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I don't think I'm really "qualified" per se to help people, I'm not a professional nor do I hold any degrees or anything of that nature, I just like giving advice when people ask for it and hopefully the mistakes I've made in the past can help someone else from having to go down that road. I'm very honest. I'm not going to sugar coat anything.
I love spending time with my son, everything is an adventure to him and he is discovering everything for the first time. And he says the funniest things at the perfect moments like he times them. I also love spending time with my family (most of the time) My mother passed away last year and I have four sisters and two brothers, we are all very close, I help out when I can.
I love movies. Due Date was hilarious! I love Supernatural, 1000 Ways to Die, Bones (excellent show) and Gilmore Girls (we share an addiction to coffee although I can't drink it now). Recently went and saw Rango, very cute movie.
"I want urine samples from everyone and a latte. Don't mix up the two."-Rango (Johnny Depp)
I wish everyone the best as we travel through this crazy complicated thing called life and hopefully with this website it will help us make it through just a little bit easier.
"The hardest thing to do in this world, is to live in it."
"Live life to the fullest moment, cause you never know if it's going to be your last."
"Enjoy your time as a teen; after that it gets so complicated."
"A mother holds her child's hand for a short while, his heart forever." |
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I just want to know which method is highly risky or if both methods are equally risky? help me
Q. Dear friend, I had unprotected sex with a guy but he ddnt ejaculate a week later I had protected sex with a different guy. I jus want to know how safe are condoms compared to non ejaculation? Nine months is far for me to get a partenity test a...
A. 15 May 2013: You're more than welcome, i'm glad it helped you.... (read in full...)
Not a romantic relationship question, it's a cry for help. Should I leave my alcoholic dad and start my own life?
Q. I want to move with my boyfriend and our to kids to Michigan, where we both have jobs waiting and we can stay with his Aunt for cheap while we save up for our own place. My mother died about four years ago, my dad is an alcoholic and was before m...
A. 11 May 2013: There have been social workers involved and DFS (department of family services) and nothing happens. They go to foster homes, my dad is sober for a little while and then when the kids come back he starts drinking like a fish again.
There is no fa... (read in full...)
Excited to be pregnant, but I am not married.
Q. So I am a teacher in a middle school and I've been seeing a co-worker of mine for about seven months now. We're the youngest teachers (23) by far and three weeks ago I found out that I'm pregnant with his and my first child. There are a lot of ...
A. 10 May 2013: I have two small children and I'm 24 now. I love them with all of my heart and wouldn't trade them for the world.
I am not married. This isn't the 50's where you are shunned if you have a child out of wedlock. What you do in our private life is ... (read in full...)
Why do so many girls have sex so early in life and become promiscuous when many don't even orgasm through sex?
Q. I'd like to hear here from girls how often they reach orgasm during sex.the reason why I'm asking is because I've read on internet that only 30% or girls/woman reach orgasm, this makes me a bit confused because girls are having sex more then in past ...
A. 10 May 2013: I don't have to have an orgasm to enjoy sex. As long as I know I'm making my bf feel good and we're enjoying and exploring, just the chance to get close and to have something so intimate with someone I love makes it enjoyable for me.
My bf is ve... (read in full...)
Am I an awful girlfriend because I don't want to go to the car meet with my boyfriend?
Q. Hello aunts and uncles. I feel like an ungrateful spoiled girl for this question since there are so many about women whose men do not want to spend time with them, I have the opposite issue. I actually started to live with my boyfriend of a y...
A. 10 May 2013: You aren't a bad girlfriend. Having time separate from each other is a healthy thing to keep you both individuals. Do you have anyone you can go out with? Have you told him you'd like him to go but you'd rather stay home and have a nice bubble bath ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is going to spend Mother's Day with his ex and his daughter
Q. My boyfriend has a daughter with his ex, and usually he got to see his daughter after he finished class like around 9pm. Recently his ex decided that 9pm is too late to come see her (even though on the days she works, she's ok with him watching her ...
