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I don't think I'm really "qualified" per se to help people, I'm not a professional nor do I hold any degrees or anything of that nature, I just like giving advice when people ask for it and hopefully the mistakes I've made in the past can help someone else from having to go down that road. I'm very honest. I'm not going to sugar coat anything.
I love spending time with my son, everything is an adventure to him and he is discovering everything for the first time. And he says the funniest things at the perfect moments like he times them. I also love spending time with my family (most of the time) My mother passed away last year and I have four sisters and two brothers, we are all very close, I help out when I can.
I love movies. Due Date was hilarious! I love Supernatural, 1000 Ways to Die, Bones (excellent show) and Gilmore Girls (we share an addiction to coffee although I can't drink it now). Recently went and saw Rango, very cute movie.
"I want urine samples from everyone and a latte. Don't mix up the two."-Rango (Johnny Depp)
I wish everyone the best as we travel through this crazy complicated thing called life and hopefully with this website it will help us make it through just a little bit easier.
"The hardest thing to do in this world, is to live in it."
"Live life to the fullest moment, cause you never know if it's going to be your last."
"Enjoy your time as a teen; after that it gets so complicated."
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My Sister and my second cousin are in love. What can I do to prevent this going even further?
Q. Hello, I love and care about my little Sister a lot and I want to always support her decision's in life. So far online after researching this issue that I am about to discuss... I realized that they are a lot of cousins that have fallen in love...
A. 26 May 2013: Have you talked to your sister about this?... (read in full...)
Is it normal for ex wives/husbands going on vacation together normal?
Q. I am on my third marriage/my wife also her third. My wife is going on vacation with her grown kids, grandchildren and with her ex husband from her first marriage. The ex is bringing his girlfriend also. I just find it strange that she would want to ...
A. 26 May 2013: Some people are just better off divorced that when they were married. Obviouslly ex husband and ex wife have moved on and now vacation together with their children and significant others. If they were going on vacation alone, that would be weird.
I... (read in full...)
Are there some women that just do not like receiving oral sex?
Q. Hi there, I have a question about oral sex on a woman friend (or lack of). Several months ago when we first became intimate, she performed oral on me (with condom)and i politely asked if i could return the favour. The answer to my question was 'No, ...
A. 25 May 2013: There are some girls out there that don't like recieving oral sex, but there could also be something else underlying her unacceptance from your offer.
Six months together, I would ask her nicely. Non judgmentally, and make sure she knows that you... (read in full...)
I confronted my friend about never paying when we go out together. Was this the right way to deal with the situation? Please advise?
Q. I have a friend who never pays for her drinks when we go out to bars. She is the one that ussualy drives, so I always buy her first drink, but then she kind of assumes that the whole nite is on me. It happened already so many times, that I fi...
A. 25 May 2013: The way my friends and I are, if we go out for dinner and I pay cool but the next time we go to dinner they pay. If we go out for drinks I'll offer one or two and they'll offer me one or two.
We are always repaying each other. What your "friend"... (read in full...)
Why do guys pay flirty, promiscuous girls so much attention?
Q. Do guys usually like the flirty and promiscuous type of girls? I need some advice because I hate to say I'm a little jealous of this girl I know who gets so much attention from my guy friends and just a lot of guys in general. She sleeps around wi...
A. 23 May 2013: They do if all they are looking for is sex. This girl is easy and most guys just want sex. Especially ones that young in age. Don't change who you are just to please a guy.... (read in full...)
Every few days we have anal sex but I hate it and scares me to think of having it all my life!
Q. Hello! Straight to the facts: I have a rather big problem in my nearly perfect relationship. For introduction, I must inform you that I am (23) in relationship for nearly 7 month, 2 month ago we have moved together, he is so much caring and lovin...
A. 23 May 2013: A person should never be pressured into doing something that hurts them, makes them uncomfortable or if they dislike doing it.
Your bf shouldn't be fighting with you if you tell him no to anal sex. I used to have this problem with my bf and I to... (read in full...)
Is he using me? He gives me no physical contact but wants me to buy things for him!
Q. So, I have been dating my boyfriend for a couple weeks now. So far I have bought dinners, lunch, he told me he needed sunglasses, and then that he needed rent. He doesnt have a car and have been running him up and down the road. I dont particularly ...
A. 23 May 2013: Expecting too much too soon? Sweetie, he is expecting rent from you.
He is at least 18 and that is plenty old enough to provide himself with the things he needs and yes, he is definitely using you. I would break up with him, leave him, let him go c... (read in full...)
