Her friend is in town and now she's blowing me off - how do I make her miss me?

A male age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Well I have been dating a someone special to me nearly 2 months now, but recently within the last 3 weeks we have been more intimate.(sexually and emotionally) But recently her friend came in town to visit for the holidays and I been feeling like she has pushed me to the side. Usually when I see her 4-5 times out the week, within the last few days I seen her once. Also she usually text me and calls me on a regular, and that also has been cut down to a minimum. It feels like if im not making the initial move to communicate with her, she want bother to contact me. Outside of the good morning text message or good night text message. She has been spending the entire day with her friend(s), and practically non with me. CUPID, I feel almost as if I should back off until the holidays end. I even mentioned to her 2 days inadvance that I want to spend some time with her prior to christmas day, because thats usually the day were both with our family. But her response is she didnt know if she would be able too. I just feel alil neglected and pushed away almost. I know she has feeling for me, and she does care. I havent done anything to make her dislike or lose attraction for me.Everything was PERFECT proir to her friend coming in town. I really dont know how to handle the situation. I have strong feeling for her, but luckily she is not aware of them. I would say overall I believe we are on the same page in reference to how much we like each other......In addition to all the RECENT changes between us I have been going out more and hanging out with my friends also. Which is healthy, but I still miss her and I have somewhat expressed it to her, just enough so she won't become turned off. Im dont know if I show let her call me when see not busy or just play things cool, and do the usual text message or one phone call a day just to see how she is doing. I would like to hear your advice and also if it helps, We both are gemini's so alot of times we can sense each others moods and emotions without even mentioning it, thats how I know she thinks about me and cares. My goal is not to try to back off completely but just to make her wonder what im doing and miss me, with making her frustrated and angry for not showing her any attention...

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