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| | *lovebowsandcherries's profile:Hi i'm 20 years old i live in the united kingdom. i'm straight.
i am currently single.
i love giving advice to people and trying to make a difference in peoples lives i've helped alot of people before on a website similar to this. i also go on some of my past experience in life and hope to make other peoples lives different i also want to make the realise and hope they don't make the same mistakes i did.
so if anyone needs any help just pop me a message or something. :)
i'm a friendly person i'm a good friend loyal and i am generally lovely :) i also have facebook.
i love listening to music and i love driving it's great!!! hanging out with my friends is the best!
i love random things i love pointless drives.
If you need any advice give me a shout :) i'm easy to talk too :) and very understanding.
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My family doesn't like this guy and are taking bets on me getting pregnant!
Q. my life sucks i just started daiting this jarid july 1st and his big bro looks out for me so i call him big bro 2 and my whole family hates me and jarid together like my bro said he wants to kill him but i really like this guy and every time i talk ...
A. 7 July 2009: your family shouldn't be making bets on how long it takes you to get pregnant!
they should respect you with whom you're with and if he makes you happy then they should be happy.
i mean most guys around that age are probably sexually active but they... (read in full...)
I'm starting to think about calling my ex...Should I?
Q. Hey! I have a simple question to yall. I used to have a boyfriend a year ago. I loved him very much, but i guess we had problems. He broke up with me, and after a few weeks, started calling me to see how i was doing and etc. But when I called him ...
A. 7 July 2009: nahh look you and your ex had your time together he didn't treat you the way you deserve to be treated and that'll always come back to you when you get together it'll be ok for a bit then it'll happen again and you'll be stuck in a rut square one ... (read in full...)
I don't want sex, but she's had sex once before. Should I start a relationship with her?
Q. Should i start to invest in a relationship with a girl i like who has had sex once before?? She's told me that she's fine with not doing any of that stuff with me....i'm not like that. i want to stay abstinent....
A. 7 July 2009: well considering you are 13-15 you are underage for that stuff and it's decent of you not to want to do that stuff.
she probably likes you because you don't want to do that stuff like all the other guys.
it gets you respect from girls it's really r... (read in full...)
I need help with how to talk to women! I've gotten nowhere!
Q. I hope this doesn't sound like a stupid question, but I need help with how to talk to women (dating, relationships). I am a 28 year old guy who has never had a girlfriend and frankly, it's pathetic. I always freeze up when a woman talks to me or ...
A. 7 July 2009: hun you are so negative about yourself that's probably part of the reason you're not giving yourself enough credit and enough confidence to do something about it.
i am 20 had boyfriends but they were pants really nothing.
and i'm one of the only... (read in full...)
My friend was upset over the death of her mom. I tried to comfort her with a joke...and I think I made her feel worse! Help!
Q. My friend's mom died recently(6days ago)and she been upset lately. The other day she was at my place crying her eyes out. I wasnt really sure how to calm her down so I made a joke thinking that would help. The joke was a bit mean now that I think ...
A. 7 July 2009: hun i lost my mum when i was 12 i cried alot obviously but my friends weren't sure how to be there for me but i told them just knowing you are there to hug me if i need it hand me a tissue if i cry is help enough.
that's what you should do for your... (read in full...)
I don't want to use birth control and don't want her to get pregnant
Q. when is it ok for me to cum inside my girl???wit no pill and no condoms.. and please dont tell me to use a condom cuz its not the same and i dont want to hear .make her take pills.. ...
A. 6 July 2009: well you can't do that hun
you can't cum inside your girl with out condoms or pill without her getting pregnant.
she will have to take the pill in order not to get pregnant
and if you don't use a condom there are still chances you can get disease ... (read in full...)
I know I need to get over him, but he's beign so callous!
Q. Wow, ok, I have a huge problem getting over my ex boyfriend, because he was my first love, at 23. The relationship lasted for a year and a half. He has 2 MSN accounts, one with his real name, and one with a fake name. I met him online, on his fake ...
A. 6 July 2009: i know but thats the thing with guys like they are like creeps
you just need to forget him like.
easier said than done i knows... (read in full...)
