I'm getting bored with my 6 month relationship, please help!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for six months on the 13th. Things have been kind of rough for us (I cheated on her in the beginning, I told her, we worked through it; I'm experiencing impotence lately that's putting a strain on us; There's ...
A. 1 October 2009: I know a lot of people say that guys are 'afraid of commitment' and what not, but girls go through the same exact thing too. It's quite scary to think that this one person you are with is the only person you can really have feelings for. And look ... (read in full...)
My mum has just been diagnosed with cancer but I'm supposed to be moving to Oz next month - I want to be there for my mum but I don't want to lose my boyfriend either!
Q. I would appreciate any advice.. My Mum was diagnosed with rectal cancer last week and has to undergo chemo and radiation therapy combined before an operation in January. She may have to have chemo afterwards too. This has all come as a massive ...
A. 1 October 2009: This must be a very very tough decision for you. I hope that I'll be able to help you out about, but only you know what the appropriate choice is.
First let's think about your mother. I am assuming that you are on good terms with her and that she... (read in full...)
We have been dating but I found him back online asking to meet up with other women!
Q. Ok here goes Typical story, one of which I have not been in before and kinda need advice I met a guy around 3 months ago from a site. Chatted for a good while and then met up. Got on great and he asked to see me again. Had another date. Dat...
A. 1 October 2009: First off, does he even know that you guys are in an actual relationship and not casually dating? It doesn't really sound like you two have established what you are yet. Does he call you his girlfriend? Usually meeting up on the internet through ... (read in full...)
What would you do in this situation?
Q. Your gf/bf of 1.5 years had sex with his/her ex (multiple times) after a week and a half of being broken up. he/she really regrets it and wants you back. would you take him/her back?...
A. 1 October 2009: It sucks when you break up with someone you really care for. Period. You don't really feel like fooling around with someone else for a while, unless you had it stuck in your mind that you wanted to even before the break up. You're saying this person ... (read in full...)
My ex never showed any interest in my children, and I think this new guy might be the same too! What can I do?
Q. I was in a terrible relationship that ended a little over a year ago. The guy never wanted to have anything to do with my kids--I waited thinking things would eventually click between them, but it never did. Now I am dating a really great guy (for ...
A. 26 August 2009: I think you might be overreacting just a little. I mean you have only been with this guy for a month, and getting used to another person's kids can take some time. Especially for men. It sounds like your boyfriend and your kids get along normally ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has arranged for me to have sex with her friends! Should I run a mile?
Q. I know how this is going to sound but it's the truth, I swear to God. I've been with my girlfriend for three years now. She's the woman of my dreams to say the least and our sex life has always been fantastic. However, I've discovered a sid...
A. 26 August 2009: Just a heads up, this multiple partner thing usually ruins relationships. Couples aren't usually up front with how they really feel about this idea, leaving one kind of iffy about the entire situation, but they go along with it anyway. And then ... (read in full...)
I know I have to leave him for good, but my heart is saying otherwise. Please help me
Q. confused and felling stupied Ive bin in my relationship for 15yrs, have 2 lovely boys, but their father is such a looser, abusers the 3 of us mentally but also physically abusers me, I feel like a bad mum allowing my children to grow up around h...
A. 26 August 2009: You have to realize how much of a big step this is that you are considering actually leaving him. That's an awesome step! You are becoming aware of the value in your life and your children's lives. These children need someone to look up to, and even ... (read in full...)
I'm 15, he's 20, is this ok?
Q. ok i am 15 going to be 16 in 2 weeks and i have been dating a guy who is 20 we have been together 4 2 months now is that ok ??? cause sometimes it doesn't feel right when we first met we didn't talk much but we liked each other a lot from the moment ...
A. 26 August 2009: Ask your parents. They'll give you the right response.
And anyway, I don't think that this is a good idea at all. A guy who is twenty years old and pursuing a fifteen year old isn't exactly the most mature in the world. I think he needs to grow ... (read in full...)
My insecurity is undermining my relationship -- help!
