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writes:Im a queiter person, single,do shift work, (which makes it hard to have a regualr hobbie or join a group) and live alone and not close to family,w who dont even live in my city. I like my job and I have a few close friends, who i see occasioanally, and who I enjoy seeing when I do. These friends have their own life as we all do, and have other freinds too. I never have had anyones shoulder to cry on or hand to pat me on the shoulder when im upset, this does upsets me sometimes, as most ppl have family/partner and close friends for this and I have noone, which im used to now so its how it has to be I guess. Most ppl when they meet me assume Im not interesting and often dont bother to get past the "hi how are you Im **** " small talk. Instead they will hapiply interact with the person next to me or in the sace of work, my other work colleagues. I try to be interested in them,though I could try harder at this. maintaining Eye contact had been a problem for me due my insecurities about my looks, i have some small scars on my chin and am self conscious about it, but am getting better.How do I become more confident and most importantly get other ppl to want to be my freind? Im so sick of being the quiet one that tries with ppl but gets left out and gets nowhere. I feel like not trying at all sometimes. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): this is the question askerI tried once, in march, to get the few friends I have together for dinner at my house, it didn't work at all as they didn't get along and one freind took over the conversation cos she was very drunk, she drinks a lot, it took me ages to reassure the other two that it wouldn't happen again, so no - i CANT get them all together, they are individual friends - not group friends. I hardly see my friends anyway they are so busy,- apart from the drunk one, who i thought was my best friend and is now spending more time with a new more outgoing woman shes met, as a friend, and she seems to forgetting me anyway and always talking about this new confident friend - that hurts, so here i am, not even my "best friend" wants to be my friend.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (6 July 2009):
 well why not organise a little get together with your close friends ask them to bring there friends and all talk in a big group.
if you feel self concious about your scars on your chin try using bio oil it'll not get rid of them No but will reduce there appearence and make you feel better about yourself and not feel so self concious about it at all will give your mind a rest and keep it at ease.
confidence is all about feeling comfortable in the skin you are in with the person you are.
you show people out there how amazing you truly are let your personality shine through and let everyone see that you're more than shy.
i mean i am shy myself well quite shy but i try to be more confident with myself i speak to people whom i'd never dream of talking too just saying hello and stuff and it gives you a boost thinking you can do anything, you don't even really have to be confident just pretend and it'll feel great.
you'll open up and be more yourself than you ever thought you could be.
Hope this helps.
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