I cannot stop contacting him, and am hurting real bad.
Q. Hi all, I am really hurting right now, as I guy I have been pursuing doesn;t look like he is interested - even though we has a passionate love afair a month ago when I was on holiday in his country. He has only ever responded to me, and never in...
A. 12 August 2009: The first thing you have to do is get rid of all contact information for this guy. This includes his number, email, address...basically whatever you have! Then you need to get out of the mindset that you 'can't' get over him. You CAN get over him. ... (read in full...)
Should I break my no-contact with my ex or am I using my dog as an excuse to contact him?
Q. My boyfriend of over a year broke up with me a few months ago. I tried to get him back but couldn't. Then I tried just being friends with him thinking something would re-spark (kind of a lame plan since this is long distance.) didn't work so...
A. 11 August 2009: I hope you haven't made a decision yet about this question, because I think you already know the answer. The answer is that you do NOT break your no contact rule with this guy. You ARE using the dog as an excuse to talk to him. This guy didn't love ... (read in full...)
The awkwardness remained
Q. Hi there... just went into "just friends" mode with a boyfriend of 3 months. We are both very well suited for one another, but a degree of awkwardness always remained. We were exclusive to one another, but he was only able/willing to get together ...
A. 11 August 2009: This is normal for any couple that might have broke things off before the situation was settled and truly ended. The relationship was ended rather abruptly, though it was for a good reason none the less. I have three points to address here.
Absen... (read in full...)
How will this physical attraction die?
Q. A girl joined the company i worked for, a year and a half back. I didnt use to find her attractive physically or intellectually. I came to know through my female colleagues that she really liked me. Since I always had a tendency of falling in love, ...
A. 11 August 2009: Physical attraction happens. It happens to all of us. Whether we are married or in a relationship, there are other people out there that we have been with or that we meet that we just feel this crazy attraction towards. The important thing to ... (read in full...)
Break up after 7 years...will I ever get over him?
Q. ive just finished with the love of my life of 7 years, my question is how do i get over this? will i ever stop thinking about him? should i stop all contact as we still talk online ...
A. 11 August 2009: First off, if you are really hung up on this guy (which I would imagine you are, seeing as you have been with him for seven years), I would cut off all contact from him. Yes, including online contact. That won't allow you to move on, because you'll ... (read in full...)
Can't get that "other man" off my mind! I'm married and I want to just get on with my life!
Q. I have been with my husband for several years and I am very much in love with him still. Although we have been going through some tough times, I've always known that I want to be with him. I am going through a really hard time right now because I ...
A. 11 August 2009: You can get him off your mind. Just remember how happy you are with your husband. I mean this isn't fair to him, right? I don't like it when people say that they 'can't stop thinking about so and so', because they are just making an excuse so they ... (read in full...)
She doesn't give great handjobs...how can I tell her?
Q. Ladies i need some advice i don't want to upset my girlfriend but i don't like the way she gives me handjobs she never pulls my foreskin all the way back to stimulate my bellend my ex did this and felt great any ideas of how you would tackle this ...
A. 11 August 2009: Ok. First off. Don't tell her that was how your ex did it. No girl ever wants to hear you compare her to your exes. What you do is when she's about to give you a handjob, just guide her hand along. Tell her what you do like! You don't have to be ... (read in full...)
Am I gay if I like anal sex?
Q. she was on her period so we had anal sex, it was all good but afterwards she asked if she could bum me, i've always wondered so i let her ( she used a strap on ) It felt so amazing, i started thinking afterwards, does this mean i could be gay?...
A. 11 August 2009: Quite a few heterosexual men like this. The prostate is a great way to reach an orgasm, so don't feel like you are alone on this one. However I have to warn you the risks of having too much anal sex. Biologically the anus isn't really meant for the ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with my jealousy so I don't lose her?
Q. Hello all, Its hard for me to admit this but i can be a very jealous person. Especially when it comes to other guys and my girlfriend. Now im only 15, about to turn 16, and i no im gonna get some people who are gonna think im not in love with thi...
