Will he be more likely to contact me if I stop trying to contact him?
Q. I have broken up with my boyfriend,2 weeks ago.He hasn't contacted me although i did email him and text him but no response.Does the "No Contact" rule actually works? I read on a website that if you want your lover back then he has to miss you 1st ...
A. 3 November 2010: Dornraben, thanks for your kind comment :)... (read in full...)
Should I take a minute of joy, for an hour of heartache?
Q. I'm falling love with a woman that's not going to near me in a few months. I can't stop myself from having feelings for her. When she's asleep in my arms my world is her. When she's not near, all I think about is her, everything else has the volume ...
A. 3 November 2010: I feel your pain, i would spend one second being happy with the man i'm in love with even if it meant spending weeks feeling lonely and miserable afterwards without him.
We can't help how we feel though. I hope this woman knows just how much she... (read in full...)
Does wearing tampons make your vagina looser?
Q. I decided to wear Pads instead of Tampons because i think if i use Tampons for almost a week out the month 'it will cause my Vagina to be looser.. so my Q is Does it matter or make a difference if i dont use Tampons because i dont want my Vagina to ...
A. 2 November 2010: Agreed, utter nonsense. Tampons do not make your vagina looser. The tampon expands to fit the shape of your vagina, doesn't make it any bigger.... (read in full...)
What do I do??? I don't want to lose my girlfriend!
Q. Me and my girlfriend went to a party over halloween weekend, she had to leave that night so she didnt drink but I did. Before we got there I told her I wasnt going to drink, but she said she wanted me to have fun and drink. I made sure it was ok ...
A. 2 November 2010: You have already been honest with her that you didn't cheat. Tell her what happened and about the fact that you forgot to charge your phone. You could also tell her to ask anyone at the party if they saw you with another girl, they'll all turn round ... (read in full...)
Have I saved enough to support myself and my unemployed boyfriend in a new place?
Q. Hi everyone i need help ive been with my partner for 3 and half years hes unemployed n i work 40 hrs a week ive managed to save 4'000 pounds so far n calculated this time next year il have abt 14,000 just need advice if u think thts enough for us ...
A. 31 October 2010: I would wait until your bf has some steady work, i appreciate this is hard because he has medical reasons behind his unemployment, but he can always apply for benefits whilst he is looking for work, at least this way he has some income. I've ... (read in full...)
He distanced himself from me after my father passed away
Q. I had been dating this guy for about three weeks when my father died suddenly. When this happened he told me that he wasn't the one who should be there for me and that I needed to be with my family and friends. This was about a week ago and sin...
A. 31 October 2010: Tell him that you can understand why he's doing what he is doing, but that you could also really use his support as well as the support of your family and friends. Together you can both try to come to terms with the loss of both your close ... (read in full...)
Why does sex hurt so much when I'm on top?
Q. OK so im 16 years old and sexually active, but theres a problem and i dont know if its normal or what should i do. whenever me and my bf are having sex and he is on top it doesn't hurt me at all not one bit, But then when he tells me to get on top ...
A. 31 October 2010: There is one good thing that can come from you being on top - that you control how deep the penetration goes. You can go online and find lots of different positions that sre designed for shallow penetration. Have a look at some of these and ... (read in full...)
What do I say to him when we meet tomorrow to talk?
Q. hey guys im sorry if this is a little long but you need to know the full storry to understand. my best friend is a guy and he likes me, hes liked me for over a year and about 2 month ago he asked me out and i ended up saying yes because i thought ...
A. 31 October 2010: You need to be asking the right questions. Weigh up the pros and cons of being together, and just being friends. If the cons outweigh the pros, then that particular option isn't for you.
I'm pleased that you guys are still so focused on your sch... (read in full...)
I think I'm ugly
Q. Well,I think Im ugly,,,,,,I have a flat but,bushy eyebrows but that all wrong.But guys where I live hate flat butts.:( Then the girls I hang with are all really pretty,and have all been in a relationship,had a kiss or whatever,but me?Nope.The guy I ...
