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... Send *argentsgirl89 a private message | | | *argentsgirl89's profile:I live in Wyoming with my four year old son, my two year old daughter and my boyfriend of four years. I am the second oldest of seven children, five girls and two boys. My mother passed away in 2009 and I've felt her loss every day since. I miss her dearly. My kids are my world and I wouldn't trade them for anything.
I don't think I'm really "qualified" per se to help people, I'm not a professional nor do I hold any degrees or anything of that nature, I just like giving advice when people ask for it and hopefully the mistakes I've made in the past can help someone else from having to go down that road. I'm very honest. I'm not going to sugar coat anything.
I love spending time with my son, everything is an adventure to him and he is discovering everything for the first time. And he says the funniest things at the perfect moments like he times them. I also love spending time with my family (most of the time) My mother passed away last year and I have four sisters and two brothers, we are all very close, I help out when I can.
I love movies. Due Date was hilarious! I love Supernatural, 1000 Ways to Die, Bones (excellent show) and Gilmore Girls (we share an addiction to coffee although I can't drink it now). Recently went and saw Rango, very cute movie.
"I want urine samples from everyone and a latte. Don't mix up the two."-Rango (Johnny Depp)
I wish everyone the best as we travel through this crazy complicated thing called life and hopefully with this website it will help us make it through just a little bit easier.
"The hardest thing to do in this world, is to live in it."
"Live life to the fullest moment, cause you never know if it's going to be your last."
"Enjoy your time as a teen; after that it gets so complicated."
"A mother holds her child's hand for a short while, his heart forever." |
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Are my gentials abnormal?
Q. This question has to do with the design of my genital area. I do not have that loose flappy skin that kind of looks like a thinner floppy second set of lips in between my vaginal lips. I've seen women in this x-rated magaizines with that. Is ...
A. 26 January 2011: Vaginas, like breasts and penis' and everything else on people, all have different looks. As long as nothing is purple or blue, swollen or oozing pus, you're fine.
Completely normal.... (read in full...)
How can I make giving oral more pleasurable for my girlfriend?
Q. When I recieve oral from my girlfriend for the first time is there anything I can do to make it more pleasurable for her to do? What Position would allow her to enjoy doing it the most? I know I'll enjoy it and she'll prob get even better over...
A. 26 January 2011: My favorite position when giving my bf oral is almost a 69 position. It's half way. I'm not up in his face, I'm off to the side, the visual stimulation helps him and he can also pleasure me a little while I pleasure him. I personally don't like ... (read in full...)
Why would she say her baby daddy is 'irreplaceable' if she supposedly doesn't have any feelings for him?
Q. so, I was talking to my girlfriend last night. and we were talking about her friendship with her baby daddy. and she told me, that i was replacable and he was irreplacable. after she tells me she hates him. i can understand keeping a friendsh...
A. 26 January 2011: Relationships of this nature are very hard and complicated.
My son's bio father was never there for him, ever. The only time he wanted anything to do with him was when he was showing off for his underage girlfriends, he never helped me, at all. ... (read in full...)
The thoughtless way my bf's father speaks upsets me. What can I do about this?
Q. Hi everyone i'm a 20 yr old female and i have been with my boyfriend (19) for over 15 months. We live together, like most girls i have a problem with his ex, however they never were really an item she just messed him around. He hasn't seen her sinc...
A. 26 January 2011: Oh if I had a nickel for everytime I would be a millionaire. There are a lot of my friends Dad's that do the same thing with their sons and daughters and I believe it's because they liked that ex gf or bf for some reason, whether just as a person or ... (read in full...)
Is this relationship okay?
Q. Ive recently enetered a relationship with my x sister in laws x partner, we both have children that are cousins, we're not planning on letting kids in on it till alot later, is this wrong? [Mod note: commas inserted to make this more legible.]...
A. 26 January 2011: Blood related first cousins? Or just cousins by marriage?... (read in full...)
I feel like I was played in the worst possible way!
Q. Hey aunts. Little help will be appreciated. I've been going through a rough patch lately. So there is this guy, used to be my closest friend for a long time then, over a year ago his behavior started to change. To cut a long sory short he spent an ...
A. 20 January 2011: If you want to meet with him, then meet with him but be very brief and don't let him have control of the meeting. Be very blunt and up front with what you want to say to him and be factual. Don't give him room for argument. I think our friendship ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to judge a good relationship anymore. What do I do?
