I missed a few pills, unprotected sex, and now I'm worried!
Q. this a bit of a hard and weird question to be asking but i am a bit worried, i am on the contraceptive pill and obviously i have missed a few pills in the month that i am now in and on the 16th nov a few days ago i had unprotected sexual ...
A. 19 November 2009: Well yeah...
The point of taking those pills is that you take one every day. Especially in the second or third week. When you forgot to take some, where they in a few days in a row? Did you read the pack instructions and see what to do when you... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to marry someone who already has a child, can I ever be sure if this relationship is serious?
Q. hi i dont know if u can answer my question. im in love with this guy i really do love him so much, my problem is i have a child and he dont have any and he once told me that he dont want to marry a person who have a child, though it was hard to ...
A. 17 November 2009: It sounds like the only honest thing this guy has said is that he could never marry a woman with a child. I think he was being pretty honest about that and then regretted saying it after your reaction, and lied to get you back. A lot of people are ... (read in full...)
Why do I want to see him have sex with another woman?
Q. I moved out a month ago because my boyfriend felt caged in and wanted out frankly so did I. He wants to have sex with other women and wants me to be tolerant. I do not believe that he can or wants to establish boundaries with these women that would ...
A. 17 November 2009: I think that this is just a natural reaction for some women. I'd never admit this to my boyfriend, but I sometimes fantasize about him having sex with other women. It's just something to think about sometimes, and it makes me want him pretty bad. I ... (read in full...)
Female Ejaculation Problems, Help!!!
Q. So I've been attempting to masturbate for a while now to see if I can have an orgasm since I haven't experienced one with a partner. I watched a video explaining tips on how to ejaculate, so I start masturbating and I reach that point where I'm ...
A. 17 November 2009: I would have to disagree with k__c100 completely.
Female ejaculation is just as natural as male ejaculation. It has nothing to do with being a porn star or anything like that. It's a natural body reaction that women can't really help or 'turn of... (read in full...)
Why did he ask me to go to the gym with him? Does he think I'm fat???
Q. This question may sound a bit silly but i just want to know what my boyfriend meant by this. We were talking one night and he said hes going to start going to the gym and he asked "maybe you can come to keep me company" I felt a bit offended...
A. 17 November 2009: It's not that he wants you thinner. Maybe he just wants you two to get healthy together in the right way. The gym is a great place to go together. Not only can you two motivate yourselves to exercise, but you can have fun together doing it. And you ... (read in full...)
He watches porn all the time and it's doing my head in!
Q. My fella watches porn an I've explained to him how it makes me feel, it makes me feel like I'm no good in bed, and I'm wondering is he thinking of those women when we are having sex? I also explained to him that its getting me down. I dont feel the ...
A. 17 November 2009: The thing about men and their porn tendencies is that you either have to wrap your head around it and accept what he does, or you should leave the relationship if you can't get over it. Men do not change their porn habits. Period. Unless they really ... (read in full...)
I have become ill due to his unfounded accusations and jealousy, help me!
Q. My boyfriend looked through my phone and found a call that was a wrong number. He started to tell me that I had met with someone when he was out of town and I told him to just call the number back if he wanted. He called, threw the phone towards ...
A. 16 November 2009: Listen, this sounds like a very very unhealthy relationship that you are in, and you need to consider leaving. If this is getting to the point where he is making you sick about things, then he isn't a caring or loving boyfriend, which is something ... (read in full...)
My b/f doesn't give me enough time, any help?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are in a comited relationship..since 4.5months..we both really love each other..but the problem is that he is not giving me time..he stays 545km away from me..we generally sms each other..he used to give me a lot of time earlier ...
A. 16 November 2009: A lot of people say that they are going to change, but they don't. If this relationship is something that you can handle, then stay with him. But what you have going on right now is most likely the best you're going to get, and eventually it might ... (read in full...)
My g/f's friend is racist, rude and dangerous. Should I attend the party if he is coming?