A. 10 May 2013: Are you involved with his daughter at all?
I would tell him that him going to the movie with his ex and their daughter isn't really an appropriate setting for him to spend time with his daughter. It seems more like a date.
I have a friend who's... (read in full...)
Not a romantic relationship question, it's a cry for help. Should I leave my alcoholic dad and start my own life?
Q. I want to move with my boyfriend and our to kids to Michigan, where we both have jobs waiting and we can stay with his Aunt for cheap while we save up for our own place. My mother died about four years ago, my dad is an alcoholic and was before m...
A. 10 May 2013: When my mother was alive social services was involved quite a lot, but it never went anywhere.
My Grandmother is 71 and very ill, my step=grandfather isn't there as a grandfather really. All of my Aunts and Uncles won't get involved. All of my da... (read in full...)
My 12 year old sister is being bullied at school because our mother died of an overdose. What can I do?
Q. This isn't really a relationship question so much as a cry for help. My younger sister is getting made fun of at school because we have lost our mother. Our mother died four years ago of an overdose of pills and alcohol. I don't know the exact d...
A. 9 May 2013: Thanks you all so much for your responses, warm and heartfelt and very insightful.
I called the school and told them what was going on and that I expected something to be done about it. They actually just had anti-bully week a week before t... (read in full...)
I don't think I can cope with another disappointment from boyfriend. What should I do?
Q. Dear Aunts. My bf moved in with me 2 years ago and then his ex wife ordered him to move back (his old place was close to hers and with me he was an hour away) because he was not so available for the 2 kids. Which he did. Now he is looking at a new ...
A. 9 May 2013: If there is one thing I can't stand it's women who use their kids to manipulate their ex and that's exactly what she is doing. Do they have joint custody or does she have custody and he has visitation. I understand that he would bend to her wishes ... (read in full...)
I just want to know which method is highly risky or if both methods are equally risky? help me
Q. Dear friend, I had unprotected sex with a guy but he ddnt ejaculate a week later I had protected sex with a different guy. I jus want to know how safe are condoms compared to non ejaculation? Nine months is far for me to get a partenity test a...
A. 9 May 2013: Do you know the days that you had sex with these guys? The month and day? Because if you do, if you are pregnant, you can find out your date of conception and that would give you a better idea of who the father is.
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Is this relationship worth fighting for?
Q. Oh, dearcupid, I had to turn to you... Thank you for taking the time to read this. It has just kept repeating in my head and I am left wondering if I was just too hasty. I was dating a guy, who I really liked, quite a bit. We have fun togethe...
A. 6 May 2013: He sounds like an a-hole. He is rude, hurtful and insensitive. "It's hard for a man to refuse a woman." Any man that truly loves a woman, it's not hard for them to turn another woman down. That's bull.
You deserve a lot better. It sounds like he ... (read in full...)
I feel the need to pay him back but don't know how to give hand jobs or blow jobs
Q. HI! I'm starting with a guy that I really really like!! i will move to another country in Europe at the end of June, so Iknow there's not that much time to be with him. I like him a lot and he likes me too and the other day we started kissing and he ...
A. 6 May 2013: My husband guided me.
We took our time exploring each other and mapping each other's bodies. He should tell you what he likes. Instruct you on how to touch him and where. Just explore and have fun. Make sure he knows that he needs to help you. My h... (read in full...)
How can I help my b/f pick out a nice suit for a wedding?
Q. hello all!! this isn't a relationship question as such but im looking for advice regarding my boyfriend. He's attending a wedding in a few weeks and wants me to help him choose a suit to wear. He has a suit but, although there isn't anything wr...
A. 6 May 2013: Fatherly Advice said it all.... (read in full...)
Am I too short to find a boyfriend?
Q. I'm 17 now, and throughout my childhood I realized I grew much slower than the others. I used to be the shortest among my (same-age) friends, and basically I felt like I've stopped grwoing in these 2 years. So now I'm only 4'11, 90 pounds. ...
