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writes:my husband and i are thinking about including another female in our relationship. is there anyone that this has worked for? every thing i have ever heard or read the husband leaves the wife for the new female. also are there any support groups for people like me? Reply to this Question
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reader, doesntunderstand +, writes (24 December 2008):
If you want to have the sexual encounter with a woman go for it. I think most men would agree that he is one of the most lucky men alive!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe have been married almost 11 years and together for going on 15 years. thanks for the comment. all i've heard is negative.
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reader, doesntunderstand +, writes (23 December 2008):
How long have you been married? I know of a couple that are considered swingers. They are perfectly happy and he has no intention of leaving his wife for any of the other woman. He says that he doesn't have to cheat on his wife because he can bring them home. If you have trust issues or self esteem issues, I wouldn't recommend it. Just a thought tho...if you are better looking than the other woman being brought into the bedroom, that might help on your end!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionto clarify i the wife want to have a sexual encounter with a female, it is not just my husband and any one we find i have final approveal on.
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (23 December 2008):
 i agree with britt429 in the first sentence.3-way is never ment to last but it could if you all really loved each other.I've said this many times before... find out of he would be willing to do it in a MMF (male, male, female) not FFM (female, female, male) situation if he does not want to have another guy in the group then he could be becoming board or loosing his sexual urges... but this is not your fault. You're between 30 and 35 men mainly lose the urge around that age so its technically him with the issue. You're urge should by statistics be more stonger. for a woman at your age it is due to the fact the body telling you its time to have children. follow up on this message.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): The only way a 3-way can work out okay is if it with 2 girls who are best friends and they find a guy neither of them are interested in having a relationship with...even then issues can arise!
But to bring a third person into your marriage, it spells disaster! There will always be jealousy and insecurities. It could tear your marriage apart! I don't recommend it! Things like that are better left to fantasy. Nothing is ever as good as we make it in our minds.
As far as support groups the only one I know of is SAA (sex addicts annonymous) I would suggest maybe a private therapist.
I have been in your situation and I know how it feels just knowing your husband wants another woman. It isn't a quarantee that your husband will leave you for her, but if you fear that already...you are not a candidate for this kind of sex game...trust me, I know!!!!
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