Whenever we made plans they didn't work out and now I think she doesn't like me
Q. ok so im really shy around everybody that i dont know well and i really like this girl. we used to talk everyday and we made plans to hang out this one day(im not in town that much) and it didnt work out so we made plans the next day and again it ...
A. 6 July 2009: hey i am like you i am proper shy as well.
but why not tell her just say look i like you alot and i do want to hang out with you but please understand i am really shy around you. maybe that'll give her a bit of leway so she understands and can reas... (read in full...)
I know I need to get over him, but he's beign so callous!
Q. Wow, ok, I have a huge problem getting over my ex boyfriend, because he was my first love, at 23. The relationship lasted for a year and a half. He has 2 MSN accounts, one with his real name, and one with a fake name. I met him online, on his fake ...
A. 6 July 2009: well the way i see it is he's living two different lives real account he's with you.
fake account he's a single man probably why he doesn't talk to you because in his fake account he's single and he talks to other girls probably.
real account ... (read in full...)
I want to be more confident!
Q. Im a queiter person, single,do shift work, (which makes it hard to have a regualr hobbie or join a group) and live alone and not close to family,w who dont even live in my city. I like my job and I have a few close friends, who i see ...
A. 6 July 2009: well why not organise a little get together with your close friends ask them to bring there friends and all talk in a big group.
if you feel self concious about your scars on your chin try using bio oil it'll not get rid of them No but will redu... (read in full...)
I don't feel like my life is complete and goals seem so out of reach!
Q. im 23 female. ive got a good home lots of pets a bit in debt but working on it. but i just dont feel like my lifes complete and my goals feel so far out of reach with the way things have went finacially in this world before say 8 yrs ago nothing was ...
A. 6 July 2009: yeah i feel like you i'm 20 years old i've never been kissed properly,i've not yet found that someone special and i'm not a big fan of myself but i do like myself i look at myself and think "hey i am pretty and i am a really good person" because i ... (read in full...)
Why do guys like you when you are already taken?
Q. ok i was talking to this guy trevor (i like him alot) and my current boy freind (jerid) b 4 we satrted dating and then jarid asked me out but i was trying to get trevor to ask me out so finnaly i just said yes to jarid and then trevor asked me out i ...
A. 6 July 2009: yeah i've found that hun!
it's weird it's like you like these guys they show no interest then BAM! you get with someone the feelings pour out.
but don't end it with this Jarid i mean he clearly likes you he asked you out.
Trevour clearly knew... (read in full...)
I kind of pushed him away, but I really want him to be mine
Q. I have liked this guy for 4 years now. The reason I first started to like him was bc I thought he liked me and I fell so hard and havent stopped liking him since. Im pretty sure he actually did but then I stupidly told him I liked somebody else over ...
A. 3 July 2009: yeah ok but then how will you EVER know?
wouldn't you rather know and push on without having that behind you thinking what if?
and yeah if you do tell him surely he'd still be your friend he;s got nothing to stop you and him from being mates.
... (read in full...)
Sexual fantasies and jealousy
Q. My boyfriend just told me that he has had sexual fantasies about a few girls, two of whom I was already extremely jealous of, but he said they were one time things and for only about thirty seconds. He also told me that he never masturbated and ...
A. 3 July 2009: i think it's fair you get jealous because you want your boyfriends to feel you're only perfect to them! and maybe he realises that hence he feels so bad but what you must remember is that they are just dreams and not real he said he never masterba... (read in full...)
How can you miss someone depending on the circumstances?
Q. My boyfriend who i don't get to see very often and who i miss a lot tells me today that he misses me when i'm nice but doesn't miss me when he thinks i'm nasty to him.I miss him all the time how can you miss someone only sometimes depending on the ...
A. 3 July 2009: i suppose when you're nice he thinks it's great and remembers you all happy and smiley and all the little random things you do to make him feel good. and when you're nasty i guess he'd rather you have space alone and time alone so he knows you need... (read in full...)
I kind of pushed him away, but I really want him to be mine
Q. I have liked this guy for 4 years now. The reason I first started to like him was bc I thought he liked me and I fell so hard and havent stopped liking him since. Im pretty sure he actually did but then I stupidly told him I liked somebody else over ...
