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writes:Ok, so basically i don't know if i'm just a jealous mess, or whether i have reasons or not?i love my boyfriend to bits, but he always seems to have one better than me, he goes on about how unlucky he is when he goes on a holiday every single year, ive been on two.he always moans about how little he has, when i have far littlethan him and don't ever complain.. it feels like hes trying to rub it in.here is the big deal though, his family do ANYTHING and EVERYTHING for him, when i don't really talk to my family and they dont really like me. i am pretty jealous about that because of his supportive family, but ive been trying to get enough money to get my own place, and my boyfriend knows how much it means to me. anyway i gave up yesterday after realising that there is no way i'm going to be able to afford it. and i'm extremely depressed at home, everyone knows it.then before, he out of the blue said "in 8 months time my mum is buying me a 2 bedroomed terrist house, yeah how great is that hey?!?!?!?! because she was saying to me that i'd have no reason to leave now, so she'll do it later on for me" ofcourse i'm happy for him, but am i right to be jealous? i feel like he's trying to rub it in.then he offered me to come and live with him, but i really don't want to live in a house which my boyfriends parents bought for him? is that me being rude? it's just i find it abit degrading, i'd rather be paying for it myself.so i declinedi don't know if this is me being overly jealous or whether he's trying to make me purposely upset, he often goes on about his family and everything he has, but then says how 'little' it is. when he knows that my family have never really been there for me, when his are there every single time
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou babes :)
yeah i wasnt sure how to take any of it, like hte otehr day i was in hospital for a while and no one apart from him came to see me, then he was telling me that hsi mum wanted to come and see me?
which he probably meant in a kind way but i took it the wrong way because i'd want my own parents to come and see me.
i guess i'm just going to have to sort out my jealousy issues or even talk to him about how he words wthings!! xxx
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (2 July 2009):
 aww hun i don't think you're jealous i think you'd rather proove to people what you can achieve on your own what you can bring and create yourself without having people pay for you.
and i don't think he's rubbing it in at all he's offered you to go live with him probably because he knows how hard you've been trying but he feels it's a simpler option for you and that you shouldn't have to over stress yourself to get there.
i understand you'd rather do things on your own so you can look back and think "wow i got that all on my own i've created this house into a home"
it's normal for you to want to do that i guess you're boyfriend is just trying to let you know that you shouldn't have to worry about trying to achieve so much on your own without asking for help and that you can ask for people to lend you a hand every once in a while.
i mean he may feel alone because he knows he can get what he wants but sometimes people find it annoying and frustrating because they'd rather they have more discipline if you like so they have more grounds laid rather than just have everything and anything all the time.
gets quite boring.
anyways i hope this helps hun message me you need to talk further :)
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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