Q. I'm having a problem regarding the boyfriend of my girlfriend's friend and work colleague. He is a distinctly unsavoury character and when i first went to a work do of my girlfriend's and he turned up he was nasty, rude, arrogant and racist (he ...
A. 16 November 2009: You've got quite the situation on your hands.
This guy sounds like quite the jerk if all your accounts are accurate. I really wouldn't want anything to do with him ever, but it seems like your girlfriend feels that she has to take whatever... (read in full...)
Is he using me till he finds the love of his life?
Q. hey im inlove with dis guy we now ha almost three years together i do really love him,but problem is that im sure if he really love me.we broke up for ten tyms and make up again my problem is,is he using me until he gt the love of his life cuase ...
A. 16 November 2009: You have to ask yourself if you are happy with this guy, and is he happy with you. Does he treat you right? Are the problems when you break up really serious? Does he cheat on you? Does he abuse you? Does he disrespect you? I mean I guess it all ... (read in full...)
Husband keeps graphic photos of his two ex wives!
Q. My husband of eight years, soon to be ex, has kept a collection of pictures and videos of the sex life he shared with his two ex wives. These are very graphic -- he describes himself as perverted -- and would qualify as hard core porn, not love ...
A. 16 November 2009: I think it's a little strange that he keeps all this pornography of his exes in your house. That's just disrespectful and very immature. He's your husband. He should have thrown that material away after he went through the divorce with these women. ... (read in full...)
Is douching unsafe?
Q. What happens after sex, I mean should you wash or is going to the toilet ok. I am never to sure when people say you should douche after sex, I have heard that douching to much can cause UTIs....
A. 15 November 2009: Douching is not a healthy resort to cleaning up after sex. It's not really safe for any type of vaginal clean up. Your body has a natural way of taking care of things after sex as far as UTI's are concerned, and that's called urination. After you ... (read in full...)
Cheating husband, suspicious other woman
Q. My husband cheated on me recently and the affair last 3 months. he called it quits when we decided to work thimgs out. I found out that she left town around the same time i found out that im pregnant (sept.) could she also be pregnant with my ...
A. 15 November 2009: I don't think she would leave town if she was pregnant with your husband's kid. I think she would stay around and have that fact linger over his head, maybe get him to break things off with you, and then get some child support with some sympathy. In ... (read in full...)
Am I expecting too much from my b/f?
Q. So i finally made it official with my best friend of two years. i really really care for him, he always makes me smile. he was a great friend, and i thought he would be an even better bf, but i guess as a bf, i have different expectations from him. ...
A. 15 November 2009: Expecting your boyfriend to have ambition in life is not asking too much at all. It's not about the fact that he can't take care of you, but he can't even take care of himself. Is he in between jobs right now? Is he even looking? His tendencies now ... (read in full...)
Should I smoke pot before sex?
Q. Would smoking pot before having sex make it hurt less the first time?...
A. 15 November 2009: Pot definitely does not help in any situation where you want to be aware and enjoy a particular sensation. I would not suggest smoking before sex.
What you can do however is take your time and make sure that you are aroused and ready. If your par... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with my girlfriend?
Q. i'm 14 and my girlfriend is 14 too. we have bin going out for about a year and she asked me if we could have sex what sould i do?...
A. 15 November 2009: Here is the thing about sex.
There are a ton of consequences. People always ask me at what age should people start becoming sexually active, and I always state that the best time is when they are ready.
When I say when they are ready, I mea... (read in full...)
I don't want to turn my back on a girl whose trying so hard to fight her addiction, but my wife doesn't trust me with her.
Q. 18 months ago my wife who is a social worker asked me to hire a girl that she was working with at my office. She 21 yrs old and was a recovering a drug addict that was trying to get her life in order. My wife convinced me that this girl was perfect ...
A. 11 November 2009: No, the thing is, you have to turn your back on Kayla. You know why? Innocent charity cases don't involve having sex together. You two crossed the line so much that you should be lucky that your wife didn't leave you the first time. This continuing ... (read in full...)