A. 6 May 2013: Um no you shouldn't have any problem finding a boyfriend. Most guys I know like the petite women, makes them feel manly. There are plenty of really tall guys that date and are married to shorter women.
I think your just fine. Don't worry about fi... (read in full...)
Should you be worried if your partner says they don't know why they love you?
Q. So I hear recently from a radio advice guru on love that it is always important to ask your partner WHY he or she loves you. If they can't tell you...then it's a cause for concern. The reason he said that is that often infatuation is mistaken for ...
A. 6 May 2013: Perhaps that person just has trouble putting their feelings into words and doesn't know how to express the feelings that they have for their partner.
There are a million reasons why I love my boyfriend, but I can't imagine my life without him and ... (read in full...)
If 20% of the relationship is bad, and 80% is good, is it worth it?
Q. Hypothetical situation, curious what everyone's tolerance level is. If in a relationship, 20% of the time, you and your partner were either fighting, not speaking to each other, or "sad" with each other and the rest of the time, 80%, is perfectly ...
A. 6 May 2013: I think that depends on what kind of arguing the couple is doing. If it's destructive arguing and it's that often, then no, it wouldn't be worth it for me. But if it's constructive arguing then yes, it would be worth it.
It depends on the couple, ... (read in full...)
I just want to know which method is highly risky or if both methods are equally risky? help me
Q. Dear friend, I had unprotected sex with a guy but he ddnt ejaculate a week later I had protected sex with a different guy. I jus want to know how safe are condoms compared to non ejaculation? Nine months is far for me to get a partenity test a...
A. 6 May 2013: Even if he didn't ejaculate inside of you, there is still precum which contains sperm. Pulling out or non-ejaculation is not a "safe" method of protection for sex. The condom is definitely better as a safe sex method.
... (read in full...)
Long story, My Ex-GF says we will never get back together... Thoughts?
Q. Me and my girlfriend broke up a day before valentine's day this year, so we've been broken up for nearly 3 months. She was my first real love, and my first GF and long-term relationship. She's had alot of experience and told me that I was her 8th ...
A. 6 May 2013: Um, I would let her go and move on.
She is in her early twenties and isn't willing to work on any relationship, if it fails it fails and she moves on. She doesn't sound very mature to me. She isn't even willing to work on a relationship with a p... (read in full...)
My crush says he's not the relationship type. How do I make him like me?
Q. so ive done it again... ive fallin in love and once again the guy dosnt want to love me... i just told him that i was crushing on him... and he knew for a while. he said hes not the relationship type of guy... and he dosnt know why.. and i can ...
A. 6 May 2013: He is exploring other options right now, but it sounds like he is keeping you on the back burner incase those other "options" don't pan out.
Observe from a distance, but don't hold your breath. Every line he told you is a cop out or a reason t... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend's father a deal breaker for us?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend 2 and a half years, we are both 25 years old. We have our problems, but I really need advice on one thing that's incidentally not his fault, as i'm not sure whether it's a deal breaker or not.. We've been living toge...
A. 2 May 2013: He sounds like a very lonely and needy individual. Your boyfriend sounds like an awesome person though. You don't find very many people like that around.
Perhaps an intervention? You keep saying he is an angry man, perhaps he needs some mental c... (read in full...)
The Crying Game: what to do other than leave this relationship?
Q. Im 40 years old and tired of a four year relationship with a 33 yaer old woman who cry's all the time. Ive asked and tried to comfort but she does it and has done it so much it infuriates me to hear her whiney voice and its always over attention she ...
A. 1 May 2013: She is 33 years old going on 5. Whining and crying everyday? If everything she is doing is putting too much pressure on her she needs to slow down or lighten her load.
It's very caring of her to care for her father, but she also needs to be able... (read in full...)
A girl told me that my hair was man pretty. What does that mean?