A. 3 July 2009: maybe he does and he's trying to get you to feel the same way seeing as you told him you liked someone else.
just tell him outright you like him and when your together cuddling go in for a kiss or something.
Hope this helps
x ilovebowsandcher... (read in full...)
There are two girls I like: my 'dream girl' and my girlfriend
Q. I have an interesting question. Well, there was this sexy blonde girl who seems to have taken a like to me and I haven't known her name until yesterday. Here's the weird part about it: I dreamt about her having sex with me, even though I'm happily ...
A. 3 July 2009: to be honest she's just a "dream girl" therefore just a fantasy although she is real now she's just a fantasy for you.
i'd stick with your girlfriend i mean you say you love her and everything so why ruin something perfectly good for a fant... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about the guys she hangs around with?
Q. One week after the girl i really liked broke up with me i met this other girl, ( at this point i didnt care about anything i had lost a very special person and just didnt care) she was a gangster girl a bit crazy and when i met her i was kinda one ...
A. 3 July 2009: well to be honest i think you got with her a bit too early after your break up i mean you clearly still care for this ex girlfriend of yours as you've said you lost someone special you never really gave yourself time to get over that and move on at ... (read in full...)
Were they talking about me, or am I being paranoid?
Q. Well... I've admired this guy for about a year and a half now he's always sat infront of me in japanese class. But there was one thing kind of hindering my feelings for him, his now ex-girlfriend (who looks like a sex goddess compared to me.) and it ...
A. 3 July 2009: hun they're 16-17 year old guys they are dumb and totally immature there is nothing wrong with a big size most guys prefer women with something to hold onto and cuddle up too.
if they were then they're clearly pathetic and not worth your time.
d... (read in full...)
Our marriage had been neglected, she started seeing another man, How do I deal with this?
Q. i have been in a relatinonship for nearly 20years with my partner we have had 3 children 2 boys 18-16 and a girl 5.i have had mental health problems since before we met and gradualy got worse over the years and i have neglected her by never showing ...
A. 3 July 2009: well sometimes things like that happen i mean you've stated you've suffered with a mental health problem and you've said you've neglected her.
she may feel so tired of looking after children as well as looking after you ( not being rude or anyt... (read in full...)
Am I just a jealous mess, or do I have a good reason?
Q. Ok, so basically i don't know if i'm just a jealous mess, or whether i have reasons or not? i love my boyfriend to bits, but he always seems to have one better than me, he goes on about how unlucky he is when he goes on a holiday every single yea...
A. 2 July 2009: aww hun i don't think you're jealous i think you'd rather proove to people what you can achieve on your own what you can bring and create yourself without having people pay for you.
and i don't think he's rubbing it in at all he's offered you to g... (read in full...)
I want him back and to send eveyone else away and yet I'm afraid to do so!
Q. Hi, I am torn in my relationship with three men. I have my ex of seven years who I have a beautiful daughter with. A relationship with a much younger man who I have been seeing after i broke up with my ex a year ago. A relationship tha...
A. 2 July 2009: the way i see it is you've had your time with your ex and it didn't work out ok he's changed but you know that the reason you guys split will always be there to haunt your relationship and each time you argue or something happens that you disagree ... (read in full...)
What's going on here? Is she lying to make me jealous? Does he still like me? Help!
Q. ok im really confused right now. im 13 and so 'was' my bf. wut i mean by this is he broke up with me(twice?) well we were dating for a very short time and when he first asked me out, the next day everyone knows about it? but this isnt wat the ...
A. 2 July 2009: sweety he is a loser! seriously you are worth so much more than your friend Sarah doesn't sound like much of a friend if you ask me the way she was being towards you.
now you need to get him out of your head he wasn't a nice person you're bett... (read in full...)
I really like her, and I hope someone can tell me what is going on inside her head!
Q. yesterday i poseted "did i scare her away" and it seemed like no she came over to my place again last night with the origanl crowd that was there from previous night however, last night wen she got there she wouldnt even look me in the eyes and then ...
A. 2 July 2009: well i mean she didn't look at you all night perhaps she does feel quite shy around you i mean she asked you to walk her to her car maybe she just wants to be alone with you rather than in a group of people.
she kissed your cheek she clearly like... (read in full...)
