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writes:Is he just being polite or is just taking things slow and is interested in me? We go out, we call each other back and forth just to talk, and text. He never mentions his past relationships, nor do I ask. But on these (2) dates he hasn't made a move..we have lots of fun, but nothing. Then again, I did just get out of a serious relationship (about 2 months ago)..and he knows a little about that one. I do know that he's learned from his mistakes and wants to take things slow with the next girl in his life. Sooooo, maybe I have a chance! Lol. Yet, every now and then it slips out and he calls me 'buddy'..that's why I'm confused! Do some guys do that..carry on a friendship for awhile, but in the long run intend to make a move?
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (5 January 2009):
 Yes, sometimes blokes do this. But there are times where we just wanna be good friends with a lady. A great guy is one who wants to establish a great friendship with you first, this means that if anything happens in the future it will last longer in his eyes. Well thats what I believe.
Id wait till you guys go on third date then after that If you really like him try putting it out there just as a small laughable mature flirt or something just to make it easier, and see what he says. That way you can fall back on the fact you were only kidding.
For now, just enjoy the friendship. If its genuine m/f friendship, its a nice and rare thing you have with him.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (5 January 2009):
Sounds like you've both made it clear that neither of you are ready for a relationship so he's just seeing you as a mate.
I'm not saying at some point that he won't see you as something more.
If you aren't the type of girl to try and make a move yourself then why not get a little bit too "drunk" next time you go out with him and flirt and tell him how great you think he is, and give him all the eyes and hugs you can.
If he still doesn't make a move then you may have to accept you've got a really good guy friend.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, pastfirst +, writes (5 January 2009):
 Enjoy it for what it is!
As you say, he may be taking this slow as he's not in any hurry to get seriously involved.
The best and longest lasting relationships, are based on friendship. So as long as you're having a good time, be patient.
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