A. 11 August 2009: Unfortunately one of the side effects of being sexually active and physically connected with someone is in increase in the jealousy factor. It is just something that comes out of having a serious relationship. Everyone feels it every once in a ... (read in full...)
My hubby's sex drive has decreased. I just found out he watches Asian gay porn! Help?
Q. I've been married for 4 years now to my husband, our life has been good, and we often socialise with friends. However, recently, for the past few months, my husband's sex drive has been on the wane. We went to the doctor, and the doctor said ...
A. 10 August 2009: Hold up. I think you need to talk to him calmly without really accusing him of anything. It might be the case that the fact he isn't having sex with you and the gay porn is totally unrelated. Maybe you guys need to spice up the sex life? Pornography ... (read in full...)
My friends accuse me of being with my b/f for his money, not true! How to deal with this?
Q. My boyfriend runs a web hosting company. It's not just online though - he does meet with clients offline (i.e. face-to-face, these are business clients, not members of the public). When I told friends what he does they accused him of being as ...
A. 7 August 2009: They are definitely jealous. Hands down. You guys are only twenty three years old and he has this good of a job? And oh my god you are happy too??? Haha. People tend not to like to see other people happy and if what you just described is true, you ... (read in full...)
I have NOT dated anyone for the past years because I get too wet during sex! Any advice?
Q. I have a problem where for the past 7 years or so (Im 36 now), I get so incredibly wet when I masturbate and orgasm that I have NOT dated anyone since then because of it. Well, I also don't date because I've learned the hard way that guys just want ...
A. 7 August 2009: If what you say is true and you are really urinating when you orgasm, even on an empty bladder, you might want to see a doctor. Simple as that. The two aren't even supposed to connect really. As for the smell, everyone sweats after sex and perhaps ... (read in full...)
How can I tell her the truth about how many people I slept with, without losing her?
Q. I have told my girlfriend that I only slept with 5 people as she has only slept with 4. I did this at the start of the relationship. Last night she asked me again for the names of the people but I could not remember who I had told her as my f...
A. 7 August 2009: First off, I think she would be more upset with you because you lied in the first place. Not because your number is in its thirties. Another important factor in this is were you loyal to any girlfriends you had in the past. I mean if you had been ... (read in full...)
I'm not very experienced sexually but I want some interesting ideas to try with my boyfriend in the bedroom!
Q. Heya So I've been with my Bf for 3 months now and we've been sleeping together for a while. Recently he asked me if I had any fantasies or if there was any particular things that I wanted him to do to me or that I wanted to do to him. Problem is ...
A. 7 August 2009: You could play games. Like one of you isn't allowed to touch the other and see how long it takes to break the rule before going at it like rabbits! lol Bondage is always awesome. Mixing up positions definitely helps a lot too. Don't forget to be on ... (read in full...)
Hes 20, I'm 15 and parents are against it...heeelppp!
Q. im going out with a 20 year old and im 15. we both like each other a lot. my parents found out and wont let me go out anywhere or talk to anyone. what do i do? me and him have been talkin for a year. been together 6 months ago and broke up because ...
A. 7 August 2009: I would definitely break up with him. I mean isn't it against the law for you two to be together in the first place? Sorry, but any twenty year old guy who involves himself with a fifteen year old girl isn't looking out for the girl's best interest. ... (read in full...)
Does watching gay porn make me gay?
Q. hi, i am 14, and a male, and i am straight, but sometimes when im watching porn i like to go to gay porn and watch it and when doing so i fantasize about my male best friend and i like it alot and it turns me on more than women do, but when ive ...
A. 7 August 2009: If you honestly say that if a guy friend asked you to have sex and you would say yes, then chances are you might be gay. Usually if homosexuality is just a fantasy, it stops as a fantasy. It doesn't spread into things you're actually willing to ... (read in full...)
Men: Why do you check out other women when you have a girlfriend?