Just found out he's married and unsure of what to do. I don't want to be his bit on the side!
Q. I've been having an affair with a married man, although not for the usual reasons. Before people criticise me, I didn't know he was married at all - not one bit. In fact I didn't even know until now, as on Sunday night we were at the pub ...
A. 2 July 2009: hun that is horrible! and too right no-one should judge you! you weren't even to know how would anyone know you'd just trust the man and what he says which he clearly lied about.
i'm glad you got rid of him! and it will be tough for you trust anot... (read in full...)
Our parents are going out, now people are saying I'm dating my 'sister', what do I do?
Q. Right here goes, I've been with my girlfriend for 6 months now and we introduced our parents about 2 months ago and they are both single... About a week ago they both told us that they are together!! I don;t know how to explain it but i...
A. 2 July 2009: uhun this isn't your fault.
this isn't either of your faults it could of happened any time in the future. i mean how on earth are you dating your sister?
you aren't related they haven't gotten married so you are not related and whose to say this... (read in full...)
After I masturbated, it felt wrong, but I want to do it again. What do you think?
Q. Ive been really missing my boyfriend recently because weve both been away and had alot of stuff on. I havent had sex with him for about a month and tbh i really want to and really am missing it. When i talked to this to my best friend she sugge...
A. 2 July 2009: hun masterbation is normal alot of girls do it but i totally get what you mean after i do it i felt dirty but there is nothing wrong with it guys do so do girls.
although girls are very prone to admit to it because girls feel it's wrong.
but... (read in full...)
Is this a crush or an obsession? And is it my fault? Or is it all her?
Q. ok now this may sound really selfish on my behalf but its driving me crazy. first off i think you should know some things about me, i not exactly what you would call social, if i can i will never leave the house i really hate the outside world, f...
A. 2 July 2009: woah! she's really not letting go.
well you can get her number blocked on your phone and as you've done block her on msn and delete her.
then if she keeps hasseling you threaten to go to the police for harrassment because that's what she is doing... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but I don't know because he cheated on his girlfriend with me...
Q. Okay so I don't know what to do, this guy I'm in love with(lets call him ed) is always texting me and he says he loves me too but I don't know because he had a girlfriend and cheated on her with me. and they broke up and he promised we would be ...
A. 2 July 2009: Hun he is totally playing you.
he never planned on getting with you. he's a greedy guy thinking he can get all he wants without having the consequences which isn't true and he is just gutted he got found out. he is never planning on actually bein... (read in full...)
B/f becoming very possessive and controlling..its scaring me
Q. Alright, where do I start? I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 years. He's ten years older than me (I'm 18). I really don't know how that applies, but maybe that will help you in helping me? I'm getting ready to start college, plus I'm moving out o...
A. 2 July 2009: talk to him tell him how he is freaking you out.
ask him why he's being so funny with you all of a sudden.
i mean if he knew you were going out of town then why is he being like that you should say to him because it's not like it's a new thing to... (read in full...)
We danced, he asked for my phone number but I didn't want to give it out
Q. Heyy I was at this dance on friday and i was with my bffl she knows alot of people so when we were hanging out with a group of people a slow song came on somehow everybody ended up dancing with someone except me and thiss one guy i had never me...
A. 2 July 2009: just say to the one guy your parents don't really allow you to have boys calling because they're very over protective of you and that you're sorry.
and the other guy well why not go up to him start a conversation?
take it from there... or perhaps ... (read in full...)
I think my uncle was getting sexy with me!
Q. Okay this has been on my mind for the last few years and I thought I would see what you guys think. My Aunty who lives over 8 hours drive away from us (so you can guess that we don't see her very often!!!) Got married when I was about 10 (I am n...
A. 2 July 2009: hun i am thinking he's pretty messed up to do those things to you at a young age.
he basically if his penis entered you and you were both naked he raped you.
he had sex with you without your consent and you were under age.
you need to tell ... (read in full...)
I really love him even though he's been really mean to me
Q. First of all I'd like to say that I'm gay, so my boyfriend and I we had a fight a few weeks ago when we hung out to a club, he behaved really rude and he admitted that he hooked up with another guy, we argued a lot that night and he said we were ...
