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I live in Wyoming with my four year old son, my two year old daughter and my boyfriend of four years. I am the second oldest of seven children, five girls and two boys. My mother passed away in 2009 and I've felt her loss every day since. I miss her dearly. My kids are my world and I wouldn't trade them for anything.

I don't think I'm really "qualified" per se to help people, I'm not a professional nor do I hold any degrees or anything of that nature, I just like giving advice when people ask for it and hopefully the mistakes I've made in the past can help someone else from having to go down that road. I'm very honest. I'm not going to sugar coat anything.

I love spending time with my son, everything is an adventure to him and he is discovering everything for the first time. And he says the funniest things at the perfect moments like he times them. I also love spending time with my family (most of the time) My mother passed away last year and I have four sisters and two brothers, we are all very close, I help out when I can.

I love movies. Due Date was hilarious! I love Supernatural, 1000 Ways to Die, Bones (excellent show) and Gilmore Girls (we share an addiction to coffee although I can't drink it now). Recently went and saw Rango, very cute movie.

"I want urine samples from everyone and a latte. Don't mix up the two."-Rango (Johnny Depp)

I wish everyone the best as we travel through this crazy complicated thing called life and hopefully with this website it will help us make it through just a little bit easier.

"The hardest thing to do in this world, is to live in it."

"Live life to the fullest moment, cause you never know if it's going to be your last."

"Enjoy your time as a teen; after that it gets so complicated."

"A mother holds her child's hand for a short while, his heart forever."

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Torn between the love of my life and being my mother's full time carer, help!

Q.   I am in love with a *British male beauty pageant winner*. I am in Australia and I have known him for years but I am finding it very difficult because I know he is the one for me and he feels the same. The problem is that I am my Mum's full time ...

A.   29 December 2010: Is he incapable of moving to Australia? Have you talked to your mother about your current situation? I'm sure as your mom she would be more than understanding about you finding love and having to pursue that. It's hard taking care of a parent. ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend's mother still won't accept our lesbian relationship after five years!

Q.   Hello, I'm a 21 year old woman and have been with my girlfriend for nearly five years now (on and off). She is from a very close family and her mother wont accept us. This means at christmas time for example (when we are both home from uni), that ...

A.   29 December 2010: Your gf is over the age of 18 right? So she is a legal adult? I don't understand why your gf doesn't stand up to her conservative mother and say, hey, she is my girlfriend. She is alone for the holidays. I'm a lesbian mom so get over it and move on. ... (read in full...)

I confessed my sexuality to her and haven't heard from her since, should I be worried?

Q.   ok. im 17 year old female virgin, i have been questioning my sexuality from a young age, about 11. i dont want to have these thoughts but i dont think anyone ever does really do they? i have been kinda tryin to tell my friend for the past 6 months ...

A.   29 December 2010: She could be busy and she could just be processing the information you gave her. Who knows? Why do you want to take it back? You can't help who you are, we are brain washed from a young age (at least where I am we are) to believe that if you aren't ... (read in full...)

How to talk to a grieving friend?

Q.   Hi everyone, My friend's dad died a couple of months ago and I am seeing her for the first time in a few days. I'm lucky in that I've never had to deal with a death of a loved one so close so I'm not sure what are the best things to say are? I...

A.   29 December 2010: My mother died last year, my father found her in their bed December 14, 2009 she had died from internal bleeding that was unknown. Everyone grieves in their own way and it sounds to me like your friend wants to be alone for the time being and not ... (read in full...)

How to talk to a grieving friend?

Q.   Hi everyone, My friend's dad died a couple of months ago and I am seeing her for the first time in a few days. I'm lucky in that I've never had to deal with a death of a loved one so close so I'm not sure what are the best things to say are? I...

A.   29 December 2010: My mother died last year, my father found her in their bed December 14, 2009 she had died from internal bleeding that was unknown. Everyone grieves in their own way and it sounds to me like your friend wants to be alone for the time being and not ... (read in full...)

What can I do to re-gain her trust and change her mind?

Q.   Okay so here is the background: I was with this girl for about a year when we broke up in October 2009, I ended it because I didn't feel the same way about her- I didn't love her anymore. She was absolutely devastated and plummeted into a...

A.   29 December 2010: Wow, that was quite a story. Be there for her. Why are you suspicious if you two aren't together? Does that not entitle her to do what she wants? As well as you can do what you want? I would just be there for her when she needs you and show her... (read in full...)