Why does he stay with this girl? How do I stop being upset about his relationship with her?
Q. Dear cupid, I can't stop feeling so upset that my good friend continues to be with a girl who is always being unfaithful to him. I've known the guy for a long time, he's a good friend of the family and is really like a family member to me. ...
A. 22 May 2013: Not your place to tell him? Some people may feel like it's not their place to tell something like this to another person, but I think you should.
If my significant other were cheating on me and one of my close friends witnessed it, I would ex... (read in full...)
How can I help my girlfriend be comfortable discussing serious matters with me?
Q. We've been together 3 years. I'm having a really hard time getting my girlfriend to be willing to communicate with me about serious matters. She's great to spend time with when we're doing well, but when something serious does come up, sh...
A. 22 May 2013: My bf had this problem with me and still does to a certain extent. Talking with him about anything serious really freaked me out, it made me uncomfortable because growing up we never ever talked about anything serious, even though with two alcoholic ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is deleting messages on his phone, am I just being insecure or should I be worried?
Q. i recently caught my boyfriend of a year and 8 months texting 4 other girls and he deleted all of the messages between them but i searched words on his spotlight search and the messages came up. we broke up for about two weeks and i started back ...
A. 21 May 2013: You need to leave him far far behind. He is playing you, I don't know the nature of your relationship, he may honestly love you. But even if he does, he is still playing with you. If he is texting other girls and deleting the messages that are ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for guy friends to touch each other?
Q. Is it normal for guy friends to touch each other so much? My boyfriend says all guys do this, but I don't think so. In their group of friends they are always joking about having sex with each other, and they grab each others asses and squeeze it. ...
A. 21 May 2013: My bf and his friends do the joking around things, but if one of his friends put his groin up to my bf's ass, it would be on. And I mean a fight, not a nipple playing with session.
You're boyfriend sounds like he is cheating with his guy friend a... (read in full...)
Should I confront my ex-bestfriend who is now sleeping with my soon to be ex-husband?
Q. My best friend and my husband are now lovers. She left her husband, he left me. She has two kids and we have one. She and he have discussed kicking me out of our family home and them moving in. I suspected something was going on for so long...
A. 20 May 2013: I am so sorry to hear what a complete ankle she is and what a complete asshole he is.
Hell yes I would confront her. What the hell? Hiding it from your children? Like the kids won't eventually find out, if they don't already know. Don't let them... (read in full...)
I'd like to wait until Father's Day to tell my husband I'm pregnant
Q. Hi! I just found out, Im two and a half weeks pregnant via blood test, so its very early on. ( I was getting a blood test anyway and had missed my period so I asked if my doctor could order a blood preg test also) Anyways its very early on and I ...
A. 20 May 2013: Wow. Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!! Children are such a blessing. Depending on the relationship you have with him you could wait.
If you tell each other everything and he would be upset you didn't tell him, tell him, if not then heck ya, father's... (read in full...)
My boyfriend maintains a friendship with a woman who has a crush on him
Q. There is this girl my boyfriend has been talking to online. I found out she has a huge crush on him and has been trying to hook up with him for weeks now. What's worse is that I found out she sent him a naked picture. I'm upset because even tho...
A. 20 May 2013: He should stop all contact with her knowing that it makes you uncomfortable. If you have an established relationship with this guy, then he is cheating on you. Would he be okay with you getting sent pictures of naked guys?
Make him pick, you or h... (read in full...)
My co-worker cannot take a hint!
Q. One of my co workers gave me a ride home one time. On our way there, my neighbor called me and said they were having a party in our building and to come join them. So I asked my co worker if he wanted to join the party and he said yes. I was just ...
A. 20 May 2013: He misinterpreted all of your "signals' and he is a creep. I would tell him straight out that he made you uncomfortable, he basically molested you while you were sleeping and you don't want any contact with him further.
At work, dependin... (read in full...)
I can't have an orgasm during normal sex
Q. Ok so this is an explicit topic but I need advice on something, that's obviously why I am here. I am worried that I am loosing my sexual stamina. I am a 21 year old female and I have never had an orgasm by a mans penis. the only way I can orgasm is ...
A. 20 May 2013: Have you had your clit stimulated during sex while you are having normal intercourse?
I am a squirter, but I didn't know that until my bf I have now, that i've been with for four years, and I slept together the first time. It gives me way more int... (read in full...)
Should I participate in hanky panky with a colleague while out of town?
Q. Just feeling a bit naughty I suppose. Soon I will be going out of town to San Diego for a 4 day class and conference. My husband has declined to join me so I am thinking of sharing a hotel room and bed with a very nice attractive young gentleman in ...
