Does who you lose your virginity to really matter?
Q. Well,now I have another dilema.I want to get over my teacher and feel that another guy would help.He's 18 and can drive iv known him for 5 years and he proposed that we have some 'fun',I'm up for it or at least would be if my sister hadn't given him ...
A. 13 April 2010: Well think about it this way.
Let's say you wait to have sex until you find someone who you really love. Then you have sex with them. That doesn't guarantee that you'll be with them forever. I waited until I was twenty to lost my virginit... (read in full...)
I am preganant and my husband continues to look for sex!
Q. Ok so this is my problem. I am 25 and I have a five year old daughter. I have been married to her father for 3 years now, been together for 6. Our relationship was great (so I thought) until I started to find out things about him. Such as hidden ...
A. 12 April 2010: The first thing you need to do is to stop blaming yourself. This is all his fault. Not yours. He's the one that chose to disrespect both you AND your kids by talking to other women like this. The fact that he planned to actually meet up with these ... (read in full...)
Assuming she still cares at least a little bit, no contact or lots of contact?
Q. my girlfriend of 2 years dumped me out of the blue(LDR). she has been a responsible and super caring gf and made me feel like a king! i was so special for her and she was damn crazy about me. she said i was the best thing ever happened to her and no ...
A. 10 April 2010: I am in the exact same situation that you are in, except I am your ex girlfriend. I really loved and cared for the person that I was with for two years, but things just weren't working out. We were fighting, and I was trying too much to get a hold ... (read in full...)
He keeps having these emotional breakdowns
Q. My boyfriend keeps having emotional breakdowns and I don't know if I should leave him or not. I have only been dating him for a month and he was fine until this week. I know it upsets him because he still has feelings for his ex and they have a kid ...
A. 10 April 2010: I think you should take a step back and perhaps let him find who he is for a while. It sounds like he has a lot to think about, especially who he is and where his confidence went. I think that right now, he doesn't have the tools to offer a complete ... (read in full...)
Which do women prefer?
Q. I have a question for sexually exspearinced woman...Do woman prefer an uncircumsized male or circumsized? To those woman who have encountered a foreskin, why do most woman pull it all the way down and pretend its not there, is it because you think ...
A. 10 April 2010: I think it's quite a bit immature for a woman just to say flat out that 'it's gross'. For me personally, I prefer circumscribed, simply because I know what to do with a circumscribed penis. Uncircumcised is something that would be totally new for ... (read in full...)
How can I find happiness again?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 and a half years. As with most relationships, it was absolutely PERFECT in the beginning. Then we found some astoundishing incompatibilities between us which caused problems with jealousy and trust. But we fought to ...
A. 10 April 2010: I am speaking from experience when I say that just because you want to love someone, or because you DO love someone doesn't mean that you are meant to be with that person. A good indicator of whether you should be with someone or not is your overall ... (read in full...)
Ready to lose virginity at 13, everyone else has!
Q. MOD NOTE: Age posted is not right, poster says they are 13, NOT 19) hi. im greenpink, im 13 years old (i'll be 14 in may) and i think that i am ready to loose my virginty. we just offically met a few days ago (through mutual friends) but i have bee...
A. 7 April 2010: The thing that most people (including teens AND even adults) don't comprehend is that sex is a huge decision. It can be full of consequences, and in turn, is a very adult choice. You need to realize that by choosing to have sex, you are choosing to ... (read in full...)
Should I marry my friend to save him from deportation?
Q. Okay this is super complicated. My best friends and I were a trio, and one of them needed a way to stay in the USA because he was at risk of being deported. At first I agreed to marry him, but then my parents wouldn't allow me to go through with it ...
A. 7 April 2010: I'm assuming that these friends of yours are the ones that won't talk to you. Anyway, I can understand why you feel so guilty and sad, but you know what? They really weren't your friends to begin with anyway. I mean think of what they were asking... (read in full...)
I can't find a job and g/f is calling me a mootch!
Q. My situationis this. I've been unemployed for 15 months and my 10 year relationship has become very tumultuous. I'm living in her house and find myself in a very awkward situation. I do love her and do what I can for her and around the house. She ...
