I know more happened than my friend and girlfriend are letting on. Help!
Q. Well ok i confronted my friend and my girlfriend about a situation i posted earlier... they told me they talked on the phone but just on a friendship level.. nothing above... and they didnt even talk much... but i asked her have i ever called and ...
A. 19 June 2009: Listen. You're never going to get the entire conversation, and really, I don't think it matters. Whenever I talk to friends, I don't remember everything that I talked about. I'm sure this has happened to your girlfriend as well. So I would just ... (read in full...)
Emotions...
Q. When I laugh or smile it's because most girls I talk with laugh or smile too, what is the reason for that? Certain times when a funny statement is being made unless I laugh or smile before they do same. Certain times they wouldn't want to but once...
A. 19 June 2009: During conversations there are certain cues that people pick up on. When one person smiles or laughs (granted it is a necessary and socially acceptable reason), most people feel the urge to follow, even if something isn't too funny. It's also a peer ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to decide just what my responsibility is with my child's education...
Q. My daughter is going to university next year after high school. I'm very happy for her, but it is very expensive, especially room and board 1500$ a month. But it is a big city and she will live in the dorm, and that is how much. So we can't reall...
A. 18 June 2009: Here's what I think. Maybe if you can AFFORD to help pay for her school, then you should try. I mean school is very important. But if you can't afford at all, and it isn't in your budget, that's what student loans and scholarships are for. She can ... (read in full...)
I am so afraid of karma, but it just happened. How do I deal with this?
Q. I have put myself in a veryyy uncomfortable situation. Basically i have this ex with whom i went out with when i was 16 years old, we were in a relationship for a year, i am currently 19, and well ,between us ended for a very stupid reason, these ...
A. 18 June 2009: Was it worth it? The way I see it, he doesn't love his wife or you if he is willing to use the both of you for his personal needs. What you did was wrong, but more importantly, what he did was wrong too. I hope that you never talk to this guy again ... (read in full...)
I lost my wedding ring, never told him and now he's furious!
Q. I lost my wedding ring about 4 years ago, never told my husband, bought a ring that looked similar to mine, and just recently he somehow found out and is extremely angry, yet he too lost his around the same time and it was not a big deal. We have ...
A. 18 June 2009: Well I think we might need more information. Why do you think he can't stand you? Just because of this argument? I mean four years is a long time to keep such a thing a secret, I'm sure it caught him by surprise. Which is why he was probably angry. ... (read in full...)
I feel as if I'm in a loveless void... how can I find love?
Q. I am a hard working person in a loveless void, I would love to have advice on how to find a girlfriend, but it just does not happen. I see people every day hanging out with their lovers and it makes me so sad, because I know I probably will never ...
A. 18 June 2009: Maybe that's why you haven't found 'love'. It's because you don't go out and socialize? You need to go to a dance or a party or something to meet new people. How are you going to find someone if you are constantly in the same places at the same ... (read in full...)
Rules for dating?
Q. heyy im 14 and i have my first boyfriend... its great he's so nice and polite and actually perfect... everything is going great... but i was just wondering is there like rules? like when to do this and when to do that? how long before your supposed ...
A. 18 June 2009: I think the only time you can really use the 'L' word is when you have dated a few people before hand. When you really get to know which type of personalities there are out there and you have experienced dating with a couple guys to judge how they ... (read in full...)
Boys are tooooo confusing!!! My ex is being all nice to me now!
Q. okay so my ex messages me the other day saying a bunch of very rude things to me. he was the one boy i was completely head over heals for. i mean im not gunna lie im still physically attracted to him but not so much mental. what do you think i ...
A. 18 June 2009: Now that he's being nice? You should totally ignore him and find something else to occupy your time. I mean do you really deserve someone who is a real jerk to you one day and really nice the next? Sounds like this guy is kinda off. Or really young ... (read in full...)
Ladies, is "friends with benefits" ever NOT an attempt to lure an unattainable guy into an exclusive relationship?
Q. I've been in a FWB before. I am being offered another one now. Let's get real. Is this ever something girls do and they're NOT just settling for it? Wouldn't they ALWAYS really rather have an exclusive relationship with that guy if he was ...
A. 18 June 2009: Girls live in this delusional world that if they have sex with a guy, that will totally knock them head over heals in love. Pop drop and lock it. This simply isn't the case. Guys are definitely less inclined to become exclusive with a woman who ... (read in full...)
Is my colleague into me?
Q. Hi, I'm a young woman working in a hospital setting. Last year, a new guy joined the same department. We clicked. He gave me his sandwiches, we once had lunch together. I had a boyfriend, he seemed single. Once I tried to set him up with someone ...