Q. Why do men always check out other women when they have a girlfriend? I know all the theory of men instinctively wanting variety in women, but I'd still like a male perspective on it. Particularly when the guy is actually with his girlfriend. I don't ...
A. 7 August 2009: Whoa whoa whoa.
Ok. Why do guys look at other girls? Because there are attractive girls out there other than you! I mean of course they think you are some hot stuff, because let's face it, they are with you! And you can definitely tell if your ... (read in full...)
Would it be proper to ask a guy to hang out at your house on a first get together?
Q. i am thinking of asking the guy i like out and i think he will say yes as i know he likes me as well. i was thinking that we could hang out at my house as i know neither of us has a lot of money. is this okay to do for a first date or would it be ...
A. 21 July 2009: Hey. Whatever you want to do on your first date is considered a first date! There are tons of things you can do at your house as a first date. You guys can make a meal together or play video games or have a movie night. You could go to a park or ... (read in full...)
Do some guys prefer drugs over girls, as in a relationship?
Q. I dated this guy for several months and he still wouldnt say we were in a relationship and kept asking for sex. I didnt do him any "favors" and one day, I got really fed up with all of it and left. The thing that I dont understand is that he has so ...
A. 21 July 2009: These are two very separate issues in this case. I would understand if you were in a relationship with this guy and he was blowing you off to do drugs. But this guy wasn't even really ready to commit. He kept asking you for sex because he wanted it, ... (read in full...)
He seemed interested after I initiated the moves, now he has backed off, what do I do?
Q. So, i started seeing thia guy i work with. we went on a couple dates, all three of which i had to ask for, but he was more than willing to comply. then there were a few nights of just hanging out (again, i initiated, but there really wasnt any ...
A. 21 July 2009: When you say 'the night was very intense', are you talking about sexually? If so, then chances are this guy got what he wanted as much as he wanted and he really has no reason to continue seeing you. Even if there were no sexual activities going on, ... (read in full...)
Do I listen to my aunt or do I follow my heart?
Q. Ok on vacation i met a close friends brother that is now staying with her at first glance i liked him alot.then days went by ididnt see him well one day we had a bbq and he was there well all my cuzins their gfs a friend his sister him and i decided ...
A. 30 June 2009: I wouldn't follow what your aunt says or what your 'heart' says. Use your head. You know what will work out and what won't. Logic will tell you either way. You can always take what your aunt says into consideration, but in the end, it's up to you. ... (read in full...)
Why can't I say no to my boss?
Q. im seeing my boss.. we are very close first he kissed me i said stopped it cos he was gettin married he kissed me again and i went with it after a year i told him i fallen in love with him we had a heart to heart he said he would never leave his ...
A. 29 June 2009: You can say no. So stop telling yourself you can't, because you are just enabling the behavior and are attempting to justify your rather selfish actions. He does just want sex, and believe me, it's going to be nothing more than that. And then you ... (read in full...)
I feel embarrased that I have been used again!
Q. Im 15 years old.. And i have been sexually active since i was 12 yes i know very young well i hanged around wrong crowd and got myself in lots of trouble... Well all of my sex partners played me as in had sex with me than walked away.. well just ...
A. 29 June 2009: Well when you make stupid decisions, bad things usually happen. Sorry, it's just the way the world works. Every man you come across in life will use you if you have sex with them within a few days of knowing them. Every guy. There is no 'prince ... (read in full...)
She agreed to not hang out with guys but she still does!
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for a little over a year and a half. She kept a lot of things from me about her past and what she has done with other guys, and there have been a few times where she broke promises to me. For example she went out ...
A. 29 June 2009: First off, I can kind of see where you are coming from with this. I find it very rare that a guy is ever 'just friends' with a girl. Girls can definitely just be friends with guys, but not vice versa. These guys that she says are different probably ... (read in full...)
I think it's rational for my wife to take extra effort to brighten up the sex life
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 31 years old husband. Being married for the last 2 years and before that we were going out for 3 years. We have a good loving relationship. Hardly fight and financially also sound with less external stresses to deal. Intentio...