A. 2 July 2009: hun, why are you with him? i know you love him but don't you think it's a bit rude he's making you feel bad when you've done nothing wrong?
sounds like he's hiding something if you ask me... i mean he told you he'd hooked up with a guy? how far did ... (read in full...)
He ignores me and I'm so unhappy, what should I do?
Q. I'm 22 years old and I'm with a man who is 42 and we're about to have a baby. And the past couple months have been horrid! He doesent talk to me or even realize that I'm talking completely ignores me all the time. We don't even make love anymore and ...
A. 2 July 2009: hun if you're so unhappy then why stay?
why bring your child up in an unhappy environment it's not fair do what is best for you and your child and get out of there.
he probably thinks he's got what he wanted and now you're "knocked" up he don't wa... (read in full...)
Do I tell him my feelings or get over him? He has a girlfriend!
Q. Hey everyone, I'm sixteen years old. It's important you know that I am a very shy, reserved person before I share with you my predicament. Ok, so about a year and a bit ago, I met this guy, we'll call him Ed. He was insterested in my friend...
A. 1 July 2009: nooo hun don't cut him out your life i mean that's fair enough respect him and his girlfriends relationship that's good of you :)shows you're a strong girl
but certainly stay friends i mean you guys are only 16 who knows what will happen down the... (read in full...)
She said everything was perfect between us but she doesn't want to be with me!
Q. I really like this girl that i met a couple months ago, and for the first month or so things were perfect! spending all our time together. To keep things short and to the point, she would spend the night, i met her parents on several occasions, and ...
A. 1 July 2009: i think maybe she's still clearly not over this other relationship i mean she probably is afraid to get in too deep with you should anything similar happen again just as she is trying to heal.
you telling her about the strong feelings probably... (read in full...)
My husband is violent with me but then HE cries and says sorry!
Q. Hey So a couple of months ago my fiance and I (we live together and have a year old baby girl) had a really bad fight and he grabbed me around the throat, quite tightly. Afterwards he started crying and said that we had to break up because he's ...
A. 1 July 2009: hun you need to talk to someone about this you can't stay with him if he keeps doing that to you no matter if you guys are his only family left.
you can't bring up your daughter in that type of environment it's not fair on her and whose to say h... (read in full...)
I get jealous when she flirts and our sex has dwindled!
Q. I am a 35 year old recently divorced father of 3 young kids and have been in a loving relationship with a 20 year old girl for the last 6 months. I love this girl to bits, she makes me so happy and has given me endless support and love, more t...
A. 1 July 2009: well perhaps for the sexual thing you may need to go to counselling i mean she clearly has issues arising due to a miscarriage she had when she was 15 which isn't easy for any girl at all and never will be.
she's probably afraid to have sex beca... (read in full...)
Did I scare her away?
Q. alright here it goes, i cannot beleave im doing this but i need help there is this girl that i showed intrest in over the last few months, and she has shown some back. a few nights ago i had her and a few other friends of ours over my place fo...
A. 1 July 2009: don't be silly hun she probably was just generally busy.
organise a hang out with just you and her invite her to the cinema to see a new movie or something.
she's not been scared away i mean she text and apologised that's proof enough she isn't sc... (read in full...)
I wonder if he's become distant but I'm trying to change!
Q. Hi. I really hope someone can help me..I appreciate any responses I get. Ok, so me and my boyfriend were togethr for like six months and it was amazing..like I couldn't have been happier and he felt the same. People we didn't know would comment on ...
A. 1 July 2009: hun i think in some ways he is being distant because he feels the same way as you do.
you say you don't want things to come crashing down i'm sure that's what he feels as well and you say you want to change but are afraid that you may not be able... (read in full...)
Free shot: What's wrong with me? Am I a dirty secret?
Q. We met, talked, fell in love - (happens when you're not looking for love). I was 39 (divorced, kids not with me) she was 23. I lived on the other side of the country. Long distance was a pain, but we made it work and saw each other as often as ...
A. 1 July 2009: hmm i don't think you're her dirty secret not at all but maybe she feels people will judge her too much because you've had a previous marriage and have kids somewhere.
she's probably afraid her parents will banned her from seeing you and her frie... (read in full...)
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