. I just found out I'm two months preggers happy but scard. Three months ago I went on two crusies with my family and sadly couldn't bring my...
A. 1 December 2010: Don't try to stay with him for the sake of your baby. Thats dumb. People who do that raise children in the environment of hate and resentment, so don't do that. stay with him because you love him.
He is bound to be a little clingy, you just went... (read in full...)
Any advice for keeping calm in interviews?
Q. Hey everyone, I'm new to this and I have a problem that no one seems to take seriously. I'm a temp at work and looking for another job before my contract runs out (that and commuting 20+ miles every day is terrible) I've been looking, sending...
A. 1 December 2010: Be prepared. Have someone you know that is close to you, friend or family, run a practice interview with you. It gives you a chance to practice and after a while you can become comfortable with it.
At a job interview it's not just you being inte... (read in full...)
How can I find out if my best friend likes me?
Q. How can I find out if my best friend (male) likes me? plus, how can I let him know without actually saying? I don't want to lose my friendship....
A. 1 December 2010: I would make up a story while talking to him.
"So and so said that they thought we were a couple. I didn't think of us like that until they mentioned it. Do you ever see us as more than just friends?"
Ask him in a nonchalant manner just to see w... (read in full...)
He is still not totally over his ex, what should I do?
Q. I've been dating this guy for a couple of months. I am in love with him, I can picture having a life and future with this guy. But a part of him is still not over his ex. She was kinda his girl that got away. I told him if the main reason as to why ...
A. 1 December 2010: Why did they break up? Did she break up with him? (i'm assuming yes).
He sounds like a lost cause for right now and I do think you should leave. It sounds like you are the rebound right now if he even told you that he would have a hard time pick... (read in full...)
How can I be in two places at once?
Q. I am taking care of my father who is in his eighties and recently came out of the hospital. I am not so worried about taking time off from work, but I worry that my boyfriend is lonely (now two states away) and though he understands, I wonder if ...
A. 1 December 2010: Your boyfriend needs to understand that you are taking care of your father right now, as yes, he obviously needs you more right now. I'm sure your boyfriend understands that.
Perhaps he could come visit you and meet your Dad if he hasn't alre... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's brother died, he became distant then ended it. How can I fix this?
Q. I'm 17 and I got my first boyfriend a year and a half ago. We're still together, but recently he's been acting differently around me. I feel like now he doesn't care about me at all. He started acting differently when his brother died a couple of ...
A. 1 December 2010: Losing someone that is so close to you is so hard, especially a sibling as you grew up with that person and have a lot of memories with them.
I commend you on sticking by him, even through his mental and physical abuse. Everyone deals with loss in t... (read in full...)
Should I have sex?
Q. I am not sure if I should have sex or not and I was hoping for some input based on the following 1. I REALLY want to have sex 2. I trust my partner and have been with him for three years. 3. I feel at 25 I should be having sex or at least ...
A. 1 December 2010: I believe that this is a personal decision. I wish I would have waited until I was with someone that I really loved and deeply cared for and I didn't.
If you want to have sex because you feel now is the right time, then have sex. If you don't love... (read in full...)
Should I apologise to my ex?
Q. So my ex kept booty-calling me, and I finally stopped that. I told him to leave me alone but before I was able to achieve full closure, I decided to tell this girl he was seeing, that he wanted to keep me there as his second option. Now, they're ...
A. 29 November 2010: I don't think you owe him anything. His girlfriend had a right to know what was going on and what he was doing to her.
I don't think you were wrong for telling her as I would want to know if my bf or significant other was doing something like that... (read in full...)
He saved her picture in his phone after I asked him not to contact her again!
Q. My man got a picture from this girl, asking him his opinion. I asked him to ask her not to send anymore pictures to his phone. 1. He didn't and 2. He locked the picture in his phone so it wouldn't get deleted after I asked him to ask her to stop. ...
A. 29 November 2010: I think you have every right to be mad. How would he feel if you did the same thing with another man?