A. 29 June 2009: First off, to answer your question about the oral thing, it's common for most women to not want the guy to come into her mouth. I mean I don't know if you've ever went down on a guy before, but man juice isn't the best tasting stuff in the world, ... (read in full...)
He told me he wants to be with me, but not yet as he has a lot on. Do you think he's seeing other girls?
Q. I've been dating this guy for 9 months. We are around each other practically everyday. If not, then we're always on the phone together. I really care about this guy and he knows it because it shows, plus I tell him. He tells me he really cares for ...
A. 28 June 2009: Well look at it from his point of view. You guys see each other every day, and you talk on the phone every day. For how long has this been going on? For nine months? It sounds like you two are practically already in a relationship. Not just dating. ... (read in full...)
Is it my fault that I couldn't maintain an erection?
Q. Lost my virginity last nite. I could not sustain an erection while inside her. i felt as though the condom started to slip at times due to this. I may have been the virgin in the situation, but she wasn't much for foreplay (wouldn't let me go down, ...
A. 28 June 2009: Forget about the movies. You have to do what makes you and your partner feel good. It's totally not your fault, and I'm sure the entire time factor made you really nervous. Sex isn't that great if you have to be done in a certain amount of time. ... (read in full...)
My mom's boyfriend did this to me, what do I do!
Q. Well for starters, this isn't an easy topic to discuss. I've had so much guilt, and frustration built in that I don't think I can do it anymore. My mom's boyfriend has been living with us now for almost 2 years. At first he seemed really cool, an...
A. 24 June 2009: Of course you should tell your mom. Find some one on one time with her and just come out with it. The longer you wait, the worse of a chance you have against anything happening. Another factor (and a rather sad one) is that after you tell your mom, ... (read in full...)
Should I get there first and end it before he does?
Q. I met a guy at uni and become really close to him. we lost touch for a couple of years and recently met up . with a bit of alcohol and the obvious attraction still there, we ended up kissing. a week later caught up again and decided we'd be toget...
A. 24 June 2009: This sounds like typical guy bull shit. I know all these words sound sincere, but if a guy really likes you, he doesn't make excuses as to why he might 'hurt you' as a reason not to get closer. It should be a given that he might hurt you. People ... (read in full...)
I'm scared about having sex
Q. okay so me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 7 month's and all we have done sexually is he has fingered me. i really don't want him feeling like i won't do anything with him but i'm just scared since i never have before. we've planne...
A. 24 June 2009: All you have done is fingering? That's a pretty big step. Especially since it seems like this step is his platform for pushing for something more. If you are afraid of what he feels about you 'not doing anything', then you are having sex for the ... (read in full...)
What should I do with this guy at work flirting with me having a GF in the same company?
Q. This is a co worker of mine. His GF works in the same company but different area. I know both of them, although I knew him long time ago. I´ve seen lately that he likes to talk to me and likes to hang around me and when he sees me he tried to get ...
A. 24 June 2009: Uh. This guy definitely wants to start something. Technically he already has. he is flirting with you and giving you way too much information about his and her personal life. Which isn't really cool at all. His is disrespecting his relationship and ... (read in full...)
I seem to have an excessive sweat problem!
Q. Hey, I seem to have an excessive sweatt problem, i bath everyday but as soon as i put a fresh shirt on i have these dark patches screaming through. I cant stop the sweatting and im worried girls will look at me with disgust. any help pls ? :(...
A. 20 June 2009: There is actually a condition that causes this. They have extra strength deodorant and everything for excessive sweat. All you have to do is go to a doctor and talk about this issue. You would be surprised how common this is. So don't worry! You ... (read in full...)
He has never had a job & is not very into getting one soon, should I be worried?
Q. Hi there.. so i have a boyfriend of 2years and 7months. i'm almost 16 and he's 17.. i tell him he is going to be an "adult"[18yrs old] in a couple of months[January] and that he should start looking for a job because he is not a child anymor...