A. 30 October 2010: Go online and get some advice on how to dress appropriately for your 'flat butt' as you say! There is a style to suit everyone! Eyebrows can be waxed aswell, go and spend some money on a new look, get your hair and nails done...and make sure you get ... (read in full...)
Will he be more likely to contact me if I stop trying to contact him?
Q. I have broken up with my boyfriend,2 weeks ago.He hasn't contacted me although i did email him and text him but no response.Does the "No Contact" rule actually works? I read on a website that if you want your lover back then he has to miss you 1st ...
A. 30 October 2010: Just because a couple break up once or twice, doesn't mean that there is absolutely no hope for reconcilliation!! My ex and i broke up time after time, but our isses were never really addressed until we had been broken up for a couple of months or ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a guy "popped your cherry?"
Q. What does it mean when a guy has 'popped your cherry'??...
A. 29 October 2010: It means he has taken your virginity... (read in full...)
Will he be more likely to contact me if I stop trying to contact him?
Q. I have broken up with my boyfriend,2 weeks ago.He hasn't contacted me although i did email him and text him but no response.Does the "No Contact" rule actually works? I read on a website that if you want your lover back then he has to miss you 1st ...
A. 29 October 2010: In alot of cases in can work. I know it's hard, i've been through it myself in the past few months (and my ex started seeing someone else days after we broke up!) I did what you did, sent him stupid texts and emails - mainly when i'd been drinking - ... (read in full...)
How can I repay my mom for her kindness?
Q. Hi guys, this isn't a relationship question, but i'm sure you will do your best to help me out. Ok, here goes. My mum is the most amazing person I've ever known, we have been best friends ever since Dad (her husband) died in 2001. She has always d...
A. 29 October 2010: Thanks very much guys for your answers. Yes i will be doing lots of housework and cooking over the next few weeks!!! Even offered to wash her car.....in winter!
She already knows that i'm grateful for what she has done, and thank you to everyone... (read in full...)
My wife thinks that my ejaculating inside of her will make her fat!
Q. My wife does not want me to ejaculate inside her because she thinks sperm will make her fat, even though she doesn't eats junk food all the time. We have been married 18 months and I have to pull out just before I cum or wear condoms. This has been ...
A. 28 October 2010: Sperm doesn't cause weight gain. Do some research on it and print it off and show her.
You should carry on using condoms if you don't want to get pregnant.... (read in full...)
Is there a way to proceed without flirting?
Q. I'm irredeemably serious and kind of shy. There's a girl I really like who's very outgoing and fun-loving (though I think she sometimes withdraws to just be alone for a while - not sure), and I'm just not capable of flirting. Shyness isn't ...
A. 27 October 2010: Flirting isn't just about having great chat up lines etc or necessarily just about what you say to someone. For me flirting is a smile, a lingering touch, laughing at a terrible joke!
trancedrhythmear is right though, just be yourself. To be hones... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has me confused and down lately, what do I do about this?
Q. My girlfriend and i have been dating for 2 months now and it has been going great until just a week ago. After the first month of dating she was the first one to say she loved me but it wasnt strong love yet, and that it would get stronger over ...
A. 26 October 2010: Maybe you should sit down and talk to her about this. Maybe she's feeling a little overwhelmed right now, and just needs you to look her square in the eyes and tell her that evrything is going to be alright. Encourage her to talk to you if she's ... (read in full...)
Guys! What can a girl do/wear to make your head turn?
Q. What really impresses a guy? What will grab his attention (in a good way) and make him return that attention to you? I'm asking this to use on my boyfriend for a spark, and for future reference should I ever need it. Thanks =]...
A. 26 October 2010: Confidence, confidence, confidence!! For example, walking down the street with your head held high. Men will take notice of that, and if your with your boyfriend at the time, he'll notice the attention your getting and realise that you come home to ... (read in full...)