A. 5 April 2010: Sorry to break it to you, but I can kind of see where she's coming from.
I mean I understand if you've been out of work for a few months (which is understandable in today's economy), but 15 months???
I highly doubt that after fifteen months, ... (read in full...)
Is checking a partners internet activities a violation of privacy?
Q. How big of a deal is it to violate your lover's privacy by checking his browser history? I have been dating my boyfriend for about 6 months. We met on a dating site. Things were going great for a bit, but behavior patterns changed. He sud...
A. 5 April 2010: Having just been through a relationship myself, my ex wouldn't usually have an issue with me going through his phone (or at least touching it to make a call). He could do whatever he wanted with my phone, computer, whatever. I seriously had nothing ... (read in full...)
I can't move on.
Q. *OP's own title* my ex dumped me 5 months ago and i still love him as much as i did then.hes had 2 new girlfriends in the period of time we've been apart.he said we would be together forever and he would love me til we died.but he told my best frie...
A. 4 April 2010: Listen. I seriously JUST recently broke up with my first love and first partner, and we were together for two years. I love him still, and I think I can honestly say that I will never ever forget him. But let me tell you, it is possible to move on. ... (read in full...)
My mate is an escort for financial reasons!
Q. I am 31 yo male in long distance relation with a 42 yo guy. I met this guy two years back, when he was in need of money. I felt comfortable with him and proposed for relation, after few months of chatting in internet. He hesitated first,...
A. 3 April 2010: There is no denying that you are in love with him.
But sometimes, when we are in love, we have to make decisions that are best for us. We have only one life to live, and while love is something that we all strive for, so is peace in life. Th... (read in full...)
He wont have sex with me since finding out I might be pregnant!
Q. me and my partner are certain im pregnant, i haven't tested yet, im a week late so im going to give it another week before i test, im never late this is the first time i been late and i have a few symptoms. ever since i told him i could be pregnant ...
A. 3 April 2010: Of course he isn't having sex with you when you two think that you might be pregnant! He's afraid! It's hard to even think about sex when the reason why your girlfriend might be pregnant is because you two had sex in the first place. Having a kid is ... (read in full...)
My mate is an escort for financial reasons!
Q. I am 31 yo male in long distance relation with a 42 yo guy. I met this guy two years back, when he was in need of money. I felt comfortable with him and proposed for relation, after few months of chatting in internet. He hesitated first,...
A. 3 April 2010: When you are in a relationship with someone, something you have to accept is that you can't change a person. You have to accept them for who they are, and when you do totally accept them, that's what love really is. I mean everyone is going to have ... (read in full...)
Does he really love me? What's going on?
Q. *OP's own title* So, I've been dating my best friend since the end of December. He's a very private person and doesn't like to talk about his feelings, even to those he's close to, except when he's tired. When he's exhausted, he has a tendency to b...
A. 3 April 2010: It sounds like the first time might have potentially been a slip, but the second time? I think he was just trying to reinforce the first time, most likely testing the waters for your reaction. I have to give the guy credit, it takes a lot of guts to ... (read in full...)
What would be the meanest, most heartbreaking way to break up with him?
Q. *OP's own title* I feel like I can officially say I'm over my old boyfriend. We're in a foreign country, however, and have to live together in the same house for the next three weeks until I go home. I had some suspicions that the guy was che...
A. 3 April 2010: Well, I'm really sorry that this guy cheated on you. He's a jerk and he deserves to be broken up with. However, do you really want to kind of sink to his level and play a game with him just like he did to you? I mean you know the pain of someone you ... (read in full...)
After getting back together, how should I behave towards my boyfriend despite my trust issues?
Q. Guys, Me and my bf broke up 1 week ago because of trust issues.. Then I was the one who broke up because I couldnt trust him.. but I am still in love with him.. during the period of one week, he texted me to get me back together but I told him...
A. 2 April 2010: I think you might be making a big mistake here. It seems like this guy is still hung up on doing the things that makes you uncomfortable, like hanging out all the time with his friends and their partners, going clubbing, not talking to you as much. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is gross, do you think he wants someone else?
Q. My boyfriend does stupid things and i think he is showing off for me. But the things that he does are pretty stupid like he fights a lot. He talks about naked women and boobs and that stuff. Do you think he wants someone else?...
