Why is it only the mans biology that's considered when discussing porn in relationships?
Q. Okay, so there's lots of questions here about men and porn, and relationships being destroyed over it. But what i'd really like to know here, is why it's only mens feelings and biology considered? So men are more sexually driven than women, they are ...
A. 27 February 2010: To the OP:
That's fine, and I understand that you are really really frustrated with this issue. You raise good points in your post, and the fact that a lot of answers when it comes to the uncomfortable topics of porn are along the lines of the m... (read in full...)
Why is it only the mans biology that's considered when discussing porn in relationships?
Q. Okay, so there's lots of questions here about men and porn, and relationships being destroyed over it. But what i'd really like to know here, is why it's only mens feelings and biology considered? So men are more sexually driven than women, they are ...
A. 26 February 2010: You raise two very different points both in your question and in your explanation, OP.
I think it's kind of rude what you just said. I mean, we are all just trying to explain what YOU asked. I think that instead of asking a reasonable question... (read in full...)
Are my rough tendencies in bed the same as abuse?
Q. So, as you all are pretty much aware, I am against hitting women. However, I like to whip and spank women during sex, and I like sex to be as rough as possible. (consensual of course) Anyway, I know who I am and that I don't pose a danger t...
A. 25 February 2010: Well there of course is a difference in abusing a woman and being rough in bed. As long as the woman who you are with also likes this rough treatment, I don't think it's the same as abuse. Also, how hard do you like to hit these women while you are ... (read in full...)
Why is it only the mans biology that's considered when discussing porn in relationships?
Q. Okay, so there's lots of questions here about men and porn, and relationships being destroyed over it. But what i'd really like to know here, is why it's only mens feelings and biology considered? So men are more sexually driven than women, they are ...
A. 25 February 2010: To Male Reader:
"Humanity does NEED sex. Without it the species would die off. It is not a matter of WANT vs. NEED. Humans NEED sex, it is a built in instinct."
Yes. As a species, humans do need sex to survive in order to produce the nex... (read in full...)
Why is it only the mans biology that's considered when discussing porn in relationships?
Q. Okay, so there's lots of questions here about men and porn, and relationships being destroyed over it. But what i'd really like to know here, is why it's only mens feelings and biology considered? So men are more sexually driven than women, they are ...
A. 24 February 2010: The great thing about relationships is that no one HAS to accept anything. They can look at the other person's decisions and flaws and decide that hey, they don't want to put up with it anymore. Porn use is the same thing. And yes, while porn is ... (read in full...)
I had a deeper level of understanding with my ex, I want the same with my current girlfriend
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for over 2 years and we both love each other but we may have personality conflicts. She has a lot of trouble understanding me and a lot of the time we're not on the same page. This is frustrating especially since in my ...
A. 24 February 2010: It sounds like you are going through something that me and my partner are going through right now. We are both rather ambitious people, and the fact that we have very strong career aspirations bind us together. It's something that's hard to find in ... (read in full...)
Should I be leery of my boyfriend after all he's done?
Q. Okay, so me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year now with a break. the break was caused because i had been told he was talking to girls online seductively, so i went online on a fake account and he then did things on webcam etc. thi...
A. 23 February 2010: Oh please. If this guy is going online and doing dirty things with other girls, nothing is going to stop him from taking it further. You already caught him doing inappropriate when he thought you were someone else, so thus far, your trust is pretty ... (read in full...)
He claims he loves me but won't leave his long distance girlfriend.
Q. It's been just over a year since I found out the guy I was dating had a girlfriend. We had gotten pretty serious, exchanged the I love you's etc. Then, one night I stopped by unexpectedly and caught him on the phone with this woman. She does not ...
A. 17 February 2010: Bottom line? No. You can't, and you shouldn't, believe any of this. That's great that you haven't slept with this guy since you found out about him having an actual girlfriend, but you shouldn't even be friends with him. You said you wouldn't be ... (read in full...)
How do I crush these desires before someone gets hurt?
Q. Hello, Basically I have a pretty big problem that has been on going for nearly 5 years now. It concerns my ex. I won't go in to detail but basically I went out with this girl on and off for about 4 years, the relationship was always shaky, partly ...