I am afraid to marry her, yet also afraid to flush 5 years of my life down the toilet.
Q. I will try to be brief. I have been dating my girl friend for almost 5 years, 4.5 of which she has lived with me. We've gone through many ups and downs as all relationships do, but more and more I dread the thought of spending my life with her as a ...
A. 9 November 2009: Alright. Well it sounds like a pretty loaded question. Not being in the relationship, I can't really see what's going on. All I have to go off of is your input. That being said, you have to realize that there is her side of the story as well. The ... (read in full...)
Gay unrequited love within a 'relationship'
Q. Hello, I'm a 46 year old gay guy and I have become stuck in a situation and seek advice... I got to know a guy 3 years younger than me around 3 years ago, we met and had safe casual sex and a friendship developed, during the first couple of months...
A. 9 November 2009: My ultimate advice to you would be to move out. Now. It's really no wonder you feel the way you do about this man. Not only do you two live together like an old married couple, but you two have had a history together. You do the wash and you cook ... (read in full...)
She used to be lesbian before me, do you think she is cheating with her so called "friends"?
Q. Alright, here it goes. Ive been with my girlfriend for a year and a half now. We met when we both worked at Starbucks. When i first met her she was, according to her, completely lesbian; keep in mind. We're from Orlando, fl. and she had to move to ...
A. 9 November 2009: I don't know if she's really cheating or not. Her bisexual friend just sounds desperate, and if your girlfriend is smart, she'll know that and say 'no thank you'. Anyway, you haven't ever had a reason to think that your girlfriend would cheat. As ... (read in full...)
He still hasn't put a ring on my finger after 6 years, should I leave him?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend 6 years he has cheated in the past and we are now past that we have had no problems with it he says he wants me in his life and cant see me out of his world but he hasn't but a ring on my finger. and he hates talking ...
A. 9 November 2009: I have always heard that men and women are motivated by two totally different things when it comes for marriage. For women, they are ready to get married when they find the right guy. For men, they get married when it's the right time in their ... (read in full...)
I am falling for my "friends with benefits" guy, should I tell him?
Q. I am in a friends with benefits relationship with a guy who is not ready for a relationship. I thought I wasn't ready either so the arrangement at first suited me fine plus the XXX is fantastic. But lately I have found we have both been getting very ...
A. 5 November 2009: I think that this is a rather touchy subject that is totally dependent on the people involved. It's usually how friends with benefits goes. One person falling for the other, but usually the other doesn't feel the same way. You have to examine the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's wife has cancer. I love him, but want what is best for everyone.
Q. I am a 37 year old single mum to a four year old. I began an affair with a man 25 years my senior, (someone i have known for 15 years) around six months ago. prior to this I had been alone since the first trimester of pregnancy. Having a child, a...
A. 4 November 2009: Oh my god. That is quite the situation you have landed yourself into. You say that there is nothing wrong with two people sexually connecting on the side, but don't you realize who it hurts? It hurts the people that aren't even involved. Try telling ... (read in full...)
What does a belly-button piercing symbolize? Advice from those under 20.
Q. I’m looking for input from the under-20 crowd here about just how piercings are perceived. My 14 year-old daughter is anxious to get one. The first negotiations were for her nose, but lately it’s been for her navel. I’m old and stodgy, and have...
A. 3 November 2009: Hope I'm not too late!
I just turned twenty one actually, and I've always been under the impression from both my girlfriends and guyfriends that belly button piercings are definitely one of the more 'sensual' piercings.
They not only focus t... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my 20 year old marriage is over. Am I right?
Q. Hi, I have been married 20 years. My husband was laid off from his job, but got hired same type of work at a company in another state. We own a big home here and have a big labrador pet. I can retire in a year so I could not go. He left, calls me ...
