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reader, done it  +, writes (29 March 2009):
From my life experiences so far, I would say no. Every male friend I ever had somewhere started to try it on for a little bit more. Perhaps that is just me, but that is what I have found, now I say No, I can't be bothered with such complications on life.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (25 December 2008):
 I don't understand how people can doubt this.
Oscar Wild was a famous poet and entitled to his opinion, but everyone is wrong from time to time.
I've had male friends that I had feelings for, but I have guy friends that are wonderful friends, whom I love platonically. Of course you can be just friends.
I just don't think you can compare humans to cows and bulls. They're animals and everything they do is based on survival instinct.
Merry Christmas/Chanukah, happy holidays to everyone.
Feliz Navidad a todos :)
Buon natale a tutto il mondo.
Joyeux Noelle a tout le monde.
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (25 December 2008):
I don't understand how people can doubt this.
I've had male friends that I had feelings for, but I have guy friends that are wonderful friends, whom I love platonically. Of course you can be just friends.
I just don't think you can compare humans to cows and bulls. They're animals and everything they do is based on survival instinct.
Merry Christmas/Chanukah, happy holidays to everyone.
Feliz Navidad a todos :)
Buon natale a tutto il mondo.
Joyeux Noelle a tout le monde.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (25 December 2008):
 Yep.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (25 December 2008):
 Yes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2008): You are entitled to your own opinion.I am entitled to mine.
I weed jerks out like you and only have humans as friends.fair enough?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2008): Bugs. Most people do not believe in creation, they actually believe they evolved from animals and behave thus.
I accept a FEW can rise above it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008): A bull and cow,A cockerel and hen are animals.
Lord made us humans and gave us the sixth sense not to behave like animals
A platonic friendship with no feelings from either side is definitely possible.
The world still goes on as honorable and "humans" are still out there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008): Can a bull and a cow? What about a cockrel and a hen.
Of course they can't be just friends. One or the other secretly arbours feelings for the other.
Bit like wolves in sheeps clothing.
Good luck
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (24 December 2008):
Lianne, it's terrible that your guy friend let you down.
In some cases a guy has ulterior motives, but it is possible to have a platonic friendship with a guy.
If I were to fall in love and get married (the key word is "if") I would be faithful, but I wouldn't turn my back on my guy friends.
I've always had more guy friends than female friends for some reason; they're like brothers to me... the straight ones as well as the gay ones. :)
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reader, secondend guessing love +, writes (24 December 2008):
 well suer i have 2 best guy friend
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008): I am and have always been a Tom boy.I have many guys as friends.One of my friends has been my friend from the kindergarten days.So we have been friends for 26 years now.He is married now and has a kid.His wife and me are friends.When ever I go to his mom's place,I am always treated as the daughter they never had.
To answer your question,definitely yes!
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reader, Nycee25 +, writes (24 December 2008):
Yes, only if the qualities that you like in a mate are not in your friend of the opposite sex. If so, you have to very strong, so that you don't react to your attraction. I have only one male friend that I am still to this day not attracted to because he just wasn't my type.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008): Absolutely! It just depends on what kind of person you are. Initially I found it difficult to have "just friends" relationships with males, but eventually as you get older it becomes easier. Or in some cases harder. Just depends on the person.
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reader, Gem86 +, writes (24 December 2008):
 Yes they can!
I have many friends who are the opposite sex (actually, most of them are). The problem can arrise if one person thinks that it is more than a friendship, or has feelings for the other and is unable to keep them in check.
I would also say that it can depend on how long you've known each other, or how old you are. The male friends i have, most I have known since high school, I know their girlfriends, they would know my boyfriend if i had one haha.
I think over time you learn who is a genuine friend rather than just trying to get in your pants. But I think with any friend it takes time to learn if theyre the kind of person you can be friends with.
If you both know that you will only ever be friends, and thats all you both want, you can have a fantastic friendship :)
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reader, wonderlove19  +, writes (24 December 2008):
 Depends. I could never be friends with men. Tried to be friends with my boyfriends former best friend and he ended up hitting on me several times, before I finally said something to my boyfriend and he hit him! But I suppose if you trusted them and there was absolutely no real attraction between you two then yeah, women and men can just be friends.
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reader, This_face  +, writes (24 December 2008):
Yes, it is possible. However, some people may find it difficult or may not be able to due to attractions or prior feelings for each other. It all depends on the individuals as well as how much control they take over their feelings, desires and thoughts. I have friends who are guys and we do not have feelings for each other. We are happy just being friends and it is clear that we can be around each other and not do things that would make us any more than just friends.
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (24 December 2008):
 Oscar wild was a very famous a still loved poet, a man that stull pulls the ladies by droves to his grave in Paris where it is tradition toi kiss his grave because of the words he said:
Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship.
Oscar Wilde
Aristotle said this:
Friendship is a single soul dwelling in two bodies.
Interesting words, both very smart people.
I think it is possible. I have many lovley friends that are ladies.
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reader, lianne x  +, writes (23 December 2008):
 i used to think that was possible, but recently , iv found that it isnt always,
a few weeks ago , a guy friend i 'had' came round for a few drinks with me and my boyfriend, when my boyfriend went to bed, this guy told me that the only reason he was mates with me is because he fancied me and that we couldnt be friends because of this ,
also i asked a guy, iv know for years if he wanted to come to london with me for a party- (im from by liverpool)
my boyfriend couldnt make it , and i trusted this guy to go with me, his response was ' you do know that if i went away with you for the weekend ,id try it on with you'
and this was from a guy i have known for years and id always thought we were nothing more than friends .
this has left a big hole in my life as all of my friends are guys, and the first guy i mentioned said to me, ' the only reason a guy is your friend is for the same reason as me , because they fancy you and want to get in to your pants..........'
sorry that this is such a negative reply , and if im worng ,i really hope i am *** please tell me i am *** and that these two guys are just bad examples !? xxx
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (23 December 2008):
Sure!
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reader, Ed1337 +, writes (23 December 2008):
 Depends whats happened between you really. I'm trying my hardest to still be friends with my ex, who I left because she still had feelings for her ex.
I'm fine until she starts talking about him, then I get really sad and depressed and I feel like cutting contact, then I remember how much I like her and I just keep torturing myself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): Yes, it is very possible. I have lots of friends from the opposite gender.
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