Q. A few days ago, a girl who I've never met before told me that she liked my hair (I have long hair and it was tied in a ponytail on this day). I thanked her for the kind words, and then she followed up by saying something I've never heard before: ...
A. 1 May 2013: Man pretty is a woman's way of trying to pay you a compliment. Kind of like handsome. Trying to say you look nice but masculine at the same time.
I've stopped using this phrase to my boyfriend and his "man-pretty" hair too and just tell him he look... (read in full...)
My crush says he's not the relationship type. How do I make him like me?
Q. so ive done it again... ive fallin in love and once again the guy dosnt want to love me... i just told him that i was crushing on him... and he knew for a while. he said hes not the relationship type of guy... and he dosnt know why.. and i can ...
A. 1 May 2013: You are between 16 and 18 years old, which makes me assume that he is too. And the majority of boys in this age group aren't the "relationship" kind and that could be for a number of reasons. Mostly because they don't like being stuck to one ... (read in full...)
Confused as to why he keeps threatening to go to prostitutes if I do something he doesn't like!
Q. im in relationship with w for more then five years. the only thing i promised him was that i will never leave him or for sure i will never betray him. but i will leave him if i get to know that he is with other girls. if any girls cross into our ...
A. 30 April 2013: He feels the need to control you and can't do that if you're at ladies night. Prostitutes in Thailand? Who would want anything from Thailand, let alone sex?
I would leave this guy. It's only going to escalate, his need for control. He is trying t... (read in full...)
I feel too ugly to be a bride!
Q. I don't want to sound conceited or like I'm being an attention seeker but I'm due to get married in 1 year and i feel as though I'm too ugly to be a bride. I hate having my photo taken and I even discussed with my fiancé about not having a ...
A. 30 April 2013: Why on earth do you think you are so ugly? What is it specifically that you don't like about yourself?... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this girl and my strong dislike for her?
Q. Hey guys. How do you deal with people you really dislike? Basically, there is a girl who is the girlfriend of a friend of mine. Not only does she always cheat on him and treat him really badly, but she also knows my boyfriend, and she is always al...
A. 30 April 2013: Full on confrontation is one option. Call her out on all of her bs. The cheating, treating him badly, harassing you and flirting with your boyfriend.
Girls like this are usually really immature and insecure to the point that they always need to ... (read in full...)
He tells me that he loves me because I love him and it feels good to be loved my someone. Is that enough???
Q. My boyfriend and I are going on a trip and we'll be staying the night together at a hotel. I thought we would sleep together (for the first time), but he wanted to get a room with two separate beds. This bothered me because why wouldn't he want to ...
A. 30 April 2013: Is he an affectionate person when he is with you? Does he hug you? Kiss you? A year together and you two haven't had sex or slept in that same bed?
I'm sensing some co-dependency issues perhaps from him. My bf likes sleeping in my bed with me,... (read in full...)
I'm trapped in a loveless relationship. Should I just pay him to leave?
Q. Trapped in a loveless relationship. I am not married. I've been in a on/off relationship for 8 yrs. my problem is that after a split of around 9 mths I stupidly got back with my ex. He had lived with his mother most of our relationship which had ...
A. 30 April 2013: There has to be a point where you say enough is enough. He will never learn to stand on his own two feet as long as he knows that you will be there to hold him up.
It's well past time for him to get a job, his own place and take care of himself.... (read in full...)
He calls me immature for questioning his relationship with his ex
Q. I have a serious problem with my boyfriend. We have been together for five years and have a three year old twins. His ex girlfriend, who is also his other child mother is a serious problem in our relationship. He cheated on me with her multiple ...
A. 30 April 2013: I told him we need a break this morning.He told me be an adult for once. I don't know what I'm doing wrong!?!?! What can I say to not sound "immature"? Does being mature mean that I should let him have affairs with this woman??
You aren't doing an... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend that I don't want him talking to his friend's ex?