Q. My boyfriend gave me an ultimatum... we've been together for 3 years, and he's my first boyfriend, I'm 20, he's 24. The thing is, we've had our ups and downs, he has matured a lot, but now I seem to be the one with the problem. Mainly, I have issues ...
A. 26 August 2009: It sounds like you went through something that I went through a little while ago. There are a couple issues that you bring up, and I'll try to address them all.
1. Your insecurities seem like the most important subject. I think if you control ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to remain just friends after an affair?
Q. My situation is this, I am best friends with a married man and we have crossed the boundary. We both know what we have done is wrong and have committed to each other that we would stop. We would like to remain best friends without the sex part as we ...
A. 26 August 2009: This wasn't just a mistake.
Mistakes are something you can't control. You just mess up. Having sex with someone is completely in your control. You are already a homewrecker, seeing as you slept with a married man, so don't try to soothe yourself... (read in full...)
Is it possible to remain just friends after an affair?
Q. My situation is this, I am best friends with a married man and we have crossed the boundary. We both know what we have done is wrong and have committed to each other that we would stop. We would like to remain best friends without the sex part as we ...
A. 24 August 2009: Oh please. It's obvious that this is more than a friendship. Friends don't have sex with other friends. Common sense. So don't try to fool yourself that you guys are going to be able to stay 'just friends'. You guys have messed around and you have ... (read in full...)
He hides his phone from me and I found condoms in his car when we don't even use them! Do you think he's cheating?
Q. Is he cheating when i find condoms in the car and i know that we dont use them. but he say that they been in there. unused but its the fact that he has condoms in the car.... also is he hinding something from me when he wont let me see his phone ...
A. 24 August 2009: Listen. There is a difference between snooping and just asking to use his phone. If he is being touchy even when you just want to see his phone to check something out, then there is something wrong. Just ask if you can make a call through his phone, ... (read in full...)
One on one dinner with a friend of the opposite sex - yay or nay?
Q. I'm in a great relationship where there is a lot of trust between my partner and I. I have many male friends that I hang out with or communicate with on a regular basis and he has female friends too. This is of course fine. But the other night, a...
A. 23 August 2009: It's quite normal to feel what you are going through, and you really can't help how you emotionally respond to the situation. You have to look at the facts however. You go out to eat all the time with your guy friends and your boyfriend trusts you ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend and the guilt is taking over my life
Q. I have guilt that is eating me alive every day, multiple times a day. 5 months ago I cheated on my boyfriend of 2 years, the man I am sure I want to marry one day. I don't know what got into me but at the time I felt like a different person, I felt ...
A. 22 August 2009: Well at least you feel guilty about things. That means you still have a feeling of right and wrong. And what you did was really stupid, so don't try to use the excuse of people trying to tell you that you should be single. What you did was on your ... (read in full...)
Why did he take the condoms with him? How should I handle this issue?
Q. hi. I would like some advise. I have asked my friends but i feel that the more advise i get the better i can handle the situation. I met this guy, rather oddly in the street, about two months ago. ( we live about 200 miles from each other) We ...
A. 22 August 2009: Hey, I have to give this guy credit for at least being honest with you about how he feels when it comes to being in a relationship. The fact that he doesn't want one with you right now means that you guys are not monogamous. It means that you two ... (read in full...)
Hubby looking at transvestite porn!
Q. I discovered a few days ago that my husband has been looking at transvestite pornography. Not just looking at it, but magazines, and even a series of emails arranging to meet with a transvestite! The emails were rather mundane to say the least....
A. 21 August 2009: It's one thing to be looking up different types of pornography. I mean some people just have fantasies, and they like to enjoy them from time to time. This would be acceptable behavior if it wasn't for two rather large factors that you pointed out. ... (read in full...)
Trust is gone and I don't know if I can forgive him
Q. Hello everyone. I have a question about my current relationship with my boyfriend. We have been together for 2 1/2 years, and I recently found out that he had been sending and receiving x-rated pictures to and from other women roughly a year ago. ...