Q. Hey. I am a single mom and so choosing someone to be with is a very important decision. I am not sure if I am making the right one. I am with a man now who is older than me, but not unreasonably so. He is experienced and knows how to liv...
A. 20 January 2011: IF he makes you that upset and you are unable to communicate with him on an adult level without him blowing up at you, then I would say no, do not let him back in.
Yes, you can go back to school. Awesome programs for single mothers out there go... (read in full...)
I feel like I was played in the worst possible way!
Q. Hey aunts. Little help will be appreciated. I've been going through a rough patch lately. So there is this guy, used to be my closest friend for a long time then, over a year ago his behavior started to change. To cut a long sory short he spent an ...
A. 19 January 2011: Sounds like this friend of yours might have liked you for a long time and never got his shot with you so once you noticed him and he had you where he wanted you, he played you. Possibly for revenge on his part, to boost his ego so to say.
Telli... (read in full...)
I dislike most people is that bad?
Q. I'm 22 years old, male, living in Canada and I can honestly say I dislike most people. I'm not necessarily one of those anti-social, "I hate the human race"-types, but most people I know/meet that are around my age, I can't stand that much. To m...
A. 14 January 2011: Yes, a lot of stupid, immature common sense lacking individuals live on this planet and it seems as though perhaps you're more into things that mean something.
Most people these days put value on what they have materialistically instead of what ... (read in full...)
It hurts to think after 5 years together it took him only a few weeks to sleep with someone else!
Q. To cut a long story short... Me and my Boyfriend had been together nearly 5 years.. Living togetther for 3. He tells me one day he no longer loves me and we break up.. very messy as I was devestated. He then met someone else for 2 months then told ...
A. 14 January 2011: It sounds to me like he broke up with you to be with the other woman and when things didn't pan out with her, he came running back to you. I personally would tell him to kick rocks. Five years together and he suddenly doesn't love you anymore?
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Can you love 2 men at the same time?
Q. I've been married to a wonderful man for 3 years now and we've been together for 10. I am in love with my husband, even though he is very paranoid. He needs to call me and check up on me every now and then and this has been the case for the past 10 ...
A. 14 January 2011: Of course you're flattered by attention from another man, who isn't? Makes us feel good knowing that we are still attractive to other people and it doesn't sound like your husband is dishing out the attention by the hand full.
I wouldn't act on y... (read in full...)
Homesick and worried about the relationship with the guy I left behind
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm from Europe but I recently moved to the US to study here. This year a boy started to have interest in me (when I still lived in EU). So we started to hang out and really got to know each other. It defenitely is more than ...
A. 14 January 2011: Talk to him. Of course you don't feel at home here yet, you just uprooted yourself from everything you have ever known and now you live in a new country, it's going to take some getting used to.
If you two are as madly in love as you describe... (read in full...)
Help me before I hurt the one I am with to be with the ex
Q. I am into a girl but she lied to me that she had no man in her life and I opted to end the relationship after I discovered it was a lie. She has been trying to get back by calling, coming to my Hse, she has changed her way of dressing and looks ...
A. 14 January 2011: Sounds like your ex found out you are in a serious relationship and to prove something to herself she wants you to take her back.
There is a reason the relationship failed. She cheated on you. Once a cheater always a cheater, she isn't going to... (read in full...)
Should I have a one-night stand to get pregnant as I really want a baby!
Q. Hi cupids. Im 18 now and id prefer if i werent prejudged but when i was 14 i fell pregnant to an older man who was abusing me for 2 years 12-14. When i fell pregnant i spoke to a lovely lady nurse about what had been happening and she helped me ...
A. 14 January 2011: As a mother its very hard to raise a child on your own and you said you have a job to support having a child, but without a partner you will be paying someone else to watch/raise your child while you are at work. Are you okay with that?
There... (read in full...)
He's asking me what I want in the bedroom and I don't know what to say!
Q. -I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months. -We are very private so none of our friends know about us. -I lost my virginity to him, therefore am not very experienced in the bedroom -We are both of legal age (me 18, him 20) So we wer...
A. 14 January 2011: You don't have to be overly detailed wtih what you want in the bedroom. You just lost your virginity and are exploring your sexuality and he wants to explore it with you and wants you to be open about sex with him.
Just tell him what you would li... (read in full...)
No christmas or birthday card from my boyfriend, is it OK for me to be upset?