Is it wrong to go out with my ex's best mate? Or should I wait a bit?

Q.   i'm in bit of a pickle! I recently finished with my bf about a month ago. He says that he still loves me and askes for another chance but i don't love him back. But here's the thing, two weeks ago one of his best mates said that he fancies me and if ...

A.   29 December 2010: I think it depends on the guy (the friends) and the code they share as friends on the subject of dating each other's exes, especially when the friend who dated the woman first still has feelings for her. Obviously your ex wouldn't be okay with you ... (read in full...)

At 16, should I have already started having relationships?

Q.   i am a 16 year old guy and i have never had any type of relationship with a girl. i haven't even kissed one and most of my friends have already, well you know. is this normal or should i hurry it up?...

A.   28 December 2010: Don't feel pressured to have sex or relationships until you are ready!!! No one can tell you when you are ready and it doesn't hurt to wait. I think it takes more courage to wait than to conform to other people's ideas of when the right time is. ... (read in full...)

My mom won't forgive my boyfriend

Q.   my mom won't forgive my boyfriend. yes, he's bipolar and a recovering addict and has done some things that should be deemed unforgiveable (stealing $400 from her, flipping out on her etc.) but now he's in a mental rehabilitation home and even ...

A.   28 December 2010: How long has your bf been in a mental rehabilitation home? HOw long ago did he steal from your mom and do all of those things? It's very hard to forgive people who have done horrible things to you and broken your trust. Trust takes time to rebuild ... (read in full...)

Can't stop looking at porn and masturbating. Is this healthy for a 14-year-old girl?

Q.   I'm a 14 year old girl. I recently looked up porn and started to masturbate. I know I'm young but since the first time I can't stop. I feel bad or dirty after. I do but i can't stop... Is this healthy?? Does it mean I'm a sex addict?? Even if...

A.   28 December 2010: It's normal to masturbate and no it doesn't mean you are a sex addict, everyone enjoys pleasure and you have just recently discovered pleasure. Perhaps you have a higher sex drive than others? It doesn't make you an addict. Do you have to look at ... (read in full...)

Is this how an orgasm is supposed to feel?

Q.   Okay, i just wanted to know what exactly an orgasm is. I'm a virgin, but i have fingered myself before. In the act, there is a point where my body basically goes numb. I feel my muscles tighten and my clit open and close. It's like i lose complete...

A.   28 December 2010: Sounds like a typical orgasm, but orgasms are different from person to person. Don't worry about pleasing a guy, you need to know what pleases you so you can fill the future guy in on what you like in bed. As for the moaning, don't force yourself... (read in full...)

My friend is a major alcoholic!

Q.   So my friend is a major alcoholic for his age. I wanna help him out but he drinks to be happy. A way that helped my cousin to stop drinking was to find that one special person who can make you stop drinking or someone you want to change for. Would ...

A.   28 December 2010: You can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. I know that sucks (as a daughter of two alcoholics, one deceased last year) I know that really really sucks because it affects your life too. Does your friend know that he is drinking way too ... (read in full...)

Is it wrong to avoid your ex?

Q.   Is it wrong to avoid social situations where you ex, and her bf will be at the expense of your own happiness?...

A.   28 December 2010: Is it wrong to avoid emotional pain and trauma that you don't need? No. Heck no it's not wrong. Avoiding your ex and her new guy will help you recover from your guys' break up faster and hey, go other places you like and hang with your friends.... (read in full...)

I'm a big strong guy but have overwhelming urges to cuddle. What's wrong with me?

Q.   How do I start this? Let's see, I'm a masculine guy I guess you could say. I think people interpret me as being that way. I'm 6 foot 1, 250, broad shoulders drive a truck, play rugby, have tatoos, and own more than a few firearms. I wear overalls to ...

A.   28 December 2010: what kind of dogs do you have? you sound like you might live in Wyoming, lol. There is nothing wrong with wanting to cuddle with someone. Have you considered finding a friends with benefits? It doesn't sound like you are ready for a long term rel... (read in full...)

In my dreams my ex is great, in real life he's not! Why the dreams?

Q.   Ok I'm 23 currently in a relationship with a sweet guy. We have been dating for over a year. No ones perfect but he's close to it. Lately I have been dreaming about my ex bf. Every night actually for like weeks. Its annoying. I thought I had him ...