A. 21 August 2009: Listen. What he said as an excuse is just bull. He was just making that excuse in order for you to feel guilty about what HE did. How in the world does that make sense? He also lied about how he wasn't actually cheating on you, because obviously due ... (read in full...)
My best friend might be pregnant! Her boyfriend is 21. How can I help her?
Q. hello. I am 15 yrs old and my bestfriend is my same age she is very cool to be around, me and her have been friends for almost 5 years. and recently she started going out with a guy who is 21 which means they are 6 years apart. is that illegal? ...
A. 21 August 2009: First off, this is illegal. So when this child is born, there are going to be a lot of questions. This guy isn't mature, because only an very immature adult would even consider having sex with a minor. She is really dumb. But he's even worse, ... (read in full...)
Did my girlfriend plan this baby? Can I trust her?
Q. Hello everyone. Im really not sure how to put this really but my gf and i are expecting a baby in early feb, but the thing is im becoming more worried about this as when we both found out i didn't want a child as really we havent been out that lon...
A. 21 August 2009: Unfortunately one of the responsibilities of having sex is the fact that the girl might get pregnant. The fact that you stuck your penis into her vagina is one of those silent obligations that you accept pregnancy might just happen. It really ... (read in full...)
Me and my boyfriend were caught in the house together so my dad hit both of us!! What do I do?
Q. im 15. my parents caught me meeting my boyfriend twice at my house when my parents werent home. hes 19. the second time we got caught my dad beat him and slapped me twice and tied out heads together with a belt and almost threw us out together but ...
A. 19 August 2009: It's his house. You knew the rules. The guy is nineteen so he deserved every hit from your dad for messing around with a fifteen year old girl. To top it all off, he should go to jail. What he did is illegal, isn't it? As for you, you deserve to be ... (read in full...)
B/f friend masturbates over friend's pictures!
Q. Is it normal for your bf to masterbate over your friends, by either thinking of them or looking at pictures of them? My bf has admitted that he does this. He also sed he likes the thought of cheating on me, is this normal? He often brings up ...
A. 19 August 2009: Whoa! Ok. This guy is obviously looking for some trouble. I think it's probably normal for a guy to jack off to thoughts of his girlfriend's friends. It's also normal to think about having sex with other people, or even thinking about threesomes. ... (read in full...)
My mother dissapproves because I'm 20 and want to date someone who's 46. Is this really such a bad thing?
Q. So, I'm a 20 year old lesbian. I just recently met a 46 year old woman and we get along great. Most girls my age don't work, don't want to attend college and believe in anything but lies. We share what seems like a million a 10 things in common, we ...
A. 18 August 2009: She disapproves of this relationship for a reason. Listen, I know the entire idea these days is 'love is love' and all that nonsense, but really, love is a lot more complicated than just emotions. Emotions are unreasonable, and with this comes the ... (read in full...)
Golden Shower Problem, Please Help!!!
Q. me and my fella have been together for 6 months now, and both are adventurous in the bedroom. he recently told me about a fetish he has, of being peed on (his stomach, penis and basically lower body) being a fantastic girlfriend (and quite curio...
A. 18 August 2009: You have more guts than I ever could have. I don't think I could ever be comfortable enough to urinate on someone. Some suggestions? Start off slow. Maybe start going into public bathrooms when you are sure there are other people there and attempt ... (read in full...)
My fiance is talking to his ex on facebook....Am I being paranoid?
Q. I am a little concerned with my fiance and him talking to his ex. We have been together for over 2 years now and are getting married next year. I recently saw his ex (from a while ago) start sending him messages through facebook. I saw them com...
A. 18 August 2009: Listen. You definitely want this to be cleared up before you get married. One thing you should know is that if you go snooping however, you're going to find at least one thing that bothers you. You already have it in your head that something bad is ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's depressed and I'm wondering how I can help him?
Q. Hi, ive been going out with my my bf for about four months and as we were housemates and friends first we live together. hes just started full time work a few weeks ago and is often really tired and stressed out by the time he comes home. i know...