A. 20 May 2013: I personally haven't ever done this nor would I ever. My sister however has and she is currently in the middle of a very nasty divorce.
So, I would consider if you are ready to handle the repercussions if your husband were to find out about yo... (read in full...)
Would you date someone with so many tattoos? Or would you fear it would ruin your reputation?
Q. Today while on lunch break a friend said to me, very openly and out loud, "did you see all the tattoos on that guy's face? He must have been to prison!" I quietly nodded then thought of something... I was very attracted to another friend who had m...
A. 20 May 2013: "Must have been to prison?" Really?
My boyfriend has two sleeves. Meaning both of his arms are completely covered by tattoos and he is the sweetest man I have ever been with. Great with kids and loves animals and he treats me better than anyone I... (read in full...)
I don't want to vulnerable anymore...
Q. Dear Cupid I got dumped thru phone from a 3 yr relationship a week back. Im picking the pieces and trying to move on. 3 years is a very long time for a relationship, then how come my ex bf moved on as soon as he dumped me? Didn't i impress him ...
A. 16 May 2013: Seek some counseling to build up your self esteem, it sounds like you didn't have any during the relationship since you were willing to be abused by him just so he'd stick around. Build yourself up to the amazing person you are and go from there. ... (read in full...)
Should I keep the shirt or return it to my ex?
Q. I was with my ex for 4 years and was in LDR for two years. I'm not a person that would ask for promises or commitment while my ex gave me his life commitment and talked about our future all the time. I ended my relationship last week because he's ...
A. 16 May 2013: If it means that much to you and helps you cope with him being gone, I would keep it. In the off chance that he does phone you, at least you'll still have it and hey, free shirt. Use it as a jammie shirt. Be a good keep sake to remember him and your ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about my wife's sudden interest in astrology?
Q. I recently saw my wifes Internet search history on her phone and she had visited a horoscope site and specifically looked up "how to seduce a Scorpio". Sounds innocent enough, except for the fact that I am a Cancer!! Been married 19 years. Should ...
A. 16 May 2013: Married nineteen years, if I was married that long and my husband put something like that into a search engine, I would ask him what the hell.
I put stuff like that in google and stuff, but I do charts for people and some of them like to know tha... (read in full...)
Do I have any right telling my boyfriend to stop talking with this girl that I feel uncomfortable with?
Q. Do I have any right telling my boyfriend to stop talking with this girl that I feel uncomfortable with? This girl has only known my boyfriend for about a week and she has been talking very openly about how much she likes sex and been telling him...
A. 16 May 2013: Have you talked to your boyfriend about this? Asked him if he handled it and how?
I used to have this same problem with my boyfriend, I was really insecure when we started dating and so I freaked out. He sat me down and calmly told me that he ... (read in full...)
His wife has moved back in with him and he cant divorce her, but he wants to continue seeing me. What should I do?
Q. Hi, how I’m going to start this. I read some of “my boyfriend has a wife” discussion and I’m in the same situation now. We start as a friend since then all of our friends knew that his separated to his wife. He has a kid, and that is the only thing ...
A. 15 May 2013: I would end the relationship. You're wasting your time, married men rarely ever leave their wives and now he is saying that he is staying with his wife for the sake of their child? I don't believe a person should sacrifice their own happiness for ... (read in full...)
I just want to know which method is highly risky or if both methods are equally risky? help me
Q. Dear friend, I had unprotected sex with a guy but he ddnt ejaculate a week later I had protected sex with a different guy. I jus want to know how safe are condoms compared to non ejaculation? Nine months is far for me to get a partenity test a...
A. 15 May 2013: You're more than welcome, i'm glad it helped you.... (read in full...)
I feel trapped in our relationship and his porn addiction is just breaking my heart!
Q. I would really love some advice from men and women. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years. He is my 1st true relationship I'm 27 an he is 26. We got together when we were 18. I told him from the beginning that i was not okay with porn. He always ...
A. 14 May 2013: Um, masturbation and looking at porn is normal. Your boyfriend has a problem and should seek counseling for possible sex addiction and yes, that is a real addiction.
I would try to get him some help, if he wasn't willing to try or to continue... (read in full...)
Can I breakup with my boyfriend a week before his birthday?
Q. I met my boyfriend on holiday almost 1 year ago. He lives about 300 miles form me so we only really see each other for a weekend once a month. He comes to see me mostly and I have went to his twice (he is 20 and I am 18). We have spoken every day ...
