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Hey, life is beautiful, with all its complications too. There's a way out of each problem, it's just that most of the times we never know it exists. And at other times, we lack the guts to pursue it.

Here's a friend who promises to hear you out, each time you want to share something. And hey, who knows, hope may just be around the corner...

Cheers!!! :)

My daughter is showing her body to some guy via her phone!

Q.   hey i'm in big problem. My daughter is 16. I saw his mobile phone with some wrong messages. she was sharing with her school mate..those message r kind of sexual pleasure. Its seems they r showing their body to each other . i know the boy well. he ...

A.   13 July 2009: I am an Indian, and I do understand the implications. I think you need to talk to your daughter about this, and explain to her, the consequences of her actions. Do not be angry with her, as she is young and is bound to be carried away with thes... (read in full...)

Basically, he's Indian and I'm Black and he's afraid of how we look together

Q.   I would really like your help, sorry about it being so long. Okay so there's this guy who I had 2 classes with last year, we never really spoke to each other, and he was just another class mate. In late April of 2008, I would notice that he would ...

A.   9 July 2009: Hi Softlipz, it's a wrong notion you've got, that Indians cannot date outside of their race. For sure, there isn't a law/tradition here, which forbids you to do it. As for this guy, you've already conveyed your feelings to him, and it's up to him n... (read in full...)

All my friend's lives are so messed up right now and I'm not sure what to do, I just want to hide!

Q.   Hi Everyone! It's been a long time since I've looked for help from you guys...but I am really feeling overwhelmed! I have always been willing to help/advise, that's why I joined this site. But, the past few days have been unreal! My phon...

A.   8 July 2009: Hi Britt, I understand your situation. Things are really going wrong all around you. But I believe, we can still make it work. :) You can help your best friend by just calling her up often and enquiring about how her father is doing. A call ever... (read in full...)

My friend was upset over the death of her mom. I tried to comfort her with a joke...and I think I made her feel worse! Help!

Q.   My friend's mom died recently(6days ago)and she been upset lately. The other day she was at my place crying her eyes out. I wasnt really sure how to calm her down so I made a joke thinking that would help. The joke was a bit mean now that I think ...

A.   7 July 2009: I'll suggest, you meet your friend personally, and then apologize to her. Tell her that you never intended to hurt her, and your intention was just to make her feel better. Words can't compensate for some losses, and her loss is surely one of t... (read in full...)

Why do guys like you when you are already taken?

Q.   ok i was talking to this guy trevor (i like him alot) and my current boy freind (jerid) b 4 we satrted dating and then jarid asked me out but i was trying to get trevor to ask me out so finnaly i just said yes to jarid and then trevor asked me out i ...

A.   6 July 2009: My advice to you would be to not to spoil a great relationship which you share with Jerid, by going out with Trevor. You may risk loosing out on everything you have right now. As for Trevor, you can tell him clearly that you are committed towards ... (read in full...)

Though the feelings are geniune, we seem to lack the mental connection

Q.   I have been dating a guy for just under a year now and am just wondering if I am staying in this for the wrong reasons. Two years ago I dated a guy for a month (he went back to his ex) who was insanely passionate. He would sms me all ...

A.   9 April 2009: It's simple - you have a person who you feel is perfect for you, except for one trait of his, which you feel could have been different. Introspect. Analyze how important is it for him to be the way you want him to be. Is this difference going to ... (read in full...)

Is he interested, or fancies me? or doesn't like me in that way?

Q.   Hello, Lately I been going crazy about this boy named JK his same age as me but turning 17 this year and I’m 16. Today I saw him when I was walking to school he kept looking behind to see me and at the end he crossed the road and then looked ...

A.   9 April 2009: Hi friend, it's better not to make any assumptions before its very obvious that he likes you a lot. He may just be a charming, friendly guy. Are you sure, he doesn't behave in this manner with everyone around him? Knowing this, would give you a fair ... (read in full...)

Once her heart is turned is there a way to unturn it?

Q.   I can't forget her... and its been two years. So we. she and I, were together two years ago.. for only about..6 months. Then we got separated by our jobs. By the time we got separated I was convinced she was wifey type, just that quick. I mean, ...

A.   8 April 2009: Buddy, i really understand what you are going through you at the moment. But, its a fact and we need to accept it sometime or the other, that if there's one thing we can't change ever, it's someone's free will. We can try our best to influence it, ... (read in full...)