I think it's perfectly understandable that you are upset. He doesn't sound like he cares about your feelings all that much. Why can't he dele... (read in full...)
Good or bad idea to get ex girlfriend a present?
Q. Getting an ex girlfriend a christmas present, is that a good thing or is it a bad thing? I was just curious about other peoples opinion. ...
A. 29 November 2010: Are you currently single? Have you remained friends with this ex gf or would you giving her a Christmas present completely throw her for a loop?
I think it's ok as long as you are single, still friends with her and talk and as long as she knows your... (read in full...)
I don't think my wife will go for the "two wife thing"
Q. Ok I'm in.love with two women ones my wife the others is both of ours best friend . My wife is some what open about sex and we had a 3 som . Ok and then after me and her keeped in tuch and talked about eveything we ended up saying I love you and we ...
A. 29 November 2010: I personally don't understand why your wife would consent to a threesome or why you would for that matter. Is marriage sacred anymore?
You had a threesome, which your wife consented to and you kept in contact with the woman behind your wife's back... (read in full...)
Is the age difference a problem if neither person acts their age?
Q. if a 15 year old girl is dating a 22 year old wrong if they both are attractive to one another and they both don't look there age and both don't act there age?...
A. 29 November 2010: Regardless of how either person at either of the age acts, the law doesn't care.
22 year old dating a 15 year old is illegal, at least where I am it is, sixteen is the age of sexual consent and you have to be within four years of each other, othe... (read in full...)
No oral sex because I'm afraid I don't taste good
Q. i feel like i cant let a man give me oral sex because i am afraid i might not taste good. or something bad. how do i get comfortable with my body? and is there anything that can help cum taste good?...
A. 29 November 2010: Eat fruit, that seems to make your cum taste pretty sweet instead of salty.
Make sure your vaginal area is really clean, use special soaps formulated for vaginal areas though, you don't want a rash. Douche as well. My bf just doesn't care as long... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't have time or money for me!
Q. Please help me with your opinions; My boyfriend of a year over commits. I was aware before i got into a serious relationship with him that he is very busy but i can not help but feel he has his priorities wrong. He puts his massive sport comm...
A. 29 November 2010: It sounds like sports are his ultimate dream and in a committed relationship, if you love someone, I think you should support your loved one in their dreams and their pursuit of them.
I understand it is frustrating for you to never have alone time... (read in full...)
Loss of feelings and now I'm pregnant
Q. I have a problem I don't think I'm In love with my boyfriend and I'm prego and also has no sex drive at all. I just found out I'm two months preggers happy but scard. Three months ago I went on two crusies with my family and sadly couldn't bring my...
A. 29 November 2010: Congratulations on your pregnancy! I also just found out I'm expecting, I can't wait.
It could be the hormone changes in your body, that might be why you suddenly want nothing to do with him if it was all of a sudden. I would look into that.
If yo... (read in full...)
My b/f wants to have a threesome with me and my best friend
Q. Oh gosh im in love with my boyfriend were both 16 and im bisexual. He wants too try a threesome and im not sure if I should cause it might mess up our relationship. Hes cheated on me before and I know he dont desrve me. Im not sure if I should ...
A. 29 November 2010: He obviously isn't committed to you or your relationship or he wouldn't pressure you into having a threesome that you are uncomfortable with, especially with your best friend.
If my bf asked me to have a threesome with me and my best friend, I woul... (read in full...)
My comments on other girls are gonna make us break up!
Q. Hi, I need help with my girlfriend. Me and my girlfriend have been going out now for 10 months, i know she loves me dearly as do i. Now the problem is that around 2 weeks into our relationship ( yes 2 weeks its been going on that long) i made com...
A. 28 November 2010: You def should not have made those type of comments, of course you already know that, but she needs to learn how to let go.
Sit her down and tell her, "I love you. I made those immature comments early on in our relationship to make you jealous. I wo... (read in full...)