A. 18 August 2009: The thing about depression and anxiety is that people don't know how to properly address the symptoms. With your boyfriend working so much, he comes home, and guess who is there to deal with his anxiety? You. It doesn't mean that he likes you less ... (read in full...)
What do you think? Is he lying about watching porn?
Q. Should I believe my boyfriend claiming he doesn't watch porn? He claims he hasn't watched porn the entire 3 years we have been together. I do send him nude pictures and videos everyday but I still think he must be tired of looking at the same woman ...
A. 18 August 2009: I find it very hard to believe that in the three years you have been with this guy, you haven't found any guy ever attractive other than him. And if that is the case, I think you need to unwind a little and become a tiny bit less obsessed with this ... (read in full...)
How do I help my girlfriend enjoy sex?
Q. Me and my Gf of 2 and a half years have just started having sex, we are both 16. And we decied that after 2 years we were ready. But after having sex a hand full of times (safely of course) including alot of foreplay, she doesnt feel anything du...
A. 18 August 2009: When I first started having sex, I couldn't even tell the difference when my boyfriend wore a condom or not. That's how 'numb' I was to sex down there. Now that we have had sex for almost a year, I can definitely tell the difference between him ... (read in full...)
I need closure!
Q. I NEED CLOSURE!! How do I go about gettin closure from a 'relationship' when the other person involved doesn't want anything to do with me and willpobably just laaugh at me??? I came out of a 'friends with benfits' situation about 4 years ...
A. 18 August 2009: You know why he picked you? Because he heard all about this story of how you messed around with this guy with no strings attached. You were perfectly willing to go and be 'friends with benefits' with one guy, so this other guy figured, why couldn't ... (read in full...)
What do you think? Is he lying about watching porn?
Q. Should I believe my boyfriend claiming he doesn't watch porn? He claims he hasn't watched porn the entire 3 years we have been together. I do send him nude pictures and videos everyday but I still think he must be tired of looking at the same woman ...
A. 18 August 2009: Where is the evidence that he's lying? Why are you even worried about if he's watching porn or not? Have you ever talked about porn with him? What is it exactly that makes you feel uncomfortable about it? I'm sorry to break it to you but all men ... (read in full...)
Do I have the right to be angry with him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for six months, which was on my birthday. Which was two days ago. All he did for my birthday was give me a five dollar headscratcher, which I'm pretty sure he didn't even buy (his mom wanted one, and gave me money to ...
A. 18 August 2009: No offense, but this guy sounds like a loser. Come on. What kind of guy offers you drugs on your birthday? 'Here honey, please let me celebrate your birth by killing a few of your brain cells.' What? You don't have a right to be mad, because this ... (read in full...)
I'm not the "hot chick" I want to be for my band or my boyfriend!
Q. This will sound like a very, veru vain question, but I really need to know. Ok, so I'm the front woman in a band; I play guitar and sing. My bandmates are all guys. One of them is my BF. Anyway, the thing is, our music is good, I don't mean to sound ...
A. 18 August 2009: First off, I just checked your body mass index and you are completely average as far as your weight is concerned. You aren't "fat" at all. Second off, I am assuming that your band is no where near where the big bands are. I mean when you think of ... (read in full...)
One night stand eaves me filled guilty and shamed
Q. To begin with It was my birthday and I got totally drunk and me and my friend decided to hook up with these 2 guys we know and they were being really friendly and sweet, they took us to some random house where we waited for ages for his bro who ...
A. 16 August 2009: He treated you like a whore because you were kind of acting like one. No offense, but do you expect a guy to treat you like a princess while you get completely wasted in front of him and then have random sloppy sex in a bathroom? I certainly ... (read in full...)
Why is he still watching porn? I don't get it!
Q. Well I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 1/2 half years. Everything is going pretty well. We don't fight much, we still laugh and have fun, and we have sex regularily (and yes we are both very happy with it!). What I don't understand is th...
A. 13 August 2009: Ok. You need to stop relating him watching porn to what you do. If you continue to compare the two, then you'll never be happy. There are two good things to think about when it comes to your situation in particular. The first is that you both really ... (read in full...)