Q. Hi all. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. He has been talking to his friends ex girlfriend lately. Not to sound mean but I honestly don't like this girl much because she's just one of those girls who is always starting drama and trouble and ...
A. 28 April 2013: To me it sounds as if she wants your boyfriend for herself and hence, the making you upset and starting rumors about you.
If I were you, I would sit down with my boyfriend and talk with him. Tell him that you are uncomfortable that he is talk... (read in full...)
He calls me immature for questioning his relationship with his ex
Q. I have a serious problem with my boyfriend. We have been together for five years and have a three year old twins. His ex girlfriend, who is also his other child mother is a serious problem in our relationship. He cheated on me with her multiple ...
A. 28 April 2013: You called his daughter ugly? And her a whore?
It's not okay to tell a child they are ugly or insult them just because of who her/his parents are. It's not her fault she was born into those two. Whether you said it in front of the child or not is i... (read in full...)
Should I be worried if my boyfriend asked a girl on facebook for her number?
Q. My boyfriend of almost 5 months asked another girl on Facebook for her number. We go to different schools but see each other every weekend. I know this because I went on his Facebook to post something really sweet and it popped up in a little chat ...
A. 28 April 2013: I agree with Youwish. If it were for a project they would have been able to exchange numbers in class, but perhaps they didn't have the opportunity. Wouldn't he have let you know he was doing a project with another girl?
If you guys are in an excl... (read in full...)
I feel hurt by his remarks -- am I wrong?
Q. I'm slightly upset and I should not know if I should be. It was my boyfriends birthday. I was laid off, but I had saved some money for this occasion. He knows this, and he is aware of my financial situation. Firstly, he wanted something v...
A. 28 April 2013: He doesn't sound very appreciative of all of the effort you went through for him, even if it is his birthday. I don't think it's right of him to do what he did. He should feel like an ass and should for a while. ... (read in full...)
What guy wants an insecure fat girl when he can have a beautiful skinny girl?
Q. So I am quite embarrassed to post my situation here, but I would like to get opinions about my problem. I am 19 years old and being completely honest here, I have never had a boyfriend or even a good guy friend for that matter. I am also overweig...
A. 7 April 2013: Perhaps your weight isn't the problem, you don't sound very happy with yourself and before you can be happy with someone else, you need to be happy with yourself.
So perhaps until you are at the point of happiness with yourself, hold off on getti... (read in full...)
I pushed my ex away with constant messaging. Now he's done a disappearing act. Will I ever hear from him again?
Q. My bf has done the disappearing act on me. He dumped me about two weeks ago but then wanted me back. He dumped me cause he's unsure what he wants. However he didn't contact me for for a few days and I asked " are we still together?".. He replie...
A. 7 April 2013: Back off, give him the space that he wants and when he is ready he will come to you.
I know as a woman, you are compelled to know what is going on and what your man is thinking, but men are different creatures and they like they're own reflecti... (read in full...)
What's up? I understand that rules are rules. But is her mother so harsh because she does not like me dating her daughter?
Q. I have been seeing this girl for 4months now, we have been going out for one month. Our relationship is going perfect, we get along so well and never argue. Anyway more to the point, she is 17 I am 19. On the days she spends out with me, she get...
A. 7 April 2013: Perhaps it's not just you and it's every boyfriend that her daughter is dating?
Her daughter is 17, probably going to be 18 soon and after that she won't really have a say in anything her daughter does, so perhaps she is being a little too hars... (read in full...)
It seems anniversaries and her birth day are for her, but my birthday is not a day for me!
Q. This one goes to the ladies out there. To what point should you be considerate of your man? Let's assume it is your man's birthday, how far is a man worth going for? Like I understand in modern day societies it is expected for the man to go above ...
A. 7 April 2013: Um, not be rude, but your girlfriend sounds like a bitch. My boyfriend is very romantic and always does something special for my birthday, mother's day and our anniversary.