Q. I wrote on here a few weeks ago about how my boyfriend of 5 months didn't get me even a card for Christmas after I got him a $200 gift. My birthday was a week later and I did not get even a card for that either. Am I being a baby or do I have a r...
A. 14 January 2011: Have you talked with him about this? No you aren't being a baby,in a relationship both people need to be acknowledged and especially on such a day as Christmas and your birthday.
He might not have remembered or he wasn't sure what to get you and ... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable to not really feel loved just because he doesn't kiss me?
Q. how do I know if my boyfriend of 8 months really loves me :(.....he tells me all the time but a lot of the time I just don't feel loved....and I don't want to tell him that because if I was doing all I could to show my love for someone and then they ...
A. 14 January 2011: Everyone is different in how they like to kiss and be kissed, the fun part? You and your boyfriend can experiment with each other about how you two like to kiss and that's never a bad thing. Lol.
Good luck with your practicing.... (read in full...)
Since my wife's breast implants she has changed
Q. I have been married for 4 years, she is 25 and i'm 29. My wife had always wanted to have breast implants, even though she was a nice B cup and had a great body which was toned and firm from going the gym. Anyway, she went ahead with the op in F...
A. 14 January 2011: Tell her you need a break, her constant showing off of her body parts to everyone is really something that you aren't comfortable with. You have to be strong here, the only thing that might snap her back to reality might be the thought of losing ... (read in full...)
If my friend doesn't want to meet me, why doesn't she just say so?
Q. hi i have a problem i was ment to meet up with a old friend i knew as a teenager she was going to ask her mum to baby sit on thursday (today) but she told me this on tuesday now she has asked her mum and she said she can't because of work in the ...
A. 14 January 2011: You know, sometimes things just do come up and perhaps that is the case here. Women, most of the time, don't want to come across as mean or hateful so we tell you that we get caught up or things came up, etc.
Ask her. Do you want to meet up? It's... (read in full...)
He cheated on me and didn't use a condom with the other girl
Q. my fiance of 5yr cheated on me when i was 5month pregnant,i got to know my self after i gave birth,he confess after i ask him and apologise.but the worst part of it is he was sleeping with this girl in our apartment,and he did not use condom.he ...
A. 14 January 2011: Have you been checked for any and all types of STDs? If not, then do so immediately. He cheated on you when you were five months pregnant and had sex with this girl in your apartment.
Are you sure he won't cheat on you again? How sorry is he for d... (read in full...)
Should I Start My Family?? Or Wait??
Q. Dear Cupid, I am 18 (bday in May). My boyfriend of a year and a half is 24. Iam a dental assistant and he is a personal banker at Wells Fargo. Since my boyfriend is older he already wants a child of his own and start his family. I know I want kid...
A. 14 January 2011: Are you eighteen already or will you be eighteen in May of 2011?
Don't rush into having a family, you could grow to resent him and your children for not letting you have a life before you committed yours to his and the childrens lives. Think th... (read in full...)
I want to break up this couple
Q. I have decided to fight for the girl I love even though she is in a relationship with someone else. I understand I am doing something extremely unethical and horrible but I just could not persuade myself to stand there like an idiot and watch ...
A. 14 January 2011: Dont be the macho guy who tries to break up a girl and her guy. Just show her what an amazing person and friend you are and you will win her over. If she doesn't see you for the amazing person I'm sure you are, then she isn't worth it.
She w... (read in full...)
How do I stop my ex spreading rumours about me?
Q. sarah12's profile: my ex is spreading a false rumor that i had sex with him. We had only dated for 2 weeks and he wont shut up. i just cant let it go i have to do something, but i just dont know what.. what do i do???...
A. 14 January 2011: If he is spreading rumors and you want to get back at him, when people approach you and ask you if you two had sex tell them no because you found out he has crabs or something and you never did anything with him.
You could take the high road and... (read in full...)
Husband focuses all his attention on the baby now!
Q. Hi my husband and i have been married for three years we love each other very much we have a 7 months baby girl we were soo happy to have this baby , After giving birth i feel like my husband has changed. He is so happy about the baby that makes ...
A. 14 January 2011: This is a stage that most couples go through and I'm sure I'll be going through the same thing when my son or daughter is born. When a baby comes into a relationship, all focus is usually on that baby. Your husband is really excited she is here, but ... (read in full...)