A. 2 April 2010: Is he around the same age you are?
He is just really immature at the moment. I mean, us girls all know the rule, right? Boys are about three years behind on age than we are, especially during the teen years. ;)
But I think he is just acting n... (read in full...)
Will he drop me when he tires of my exoticism?
Q. I am of mostly Indian origin and a bit mixed. I have always been considered attractive and have always had men after me because apparently I look exotic. I have a Swedish boyfriend who is absolutely lovely and is what I've heard from friends quite ...
A. 2 April 2010: This isn't abnormal at all what you're feeling, especially in interracial relationships. I think you should understand though that this guy chose to be in a committed relationship with you, so he obviously thinks of you more than some exotic fling. ... (read in full...)
My breast size is affecting my self esteem. Any tips on how to make them bigger?
Q. My life is just crazy I guess. I have low self esteem very low I think I am so ugly. Everyone tells me Im beautiful and that I have a pretty smile and pretty eyes, I just don't believe. So I like this guy well love actually I have known him forever ...
A. 30 March 2010: If you get surgery on your breasts, and you still have this low of confidence, the surgery won't help at all. It'll just be something else that you're upset about. Your face, your nose, your curves (or lack of)... You are just using your breasts to ... (read in full...)
How can I get my husband comfortable with the idea of me having sex with other men?
Q. My husband and I have been married for ten years. I think that i have a healthy and realistic view of sex. I have told him that if he ever gets bored with our sex life that he is welcome to sleep with other women. He of course told me that he ...
A. 30 March 2010: Pft. Hey. He had sex with your female friend, I say he can't really complain if you are having sex with another guy.
The fact though that you opened this can of worms will definitely effect the relationship in a negative way. It sounds like dee... (read in full...)
Should I tell my wife to stop mailing the guy who has a crush on her?
Q. Hi everybody, My wife of 6 years went on vacation with her aunt for a week recently. Apparently she met another guy (I don't think anything happened between them, at least that's what she told me) but that guy had, and still has, a crush on her. He ...
A. 26 March 2010: I think that it's a golden rule that whenever anyone shows interest (more than a friendship) towards someone in a relationship, it's that person's responsibility to end it. I mean it's one thing to make a comment or two in a joking manner, but this ... (read in full...)
I'm going to the club without my boyfriend, am I doing anything wrong?
Q. me and bf have been together for 2 years, in the past couple of months he has decided he no longer wants to go clubbing. i still enjoy going out and dancing, i really enjoy dancing with him but he says he will no longer go. we came to an agreement ...
A. 26 March 2010: I honestly don't think you are doing anything wrong. I mean you made the agreement that you wouldn't go too much. I would think he'd have a point if you were going multiple times a month and constantly getting dressed up, but it sounds like that's ... (read in full...)
For some reason he won't go down me...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and we just started having sex 2 weeks ago. For some reason he won't go down me. He licks my fingers after I finger myself so I know it's not that I taste bad. He is such a good boyfriend and he loves ...
A. 13 March 2010: Did you ask him to go down on you?
I mean he can't read his mind, especially when it comes to sex. If you are just expecting him to do it because you are, you are going to be waiting for a long time. Men are kind of selfish in that way, but stil... (read in full...)
Why am I jealous of this negative attention, my best friend gets from the guys??
Q. One of my best friends is really short and pretty. I view myself as just an average (but my friends are helping me get over my self-esteem issues). She has mostly guy friends and that makes me sort of jealous because they're also always with her. ...
A. 13 March 2010: Oh believe me, guys talk about you that way.
There are quite a few guys that joke like that. They say the most messed up and disgusting things about girls, even their friends. Doesn't matter about how attractive you are, they just say it.
... (read in full...)
Sexually addicted??
Q. Dear Cupid: My fiance has cut back on viewing porn (well, as far as I know). Now every night, all he wants is me to tell him of my past sexual experiences. He says he'd rather jack off to that instead of viewing porn. Does this sound like somebody...
A. 12 March 2010: I don't think he's sexually addicted, he's just horny. All guys get horny (and hey, so do women). Masturbation is something that most men also do, and it sounds like you two are quite a distance from each other, seeing as you are on the phone. Is ... (read in full...)