A.   21 December 2010: Perhaps because you have a daughter with your ex boyfriend and he treated you very horribly, you are now dreaming about your ex boyfriend as the perfect one because subconciously you want your daughter to have a father and perhaps subconciously you ... (read in full...)

Can you ever be friends with a member of the opposite sex?

Q.   Hey, this isn't really a problem I was just wondering what everyone thinks on whether guys and girls can ever just be friends? My friends think one will always find the other sexually attractive but is this true? I've had lots of guy friends for ...

A.   21 December 2010: Yes it's possible to just be friends with the opposite sex, have you ever seen "When Harry met Sally"? perfect example right there. I have had guy friends for years that I am not sexually attracted to at all in any way and we have stayed friends.... (read in full...)

I'm really questioning my feelings for him but I don't want my children to loose another dad.....

Q.   my boyfriend and i have been together for 2yrs and have recently moved in together since doing this he has changed, he goes out drinking all the time, spending my money as he doesnt work, and im starting to really recent him freeloading of me, he is ...

A.   21 December 2010: Your bf sounds like a dangerous anomaly in your children's lives with the drinking and not working. Does he spend time with your children? Does he tell them he loves them? Is he doing everything a Dad should be doing? I personally would leave hi... (read in full...)

She's in a relationship but I told her how I feel, and now she has cut me out of her life! Why would she do this?

Q.   hi ive been really good friends with a women who is in a relationship already, we got along so well its unreal, she shows all the signs she likes me and my feelings for her have grown for her so i told her how i feel open up to her and said i d...

A.   21 December 2010: You were her friend. Her friend. Not her boyfriend, she has one of those already and it is possible that she just liked you as a friend. I think its awesome that you opened up to her instead of burying your feelings for the next ten years, but I ... (read in full...)

Just found out my ex is pregnant with my baby but I have moved on!

Q.   hi there I was with this girl for 6 years and just saw her weekends told her it was over cos i said i fell out of love with her really i just found someone new, well my ex is pregnant and its mine but i now want to live with this new girl i met a...

A.   20 December 2010: You don't want anything to do with her and the baby? Really? Weren't you there too? Last I knew it takes two to make a baby. You were with her for six years, how long have you known this other girl? And you are going to move in with her? You said... (read in full...)

Is it normal to be in a relationship and not use tongues?

Q.   This isn't anything serious - I saw a question yesterday and it got me thinking. I hate snogging (as in kissing with tongues.)I've been with my boyfriend for a while now (just over a year) and when we first started dating that's how we used to kiss ...

A.   20 December 2010: You know it sounds like you had a bad experience with french kissing (using tongues while kissing) and perhaps that is why you don't like to do it. It could also be because you just find it to be repulsive, some people just don't like certain things ... (read in full...)

Does my sexual openess turn him off? The lack of sex is corroding my love for him....

Q.   I'm not sure what to do. Me and my partner have agreed we have a very strong emotional connection and love, but not sexually. At the start of our relationship it was great! He wa really into me and we'd have sex twice in the same moring sometime...

A.   20 December 2010: In the 2.5 years you have been together you have never had an orgasm with him? I'm sure that plays quite a large part in why he doesn't look forward to sex with you because that is a serious blow to a man's ego. You said he has done it all? Is he ... (read in full...)

Should I leave him because of his mother?

Q.   I realised that my boyfriend mother look down on me as I studied Chinese language as my major degree while my boyfriend is a engineer. She thinks that I won't get a good job as a Chinese graduate. However, I don't think so I don't want to be a ...

A.   20 December 2010: Is his mother really involved in his life and your relationship with him? To what extent are you exposed to her? Depending on how invested you are in the relationship and how serious you two are I would reevaluate if you want to be with him and can ... (read in full...)

Am I expecting too much even though he's not her biological father?

Q.   I have a boyfriend I have been dating long distance for a year. He has a strick job and a boss that refers him self as the devil... I tell him to get a new job but it seems like he's stuck... I have a two year old daughter who does not know her real ...

A.   20 December 2010: You can't just tell a child not to call someone Daddy when they put someone in that role. I don't think that's right. I agree with you fully on that if she is going to call him Daddy and be in a relationship with you (and your daughter because you ... (read in full...)

Someone please tell what this bump is!

Q.   Hello im 15 years old, never had sex but i do masterbate. I think i might have hpv I am not sure. I googled this too but i want the agony aunts help also. I have this bump around my vagina. It hurts to touch its hard and i dont know how to ...