A. 16 June 2009: I am really glad you are one of those cases that
A) broke up with your boyfriend while this was happening
B) haven't done anything too terrible against his girlfriend such as cheating.
Listen. If this guy is willing to do all these things and... (read in full...)
I can't find love... What do I have to do in order for it to find me?
Q. Hi. I'm here tonight because I'm losing hope in love. I can't find it. I've been in 4 relationships in as many years. The first one was my first ever. It was long distance and lasted for 2 years. Since then, the longest relationship I'v...
A. 16 June 2009: Sorry to break this to you, but anyone can get sex. They just have to lower their standards enough...which is exactly what most people do. So holding out until you find something actually worth the effort is called pride. Not inferiority. Just ... (read in full...)
I'm scared he'll dump me when he goes off to college.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 6 months but he is going away to college at the end of summer and I'm scared that he'll dump me. Has anyone been through this before? Are there any signs that maybe he won't??...
A. 16 June 2009: I would have to agree with the first response. You need to sit down and have a calm and rational conversation about things. Be honest and ask him what he wants to happen once he is in college. Does he want to split? Does he just want to date ... (read in full...)
I think she cheated, she won't admit to it..just leave her?
Q. I have been with the same girl for 3 years. This is the longest relationship I ve ever been in. The main reason why I got with her because at the time I knew for A fact she could be faitahfull and so could I. All my other relationships ended either ...
A. 15 June 2009: I think you should confront her about your suspicions. With everything that you've said though, I definitely think she is cheating on you. That's some crazy stuff she's doing. Just tell her everything you have typed down here and ask her if there is ... (read in full...)
Anal sex advice...
Q. Will a girl bleed if I have anal sex with her while she is on her period...
A. 15 June 2009: Uh. She bleeds from her vagina. So she is still going to bleed even if you are having anal sex. You want to be really awkward, have her keep a tampon in so it won't be too messy. On the other hand, I would not suggest having anal sex though. From... (read in full...)
I cheated on her but I love her!
Q. um this is sorta weird but here goes, I'm in a situation were i cheated on the girl i love. i'm only 14 but i know i'm in love because whenever i hear her voice or see her my heart pounds and i get realy hot and she makes me feel good and happy. w...
A. 15 June 2009: Let me tell you something. When you love someone, you don't cheat on them. When you love someone, you realize your limits and you avoid situations that might lead you to messing around with someone else. You plan ahead. I love someone with all my ... (read in full...)
Married co-worker is like a drug to me
Q. 8 months ago I started a new job and everyone was talking about the Rob the cute married guy that has a bitch of a wife . She would show up at our office and yell at him in front of everyone, and he just seemed to allow her to do it. Within the ...
A. 15 June 2009: You know how to tell if a guy truly loves you? He isn't with someone else while having sex with you. Haha. This guy has no respect for himself, let alone respect for you. If he can't even value something like marriage, I fail to see how he could... (read in full...)
Indecent proposal--should I continue the affair?
Q. Ok, here I go. A bit long, but I want you to get the whole picture. I am a successful business woman married to a wonderful man and have 3 beautiful boys. If you "knew" me you could never tell I have a deep dark secret. I have had an affair wi...
A. 15 June 2009: You can get over him. You just choose not to. It's one of those stupid mindsets that people force themselves into when they can't account for their own actions. Just getting that straight first of all. Second. You are nothing to this guy but jus... (read in full...)
I thought he liked me, was I too naive?
Q. I met this guy at a party. We got drunk and made out. Next he asked me for a movie and since then we have been seeing each other on and off and chatting over IM. We never got intimate again though he asked me to spend a night at his place once (his ...
A. 11 June 2009: Shouldn't you be happy that this guy isn't seeing you anymore? I mean he has a girlfriend! Nothing went wrong, he just treated you like the typical girl on the side. Basically that 'use them and leave them' attitude. You weren't naive in thinking ... (read in full...)
He's Going through depression and taking it out on me in horrific ways
Q. Not sure what to do, with the man I thought I wanted to marry but he's been going through a stint of depression and has been taking it out on me in horrific ways. He acknowledges this, and is profusely apologetic - and on his good days, when it's ...
A. 11 June 2009: This isn't normal behavior for men that are 'depressed'. This is behavior from men who are jealous and lack in the entire trust department. But it looks like this guy is taking it to an extreme. Instead of listening to either your fears or your ... (read in full...)
He says someone is trying to set him up
Q. Boy friend trouble. please help I am so lost and confused. I am 28 years old and I am dating a 49 year old man.? I have been dating this guy for the past 4 months. Last week I broke it off with him because he was always wanting to spend time wit...
A. 11 June 2009: Looking at the age difference and the fact that if his SON dated you, it'd be more fitting, I would definitely say that you are some type of trophy. Especially given the fact that he invites his friends out all the time with the two of you. I don't ... (read in full...)