A. 13 February 2010: First off, if you are this hung up on an ex to the point where you are even thinking about her all the time while having sex with your PRESENT girlfriend, then you shouldn't have a girlfriend at the moment. Sure everyone fantasizes, but the extent ... (read in full...)
I have 126 days to ruin his wedding!!!
Q. okay, ive had the guy as my best friend since we were 10 and 11.. we are now 24.. he is getting married in june to his uncle's step child... and he and i have been through everything together... he has always called me to tell me that he loved me ...
A. 13 February 2010: I'm really happy that you have told him no, and that you recognize that he is going to get married to someone else, so having sex would taint both of your good characters. I will ask you however to think of this situation through a logical approach. ... (read in full...)
Am I the only who think he's lying?
Q. Previously, I needed different opinions on what I should do concerning my husband of 10 years. recap he's cheated on me 3x times! The last fling was "supposedly" only on myspace! Why couldn't me, his wife be a friend on his page also! Anyway, I go ...
A. 13 February 2010: First off, if supposedly can't do anything about it, then why worry? When you know, then what are you going to do? Get all mad and have an even worse relationship with him? I'll tell you what, if he has already cheated on you three times, won't let ... (read in full...)
My daughter found my sexual conversation on Facebook!!!
Q. I am a forty-three year old married woman of eighteen years with four children. My marriage has always been rocky but we have stayed together through thick and thin. Before I was married to my husband, Tim*, I was engaged a man, Carl*, whom I was ...
A. 13 February 2010: Well, you already hurt your family. And if your daughter decides to tell your husband, then you're really in trouble. I hope you see how selfish this entire thing has really become. Not only have you involved yourself in what appears to be an ... (read in full...)
I've just realised me and women see things differently
Q. I need some insight. From women especially...(guys feel free to share if it has happened to you...) It's a little long winded, I apologize for that but I want to be thorough. Here's my situation. I am engaged. Totally in love... My fiance and I...
A. 5 February 2010: You couldn't be more right. I want you to know though that there is some comfort, because she is just as frustrated as you are as far as this gender breech in communication. Women and men think ridiculously differently in not just sex, but in all ... (read in full...)
When together he constanly shows he loves me but when we are apart he hardly even texts me!
Q. my boyfriend is in college and i only get to see him a few times. whenever we are hanging out we have a great time, share laughs, and he actually shows he loves me, but when he's at college he hardly texts me, always partying, being shady, and shows ...
A. 5 February 2010: Well this could go either way. What do you mean by acting 'shady'? Who is he partying with exactly, and what is he doing in the time that he could be seeing you? I mean if he is doing his studies or something important instead of seeing you on ... (read in full...)
She cheated. How can I tell if she's being sincere about working things out?
Q. what if a girl makes a mistake of cheating on you one time, but really wants to be with you and make the relationship workout? how would you be able to tell if she wants it to workout?...
A. 18 January 2010: First off, cheating isn't a mistake. Not setting your alarm is a mistake, or perhaps mistaking salt with sugar. Having sex with someone else is nothing but choice and willingness to disrespect a partner.
Anyway, you'll be able to tell easily i... (read in full...)
My dreams are making me paranoid.
Q. Hi there aunts and uncles I have had a problem for quite sometime now, ever since i have started dating. every-so-often i would have bad dreams about my girlfriends, they would be arguing over some boy or some lie shes told and something iv f...
A. 18 January 2010: Your dreams are telling you something about your own feelings. Deep down, you are really insecure about the situation, and your brain is letting you know something that your heart isn't really willing to accept. This girl has a history of poor ... (read in full...)
Would you be angry if your husband took a job that pays a lot less?
Q. Would you be angry with your husband for taking a job that pays a lot less than what they should be making? my husbad and I have been married for 1.5 and together 10. We are both nurses and we moved from one side of the country to the ...
A. 18 January 2010: Well the thing is, you were nagging him about getting this degree. Now that he has a job, but pays less, this job contributes to his tuition. Maybe he resents the fact that you are irritating him to go back to school? Plus you have no idea how ... (read in full...)