But I also do very special things for him on his birthday, father's day and ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to get naughty on chat roulette with strangers?
Q. Is it wrong to get naughty with strangers over Chat Roulette? My boyfriend has been gone for a few weeks overseas, and I have been very bored and lonely. I would never cheat on my partner, but lately I have been masturbating with men on Chat Rou...
A. 7 April 2013: Okay. If you don't think this is wrong, then you should have no problem telling your boyfriend that you're doing it right?
Would you be alright if he told you he was "anonymously" masturbating over the internet with strange women because you were... (read in full...)
Are my ex's family being inappropriate?
Q. My son's bio father, we will call him Cord, his family randomly called me the other day over and over and over and over. WHen I listened to the voicemail it said,"Wow you sound really down on your voicemail. You need to call us. (pause) I need a...
A. 7 April 2013: I have terminated contact with this family. She threatened to take my son away from me and never let me see him again.
Her son and I weren't married. He slept with me, knocked me up and then ditched me. I was on semi-okay terms with her but am no l... (read in full...)
Is there a chance that a virgin won't bleed on her first sex?
Q. I just had sex with a girl, younger than my age. She claims that she has never done anything like that before and was REALLY innocent on our first try, so do I. I know nothing in making a distinction between the virgin one and the experienced one. ...
A. 27 May 2012: THere is a good possibility that a girl won't bleed on her first time. I didn't and I know I was a virgin. Lots of sports and what all can tear a hymen or if surgery has been done too.
If she said she is a virgin and you are both in a loving and ... (read in full...)
The expression "stop looking and you'll find someone" isn't working for me!
Q. I've heard this over and over again... That the reason I can't find a girlfriend is because I'm looking for one, and that as soon as I stop looking, I'll suddenly end up in a relationship. "Happens when you least expect it," "I found my partner when ...
A. 11 March 2012: When you are frantically doing everything that you are doing to meet someone and putting so much importance on having a partner for you happiness isn't a good thing and women will think you are too desperate.
You need to relax and learn to be ha... (read in full...)
I am obese and therefore have very low self esteem and self confidence...what should I do?
Q. Hello I am a 25 year old guy. I am about 5'8" tall and weight around 220lbs. By medical standards that is obese! Probably the first thing that you will tell me is "lose weight!" well, I should and I am trying right now. However, I feel very u...
A. 5 May 2011: Concentrate on yourself. Work on making yourself happy, if you are happy with yourself then other people will be too. Don't go to the bar/club if it makes you that uncomfortable, I don't feel comfortable in the bar/club scene either. Too many stupid ... (read in full...)
Isn't it usually the girlfriend who doesn't want sex?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half now. We just moved into an apartment together. We both signed the one year lease. While I still love my boyfriend, I'm having a few issues regarding sex. I love sex and while I woul...
A. 5 May 2011: Have you perhaps tried to entice him with sexy outfits? Being in the right position (bent over something) when he walks in the door?
Have you talked to him about the lack of intimacy and how it's making you feel? ... (read in full...)
Isn't it usually the girlfriend who doesn't want sex?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half now. We just moved into an apartment together. We both signed the one year lease. While I still love my boyfriend, I'm having a few issues regarding sex. I love sex and while I woul...
A. 29 April 2011: Is he really stressed out at work? Perhaps he isn't getting enough quality sleep at night. Chamomile tea, anyone?
I have the same problem with my guy, I love sex and having sex with my fiance reassures me that he still finds me attractive and make... (read in full...)
Are my ex's family being inappropriate?
Q. My son's bio father, we will call him Cord, his family randomly called me the other day over and over and over and over. WHen I listened to the voicemail it said,"Wow you sound really down on your voicemail. You need to call us. (pause) I need a...
A. 18 March 2011: I don't have communication with them as they to my knowledge are currently using recreational drugs and the only time they have ever talked to me is when they need something that they can't get for themselves.
I'm more afraid of this woman th... (read in full...)
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