It bothers me that she lost her virginity to her ex boyfriend
Q. hiii....iam in a relationship from past 1 year....my girlfriend told me a few months back that she has lost her verginity to his ex-boyfriend..they had a realtionship of 4 years..i love her a lott n cant think of my life without her.but at the same ...
A. 28 November 2010: Would you rather be her first? Or her last?
SHe is with you now and there is a reason that she isn't with her ex boyfriend anymore. They were together for four years, you need to accept her past and move on to the future together.... (read in full...)
I'm not ready for most things but I'm afraid he'll leave me
Q. hello i have a boyfriend and weve been going out for 3 weeks. weve already hugged and kissed goodbye. but he txts me saying we should hold hands and make out and have oral sex. im not ready, when im with him i feel akward even thoough i love him.i ...
A. 28 November 2010: Sounds like a player and he just wants sex. Are you a virgin, because guys love that. He likes your sister? Why is he getting involved with you? Maybe that's his way of getting closer to her.
I would get rid of him and tell my sister to stay away... (read in full...)
Sister vs. sister
Q. okay i have a bad situation. my sis and this guy were together. they brroke up cuz he was flirting with me, well now im with him and he talks on the phone and txts my sis alot wat do i do??...
A. 28 November 2010: I find it midly disturbing that you are going out with a guy that was dating your SISTER and was flirting with you during that period and now that you are together with this guy he is talking to your sister. Now what could they possibly be talking ... (read in full...)
Do I have to cut him off completely and just accept it?
Q. We didn't mean to fall in love, but it happened. He was my first love, too. The problem is, I'm 20, he's 36, and he was my teacher at my former prep school. We obviously cannot be together, and when we realized that the feelings had progressed way ...
A. 28 November 2010: I am not understanding why you two can't be together. I understand that you two are in different places in your lives and possibly don't want to be together, but that's a different story.
You are 20, which is legal age (right?) and he is 36. You ... (read in full...)
Separated from wife, ill mom, and I don't know where to turn
Q. My situation is complicated. My wife and I have separated now for about a month. For the last year I have been staying and taking care of my 86 year old Mother at her house at night. We would travel between both houses so we could see my 2 children ...
A. 28 November 2010: As Brooklynngirl suggested I would find a lawyer who will give you a free consultation. Someone who you can talk to who will evaluate your situation and give you advice on the next steps you should take.
Why did your wife take out credit cards in y... (read in full...)
I like him a lot but his addictive personality is worrying me!
Q. im 16 and my boyfriend is 19. we've been together for a few months and everything is pretty good. theres an issue tho.. im afraid he has a very addictive personalitly and i worry for him. he enjoys smoking weed and other substances like that (no ...
A. 28 November 2010: Um, get out of that relationship right now. And I mean now.
Most people who smoke weed build a tolerance for the drug and have to do harder drugs to experience a high, including pill popping. He does have an addictive personality and it sounds t... (read in full...)
Wife has cheated on me twice, I'm struggling to take her back
Q. I met my wife when we were both 19 which was 16 years ago. We were together happily for about 6 years and then one night my wife got drunk and kissed my best friend in front of me. I think I battled with that for a while but we worked through ...
A. 28 November 2010: You know, I don't think that you can have love without trust and she is seriously testing you on the trust part.
I think it's admirable that you love her so much that you have dealt with her kissing your best friend in front of you (wow) and take... (read in full...)
We both hang out with other people, and I'm tempted to cheat, can our relationship be saved?
Q. can our relationship be saved? my boyfriend begun to allow his female friends in our relationship. i will explain. he is allowing girls that are interested in him to hang out with us, when i told him how unhappy that makes me, now he hangs out with ...
A. 28 November 2010: If you two love each other very much then why is there a need for him to have female companionship when he has you? And why did you reciprocate his behavior and start adding people (guys) on your facebook as well?
For me, Facebook and Myspace ... (read in full...)
Have you cheated on your partner and been able to have a good relationship / marriage afterwards? Share the story!