A.   20 December 2010: Is it or was it full of any fluid? Pus or what have you? ... (read in full...)

Someone please tell what this bump is!

Q.   Hello im 15 years old, never had sex but i do masterbate. I think i might have hpv I am not sure. I googled this too but i want the agony aunts help also. I have this bump around my vagina. It hurts to touch its hard and i dont know how to ...

A.   17 December 2010: You don't have to tell your parents that you masturbate or that that is even how you found it or why you think it's there. It quite possibly sounds like an infected ingrown hair. Talk to your mom. She should understand as a woman, you shouldn'... (read in full...)

Abortion shattered our lives!

Q.   Basicly I was with a woman I truly cared for. We loved each other to death. We have matching tattoos on our hands on our ring finger. We were engaged for over a year now and known each other for 6 years. We have been through everything together. I ...

A.   17 December 2010: Abortion is a very big issue. Pro choice or Pro life? Religion or science? Very big issues. Most couples after getting an abortion usually separate or split up because of the emotional and psychological factors and the guilt and remorse.... (read in full...)

I'm 14, he's 18..is it a good idea to date?

Q.   Okay so this is considered wrong sometimes i guess. Okay so im 14 and I am going to be quite honest the guy i like 18 and he likes me to. My issue i giess is what other people say about it? In the State of Indiana i know that if someone has sex with ...

A.   17 December 2010: No it's not a good idea. Don't have sex with him until you are of legal age of consent or until you are 18 yourself. Even if your parents don't press charges, the state can charge him with statuatory rape even if it is consensual (you know that). ... (read in full...)

I'm 14, he's 18..is it a good idea to date?

Q.   Okay so this is considered wrong sometimes i guess. Okay so im 14 and I am going to be quite honest the guy i like 18 and he likes me to. My issue i giess is what other people say about it? In the State of Indiana i know that if someone has sex with ...

A.   17 December 2010: No it's not a good idea. Don't have sex with him until you are of legal age of consent or until you are 18 yourself. Even if your parents don't press charges, the state can charge him with statuatory rape even if it is consensual (you know that). ... (read in full...)

Is he a player or does he mean it?

Q.   In the past I have always gone for guys I knew it would not work with, or guys I knew who were really just in it for sex. It worked for me at the time cause I was not ready for a realtionship. Now I am wanting to get into a Relationship, and have ...

A.   17 December 2010: He is probably waiting for you to call or text him. Or he knows he is driving you crazy. So call or text him first, its the 21st century and you are allowed.... (read in full...)

I didn't get to sleep with her when she was a virgin!

Q.   Dear reader, my question concerns a deep psychological anxiety which I suffer from. In my more rational moments I know that it is immature, petty and even silly. But we are human and often the chaos of the psyche escapes into the lived reality of ...

A.   17 December 2010: Would you rather be her first or her last? See a therapist. Some deep seated issues.... (read in full...)

What are your top 5 "Must haves" and "Can't stands"

Q.   Poll (just for fun). For women and men, for you, what are the top 5 "MUST HAVES" and the top 5 "CAN'T STANDS" when evaluating members of the opposite sex as a potential lifelong partner? I guess mine would be Must Haves: friendly dispos...

A.   17 December 2010: My five must haves: 1. Good with children and loving/caring towards them. Family man. 2. Communication and blatant honesty even if I don't want to hear it. 3. Faithful. 4. Intelligent and trustworthy. 5. Sense of humor. My five C... (read in full...)

Bigamy in my family. How can it be resolved?

Q.   My sister got married 10 years ago in India. Her husband is working in Abu Dhabi. They have three daughters. For some reason her husband got an affair with another girl in india (through internet) and they got married without divorcing my sister and ...

A.   17 December 2010: Question, Does your religion/culture allow bigamy in a marriage, where a man can have up to four wives? Are you and your sister United Arab Emirates or are you from India? Which is your culture based in? Depending on what your culture is bigamy/p... (read in full...)

I feel so unloved and I no longer love my husband. Is divorce the answer, or is there another solution?

Q.   I am 25 years old and mother of 2. I'm married for 6 years now and I find my self not in love with my husband anymore. I have been supporting my husband financially so he can graduate for the past 4 1/2 years. (he is supposed to be done next summer) ...

A.   17 December 2010: Tell your husband how you feel. Tell him you feel unappreciated and unloved. Communication between couples is a very key element if you want to make the relationship work. It's hard to tell someone that, but he needs to know. I would feel under ap... (read in full...)