After 10 years still can't orgasm from sex
Q. I've been sexually active for over 10 years now and I am still not able to orgasm thru intercourse. I do it each time I receive oral sex but not when I make love. It is very furstrating because men think that I am not enjoying it because I don't ...
A. 11 June 2009: It's not unusual that you can't orgasm through sex alone. In fact, I think the percentage of women who can't orgasm just through intercourse is close to seventy percent. I certainly can't orgasm just through sex, I have to have stimulation elsewhere ... (read in full...)
I' told I have it all yet I'm dissatisfied
Q. I am a 35 year old married man with 2 children, one 4 and one 6months old. I am told by my peers that i have it all. I have the good career, i have the beautiful wife, the big house, 2 great kids, good friends yet i remain unsatisfied with what i ...
A. 11 June 2009: First off, I really do feel bad for your wife and kids. I mean if this is how you have always been, then why did you bother marrying a woman and having children with her? If this woman is all that you say she is, and she helps you through major ... (read in full...)
I'm at my wit's end, please help me!
Q. I have been with my boy friend going on a year now. And i love him and care for him dearly. The only thing is, is that he is suffocating me. He wont even let me talk to another man, and if we are out and he see's some guy talking to me he will cuss ...
A. 11 June 2009: It really sounds like you are going through a difficult time, and I'm sorry that you have found yourself in this situation. The very first and most important point you have to address is your boyfriend's behavior. I think it's really inappropriate ... (read in full...)
All he talked about at first is hooking up with me! Now he wants to make out...
Q. Theres this guy i dated three years ago and we started talking again this year at first all he talked about is hooking up with me but im only 14. He wants to get back together and he said when he talked about hooking up b4 now to this day he said ...
A. 11 June 2009: Well judging by the way you posed this question, it sounds like you are kind of uncomfortable with the idea. And seeing as you are fourteen, I would understand why. This guy came onto you a little strong, didn't he? From my personal experience, I ... (read in full...)
Drugs, sex, and its a real mess!
Q. Ok, I'm gonna begin by saying that in others eyes and views, what me and my boyfriend have would seem like a fairy tale come true. I wish it was that easy. I am 26, he is turning 30 in a cpl. wks., we met when I was 16, and he was my ...
A. 11 June 2009: It made me chuckle the way the girl who he took 'under his wing' turned out. Then I realized how sad it was that he influenced her enough to turn her life to real trash. This guy obviously seems like a real dirt bag. I have always asked myself why ... (read in full...)
Constantly having sexual dreams about other men
Q. I've been with my boyfriend 6 months, but i'm constantly having sexual dreams about other men. What I don't understand is why? I've never even contemplated being with anyone else, in fact, the thought of it makes me feel sick. So why is it I keep ...
A. 11 June 2009: I wouldn't worry too much about this. I mean unless you are obsessing about these men right before you fall asleep (which I don't think you are) these dreams just might be at random. I have had a boyfriend for nearly a year and I have had dreams ... (read in full...)
Why is he always asking for sex now?
Q. Ok about 2 months ago I meet this really sweet guy. We started seeing each other, and he would text me everyday and we were hanging out nearly every second day. This went on for about 2 weeks. Then he started only texting me every second day, and I ...
A. 11 June 2009: You have to look at everything from his standpoint first. You guys were only dating for two months before and the two of you were sexually active. The only thing he can really learn and know about you within a two month time frame is sex with you. ... (read in full...)
We're broken up, but the thought of him with another kills me
Q. My Boyfriend and I have recently broken up due to his depression. He saids he loves me still and we still chat and he has told me I can move on if I need too but he would like to see what happens down the track when he sorts himself out.... He ...
A. 11 June 2009: He broke up with you??? I thought it was mutual, or at least you broke up with him! Ok. You need to just stop talking to him, because although he may be depressed, he is just tagging you along now. He can tell you he 'loves you' all he wants, but ... (read in full...)
Lacking in communication, sexless marriage, what should I do?
Q. I am a 37 year old man. I have been married for 8 years with one 3 year old girl. My question revolves around sex. for the last few years i am lucky to get lucky once every 3 months to 6 months, and then i have to almost beg for it. when i try ...
A. 11 June 2009: I know you're really frustrated about the situation, but I think you might have to put sex on hold for a while. It sounds like whatever her problem is, it's pretty deep. It's cool that she's at least open with herself and masturbates, but the fact ... (read in full...)
I told her she could kiss other guys, and she did..is it cheating?
Q. I went on a 4 month trip to Europe without my girlfriend of 5 years. Before I left we decided to stay together, but during the trip we spoke on the phone and I told her that I didn't care if she kissed somebody as long as it was just a kiss. I ...
