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anonymous
writes:my boyfriend and i have been together for almost two years now. he's an outgoing person and funny. he maybe starting a new sales job where he will be working with alot of women. he's divorced and i know that his ex and him both cheated on each other numerous times. he says that i'm the only woman he has ever wanted to be faithful to. i have this nagging feeling that this job could mean trouble for us. he has never gave me a reason not to trust him but still i wonder will he "creep around" on this new job?
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reader, openmind +, writes (3 November 2009):
Just because he is working with other women doesnt mean that he is going to cheat on you, you need to get that idea out of your head. The fact that him and the wife cheated on each other could just be because the marriage was dead and they felt pressured to stay together but eventually couldnt take it any more. There is no sure way to answer you just need to trust him and if he gives you reason to be suspicious then start investigating. Good Luck!
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (3 November 2009):
 If it were me, I'd be more worried about his past decisions rather than what's going on now. One of my personal policies is to watch out for people with a history of cheating, because they might make the decision to repeat old behavior patterns.
But anyway, it doesn't seem like his past bothers you. Only his future. Let's pretend he doesn't have a past of cheating and let's just look at the facts now. You said that you didn't have any actual factual evidence that he has cheated on you or that he would ever cheat, right? That's all you basically have to go off of. You have chose to trust him so far, what makes this situation any different? Trust is essential to any relationship, and you have to ask yourself if this fear of him cheating is rational in your mind.
Also, you should know that you'll be able to tell if he is creeping around at his new workplace. Cheating is something that can easily be found out if someone is willing to deal with it. I'd stop worrying and just keep your eyes open. Sometimes the worry of your significant other cheating can be so much worse than him actually cheating. At least if the latter happens, you have a good reason to leave. All the best of luck to you!
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