A. 3 November 2009: It just seems like he is taking things for granted. He knows he has you back at home with the dog, and that he can call and visit whenever he wants, so why put in that extra effort? Plus you two have been together for so long, I doubt he thinks that ... (read in full...)
Boyfriends make me feel drowsy. Why?
Q. I was wondering...everytime I am with my boyfriend I feel extremly tired. Like we will be sitting close (touching and holding hands) and all of a sudden a strong wave of drowsiness come over me. So I lay my head on his shoulder; but I dont sleep...
A. 3 November 2009: I can honestly say that I relate to the situation that you're going through. Though I don't know if the same circumstances surround what's going on.
Recently I have been having issues going to sleep when I'm home alone. Between stresses and what... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has always been faithful, but I suspect he might cheat!
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for almost two years now. he's an outgoing person and funny. he maybe starting a new sales job where he will be working with alot of women. he's divorced and i know that his ex and him both cheated on each ...
A. 3 November 2009: If it were me, I'd be more worried about his past decisions rather than what's going on now. One of my personal policies is to watch out for people with a history of cheating, because they might make the decision to repeat old behavior patterns.
... (read in full...)
What should I do about my ex-girlfriend?
Q. Me and this girl met in senior year of high school and we had a bunch of the same classes. I liked her in high school but I didn't really care about girls so I never really got to hang out and get to know her. Then we both went to college. I stayed ...
A. 3 November 2009: You two already broke up, and that's fair enough, because long distance relationships are really hard to work out. Especially if you guys knew each other on and off. At least she was honest with you instead of pretending that things were working ... (read in full...)
I want my girlfriend to try new things to spice things up!
Q. My wife doesn't like: anal sex (tried once too painful), deep throating, facials or cum swallowing (the last three only on rare occasions, very rare. I don't need her to compromise and do them all, all the time, but wouldn't it be fair for her ...
A. 3 November 2009: There are quite a few points that she makes that I understand. It really does sound like what you want is something you got off of porn sites. While as a female who enjoys porn, the women in those videos do things that most women don't like to do. ... (read in full...)
She left me drunk and defenceless on the pavement!
Q. [MODERATOR NOTE: This post was broken into paragraphs to make it easier to read. No other changes have been made.] I am questioning my partners love for me. I don't think she loves me with the way she responds to me and also in her actions agai...
A. 2 November 2009: This doesn't sound good. I kind of have to disagree with the other Aunties that posted before (respectively). You stated before that you two aren't very big drinkers, which is good for you! Alcohol can definitely do someone in every once in a while. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend still goes to the ex's house to let the dog out!!!
Q. Hello Aunts and Uncles. I'll make this short and to the point but would really appreciate a guys take if possible. My boyfriend (we have been living together for about a year) he still goes to his ex's house (when she's working and yes she is ...
A. 30 October 2009: If she is really at work when he goes over there and he never actually sees her, just the dog, then maybe he isn't quite over the entire situation yet. I mean they were married for a short time, right? That's kind of a big step. It sounds like his ... (read in full...)
I get jealous when he meets new friends... am I in love with my gay friend?
Q. Hi, I'm a girl, 18 years old, I have a best friend and he is a gay.. we are so close to each other as if we treated each other as more than friends and as time goes by I felt something strange, maybe I'm already falling in love with him, he always ...
A. 30 October 2009: This happens all the time. It's understandable that you feel jealous when this guy meets other people and becomes close to them. You know why? Because you have a crush on your gay friend. This isn't very surprising either, because for some reason or ... (read in full...)
I found out she cheated 2 years ago, now all she does is cry. How do I deal with this?
Q. Hi Guys, If your partner of 20 years cheated on you just once and you found out by chance would you forgive and forget. She is the love of my life and a great mother. Apparently it happened with a mutual so called friend. I confronted her with thi...
A. 30 October 2009: This is a very loaded question and it's something that only you can really answer. Do you honestly feel like you can forgive this instance and forget without any hard feelings? Without any hostility toward her? Without any jealousy or need for ... (read in full...)