I was sure my love would change him! He's never been able to trust me after I chatted to a guy on FB!
Q. hi all.... i am trapped and feeling helpless every where.. OK the story starts ..i met a guy when i was in my school..he was a newcomer and i was trapped in love at first site ..wow he is super stunning just like a prince i was in love with...
A. 13 January 2011: STOP. Right now. Just stop. You are doing everything with his permission now? What the hell does that mean you're doing everything with his permission? Do you haVe to ask him to use the restroom?
Ridiculous and ludacris. You talked to another ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is immature and I always cave in and contact him after a fight
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a little less than 2 years so here is the quickest timeline I can possibly do..... beginning: everything was cute, we would go on dates, things were good. about a month in, he starts becoming super insecure about m...
A. 13 January 2011: Be strong and hold your ground. Do not whatever you do cave in. Hang out with your friends and distract yourself. Whatever you have to do to not have contact with him.
People, particularly men who have violent tempers, who want to "save money" b... (read in full...)
Regaining trust after its been lost?
Q. How can I regain total trust for my boyfriend, after hes broken it?...
A. 13 January 2011: It takes a lot of love and understanding on both sides and depending on what he did to break your trust, he may never earn it back fully because you'll have that voice in the back of your head.
Time.... (read in full...)
Since my wife's breast implants she has changed
Q. I have been married for 4 years, she is 25 and i'm 29. My wife had always wanted to have breast implants, even though she was a nice B cup and had a great body which was toned and firm from going the gym. Anyway, she went ahead with the op in F...
A. 13 January 2011: Sounds like she wants to be single again, perhaps you should approach her with that and see how she reacts. DD? That would kill my back. Ouch.
Anyway, does she know that as a married woman what she is doing is not appropriate? Does she invite y... (read in full...)
Is it commitment that I'm afraid of?
Q. ive had 4 girlfriends over the past 5 years, but its the last 2 that are important. in my last relationship it started to get serious and i was fine with that. me and my ex are good friends and talk all the time. she was also entering a serious ...
A. 13 January 2011: Are you sure you're just friends with your ex girlfriend? I couldn't watch my bf be with another person, there's no way that would happen.
I don't think you are going to have a real meaningful relationship with your current gf if you are constant... (read in full...)
Is it normal that my fiance's mother still talks to his ex girlfriends?
Q. I'd like to know a simple thing. Is it normal for my mother in law to still insist on talking to my fiance's exes? Because I find it bizaare. For me, once an ex is an ex, they are that exactly an EX part of my life, none existant. I cut them out of ...
A. 13 January 2011: Some people, parents, develop relationships with their children's friends, exes or whatever and once their child has separated ways with that person doesn't mean that the parent has. The parent has a different relationship with that person.
Some ... (read in full...)
She wants to know why I am sexually attracted to her?
Q. My girlfriend asked me why I am sexually and physicall attracted to her. I was at a lost for words. What do I say?...
A. 13 January 2011: I asked my bf that same question and he said, "I'm not with you for sex or because I view you as a sexual object. I'm with you because I love who you are and how you try. I love the mother you are to our children. I love that you are so caring and ... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable to not really feel loved just because he doesn't kiss me?
Q. how do I know if my boyfriend of 8 months really loves me :(.....he tells me all the time but a lot of the time I just don't feel loved....and I don't want to tell him that because if I was doing all I could to show my love for someone and then they ...
A. 13 January 2011: I feel the same exact way. People love and express love differently. Some are verbal, "Hey, I love you." and some are physical, with hugs and kisses, touching of the hand and so forth.
Perhaps your guy needs to know that you need physical touch so... (read in full...)
I'm sick of playing 2nd fiddle to my boyfriend's ex!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 1 year and my boyfriend and me fight lot because i accuse him still have feeling for his ex girlfriend and ex girlfriend have move her life and they break up and he don't like she going his best friend andHe took ...
A. 13 January 2011: I don't understand any of this question. I'm not really sure what the situation is on this one.... (read in full...)
How could I be so smart in every other department in life but be so brain-dead over this dead-beat boyfriend??
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I'm not sure if I'm in love with him, but I must be... He's been unemployed for 2 years and gained 70 pounds in 2 years. (The year he was actually good-looking, talented, and employed, he was constantly ...
A. 13 January 2011: A lot of us women have this complex where we feel the need to fix things all of the time, including broken men. That's what you have, is a broken man.