Do I tell him I like him on our first date or wait a little longer?
Q. I've known this guy for two months now.We talk to each other on the phone a lot when we're not too busy. We'll be going on our first date this weekend scine we met two months ago. My feelings for him is getting stronger, do i tell him when we meet ...
A. 12 August 2009: I would personally wait a little while before telling him that you like him. I mean you haven't even been on a date with him yet, right? So wait for that to come along, go on it, and see if you two want to go on another after! You'll definitely know ... (read in full...)
After 7.5 years together she wants a break. What can I do now?
Q. So my girlfriend broke up with me out of nowhere so i have dated my ex for 7 years. We have had a rough relationship through the years she cheated on me once along time ago. When we were about 16 she went off with the guy he went to my church...
A. 12 August 2009: I'm assuming that you were with this girl ever since your early teens, right? And you haven't really been with anyone else except for the people you two...cheated with. So. That's a lot of time to be together and not know what else is out there. You ... (read in full...)
For 5 years my boyfriend has lied to me about watching porn. What should I do now?
Q. my boyfriend has lied to me for five years about watching porn, what should I do? I feel so uncomfortable that my boyfriend watches porn. I know he used to watch porn a lot when he was single and i know a lot of men do that. But after we started...
A. 12 August 2009: Maybe they are just pop-ups? Do you have any other proof that he is lying to you about it in the first place? The thing about porn is that once a guy starts looking at it, chances are he is going to continue looking, even if it means lying to you. ... (read in full...)
How can I boost my self esteem? People compliment me but I find it hard to believe them
Q. Okay well I have very low self esteem. And I honestly don't know why, I hate they way I look I don't think I am anywhere near pretty, not even kinda cute. I have no reason to think this though no one has ever told me I was 'ugly' everyone always ...
A. 12 August 2009: You need to stop thinking about this in the perspective of other people. You can try to believe what other people think all you want, but if you don't believe you are attractive, you won't no matter what others tell you. The most attractive guy in ... (read in full...)
My husband still needs to masturbate even though we have sex at least once a night!
Q. Why is that a man in a sexually healthy relationship would be masterbating? My husband is 39 and wants sex at least every night and sometimes 3-4 times in a 24 hour period. Is this normal and is jerking off normal when you have intercourse that ...
A. 12 August 2009: I have heard that the more times a guy has sex, the more he needs to masturbate. It has nothing to do with you personally, it's just the classic 'blue balls' syndrome. He is so used to getting off so much that he needs release more often. Another ... (read in full...)
I logged into his myspace to leave him a surprise but I'm the one who got the surprise!
Q. My fiance and I have been going out for almost 2 years now. I am no longer sure if I can trust him any more. I was just messing around on myspace.com I was going to sign in to his account to leave a message for him as a surprise when he log on next, ...
A. 12 August 2009: Oh jeez. Well obviously he is lying to you about denying the account. That's just another strike in the entire 'three strike' rule. The fact that he was sending those messages as well isn't a good sign. I would not suggest marrying him. ... (read in full...)
I'd like some outside perspective on my situation!
Q. I feel uncomfortable around my boyfriend and at least most of the time. I think it is because of small things, which I take to mean something more serious or which simply cramp my style and we're incompatible on this plane. Here's the sto...
A. 12 August 2009: Let's face it. You have been together now for over a year, and it's about that time that you start seeing the other person for who they really are. I mean that initial attraction is gone and now that you see him more often, his flaws might drive you ... (read in full...)
I cannot stop contacting him, and am hurting real bad.
Q. Hi all, I am really hurting right now, as I guy I have been pursuing doesn;t look like he is interested - even though we has a passionate love afair a month ago when I was on holiday in his country. He has only ever responded to me, and never in...
A. 12 August 2009: The first thing you have to do is get rid of all contact information for this guy. This includes his number, email, address...basically whatever you have! Then you need to get out of the mindset that you 'can't' get over him. You CAN get over him. ... (read in full...)
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