A. 14 May 2013: Well he is either going to cry a lot on his birthday or be happy that you broke up with him before his birthday so he doesn't have one more memory with you.
Was your birthday recent? Did he make you feel special? I would sit down and talk to ... (read in full...)
13 year old girl, do I masturbate too much?!
Q. im a 13 year old girl, and i masturbate like 5 times a day. is this too much, am i normal?...
A. 14 May 2013: It's self pleasuring and it feels amazing when you do it right. You're discovering your own body and there is nothing wrong with that.
Especially hormone changes amp up your libido. The only time it isn't normal is when it interferes with you... (read in full...)
Why do a lot of guys like easy girls? Will my boyfriend cheat on me?
Q. Why do a lot of guys like and go for really easy and slutty women? The reason I ask this is because even though I'm a woman myself, I've had bad experiences with these types of women. The current situation I'm in is really annoying me. Ther...
A. 14 May 2013: Girls like "A" are very insecure and they need all of the attention on themselves because it makes them feel better for about five seconds before reality sets in. Guys like girls that are easy and slutty, because they are easy and slutty. I had the ... (read in full...)
We are arguing all the time and I want to leave but I'm afraid....
Q. I've been in a relationship for almost two years. There's always been a lot of fighting but it was always my fault. I cheated once and I called an ex boyfriend for comfort when my boyfriend found out. Lately the arguing hasn't been my fault. My ...
A. 14 May 2013: Is the dog his or yours or did you buy it together? Think about that. Crying hysterically and scratching at your skin isn't normal and you should consider seeing somebody about that, a counselor perhaps.
Have you examined your conversa... (read in full...)
He has changed, what do I do?
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 3 years is becoming very abusive lately, he is abusive only with me, with his friends and others he behaves very sweetly. He hasnt said a single nice thing to me in past few months. I tried not to evoke his anger in anyway,...
A. 14 May 2013: What do you mean by "abusive" physically, verbally?
Firstly, you are not in anyway responsible for his anger. He is responsible for his anger and that goes for controlling it as well.
Your boyfriend isn't going to change, ever. He will always h... (read in full...)
Am I too feminine to be a good boyfriend?
Q. since I have been really young, I've identified much better with females. My closest friends even in elementary school were all girls. I was hanging out with girls and enjoying their company at the same time most other boys were in the "cooties" ...
A. 14 May 2013: Have you considered that the fault doesn't lie with you and does lie with your girlfriend and the "friends" you've chosen.
You don't sound too girly too me. Just a guy who knows how he feels and isn't afraid to express those feelings.
You seem ... (read in full...)
How do I keep my old friends as I evolve?
Q. Just to clarify first of all, I don't think there's a problem with being geeky at all. When I started college, I was the sort of girl who played video games regularly, read loads of fantasy and sci-fi novels, listened to alternative rock and whatnot ...
A. 14 May 2013: As we get older our interests change, our activities change and we evolve as a person and sometimes the friends that we have before these changes also have to change too.
I understand that you want to remain friends with these guys, but it doesn... (read in full...)
I'm ready for a baby now but my fiance wants to wait a few years
Q. I am having a bad case of baby fever, I'm afraid. I've always loved kids and adored the thought of having my own. I work at a daycare, and I am responsible for 4 infants on my own. I love it. It's difficult at times, especially when they're all ...
A. 13 May 2013: I understand baby fever, trust me, I have two small children of my own and I'm 24. But i think your fiance is right and you should wait until you're finished with school and financially able to take care of a child.
My son was a complete surprise... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and have no friends and no real family to confide in, where do I go from here?
Q. Hey my lovely aunts and uncles. I'm really depressed lately and I thought I would come on here to ask for your help and opinions. This post will be a bit long so please hang in there because I'm really desperate for help. I'm only 18 years old and...
A. 11 May 2013: I am 24 years old and I have my boyfriend who has been my only true friend for the past five years. All of my other friends went off, decided they were too good to hang out with me, blah blah blah.
I have a rather large family, my mom is deceased... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and have no friends and no real family to confide in, where do I go from here?
Q. Hey my lovely aunts and uncles. I'm really depressed lately and I thought I would come on here to ask for your help and opinions. This post will be a bit long so please hang in there because I'm really desperate for help. I'm only 18 years old and...
A. 11 May 2013: I am 24 years old and I have my boyfriend who has been my only true friend for the past five years. All of my other friends went off, decided they were too good to hang out with me, blah blah blah.
I have a rather large family, my mom is deceased... (read in full...)