We met while clubbing, but he won't let me club anymore!
Q. My boyfriend has told me that he doesn't want a girlfriend who wants to go clubbing and drink. We have been together for 2 years, we met at a club and for the first 6 months always went clubbing together and we went to every music festival ...
A. 12 March 2010: "i appreciate advice but don't make so many assumptions next time."
Well next time maybe you should state that you don't dress up while going to the club. I think it would be safe to assume that by when you said "dressed up", you dress up like eve... (read in full...)
We met while clubbing, but he won't let me club anymore!
Q. My boyfriend has told me that he doesn't want a girlfriend who wants to go clubbing and drink. We have been together for 2 years, we met at a club and for the first 6 months always went clubbing together and we went to every music festival ...
A. 10 March 2010: Hey, I have to agree with him on this one. If your boyfriend was dressing up nice and going to clubs without you with all his guy friends, and then 'hip hop' dancing...or 'freak' dancing in other words, I think you would be upset too. There is ... (read in full...)
He talks to random girls and lies about porn use. I don't want to be a single mom at 21!
Q. So he has never physically cheated on me that I know of.. But I've caught him talkin to numerous random girls even his ex. We are now engaged and expecting a child.. I've also caught him looking at porn. His arguement is it will never happen again ...
A. 10 March 2010: Ok, so how does he talk with these women? Is he flirting and saying inappropriate things? Or is he just talking to friends who happen to be girls? Where does he meet these girls? Is he getting their numbers from online? If he is saying inappropriate ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend watches porn but not in mood for me?
Q. ok, I have read some of the same posts but would like to also share my dilemma and could use advice and support. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months, lived together for 4.5 months. 3 months ago,I rolled over in bed and caught him view...
A. 8 March 2010: Hey I am perfectly fine with my guy watching porn. And sometimes I even watch porn, but when he does, it's when I can't be around to help him sexually. Otherwise, we are totally into each other. He has never put me down as far as physically, and ... (read in full...)
My child overheard bad language and keeps repeating it
Q. help! my bf and i had a fight, we took it to room, 3 yr old overheard him say why u acting like a bitch? now she calls me bitch. how do i discipline her? she talks back to me, and it becomes a shouting match. i dont know what to do, cant hit her, ...
A. 6 March 2010: I'd have to agree with the user below me. A light smack on the mouth ought to stop her from saying those words. It's more of a surprise than it is pain inducing, and when I was little, it definitely stopped me from using those words. I'm never for ... (read in full...)
Is non intercourse swinging a norm?
Q. My girl friend age 33 says lots of people our age 33-40 engage in same room sexual fun where friends get together and party and swap with each other for foreplay and fun with toys but not sexual intercourse. Is this happening as she says ...everyone ...
A. 6 March 2010: I would say that swinging is not the "norm" in society. I think it definitely depends on what group she's hanging out with, but for the most part, no. Sharing partners is something that is a really tricky situation to deal with, especially because ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend watches porn but not in mood for me?
Q. ok, I have read some of the same posts but would like to also share my dilemma and could use advice and support. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months, lived together for 4.5 months. 3 months ago,I rolled over in bed and caught him view...
A. 6 March 2010: True it is somewhat common for men to watch porn and look at attractive women, but what he is doing to you is not normal and it's not healthy for your relationship. I think it's best that you leave this guy. I mean you say you're crying a lot and ... (read in full...)
I found 'brutalized anal' pornography in my boyfriend's computer history!
Q. While using my boyfriends computer the other day, a history item popped up in his search engine as I was trying to type, it was some of his porn viewing history. I don't have a problem with porn but what came up was a search for 'brutalized anal'. T...
A. 5 March 2010: Listen. Just because he is looking that stuff up doesn't mean he would actually want to have brutal anal with anyone. I mean that stuff can be pretty violent, and I doubt he would actually want to do something like that with someone that he cares ... (read in full...)
Why are parents happy when a son loses his virginity, but not the daughter?
Q. why when a son lose his virginity, the parents are so happy and proud? But when a daughter lose her virginity, the parents are so upset and mad?...
A. 5 March 2010: I think it has a lot to do with pregnancy nowadays. No one wants to deal with a pregnant daughter. And for some reason, if their son gets some girl pregnant, that just isn't a concern. Sure you could bring in some historical references and religious ... (read in full...)