Cheating, breaking plans, phone numbers and the lack of motivation to get a job? He would be... (read in full...)
I don't know how to judge a good relationship anymore. What do I do?
Q. Hey. I am a single mom and so choosing someone to be with is a very important decision. I am not sure if I am making the right one. I am with a man now who is older than me, but not unreasonably so. He is experienced and knows how to liv...
A. 13 January 2011: I'm a mother as well, I have a two year old son and I am twelve weeks pregnant with my second child with my current bf who I absolutely love and adore.
Judging who is right for you, especially when you have children, is very difficult. I thought ... (read in full...)
I love my BFF's ex!
Q. Three years ago my friend Ashley dated a boy named Luke. I found him to be quite annoying and often argued bitterly with him. They only dated a month, but she was devastated when he broke up with her and still doesn't like to be around him. A few ...
A. 13 January 2011: Very bad idea to sneak around your friends' back with an ex boyfriend that they both have had.
Is Luke a player? It sounds like he might be making the rounds through your group of friends and you're next on his list. Is this guy worth losing y... (read in full...)
Do I follow through with my fantasy?
Q. I have been married to my wife for over 15 years now and can't stop thinking of watching her with well endowed men, especially black men. Do I follow through with this fantasy?...
A. 13 January 2011: In most cases introducing a new person into a couples bedroom life usually ends in disaster. One person falls in love with the new person, one person can't have sex with the other person unless the new person is involved and some husbands/wives ... (read in full...)
I'm older than my boyfriend, am I doing anything bad?
Q. I am 17 will be 18 in March. My boyfriend is 15 and will be 16 in February! I feel like he and i are on the same level and no relationship ive ever been in has been as good as this one is! Sometimes, I feel bad because I'm older. I just need a ...
A. 13 January 2011: DOn't have sex with him after you are eighteen until he is sixteen in most states it's against the law and there is nothing wrong with your guys' age as long as you two are okay with it.
Kids your age can be cruel, while i'm sure his friends ... (read in full...)
She wants to know why I am sexually attracted to her?
Q. My girlfriend asked me why I am sexually and physicall attracted to her. I was at a lost for words. What do I say?...
A. 13 January 2011: Well, what is it about her that makes her sexually attractive to you? Be honest. Could be anything, body parts or something deeper like her soul? ... (read in full...)
She cheated and I forgave her. Now she's doing it again. How do I deal with it?
Q. Hello, a year ago my gfriend cheated on me. We broke up for a short period then I forgave her. A year later, now, I discover she is still chatting online with the guy she cheated with. Frankly I want to dump her. It took me some stomach to take her...
A. 13 January 2011: You don't have the balls to stay with her? She doesn't have the respect for you to keep her pants zipped up.
I believe you did the right thing in leaving this woman, she sounds very selfish and only concerned for herself with no regard to anyon... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has an irrational fear of pregnancy, even though we never had sex!
Q. My girlfriend has an irrational fear of pregnancy I'm afraid. It's not a matter of sex even though, she gets super freaked out about touching my penis in case it somehow got her pregnant. She is even acts worried in the hot tub about over exciting ...
A. 13 January 2011: She is taking a certain dosage of birth control to help her with her periods but its not enough to prevent pregnancy? Where did she get that idea from? Birth control is made to prevent pregnancy and as a side affect it also helps girls with their ... (read in full...)
She cheated and I forgave her. Now she's doing it again. How do I deal with it?
Q. Hello, a year ago my gfriend cheated on me. We broke up for a short period then I forgave her. A year later, now, I discover she is still chatting online with the guy she cheated with. Frankly I want to dump her. It took me some stomach to take her...
A. 12 January 2011: I am sorry that your gf is putting you through this. I would dump her. She cheated on you in the past with this guy and now she is talking to him. Talking isn't cheating, but talking to someone that you cheated with is disrespectful, especially to ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has an irrational fear of pregnancy, even though we never had sex!
Q. My girlfriend has an irrational fear of pregnancy I'm afraid. It's not a matter of sex even though, she gets super freaked out about touching my penis in case it somehow got her pregnant. She is even acts worried in the hot tub about over exciting ...
A. 12 January 2011: Irrational fear. Perhaps one day she will realize that sperm doesn't have egg seeking radar and won't just impregnate her on a whim while she isn't have sex.
A lot of my friends share that same fear although not to that extreme. Its cool that she... (read in full...)
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