Secretly in love with him and wanting to give him space to heal after his breakup.
Q. so, ive worked with and known this guy for 2.5 years. never worked directly with one another but would see him a few times a week. a couple of months ago i stopped working for the company and started as an independent contractor, so i still come ...
A. 25 October 2010: Still try and keep some distance from him, but maybe txt/email him and say that you're sorry they broke up, but you will be there if he needs anything (someone to talk to/shoulder to cry on etc)
Then it's down to him what he does next. but he k... (read in full...)
Two guys want to go out with me, which to choose?
Q. I'm really confused. I've just been asked out by two people. One of them I've been crushing on for a while and now i've even started dreaming about him! The other one is really nice and I've actually started to sort of fancy him. The thing is the ...
A. 23 October 2010: I say you reject this player. What he'll probably do is move on to the next girl in line. At least that way you'll be glad you never got with him because he would just be the same player, girlfriend or not!!
As for the other guy, i don't know him... (read in full...)
Husband is a big time drinker! Do I stay?
Q. My question to you is that I been with my husband for 16 years we have 3 beautiful girls together, my husband is a big time drinker and Iam not talking just about beer its hard liquor Its where my oldest daughter he hits her,and verbally abusive me ...
A. 22 October 2010: Get away from him if he hit your eldest daughter!!!! How dare he lay a hand on your child or even be verbally abusive to them!!!!!
Kick him out...........he's not willing to get any help, it'll just get worse otherwise.... (read in full...)
Help me! I don't know what to say to my boyfriend!
Q. So my boyfriend Has had sex once before and we have talked about having sex we are both 15 and he wanted me to be legal but I don't think it's fair because he wasn't and I'm ready! he says he doesn't want to pressure me and I have told him he's not ...
A. 22 October 2010: You say he's had sex before...maybe it was an awful experience for him. I think it's good that he wants to wait until you are 16, this shows that he's doing things properly, not just rushing into everything. He wants your first time to be perfect -- ... (read in full...)
Torn between my ex and his friend, who should I choose?
Q. Ok, i dont really know how to start this off so im just gonna jump in. me and my boyfriend have been going out for amost a year now. and in that year hes been to jail 10 times. I love him to death. but now he just got out the other day and ...
A. 21 October 2010: Don't date either of them!!!
Good on your sort of ex for actually trying to sort himself out, don't ruin it for him now by getting with his mate. It's so hard to watch the person you love be with somebody else...
I'm sure this 'friend' is nice... (read in full...)
I'm going to lose everything because of my stepmum... what can I do?
Q. hi am a 14 year old boy, I am so feed up with my life since my mum and dad broke up 9 years ago, i had been through the most terrible days of my life then last year ive moved with my dad and his wife meaning a step mum, bearing in mind that I am ...
A. 20 October 2010: Talk to your Dad, surely he has your best interests at heart, and wouldn't let his wife just ship you back to your grandparents. Get him alone and tell him how it makes you feel, i'm sure he'll understand.... (read in full...)
I hate him!!! How do I get even?
Q. I was with my boyfriend for 6 months and in that 6 months i got pregnant but i got so sick and was in hospital for a month and a half. i lost the baby. few months later, out of the blue he breaks up with me over facebook.. for someone else. 2 weeks ...
A. 20 October 2010: If you do something to try and hurt him, you'll only feel better about it for a little while, then you may end up feeling guilty, making you feel worse.
It's clearly not your fault that you lost your baby, and to be honest, for him to turn rou... (read in full...)
Help! Should I go out with him even though other people would take the mick?
Q. He is ugly and fat. I really like him though, Should I go out with him even though other people would take the mick? I know he likes me and has tried to kiss me before....
A. 20 October 2010: If he makes you smile and treats you like a queen, then stuff what anyone else thinks!!!!
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Can someone give me some contraception advice?
