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writes:I have liked this guy for 4 years now. The reason I first started to like him was bc I thought he liked me and I fell so hard and havent stopped liking him since. Im pretty sure he actually did but then I stupidly told him I liked somebody else over him. Now we are "best friends" or at least that's how he thinks of me. I think we should be more than that bc we cuddle and do stuff that couples do besides the kissing but then he calls me his sister.We talk and hang out like 24/7. All my friends who know say we should be together but that he doesn't know it yet. How can speed up the process/ get him to like me in a girlfriend way?
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (3 July 2009):
 yeah ok but then how will you EVER know?
wouldn't you rather know and push on without having that behind you thinking what if?
and yeah if you do tell him surely he'd still be your friend he;s got nothing to stop you and him from being mates.
i mean he clearly treasures your friendship together
i don't think he'd chuck that away that quickly
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry abt the second answer given, only meant to post the first one which actually sums it up but I didnt think it had worked so I tried to remember the first. my bad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I'm pretty sure he's forgotten abt when I told him I liked someone else because it was only for like a month 4 yrs ago. Then i kept liking this guy and havent stopped. He knew I did and got a girlfriend anyways who he went out with for like 2 yrs then the girl saw that me and him txted like non stop and told him he had to stop talking to me so he did for a summer. When we got back to school we started to talk again and got to where we r now as "best friends." He always says that Im the only person he can be himself around and that he loves hanging out with me and he calls me beautiful a lot too. I've tried to just think of him as just a friend, but it just doesn't work. It's like he sends me mixed signals.
I'm scared to tell him bc what if he gets awkward? I'd lose him as a friend and i'd rather have him as that than as nothing.
If i went in for a kiss and he didnt feel the same then he would freak out and that would also be awkward...
thanks tho!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell i told him I liked someone else 4 yrs ago and he knows i stopped liking that person after like a month. and ever since then ive been trying to get myself to stop thinking of him in that way but i cant and so for like 2 yrs he knew i liked him but then his gf told him to stop talking to me bc she thought he flirted with me so we stoppped talking for like a summer but then we started to talk again and this whole "best friend" thing came. Where he said I was his best friend and the only person he could be himself around and blah blah and like his sister. So i reciprocated everything back. and so for like a year now we've been in this "best friend" mode.
if i went in for the kiss while cuddling he would freak and get really awkward and what if i told him i did and he doesnt think of me like that and stops talking to me at all? id rather have him as a friend than as nothing.
thanks though.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (3 July 2009):
maybe he does and he's trying to get you to feel the same way seeing as you told him you liked someone else.
just tell him outright you like him and when your together cuddling go in for a kiss or something.
Hope this helps
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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