Q. Does anyone have any stories about cheating on their partner and being able to have a good relationship after? Has anyone here cheated on their partner, NEVER told them, and been able to have a healthy long-term relationship with the person they ...
A. 28 November 2010: What do you mean by cheating?
My bf once had texts on his phone of a girl and him talking back and forth about her naked pictures looking hot and how badly he wanted to have sex with her, but it was never physical. Although knowing that he want... (read in full...)
How many texts/calls a day is considered too needy or clingy?
Q. What is considered too needy or clingy? How many phone calls/texts a day? And how much can we expect phone calls/texts/communication back from a person without expecting too much?...
A. 28 November 2010: I think that depends on what the person (who is recieving) thinks is too much.
I think that if you are texting me every two seconds and I'm not texting back, then that should be a sign to you. Or if you send a text and they don't reply, wait unt... (read in full...)
Hoplessly in love but lost as well...
Q. Ive been with my gf on and off for a little over a year our longest time weve been together was eight months. We broke up the first few times bcuz she was cheating on me with her ex of six years. I found out by digging into a few things i called her ...
A. 28 November 2010: Its cool that her and her ex have been friends for six years, but they aren't together anymore and there is a reason why they aren't with each other anymore. I don't understand why she has to have contact with her ex.
They have been through ... (read in full...)
Is it true that honesty in a relationship is the only way to experience true love?
Q. People lie everyday believing that sometimes lies are necessary to protect someone's feelings. But do lies lead to an emotional disconnection with the person being lied to? Are lies barriers to true intimacy and growth within a relationship; even ...
A. 27 November 2010: Yes. I believe that is true. My bf and I have been together for almost three years, the first year we dated for 11 months and broke up for three because there were too many lies between us to there point of no trust was there. Most of this was on my ... (read in full...)
I slept with my dad's best friend!
Q. okay so my dads best friend is 8 years younger than my dad so he is 30. any ways he lives with us in our house with me and my dad . my dad is divorced because my mum is a alcoholic. anyways i came back from school on wednesday and i had stayed b...
A. 27 November 2010: Is it legal? Really? Here in the US that's illegal. (Not trying to be rude, but that's interesting to me).
Anyway, do you think it is wrong to sleep with your father's best friend? The man your father is trusting to live in his home with his daug... (read in full...)
Can someone explain to me why guys would literally have sex with anyone?
Q. [MOD NOTE] 2 questions combined. can some guys (girls welcome too of course) explain to me how is it that alot of guys would literately have sex with any one. alot of guys can literately be walked up to, and if us girls wanted to, we could have sex...
A. 27 November 2010: You know I don't think that is true. I honestly think it depends on the man and who he is as a person, I also think he it has something to do with how they were raised as well (most of the time anyway). Religion can also play a very big role in how ... (read in full...)
How can I get her to trust guys again?
Q. I moved back here a couple months ago, and was able to meet my best friend's girlfriend. She was nice, funny, and incredibly cute. Right as she and my best friend were starting to get serious, he broke her heart by dumping her. She cried a lot ...
A. 27 November 2010: Be there for her no matter what when she needs you. Be her best friend in the whole world and you can build a relationship on that.
When she needs to talk, then talk with her. If she wants to sit in a comfortable silence, then sit with her. Just... (read in full...)
On her Christmas list is marriage and a baby!
Q. Hello people, I was talking recently with my girlfriend about what she wants fot christmas. ( we have been together almost 3 years and at present are both 17) She said that she wants to marry me one day and that the ultimate christmas presen...
A. 27 November 2010: I know that most girls in young age think that having a baby is a wonderful thing, which it is, but when you are ready and in the right time of your lives.
I don't think reality shows like 16 and pregnant or teen moms are very realistic, they are ... (read in full...)
She says she's just on it for fun, but it's a webcam website with guys masturbating!
Q. Ill just get straight to the point, my girlfriend goes on this webchat website with her friend. U have a web cam and it cycles threw random people who are on the site to. And she says like every one is a guy masterbating. And they say they talk ...