How much will anal sex hurt and is there a way to make it easier?
Q. Okay so here's the thing. I'm 14 and me and my boyfriend have had sex a couple times and done everything else exept anal. well we tried once and he couldn't get it in. He wants to try it again but when he first tried he said my ass hole is really ...
A. 3 March 2010: I would not advise you to participate in anal sex. Speaking from a medical stand point, there is much more likely of a chance for disease to spread simply due to the fact that the lining in there is VERY delicate. You could tear pretty easily if ... (read in full...)
How do I get over the fear of getting a girl pregnant or catching an STD?
Q. OK, so I've pretty much accepted the fact that most girls today do not wait until marriage to have sex, and if they are not going to wait there is absolutely no reason I should ether. So my next problem is how do I get over the fear of getting a ...
A. 3 March 2010: How do people have lots of casual sex and one night stands? Because they lack common sense and they don't have a HEALTHY fear of an STD or getting a girl pregnant. Why do you think there are so many unplanned pregnancies today? Or all people who ... (read in full...)
Is great sex worth being cheated on and lied to?
Q. My girl's a liar and a cheat but she's so good sexually that I can't ditch her. She lets me do ANYTHING. Tempting? How am I supposed to go out and meet other girl that compare to THAT? Comparatively, every girl I meet is so boring sexually....
A. 3 March 2010: Well if you don't have intimacy anymore, why bother staying with her if the sex is the only reason? My point is, if sex is what's keeping you from leaving her, don't you think it's a bit unfair that she can sleep around with multiple partners and ... (read in full...)
I am gay, and eveytime my male friend kisses his girlfriend I die a little inside
Q. ok let me introduce my self my name is kevin i am 16 i am a boy and i am gay but no body knows that i fell for this guy damn it he's so hot we're in the same class we're best friends and just my luck he got a girl friend recently and whenever we go ...
A. 27 February 2010: I'm really sorry about your situation, and I think that it's an unfortunate lesson in life that everyone has to go through. I want you to know that you're not alone! People fall for people all the time who they don't really have a chance of ending ... (read in full...)
Why is it only the mans biology that's considered when discussing porn in relationships?
Q. Okay, so there's lots of questions here about men and porn, and relationships being destroyed over it. But what i'd really like to know here, is why it's only mens feelings and biology considered? So men are more sexually driven than women, they are ...
A. 27 February 2010: To the OP:
That's fine, and I understand that you are really really frustrated with this issue. You raise good points in your post, and the fact that a lot of answers when it comes to the uncomfortable topics of porn are along the lines of the m... (read in full...)
Why is it only the mans biology that's considered when discussing porn in relationships?
Q. Okay, so there's lots of questions here about men and porn, and relationships being destroyed over it. But what i'd really like to know here, is why it's only mens feelings and biology considered? So men are more sexually driven than women, they are ...
A. 26 February 2010: You raise two very different points both in your question and in your explanation, OP.
I think it's kind of rude what you just said. I mean, we are all just trying to explain what YOU asked. I think that instead of asking a reasonable question... (read in full...)
Why is it only the mans biology that's considered when discussing porn in relationships?
Q. Okay, so there's lots of questions here about men and porn, and relationships being destroyed over it. But what i'd really like to know here, is why it's only mens feelings and biology considered? So men are more sexually driven than women, they are ...
A. 25 February 2010: To Male Reader:
"Humanity does NEED sex. Without it the species would die off. It is not a matter of WANT vs. NEED. Humans NEED sex, it is a built in instinct."
Yes. As a species, humans do need sex to survive in order to produce the nex... (read in full...)
Why is it only the mans biology that's considered when discussing porn in relationships?
Q. Okay, so there's lots of questions here about men and porn, and relationships being destroyed over it. But what i'd really like to know here, is why it's only mens feelings and biology considered? So men are more sexually driven than women, they are ...
A. 24 February 2010: The great thing about relationships is that no one HAS to accept anything. They can look at the other person's decisions and flaws and decide that hey, they don't want to put up with it anymore. Porn use is the same thing. And yes, while porn is ... (read in full...)
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