G/f's past experiences have made her resentful toward men
Q. My girlfriend of one year has some built up resentment towards men from the experiences she has had. I love this girl, care for her enormously and would really like to help her with this. She has been disrespected sexually, not in an abusive ...
A. 29 October 2009: You say she has had one night stands and such? Those type of actions are such that yield disrespectful behavior from men. When you have sex casually and treat sex casually, you will be treated as such, no matter which gender you are. Her actions are ... (read in full...)
My husband cheated on me again while I was pregnant. Should I take him back?
Q. Hi there. I'm currently 9 months pregnant with my 3rd child. Around the 8th month of pregnancy I found out that my husband of almost 9 yrs was cheating on me with someone from another state (he's in the military and travels a lot). It sta...
A. 27 October 2009: I want to point out one very important issue that you have brought up in this question. You go on about how great of a person you are (which I believe 100 percent). You sound very educated, you kept your body in shape in spite of having children ... (read in full...)
She's still friends with her ex. Do I have a right to feel uncomfortable given the circumstances?
Q. I would like to get some perspective/other people's views on the following situation: My girlfriend has an ex who she is still friends with. They broke up four years ago and didn't see each other for a while, but for the last two years she had se...
A. 27 October 2009: I'll answer this to the best of my ability. Here it goes!
1) If I was in your situation, I would feel totally uncomfortable with it as well. This particular instance isn't like her and her ex completely split and then talked on the phone occasion... (read in full...)
I feel like dumping her as she finds him attractive!
Q. i recently asked my girlfreind if She would ever have sex with this guy, i know she thinks is good looking, although she told me she is not intrested in anybody but me. She told me she doesnt just sleep with anyone, the fact she has only spoken t...
A. 27 October 2009: I don't understand. Do you mean she would have sex with him if she wasn't with you? Or that she would cheat on you in order to have sex with this guy?
I am assuming that she meant she would have sex with him if she wasn't with you. If that's t... (read in full...)
Please suggest a solution to this! He knows I care about him, he must care about me too, if he keeps in touch, right?
Q. Here I go again. My x bf has been texting me he says we will be "forever friends" but he is living with a woman he met and started seeing when my mother was dying and I couldnt/wouldnt devote 100% of my time to him. He wants to meet up with me ...
A. 26 October 2009: Look. He is obviously playing both fields, which is smart for him, because he's obviously found two women who tolerate his inability to make up his mind. This however is not good for you. I would consider it a blessing that a guy who was so needy ... (read in full...)
I've developed a crush on a female friend! Is this normal? Is it just a one-time thing?
Q. I have always considered myself a straight female, but lately I have developed a somewhat innocent crush on another female friend. I have known her for a while through another friend of mine but we have recently become more friendly. She is very ...
A. 26 October 2009: To be honest, I think these feelings are completely normal. It's always tempting to wonder "what if" when it comes to very close friends, even when they are the same gender. Especially when that person is obviously attracted to the same sex and ... (read in full...)
What is the theory on being friends with exes?
Q. I'm looking for some advice on being friends with ex's. I've gotten some great answers here to other relationship questions. The girl I'm seeing wants me to commit to her in a relationship, but she told me that she still keeps things from every ex ...
A. 19 October 2009: Funny enough, I think the question can only be answered by you. I think it's a matter of if you are comfortable with her being friends with her exes. The fact that she still keeps things from the time that she was with him might suggest that she ... (read in full...)
By cutting him off, will he realize what he is walking away from?
Q. My husband walked out on me and our 2 children 3 months ago for another woman at work who is 17 years younger than him. We have been married for 9 years and together for 13. I have tried everything I can to try and win him back and I know he is ...
A. 19 October 2009: I am glad that you gained the courage to even think about moving on. That is a really hard step for anyone, especially when you have kids and so many years together between the two of you. I very much doubt that he will actually come around and ... (read in full...)
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