Is my wife trying to break my attachment to her by being unemotional?
Q. Hi everyone whats all this about can you help me, im going mad. Over the last 12 months my marriage has broken up, we were together for 7 years. Myself and my wife have had affairs, She moved out some months ago. Two weeks ago we both admitted...
A. 28 December 2009: Hey, there is a big chance that someone won't want to go back with you if they have been involved in multiple affairs, only to find out you have too.
Affairs are usually a sign of something being wrong in a relationship that isn't necessar... (read in full...)
I need to talk to my Mother
Q. ok i have a question so i had had my period fot 2 yearsz now i am 15 years old and i get frustruated with using pads so i have been thinking about using tampons. my question is how can i get my mom to approve or buy me some?...
A. 17 December 2009: The only thing about tampons is there is that really slim chance that you can get diseases from them. Like if you keep them in for too long of there is something already on the tampon itself.
That's what my mother freaked out about when I switch... (read in full...)
My mom is disappointed that I slept with someone
Q. I wrote about this a while back but I'm still so confused. I'm in my mid 20s and still live at home (my family and I immigrated to the US and I support them financially). I've been with my boyfriend for a few months and the other weekend slept ov...
A. 17 December 2009: If her actions really upset you, then don't sleep with your boyfriend anymore.
Kind of unreasonable, right? But I'm just trying to make a point. The only way that you'll please your mother is to do exactly what she thinks is best for you. Seeing a... (read in full...)
Paranoid over size, what are girls honest opinions?
Q. One of my female friends, not a girlfriend but I've known her for a while, knows about my 3 inch "problem" and when she talks to me alone she reassures me that even though I'm "small" in the sexual regions of the body, it truly doesn't matter. O...
A. 10 December 2009: This entire debate is basically the same as a man making judgments on a woman because of her boob size. I mean the cliche is that men loooove huge tits. And if we compare your insecurities to this state of mind, then men only enjoy sex with women ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do, I'm an emotional wreck, I need your help!
Q. I've a massive problem. I've been with someone for 5 years (seems to be common) but had broken up about 2 times. Every year i get into this situation when its the end of the year and i dont feel like i love her anymore. I've found another gir...
A. 4 December 2009: Becoming an emotional wreck is one of the side effects of being a liar and a cheater.
The only cure? Coming clean. You have to choose one or the other or else you are going to feel like this the entire time you are cheating on your girlfrie... (read in full...)
Just found out my girlfriend is pregnant, and I'm unsure what I want or should do!
Q. I have recently found out that my girlfriend of almost 8 months is 5 weeks pregnant and I am unsure about what I want/should do. She is currently in her first year of university, and I am in my second year of university, at different universities. I ...
A. 4 December 2009: I'm really impressed about the mindset you have about this situation.
You guys screwed up. And the scary thing is that you both are in college, so dropping out is a really hard option for the both of you. While you'll have a lot of women say that... (read in full...)
She mixes with celebrities but I am just a ordinary guy
Q. Greetings everyone. I'm here to ask a very strange sounding question; just make sure you read everything I have to say or it may seem a bit confusing. See, I've been seeing this girl long-distance for almost two years now. Where I live, I'm fairly...
A. 4 December 2009: I think that this guy is the only guy she has joked around about in front of you as far as attraction goes. And whether it is two girls or a group of fans, if she wanted to cheat, she would have. Just like this situation, if she wants to cheat, she ... (read in full...)
Why do I always have to stimulate myself during sex to have ogasm?
Q. I have this issue. I cannot "cum" or have an orgasm during sex. We usually spend a while on forplay n stuff before actual sex but then i have to rub my clit during, or i won't cum no matter how good it feels. It makes me feel like there is so...
A. 4 December 2009: While both are normal, clitoral stimulation is much more common.
I think almost every woman who attempts to orgasm through stimulating the clit can orgasm. However an orgasm through penetration is rare. I think I read that twelve to twenty p... (read in full...)
Do guys like girls with make-up, or without?
Q. Many girls wear a lot of make up and some do not wear any at all. I was just wondering if guys like it when girls wear make up or don't. ...
