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writes:ok so im really shy around everybody that i dont know well and i really like this girl. we used to talk everyday and we made plans to hang out this one day(im not in town that much) and it didnt work out so we made plans the next day and again it didnt work out and the next day and the next day until i had to leave now i wont see this person for a while. now she doesnt seem as interested because we talked every day except for the last three days she hasnt texted me back so i think shes over me and its cuz wenever we make plans they dont work out and im shy so i think she assumes that i dont want to hang out cuz i get shy around her so i just wanted to know how i can make her more interested again so she wants to hang out and talk to me like she used to. sorry if this question isnt very clear its just a really hard story to explain but if u do get what im saying plz help me.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (6 July 2009):
 hey i am like you i am proper shy as well.
but why not tell her just say look i like you alot and i do want to hang out with you but please understand i am really shy around you. maybe that'll give her a bit of leway so she understands and can reassure you there will be nothing to be shy about and perhaps then it'll be easier for you to ease into meeting up with her and gradually become something more but obviously slowly as you are shy.
if you don't tell her then she'll never know how you feel or why you guys never actually got together.
don't spend your life too shy trust me once you meet her you'll be fine! you'll loosen up and ease up around her and it'll all just flow :)
hope this helps hun
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x ilovebowsandcherries x
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reader, laura585  +, writes (6 July 2009):
I have been dealing with being shy my whole life- you have to make a conscious effort to improve - it doesnt have to be a part of who you are. Once you stop labeling yourself as a "shy person" and think of yourself as outgoing, then you start to believe it and you start doing things that a "shy person" would NEVER do. I still have my insecurities but I am working through them. The reason I bring this up is because self-confidence is a turn on. This girl has probably picked up on your insecurities and is not comfortable with them. Insecure, or shy, people have bad reputations in relationships, they are seen as clingy, and needy. Even if you, personally, are not like that- you may be coming off that way - its easy to misread a person that doesnt put out any signals. Most girls would rather have a man who wants them as opposed to needs them. Maybe you should take some time to form a loving relationship with yourself first, because how can you ever truly love someone else if you dont love yourself?
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