I'm a big strong guy but have overwhelming urges to cuddle. What's wrong with me?

Q.   How do I start this? Let's see, I'm a masculine guy I guess you could say. I think people interpret me as being that way. I'm 6 foot 1, 250, broad shoulders drive a truck, play rugby, have tatoos, and own more than a few firearms. I wear overalls to ...

A.   17 December 2010: I'm sorry why is anything wrong with you again? Cause you fit the description that most women are looking for in a man. Who cares that you like to cuddle rather than having one night stands with random strangers? My bf is six foot four and 280 ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend keeps picking fights and rejecting me. What's a man to do?

Q.   I returned home with my girlfriend about half an hour ago. We just spent the last six hours with two new friends. One of which happens to be an old girlfriend of mine. But before you go "oh you idiot", it wasn't my idea. They've friended on facebook ...

A.   17 December 2010: I'd leave her and not look back. Why are you still putting up with her eternal PMS? Throw in the towel and find someone who isn't so grrrr especially doing this to you when your father is in the hospital.... (read in full...)

Am I expecting too much even though he's not her biological father?

Q.   I have a boyfriend I have been dating long distance for a year. He has a strick job and a boss that refers him self as the devil... I tell him to get a new job but it seems like he's stuck... I have a two year old daughter who does not know her real ...

A.   17 December 2010: I think that if a child feels that someone is their momma or their daddy and they call that person momma or daddy then it's okay for them to do so. It's not going to hurt anything. You are right in that he should take all of the responsi... (read in full...)

I'm feeling empty even though all should be well. How can I improve things for the better?

Q.   I have been happily married for 6 years and very proud to Have a pretty wife and a father of two lovely kids. Just when I should felt like I have everything in the world I have been feeling somewhat empty lately. I miss the time when I actu...

A.   17 December 2010: So do that kind of stuff with and for your wife. I'm sure she would love it and somewhat appreciate you still chasing her after your time together. I would consider the possiblity of clinical depression for your feelings of emptiness (not an MD) a... (read in full...)

My partner and I had a really nasty violent argument... I don't know what to do?

Q.   I really done know where to start... my partner and I had a really nasty argument,to the extent he physically hurt me. He is being very secretive with his phone and says its about his divorce, but normally he would show me. I did discovered a few ...

A.   17 December 2010: I agree with CindyCares. Violence, no matter what type or the severity is an instantaneous deal breaker for me. No if's, ands or buts about it, there is no reason and no excuse for a man to ever hit a woman. Ever. He was on a dating website ... (read in full...)

Non-blood-related cousin asked me out, I think I like her but am very confused about the consequences?

Q.   Hello there, i will tell you my story and hopefully you will help me with it. A cousin of mine (due to some circumstances Not blood related) asked me out on a date with a straight forward way few days ago, I never though her like this way I know...

A.   17 December 2010: Is she your cousin by marriage? I don't know how customs and things like that are in Greece, but most of the time if the family isn't really that close and you aren't blood related, no one really cares. But dating your blood related cousin i... (read in full...)

Why can't I be with the girl that I love?

Q.   Why can't I be with the girl that I love? People always say no pain no gain but how much pain I have to go through. I seriously had enough pain and I am too tired to continue. I have loved two girls so far at different time. I spent 15 month...

A.   17 December 2010: You're young (I know you're probably tired of hearing that) but you are young and you have you're whole entire life ahead of you to date girls and break a few hearts yourself, so stop stressing about it. I believe it is true that if you just rel... (read in full...)

Trust or not trust

Q.   I'm married seven yr old, I never had sex before marriage and I expected my wife also must be virgin and I believed always she was virgin as she said/says but after 8yrs now she said everything about her past, now i understand that she had 2 boy ...

A.   16 December 2010: SHe was abused before maturity, in that connotation do you mean sexually abused or physically? It took your wife eight years to finally tell you the truth about her past and yet she still maintains that she is a virgin. IF she told you that she... (read in full...)

Is he a player or does he mean it?

Q.   In the past I have always gone for guys I knew it would not work with, or guys I knew who were really just in it for sex. It worked for me at the time cause I was not ready for a realtionship. Now I am wanting to get into a Relationship, and have ...

A.   14 December 2010: If he had good game, then you would have slept together. He seems genuinely interested in you. Take it slow. There isn't a fool proof way to know exactly what he wants from you without time. Be open and don't judge him before you get to know him... (read in full...)

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