Q. Hello i am 16 and i have several questions to ask 1.) i am on the POP and it has made me feel really depressed and my period has been on for 4 of the 5 weeks i have been taking it. Also i cant bring myself to have sex anymore as it has made my confi...
A. 20 October 2010: Maybe your pill is too strong. I don't know much information on POP, but i've been on Cilest since i was 16, and it works well for me, my periods are like clock work, i know what day it arrives and also what time of day (morning, afternoon, evening) ... (read in full...)
Is it worth sending an apology letter to an ex?
Q. About 3 weeks ago, my g/f suddenly broke up with me. It was done badly - on both sides, and I posted a question about it here. We've stayed NC since our last call, but I'm starting to feel guilty about pushing her into the breakup, as I wa...
A. 19 October 2010: I agree with aunt honesty here, it would be nice for you to write to her and apologise for all the things that you did wrong. This shows that you are now looking at it from her perspective and that you have considered her thoughts and feelings, and ... (read in full...)
Help! I think my mom is cheating on my dad!!!
Q. Ever since my mom got a facebook I've had suspicions of her cheating on my Dad. I've seen her on it and she mostly talks to guys. About a month ago I was downstairs alone her phone went off, I looked ( I know I really shouldn't have) and it was all ...
A. 19 October 2010: I think you should ask her about it. Sounds like you have a right to be suspicious. This certainley doesn't sound like normal behaviour for a married woman.
What ever you do, don't mention anything to your dad. If you find out that somethin... (read in full...)
I need tips to survive a funeral
Q. Hi I appreciate you taking the time to read this. My grandmother died recently and the funeral is coming up. The thing is I'm so nervous.... I was very close to her and I'm scared I may cry uncontrollably or pass out and make a fool of myself...
A. 18 October 2010: I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad nearly 9 years ago, and i remember his funeral like it was yesterday. He was a much loved Doctor, so alot of his patients turned up to pay their respects. I remember the church being packed with people. I ... (read in full...)
Adventurous but looking for even more!
Q. I'm a straight male in a relationship and I just started using our steel dildo to stimulate my prostate during masturbation occasionally. I love it. I'm wondering if there are any other fun/kinky self-masturbation things I could try. Adventure is ...
A. 17 October 2010: Do some research online... You could always hold the vibrator against your balls...... (read in full...)
Tips from students for break up pain?
Q. Hi I am looking for tips to get through one of the worst types of Break ups...especially as i am going through my Final Year Uni in a very very tough course. I feel like I am in a nightmare and I dont know how I am going to get through this year at ...
A. 17 October 2010: Best thing you can do right now, is to focus on your studies.
Men come and go, but with Uni courses, this is your future, the key to success. If you let your studies slip, then you risk losing your chance to get the best job/future you can have... (read in full...)
What can we do about his jealousy problems stemming from his past relationships?
Q. My boyfriend's marriage ended due to his wife cheating. His next 2 girlfriends also cheated on him. Now in our relationship, I can not go out with my friends or visit my son who works as a bartender without it starting verbal fights. If I look too ...
A. 17 October 2010: He needs to see a cousellor, how dare he accuse you of things you are not doing, and how dare he go nuts if you want to go out with your friends or see your son!!!
On the positive, he has admitted he has a problem. So it's up to him (with your sup... (read in full...)
Wife wasn't happy about my marriage proposal, what can I do about it now?
Q. Hi there This is a question for men and women! I'm looking forward to get answers from both, male and female! I proposed my now-wife 1 1/2 years ago. She said yes, but was very disappointed by the way I asked. So I asked her a second time beca...
A. 17 October 2010: Vintage64: What a cracking post!!!!!! Love it!!!!!!
Your wife does sound very selfish to be honest. I know every girl dreams about the perfect proposal, but as another poster said, as long as the person i love asks me to marry him, then evrythin... (read in full...)