A. 4 December 2009: I'm pretty sure that guys like it when girls wear make-up...if they need it?
Like if you're older and have signs of aging, and then you apply just enough to cover the flaws. I think however that a mistake most young girls make is that they thi... (read in full...)
He spends 2-3 night a week with his friends instead of me. Is that normal?
Q. Hi I have a question: is it normal for your guy to spend 2 or 3 times a week with his friends after work and not with you? My guy see's me 2 times a week on his days off and sometimes 3 times a week if he has time during a break at one of his jobs. ...
A. 4 December 2009: Uh...that's perfectly normal. And by normal I mean healthy.
I mean you have only been with this guy for four months. He has his friends and he calls you when he's hanging out. Sounds like he's trustworthy, and he wants you to meet his family. ... (read in full...)
She mixes with celebrities but I am just a ordinary guy
Q. Greetings everyone. I'm here to ask a very strange sounding question; just make sure you read everything I have to say or it may seem a bit confusing. See, I've been seeing this girl long-distance for almost two years now. Where I live, I'm fairly...
A. 3 December 2009: I can tell you that she probably said those things to make you jealous. I mean you two have been in a long distance relationship for two years, right? I'm sure that gets frustrating for her. And I don't think someone who is actually planning on ... (read in full...)
Is this something that happens with military men?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up due to his stress level and the upcoming tour in Afganastain. He said that he loves me unconditionally but doens't know if he is coming back, he is scared and that I should live my life and move on. He told me to gog away ...
A. 30 November 2009: I don't think this is common.
I think that he is using these excuses in order to break up with you. He should realize that it's a little arrogant to assume that he knows what is 'right' for you. I mean obviously you want him! You love him for ... (read in full...)
I( want a baby but my boyfriend wants to wait
Q. hey,im 17 iv been with my boyfriend for a year now and we live together and everything, its going great ...but for years iv wanted a baby..but dont no if i should try for one ..i want to but he wants to wait a while..he doesnt understand everything ...
A. 30 November 2009: Having a baby is a huge decision. I don't think that you are weighing in on all the consequences of having a child at such a young age. I mean do the two of you have jobs that can support a baby? If you have a baby, you'll need time off, so only he ... (read in full...)
What to do about his bad boy behaviour...im having his baby...
Q. My boyfriend/father of my unborn baby is a big pothead. I get so mad because he constantly smokes around me. He stays drunk Thursday - Monday. He has no job but is in college 2 days a week. When he is by himself he doesn't smoke weed as much as when ...
A. 30 November 2009: My question is, if he was like this since you met him, then why did you choose to stay with him and have his baby? I mean being in a relationship with someone who is a pothead and this irresponsible wasn't a smart idea in the first place, was it?
... (read in full...)
How can this be rape when I'm of legal age? His grandmother says she's going to call the cops!
Q. I'm 17. I keep getting caught having sex with my boyfriend by his grandparents. He's 19. Yes he lives with his gparents they need help around the house. His grandmother said tht if we have sex then thts rape. How can this be rape when I'm at a legal ...
A. 30 November 2009: She is probably saying something to make you think about what you're doing. I mean this house is hers. She should have a right to tell you to stop having sex in her house, and you should be responsible enough and respectful enough to not do it. If ... (read in full...)
My husband is a devoted teacher, maybe too devoted to his....work?
Q. I can't believe it's come to this-posting an anonymous question on an advice forum. I hope someone can help! It started a while ago, four years ago. My husband is a teacher, a very dedicated devoted teacher who is respected and high up in his s...
A. 28 November 2009: This sounds like quite the issue.
I can see where you feel really uncomfortable, even to the point of suspicion. I really don't think you can draw a reasonable conclusion based on the evidence that you do have. The sad thing is though that the... (read in full...)
If I have sex with him will it ruin any chance of having a relationship with him?
Q. I met this guy a month ago.We've hung out twice/talk dailyOur texts involve alot of flirting + the usual - what we're upto etc.Despite our super flirty/naughty txts.He's a gentleman in person -hasnt crossed the line and apologizes when he feels he ...