Can't stop crying! Will the pain of our break up ever end?

Q.   So its been a few days since my break of boyfriend of 4 years.. I feel sh*t and awful and can't stop crying..I am gutted it has actually come to this. I loved him so much and I truely thought he felt the same. But he is being so cold to me. It looks ...

A.   8 April 2009: "But he is being so cold to me. It looks like he really wants out of the relationship." Don't just give up. You've been together for 4 years, and you can very well ask him the reasons for his cold behavior. Tell him you love him a lot and that you... (read in full...)

Who should I choose? "C" or "R"?

Q.   ok so i have been going out with my bf for just over a year now. my bf ("C") has always known that i have been really close with his brother ("R") but it has only been a friendly jokey type of thing if you no what i mean, its just like hugs and ...

A.   8 April 2009: Hi Minnie, it's quite a tricky situation here. If I were you, I'll honestly doubt the intentions of a person who tries to snatch away his brother's girlfriend. The fact that "C" has never had any doubt about the relationship between you and "R", ... (read in full...)

My bf is making me feel like crap sexually :-(

Q.   My boyfriend of just over one year has been telling me for months that he thinks I am cheating on him because my "p*ssy feels different and stretched out like I have been f*cking n***ers". He has also then become upset with me when I become more ...

A.   8 April 2009: Get rid of him. He doesn't deserve you. Move on with your life. Find someone who respects you, rather than this guy, who treats you like a mere sex-object. All the best!!!... (read in full...)

Once her heart is turned is there a way to unturn it?

Q.   I can't forget her... and its been two years. So we. she and I, were together two years ago.. for only about..6 months. Then we got separated by our jobs. By the time we got separated I was convinced she was wifey type, just that quick. I mean, ...

A.   8 April 2009: Unturning a heart isn't that easy, when things have gone as far as they have in your case. It's absolutely right on your side to have tried your best to win over her heart, but unfortunately it didn't work out as well as it should have. Maybe she's ... (read in full...)

What kind of relationship is this? What should I do?

Q.   When I'm out in public or around her family it like she doesn't like for me to say anything. I talk to her in the stores when we shop but its like it goes through one ear and out the next. Kinda like talking to a brick wall or someone who wants no ...

A.   8 April 2009: Hi Bill, i guess she might be just getting conscious of people around her, when she is in a public place. She may have an inherent shyness, which might be preventing her from showing affection in public. In any case, if you are disturbed by her b... (read in full...)

I want to be able to tell my teacher that I love him again, but I can't,

Q.   My teacher and i have become insanely close, it's even gotten to the point where we are saying i love you. over my whole spring break we spent every day together. every time he would drop me off at my house i would kiss him on the cheek, hug him,...

A.   7 April 2009: I perfectly understand your concern. You are right. This could land you in more trouble. Let's find out some other way out then. You need to work on two things now. Your relationship with your teacher as well as your Mom. Could you convince him to ... (read in full...)

I want to be able to tell my teacher that I love him again, but I can't,

Q.   My teacher and i have become insanely close, it's even gotten to the point where we are saying i love you. over my whole spring break we spent every day together. every time he would drop me off at my house i would kiss him on the cheek, hug him,...

A.   7 April 2009: I'll give you an idea. Since you are shy and you won't be actually able to say all this to him, why not send him the link to this web page? Tell him to go through everything you have written here. And as he is the only person who can do something ... (read in full...)

Men and Mood Swings

Q.   I live with my boyfriend and boy does he have bad mood swings. He's always snapping and the relationship has to follow his flow. If he wants to be alone, then ill have to go sit in the bedroom so he can have the living room to himself. And he wont...

A.   7 April 2009: Did you ever try and find the reason as to why he wants to be left alone? There are times when we all need to spend some time with ourselves. There are times when we need to introspect about something that concerns our lives. That precisely may be ... (read in full...)

My parents are causing alot of problems regarding our wedding plans..how can I talk to them?

Q.   Hi everyone, My boyfriend of 5 years just proposed to me last week. I said yes, as it seemed perfectly natural and right. No problems there. The problem is that we are both young, and currently students (postgraduate) so our parents ha...

A.   6 April 2009: Hi Bee x, I have a genuine feeling that your parents are just tense about getting everything right for your wedding. You need to calm them down and talk to them regarding this. Ask them to have a small chat with you. Let them know that there is some... (read in full...)

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