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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2009): thats a strange thing to ask...no birth control=little baby(POSSIBLY)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2009): When you want to have a baby or get HIV. So, time it appropriately I guess.
Seriously though, it's not okay unless you're ready for one of those. Using the pill isn't difficult, and if you buy it for her and remind her to take it, then you're not putting her to too much trouble. You should really use a condom, but since every man is a big baby about it, suck it up a shell out for birth control pills at least.
That said, I hope you have fun raising your firstborn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2009): Although you sound young, I am having the same dilemma with my husband. We do not want kids right now. I am currently on birth control, but wanting to get off of it because I don't like the side effects, risks, etc. We have tried condoms many times, but always end up taking it off because neither of us like the feel. I have been searching for other safe methods of birth control, but haven't come up with much. I want to try spermicides, but it says it may not be good for frequent sex, and we have sex pretty much every day. So, despite all the degrading, sarcastic answers, I do understand your dilemma and hope both of us find an answer.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (7 July 2009):
 "when is it ok for me to cum inside my girl???wit no pill and no condoms.."
To answer your question precisely, it is okay to cum inside your girl wit[h] no pill and no condoms when you're willing to become a parent and after you're both checked out for sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and found clear.
For your options, I would suggest that you both talk to your doctors and there may be something they can recommend that will meet your narrow criteria.
Is there any particular reason "no pill" is a stipulation?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2009): get spermacide lube on the internet.... not at all 100% but its safer then nothing... try the new trojen brand condom... feels like nothings there....
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (7 July 2009):
 Its simple.Use birth control or you will get pregnant. Hence the words birth control meaning you are controlling the chances of the birthing process.If you dont want to hear condom and you dont wanna hear make her take pills I have 3 other options for you to prevent babies.1. Vesectomy, If you dont want kids and you dont wanna wear a condom vesectomy is your way of preventing both. 100% baby free sex.2. Female Condoms, this is also known as a dutch cap and goes into the girl. They are about as reliable as a male condom, but there is always a chance.3. Dont have sex. Hey if you dont want to use birth control and dont want to have kids, not having sex is the prime way to go. Otherwise you are fucking stupid.Showing unbelievable amounts of stupidity by not having protected sex and expecting not to get pregnant is asinine. Grow up and throw on a condom. I dont want people like you procreating and populating the world with stupid.
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reader, purple_girl05  +, writes (7 July 2009):
Let me just say Vozik yu can still get pregnant from anal sex On another note you say you don't want to wear a condom and you don't want her to take the pill. Any chance you thought about what she wants. If my boyfriend told me he didn't want to wear a condom then id refuse the sex. Luckily he's responsible and will always wear one even though I have the implant.Which brings me to my next point there are other ways then the pill for contraception, there's the implant, coil or injections. The pill is not for everyone and it can be refused. In my case I was refused the pill for health reasons. The implant is the best as it last for 3 years and you don't have to worry about taking anything.But unless you man up and use something then expect to hear the pitter patter of tiny feet but if yu still want to act like a kid then I suggest don't have sex because there is NO safe time to cum inside her without her getting pregnant or either of you catching somethingThink about what your girlfriend wants its her body and she's part of the relationship too. Just think before you next have sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2009): I think you need to grow up a little bit kiddo! There is no safe time. Use protection or your gonna get yourself in big time trouble!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): the only way you could do that is by having anal or oral.
have you tryed ultra thin condoms?
you cant have unprotected sex and be 100% sure your not ganna end up a daddy.
be careful X
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): There is no safe time to cum inside a girl unprotected. If you want to ask around until you find someone to tell you some "safe" way, you can probably find someone with an idea. But that won't make his/her idea true. No protection = parents. It's rolling the dice every time. And when you are teenagers the chances are higher than ANY other time in your lives because you are both at such high fertility.
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reader, ugh101 +, writes (6 July 2009):
 Nuva ring.Are you ready for sex if you just asked this question???Is it ok? Sure it is but WARNING kids may be produced!Good LuckXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): i hear the patter of tiny feet comming your way if you have to ask when its ok to come inside your girl without pills/condoms. Its never ok to do so. goodluck
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reader, babymama99 +, writes (6 July 2009):
 As the old saying goes - you can't have your cake and eat it too...You don't want to wear a condom, you don't want her to take the pill. Try holding hands! That should solve the pregnancy problem.
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reader, Beingblack +, writes (6 July 2009):
 You don't want to use a condom, you don't want your girl to take pills. You want to come inside your girl.
It is never truly safe to have unprotected sex. So either man up and get responsible, or start buying baby equipment.
The choice, as they say, is yours.
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reader, Iloveribbons  +, writes (6 July 2009):
don't be such an idiot. decide together now what kind of contaception you are going to use or else decide a few months down the line what to do about an std or a pregnancy.
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reader, quarky +, writes (6 July 2009):
 Even condoms or pills are not 100% effective. Basically there is no sure fire way of having penetrative sex with no risk of pregnancy. The risk is however substantially reduced with contraception. There are other methods, incidentally, other than condoms or the pill-may be worth checking these out-a web search will no doubt yield results.
Oh, and I understand there is a male pill being developed...
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (6 July 2009):
 well you can't do that hun
you can't cum inside your girl with out condoms or pill without her getting pregnant.
she will have to take the pill in order not to get pregnant
and if you don't use a condom there are still chances you can get disease and she can.
all kinds of ones as well.
so be careful, but as i say there isn't much chance of you cumming in her without her getting pregnant.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): its really not ok to cum in a girl at anytime. sperm can live for days inside her. if you dont think the feeling the same try ultra thin condoms?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): if you odnt want her to become pregnant then it is not ok at any point during sex to cum inside her.
i wont tell you to use condoms, i agree there not the same, i myself am on the injection, you get a needle once every 3 months. there are plenty of other methods of contraception you and your girlfriend could look at together. but until you use some sort then it will not be ok for u to cum inside her as she will most likely become pregnant if u do wihtout birth control.
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reader, Harry Castle +, writes (6 July 2009):
 Let me remind you of the old joke.....
Q) What do you call people who use the Rhythm Method of birth control?
A) Parents!
Harry.
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reader, xcharlottex +, writes (6 July 2009):
NO GLOVE NO LOVE!!
If you dont wear acondom at any time you can get her pregnant or get or pass on stds.
I know it's not what you want to hear but I don't care. If you don't want to get her pregnant wear a condom. Otherwise don't have sex at all.
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