A. 26 November 2009: Well wait. You guys aren't together or anything, right? You are just friends who happen to like each other, and hey, he keeps hinting that he wants sex from you. I'm assuming that's right.
Anyways, if you want a relationship with him, then don... (read in full...)
After having an affair with a married man for 18 years he has finally left his wife, but now he is seeing another younger woman!
Q. i have been having an affair with a married man for 18 years. he and his wife of 28 years have just filed for a divorce. i didn't encouage him in fact i told him to rethink and try an make up with his spouse. he sais that its too late and that its ...
A. 26 November 2009: Well when situations are based off of lies and cheating, it usually never ends well for the woman on the side. Which is you. Sorry to break it to you, but you should have known that living a lie such as being a mistress would only end with the man ... (read in full...)
He's involved, wants nothing to do with love but is offering sex
Q. Hi, and wow I cannot believe I'm asking the internet for advice but here it goes: A few days ago [maybe even a week] I met this fantastic guy. Thing is, he is a bit older than I am and already has a girl friend. Here are the problems with the...
A. 26 November 2009: I guess I don't really understand what you see in this guy. I know you give reasons why she isn't a 'good girlfriend', but you have to understand that there are two sides to every story. You are just listening to his complaints, which could be ... (read in full...)
He's involved, wants nothing to do with love but is offering sex
Q. Hi, and wow I cannot believe I'm asking the internet for advice but here it goes: A few days ago [maybe even a week] I met this fantastic guy. Thing is, he is a bit older than I am and already has a girl friend. Here are the problems with the...
A. 26 November 2009: I guess I don't really understand what you see in this guy. I know you give reasons why she isn't a 'good girlfriend', but you have to understand that there are two sides to every story. You are just listening to his complaints, which could be ... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend has been cheating. Should I take him back?
Q. I been with my bf for 4 months. I love him more than anything, supported him through everything, helped him a little through his financial problems. Anyway, I kinda always been a jealous gf but never checked through his personal things.(I see him ...
A. 23 November 2009: Thinking about the situation, there are many factors that give the red flag, meaning that you shouldn't take him back. The fact that you guys have only been together for four months, and he has already been caught cheating is not a good sign. I mean ... (read in full...)
Why do I always have to stimulate myself during sex to have ogasm?
Q. I have this issue. I cannot "cum" or have an orgasm during sex. We usually spend a while on forplay n stuff before actual sex but then i have to rub my clit during, or i won't cum no matter how good it feels. It makes me feel like there is so...
A. 23 November 2009: I have never been able to orgasm through just sex. Not in the way that you are talking about. There is the g-spot that can be stimulated inside the vagina, but that's something entirely different and really difficult to find. The type of orgasm you ... (read in full...)
The love in our marriage has been replaced with hate
Q. My life is a mess - I have decided to leave my wife as I can no longer tolerate her constant nagging, neagitivity and derision.The problem is we have a 15 month old daughter and she is 4 months pregnant. I am torn because I love my daughter to ...
A. 23 November 2009: You have to remember that this woman is pregnant. That's a lot of hormones rushing through her body, and I'm sure the easiest target when she feels the effects is you. That's not fair really, and the way she is treating you is unfair, but I think ... (read in full...)
He made me have an abortion - should I forgive him or move on with my life?
Q. he made me make an abortion and he keeps on telling me dat he love me,i do really love him but im not sure if he really love me after what he has dan to me. i dont know if i should give him another chance,is de any guy dat wil drove his girl to ...
A. 23 November 2009: First off, no one can make you have an abortion. It is ultimately your choice to have one, and unless he put a gun to your head and dragged you to the clinic while holding everyone there up as well, you were the one that made the ultimate decision. ... (read in full...)
I missed a few pills, unprotected sex, and now I'm worried!
Q. this a bit of a hard and weird question to be asking but i am a bit worried, i am on the contraceptive pill and obviously i have missed a few pills in the month that i am now in and on the 16th nov a few days ago i had unprotected sexual ...
A. 19 November 2009: Well yeah...
The point of taking those pills is that you take one every day. Especially in the second or third week. When you forgot to take some, where they in a few days in a row? Did you read the pack instructions and see what to do when you... (read in full...)
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