In my 20's and never had an orgasm, I cant even have sex with my husband! Help!
Q. How common is it for a woman to be in her 20s, and never had an orgasm? Growing up, I had an unusual childhood, not much free time, got picked on in school for the way I looked, and never felt comfortable about my body. I also had a mother who...
A. 11 May 2013: I think it's definitely psychological and you've completely ruled out physical. The want and need is there. Do you have trouble with self lubrication? I know that's a personal question.
My mom raised us girls to be open to talk to her about an... (read in full...)
He shows all the signs of not wanting to be with me but claims this isn't the case?
Q. I have been with my fiancee for nearly three years - we got engaged at New Year this year. He has an adorable little girl who I love too. When we got together we had a lot of problems with his ex (we still do) refusing to move on and we have had ...
A. 11 May 2013: Actions speak louder than words and perhaps he is trying to push you away, whether subconciously or whatever. He needs to address the reason why he is acting this way towards you.
Every issue doesn't go away with marriage and they need to be worke... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has a subscription to zoosk. Should I worry?
Q. I have just found that my gf (2 years) has a subscription to zoosk. Should I be worried ? I feel angry and betrayed. I assume zoosk is an online dating site ? I reckon she is up to no good? Could anyone advice me on how I should approach this?...
A. 11 May 2013: My bf had one but it was from two years before we met and he forgot about it. He deleted it.
You need to find out if she is actively using it and go from there.... (read in full...)
Why do girls like the bad boys?
Q. Hi there :) I have a wee question in general; why do girls like bad boys as opposed to the sensible, faithful guys who will treat them right?! Kind of a silly question, but just wondered if there was anyone else who, like me, is more attra...
A. 11 May 2013: I love me a bad boy. I tried dating a "shy guy" and he wasn't aggressive enough for me when he needed to be. I was the protector in that aspect and I didn't like it. But there is a big difference in "bad boy" and just plain "douchebag".
As most ... (read in full...)
Not a romantic relationship question, it's a cry for help. Should I leave my alcoholic dad and start my own life?
Q. I want to move with my boyfriend and our to kids to Michigan, where we both have jobs waiting and we can stay with his Aunt for cheap while we save up for our own place. My mother died about four years ago, my dad is an alcoholic and was before m...
A. 11 May 2013: There have been social workers involved and DFS (department of family services) and nothing happens. They go to foster homes, my dad is sober for a little while and then when the kids come back he starts drinking like a fish again.
There is no fa... (read in full...)
Excited to be pregnant, but I am not married.
Q. So I am a teacher in a middle school and I've been seeing a co-worker of mine for about seven months now. We're the youngest teachers (23) by far and three weeks ago I found out that I'm pregnant with his and my first child. There are a lot of ...
A. 10 May 2013: I have two small children and I'm 24 now. I love them with all of my heart and wouldn't trade them for the world.
I am not married. This isn't the 50's where you are shunned if you have a child out of wedlock. What you do in our private life is ... (read in full...)
Not a romantic relationship question, it's a cry for help. Should I leave my alcoholic dad and start my own life?
Q. I want to move with my boyfriend and our to kids to Michigan, where we both have jobs waiting and we can stay with his Aunt for cheap while we save up for our own place. My mother died about four years ago, my dad is an alcoholic and was before m...
A. 10 May 2013: When my mother was alive social services was involved quite a lot, but it never went anywhere.
My Grandmother is 71 and very ill, my step=grandfather isn't there as a grandfather really. All of my Aunts and Uncles won't get involved. All of my da... (read in full...)
I just want to know which method is highly risky or if both methods are equally risky? help me
Q. Dear friend, I had unprotected sex with a guy but he ddnt ejaculate a week later I had protected sex with a different guy. I jus want to know how safe are condoms compared to non ejaculation? Nine months is far for me to get a partenity test a...
A. 9 May 2013: Do you know the days that you had sex with these guys? The month and day? Because if you do, if you are pregnant, you can find out your date of conception and that would give you a better idea of who the father is.
http:... (read in full...)
I just want to know which method is highly risky or if both methods are equally risky? help me
Q. Dear friend, I had unprotected sex with a guy but he ddnt ejaculate a week later I had protected sex with a different guy. I jus want to know how safe are condoms compared to non ejaculation? Nine months is far for me to get a partenity test a...
A. 6 May 2013: Even if he didn't ejaculate inside of you, there is still precum which contains sperm. Pulling out or non-ejaculation is not a "safe" method of protection for sex. The condom is definitely better as a safe sex method.
... (read in full...)
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