My girl lost her virginity two weeks ago and its the third time and she still bleeds
Q. Hello All Me and my girlfriend had sex for the first time 3 weeks ago. We didn't use protection and my girlfriend bled pretty heavily. The second time we had sex (about a week after that) she had some bleeding but it was very little. Today we...
A. 16 October 2010: If you are worried, go and see the doctor. He/she should be able to answer that question for you.... (read in full...)
I hope there is still a chance!
Q. My girlfriend for 2 years just broke up with me 2 months ago. We are both 23 years old and I can say that we were happy and so much in-love in the first 1 year and 5 months of our relationship.We rarely argue and we care so much for each other. She ...
A. 16 October 2010: To bernard: Just because she didn't want the baby, doesn't mean that she doesn't love him... There may have been other factors as to why she couldn't keep it, she may not have been mentally ready to look after a child, she may not have been ... (read in full...)
Was losing your virginity as you expected it to be?
Q. Was losing your Virginity as you expected it to be and would you change your mind if you could go back?...
A. 15 October 2010: My first time was with my first serious boyfriend. We were at a party and one of friends tried to hide in the wardrobe (he was very drunk lol)
We took it really slow and it was a great experience for both of us. I wouldn't change a thing...... (read in full...)
My family want me to forgive my dad for sexually abusing me!
Q. I was sexually abused by my father when I was little and I kept it to myself until few months ago. I told my mother and my father's sister. My mother refused to believe me which hurt me so much. My aunt sort of believed me and spoke to my mother ...
A. 13 October 2010: I think you have every right to stay angry at your 'father' for what he did to you. I think the main reason why your family are suggesting you reconcile, is because time is running out for your mother and father, and they don't want to see you alone ... (read in full...)
Because of my abusive sexual past my boyfriend is afraid of overstepping bounds
Q. Hi, so I'm having some serious issues here. I wont disclose any actual information or names, hence anonymous, but I would really appreciate some advice. I've been dating my boyfriend steadily for almost two years now. We've reached a marker...
A. 12 October 2010: He's probably scared to death that if you start talking about it, then the can of worms will open up again, you'll shut yourself of and he'll lose you. Even though you have said that you have accepted it and it's behind you, i kind of don't blame ... (read in full...)
Why do you answer to these questions?
Q. I just want to know something, why do you guys answer to these people? what do you plan to get out of it? do you think "God" will reimburse you for your efforts and "love"? do you feel better by helping others you don't know? I really don't see any ...
A. 12 October 2010: You would be surprised how many people have been through things that someone is experiencing there and then. They say 'a problem shared, is a problem halved' and there are more than enough people on here that give some excellent insight and ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend that my friend hit on me?
Q. I love my current boyfriend. He is kind and patient. We are doing well overall. We have been together for over a year. I asked my boyfriend for permission to hang out with my guyfriend for his birthday. I missed it. So I hung out with hi...
A. 11 October 2010: You just need to be honest with him. He may not like what he hears, but reassure him that you did everything in your power to stop him and that you feel awful, but you wanted to be totally honest with him.
He'll appreciate it more that you were... (read in full...)
I don't want him to use me for sex!
Q. So I just recently broke up with my boyfriend less then a week ago and I won't go into details but I know for sure its over and I feel as if I am pretty much over him. But during our relationship I was talking to a good friend of his who was helping ...
A. 10 October 2010: I don't think he'd try and use you, maybe the reason he took off so quick is because he realised that it could be a problem because his best mate is your ex.
It's nice that he was there for you when things were rough, and seeing you so vunerabl... (read in full...)
Damn boys!
Q. damn boys! i love this guy. he doest love me back but he flirts, now he saying we should have sex. what should i do? im in love with him and i realy want to. ...
A. 10 October 2010: What's the rush to have sex nowadays?? I was just 17 when i lost my virginity! None of my friends ever teased me about it, I lost my mine to someone who I loved, and they loved me too.
This guy sounds like a player, out to get as much sex as possi... (read in full...)
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