A. 11 June 2009: Wow!!! This story is a loaded one. First off, you gave her permission! And the fact that she left crying says that she obviously didn't like kissing other people. She felt bad for it. The fact that YOU wanted permission to kiss other people while ... (read in full...)
I think she should move on, what do you think?
Q. My sister in law has been divorced from her disfunctial ex- husband for 8 years. She has been dating a Doctor who takes care of his daughter after his ex wife had to be put into alcohol rehab hospital for years. His life revolves arround his ...
A. 11 June 2009: Haha. Meet a good guy who doesn't take advantage of a woman, has an amazing career, and is a good father. What's your first assumption? He's gay? Shame on you. He might just be a good guy who is really busy. Ultimately it's up to her what she wants ... (read in full...)
We're broken up, but the thought of him with another kills me
Q. My Boyfriend and I have recently broken up due to his depression. He saids he loves me still and we still chat and he has told me I can move on if I need too but he would like to see what happens down the track when he sorts himself out.... He ...
A. 11 June 2009: I will never understand how girls think this way. You have broken up with him hun. In my eyes, you shouldn't really be talking to him anymore because that makes things that much more difficult. You just said that he hasn't slept with anyone, so I ... (read in full...)
She has cheated on me several times, yet I am unsure if I should leave or not
Q. Dear Aunties, My girlfriend of 7 months and I had a good day today, we had sex 3 times, and then she goes home. About a few minutes ago, We started fighting because of the past. She has cheated on me 4 times, and 3 times it was nothing more then a k...
A. 11 June 2009: Sounds like that girl doesn't know how to handle her drink! Cutting the crap though, drinking is no excuse for cheating. I have drank several times and never cheated on my boyfriend. It's possible. Drinking is just an excuse at best, and it makes ... (read in full...)
Will it hurt when I have sex, even when I can stick my finger inside?
Q. So if i can stick my fingers in my vagina does that mean that I don't have a hymen anymore? I just wanna know cause im so scared that it's gonna hurt when i have sex. Thanx ...
A. 11 June 2009: If you are really in between the age of 16-17, I believe your hymen is already gone. That can naturally break and eventually be gone entirely with age. No, you don't have a hymen. Sex only hurts when you haven't really been prepped beforehand. I ... (read in full...)
I want to be sure that he's not going to leave me for her... but how can I?
Q. ok... I'm not sure how to do this...so i'll just keep rambling till my question comes to mind. =) i'm 16, and i'm in my first relationship. it's been three months, and i swear on my life i've never been happier! the boy i'm with is amazing in ev...
A. 11 June 2009: The ex emailed you? That's a little messed up. She sounds like she's crazy at best, in spite of her beauty. Guys are kind of strange when it comes to looks, because they don't see that the really pretty girls are usually the ones that can get away ... (read in full...)
Lacking in communication, sexless marriage, what should I do?
Q. I am a 37 year old man. I have been married for 8 years with one 3 year old girl. My question revolves around sex. for the last few years i am lucky to get lucky once every 3 months to 6 months, and then i have to almost beg for it. when i try ...
A. 11 June 2009: I don't really think that she's having an affair...does she even have the time for that while raising a daughter while you're at work? Anyway, the main issue seems to definitely be communication. The first thing she needs to stop is saying things... (read in full...)
I gave him an ultimatum that I don't want to be FWB anymore
Q. Ok, so, last week I told my exboyfriend that he had to choose, I said "If you want friendship we can do that, if you want a relationship we can do that, if you want to not talk to me at all, we can do that, but I can't do this FWB's thing anymore." ...
A. 11 June 2009: You went about the wrong way entirely to get him back. Sleeping with him creates a perfect world for this guy. Not only does he get free and easy sex, but he doesn't have to be tied down with you at all! You're there when he wants you and gone when ... (read in full...)
How can I break up with him?
Q. i need to let this guy down as i dont feel for him what he feels for me. We have been dating for a bit and are kind of offical at the moment, but i need to break it off before he gets hurt, as i know he really likes me a lot. but i never had to d...
A. 11 June 2009: I would definitely do this in person. Texting or calling doesn't really seem like it's from the heart, and it also seems like you didn't really care for the person enough in the first place. Just call him up and meet him somewhere that's a little ... (read in full...)
Is she having an "emotional affair?"
Q. This is what is going on: She speaks and stares at me all of the time. She sometimes flirts with me. She sometimes sticks her tongue out at me. She sometimes pretends that she is upset. She doesn’t come directly at me and tell what her ...
A. 11 June 2009: So I am assuming that this woman is already in a relationship, seeing as you are questioning if she is having an affair or not. The thing is about women, it's really hard to tell when they actually are attracted to you or if you're just a really ... (read in full...)
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