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writes:Oh why did I have to go and fall in love with him, i'm so stupid I promised myself I would never let myself fall so deep for another again, I promised myself that I wouldn't open my heart to him not until I was one hundred percent sure that he was worth it.I'm so angry with myself, I have been hurt so many times in the past so with this one I swore blind that I would tread carefully and not allow myself to get too attached but it's too late - i've already fallen in love with him.He's not right for me at all, he messes me about i'm only wanted by him when there is nobody else I tell myself this yet when anybody else says it I sit there and will defend him to the death.I really do love him and I know it's unrequited and it hurts it really does but i'm sure many of you know exactly how i'm feeling.How can I move on?How can I move on without it hurting so much?Thank you for reading.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009): I'm sorry youre hurting so much. It's been a few weeks since your posting, so I wonder if you've moved on or are still in the relationship. I, too was in a passionate love affair for 4 years. He loved me, but loved his single life more. I gave everything I had to this relationship. We broke up several times, but we would always gravitate back to each other. Im not a religious person, but a month ago, I started saying this prayer, "God, please change his heart towards me. If not, please heal mine." Believe it or not, I started feeling stronger. I was hoping God would change his heart and he'd want me and only me in a committed relationship...but what happened was the opposite. For the first time, I was strong enough to realize my worth and say goodbye to him. When we broke up previous times, I always missed him with all my heart. But for reasons I cannot explain, I don't miss him at all this time. I feel the absence of his presence...but I don't miss him. I dont hate him. I just feel peace. Start praying and be strong. You have worth. You're strong and beautiful. Don't be afraid of time alone - as hard as it is, it helps to move through the process of letting go - if that's what eventually happens. And surround yourself with those who love you. You will know when if and when it's time to let go. I will pray for you, too. Peace.
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reader, nokutenda  +, writes (29 December 2008):
just let go,with time the pain will go away
avoid seeing him,don't call or text him.
do something you enjoy,don't lock yourself in one room-go out and have fun.cry if you have to
all you need is time
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reader, damaged heart  +, writes (29 December 2008):
i have felt the same thing over and over and over again..
i promised myself too but its always too late
you must move and put in your mind that YOU WILL BE SO STRONG THAT NOTHING AND NOONE WILL DISTURB YOU (meaning that you wont be thinking about him and you wont allow yourself to feel hurt)
time will heal your pain and when you move on you will notice that you are better off without him :)
hope this helps thanks for reading :)
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (29 December 2008):
 Spend time with your friends. Your friends are the cure to your broken heart. Go out with them and try to move on.
I don't know what really happened but do you want him back? Or are you letting him go?
Please Reply and let me know.
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