A. 27 November 2010: I would consider it cheating, even if they are doing this for fun. Why is this fun? Do they not have anything better to do with their time than mess around with a bunch of pathetic guys masturbating on webcams because they can't get real ... (read in full...)
Should I leave for me and my son's sake?
Q. Should i leave him? My partner of ten years and who is the father of my son has cheated three times on me.The last time i wanted him to leave but somehow he managed to convince me it wasnt him. However 6 months later he tells me it was.I still f...
A. 27 November 2010: Why are you questioning this? You already know what needs to be done.
Leave him. I know you love him, but how much does he love you if he is cheating on you, lying to you and putting you and your son in second?
Get out of this abusive relation... (read in full...)
I can see his friend is going to cause problems in our relationship!
Q. My boyfriend used to have this close friend but they fell out a week into our relationship. Yesterday they started talking again and planned something today -which happened to be a somewhat important anniversary for us. My boyfriend agreed to the ...
A. 27 November 2010: Have you talked to him about how you feel? Is his friend male or female?
If he is going on a week long road trip, then you are more than welcome to do whatever the hell you want to and when you want to. You two aren't married. You don't require his ... (read in full...)
It's pretty much obvious to everyone he doesn't want anything to do with her, except her!
Q. Hi everyone, I've been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now, and we've of course had our rough patches, but mainly caused by some girl who used to be his best friend and ex, but eventually my boyfriend saw that she was wrecking our relation...
A. 27 November 2010: Change his number? Delete his current Facebook and make a new one to where no one can add him unless he approves them?
Most girls around that age are pretty obsessive and don't know when to quit, so your bf needs to tell her in plain English that... (read in full...)
He can't go longer than a day without checking up on me!
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me three weeks ago but still manages to contact me every day and what makes it hard is that we go to the same school. He pulled the whole 'lets still be friends line' when we broke up. Last week he told me he still likes ...
A. 27 November 2010: I think you are right, that the reality of your break up hasn't set in yet because he hasn't had chance to experience it yet.
He still sees you everyday and talks to you and checks up on you. My bf did the same thing when we broke up, he woul... (read in full...)
He hasn't texed me or called me since we had sex.
Q. He hasn't texed me or called me since we had sex. Is he over it now that I gave him what he wanted or should I just text him. We were talking about having a relationship but one thing led to another and we had sex. I am just not sure why he hasn't ...
A. 27 November 2010: The thing about being played, is that the players are so good at their game that you don't even realize you are being played until it has already happened.
But that might not be the case. I would text him and be very blunt and straightforward abou... (read in full...)
Short affair, and only oral sex
Q. Back in Sept. My husband had a month and a half affair. I didnt find out till the friday before Thanksgiving. The woman's husband called me to let me know what has happened. I told the guy there was no way. Thats not him. We have been together for ...
A. 27 November 2010: I don't think that people should stay together for the sake of the children. All it does is put the child in a house with two people who don't trust each other and who are always putting on fake smiles around each other.
Would you rather your son ... (read in full...)
Do I keep... or get rid?
Q. Dear Cupid, So im dating this black boy and my parents didn't know about it cause they would kill me if they knew. Well one day my mom wanted to look at my facebook and i knew he had posted comments and things on my wall, so i confessed. well ...
A. 27 November 2010: Do you think it's okay of your mom to ask you to "get rid of it?" He is a human being as well.
If you want to be with him and you want to date him, then date him and don't let your parents dictate who you can be with (although they can until you ... (read in full...)
Should I worry or be concerned about my husband still using Facebook?
Q. Hello all. My question is should I worry or be concerned about my husband still using Facebook? Especially since thats how i found out about his affair. Also he deactivated his account but uses my son's account to log in and out. He's able to do ...
A. 27 November 2010: Did his affair originate from Facebook? And if he deleted his account from Facebook, then why does he need to log on to Facebook at all?
Do you trust your husband after finding out about his affair? Have you completely forgiven him for what he has ... (read in full...)
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