A. 20 June 2009: Well gosh. The guy is only seventeen years old. I know plenty of kids that didn't have a job until they were out of high school. Granted I had a job when I was fourteen, but maybe his parents don't make him go out and look for a steady income. ... (read in full...)
What should I do? Leave him because he's an asshole with anger problems?
Q. I've been with this guy for 9months and Its been ups and downs from the 5th month. When we use to go out he would stare at females and not hear a word I said. I finally got him to understand but it didn't last long. My b-day weekend we went out ...
A. 20 June 2009: This story sounds like a joke. I honestly read it and wondered if you were making it up or not. The sad fact is that you are still with this guy. I mean it's usually a pretty good sign that he has a son and the mother isn't even around anymore. ... (read in full...)
Why do men complain about us gainging weight?
Q. Dear cupid y is it that after a couple of yearz of bieng together,m0st men start c0mplaining about us gaining weight? what is the pr0blem?...
A. 20 June 2009: They complain because you are gaining weight (and because by nature, men are rather shallow beings). They don't really see that as attractive. It's kind of funny in a way, because most men that complain about that are actually just as overweight, if ... (read in full...)
Why hasn't he dumped her?
Q. I really like this boy and he has a gf , but keeps telling me he loves me , and asking me to wait until this girl he's going out with dumps him until he can go out with me (which he thinks wont be that long) And ive just dumped my boyfriend for him ...
A. 20 June 2009: First off, you should never believe a guy who says they will 'eventually' be single for just you. They are lying. If this guy really wanted to be with you instead of this other girl, he would have dumped her already. Sorry. It's just common sense. ... (read in full...)
She only sees me when there isn't a man in the picture!
Q. I have a very good friend, sue, who Ive known for years now and I would call her one of my best friends. She is in a relationship with a guy and they have a child together. But their relationship is quite rocky and they are always splitting up and ...
A. 19 June 2009: Here's the thing. It's great that you have recognized that she isn't a great friend. In fact, she's a rather poor one. Friends are their for each other, no matter who else is in their life. I would understand if she lived far away and she couldn't ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to go away together now, should I just step back?
Q. Hello aunts I have been seeing someone I have known forever for the past 3 months. He and I get on fabulously well, have fun and the best loving times together - I am smitten. He split up with his ex a year ago after she cheated numerous times. ...
A. 19 June 2009: I think you are definitely doing the right thing. This guy is going through a lot right now. Not only does he have to divorce this crazy woman of a wife and put up with her, but he also has to take care of their kids as well. That's a handful. It's ... (read in full...)
What can I do to stop sex from becoming a power struggle?
Q. I have a very pressing problem in my relationship. Up to now I've been trying to ignore it since I feel concentrating on it too much will just make it worse, and I think my boyfriend is completely denying it, but I would really appreciate some ...
A. 19 June 2009: Wow. Ok. The thing about sex is that it's like everything else in a relationship. Communication communication communication! It sounds like there is an issue with this however, because he tends to get sulky when you bring up sex while you're not ... (read in full...)
What does my lover mean by these words?
Q. I would like some help please, I am having an affair with a married man and have been for many years. So please no "you shouldn't be doing this" comments thanks. We have a strange relationship and neither of us can say goodbye to it but it has me w...
A. 19 June 2009: Basically this guy is using you for sex (like all guys do with 'women on the side'), but doesn't like the thought of sharing you. It's quite an interesting complex. He basically owns you in his own mind, but not out of love. Out of pure ownership. ... (read in full...)
I know more happened than my friend and girlfriend are letting on. Help!
Q. Well ok i confronted my friend and my girlfriend about a situation i posted earlier... they told me they talked on the phone but just on a friendship level.. nothing above... and they didnt even talk much... but i asked her have i ever called and ...
A. 19 June 2009: Listen. You're never going to get the entire conversation, and really, I don't think it matters. Whenever I talk to friends, I don't remember everything that I talked about. I'm sure this has happened to your girlfriend as well. So I would just ... (read in full...)
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