My girlfriend's behavior is manipulative, mean and controlling and I feel helpless because my pride, respect and self-esteem is being crushed..
Q. i'm not sure what it is i'm doing wrong. i've been dating my girlfriend for nearly 4 years. she's 5 years older than me but personally, i've never cared about age. gradually over the years, like many relationships, you are either good or you star...
A. 10 March 2011: Hmm, you're list of pro's didn't really pan out well. I seriously think that you have just answered your own question. YOU spend most of the cash, she only spends around 30% of the time being cute and sweet, you aren't sure of what she has done in ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's behavior is manipulative, mean and controlling and I feel helpless because my pride, respect and self-esteem is being crushed..
Q. i'm not sure what it is i'm doing wrong. i've been dating my girlfriend for nearly 4 years. she's 5 years older than me but personally, i've never cared about age. gradually over the years, like many relationships, you are either good or you star...
A. 9 March 2011: Ok, so you have managed to tell us 13 cons about being with this lady, how many pros are there?? You seriously need to weigh this up. If the cons outnumber the pros, then this lady isn't for you.
She does seem very manipulative, and you seem as ... (read in full...)
I am always horny
Q. I'm a 15 year old boy I get horny for most of the day thinking about having sex with girls. I can't help it, but i love thinking about sex and thinking about having it. I masturbate at least 4 times a day I need a girlfriend How can i try and st...
A. 8 March 2011: Go and find yourself a girlfriend then!!!! Just be very cautious of the laws for underage sex, could get you into alot of trouble.
It's normal for people of your age to be horny and think about sex most of the time, it's puberty...... (read in full...)
Why on earth did my boyfriend want to inspect my hand?? It was so weird!!
Q. I just have a quick little story and would like some opinions! I was with my boyfriend today and he asked to see my hand, I put my hand out and he said to put it up to his. So I did and watched him almost like inspect my hand. He especial...
A. 8 March 2011: Wow, i've heard some strange ways of finding out a girls ring size, but that's a new one!!! How long have you been with your bf?? Long enough to consider getting engaged??
Now, don't panic!! We could be wrong after all, he may have just been ins... (read in full...)
I pictured my life with him, how do I move on?
Q. Ok im really depress and this ant good for me cause Im 37wks pregnant by my boyfriend that I been knowing since I was 16 now im 21 im so deep in love with him but he left me 2wks ago :"( im cryn over him most of the day he dnt texts are call mei ...
A. 8 March 2011: I think he got scared at the thought of having a baby and just upped and left. This must be horrible for you, your hormones and emotions are all over the place due to being very pregnant. Unfortunately there isn't much you can do. Just focus on the ... (read in full...)
Why can't my family just let me make my own decisions, and learn from my own mistakes?
Q. I'm sick of my family and some other people i know. Some of my family once went mad at an older man i liked, who also liked me, because he had done some things in the past that they thought were bad, and i think they were mad because of the age gap ...
A. 6 March 2011: You just tell your family straight up what it is you want. Tell them to leave you to make your own decisions and potential mistakes. You're right, they can't interfere forever. Be brave and just tell them how their actions are making you feel.... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend always smell like urine?
Q. Dear All, I have a big-big problem with my boyfriend. He is an Indian, 24, and for 3 months we are living together in Germany. I love him very much, he is perfect in every way for me, but I have a big problem. Everything he is wearing smell...
A. 5 March 2011: Hmmmm, there could be a toxin that creates the smell when he sweats, but try changing your washing powder first. Other than that, maybe ask him to go and see the doctor. Tell him that you have noticed the smell and that you are only worried about ... (read in full...)
Lump under my arm sent away for tests and I'm afraid its cancer
Q. i have an lump under my armpit ! its the size of a pea !! some people told me its just a sweat gland since the weather is changin and i sweat a lot! the thing is . its not painful so i guess its not something serious , i went to see a doctor and he ...
A. 5 March 2011: It might just be a cyst that needs draining. But go and see a specialist. It could very well be cancer, but don't panic, tumors can be benign (non-cancerous) so go and see about getting it looked that, this is the only way you'll stop freaking ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble performing, but she say's I'm the best
Q. Hello, I am new to this, I had sex with my girlfriend for the first time a few nights ago but I couldn't get erect at all when I got near her Vagina but when we kissed I got hard, she gave me a blowjob and a handjob, but still couldn't get it up or ...
A. 2 March 2011: Bear in mind that you only slept together a couple of nights ago. There is plenty of time for you 2 to explore each other and find out what you both enjoy. Porn puts soooooo much pressure on people nowadays, but it's never like that in real life. ... (read in full...)
I'm fed up of feeling sorry for myself, but cant seem to forget about him! Help!
Q. This isn't a question. I am just going through a difficult patch and was wondering if anyone had any advice. I fell in love with a guy towards the end of last year (October/November time). He made it very clear that he didn't want anything se...
A. 28 February 2011: angelDelight, i like your answer. Very useful as i am also struggling to forget about someone. Maybe i should take your advice and use it in my own situation. OP, i hope you can get your head straight soon, it's never fun feeling low like this. A... (read in full...)
I'm fed up of feeling sorry for myself, but cant seem to forget about him! Help!
Q. This isn't a question. I am just going through a difficult patch and was wondering if anyone had any advice. I fell in love with a guy towards the end of last year (October/November time). He made it very clear that he didn't want anything se...
A. 28 February 2011: In theory it's easy, you just need to stop feeling so sorry for yourself. Maybe a change of routine might break you out of this rut. Shake things up a bit, the change should keep your brain actively OFF of this guy.... (read in full...)
Why are they making fun of me because I'm an 8th grader dating a 7th grader?
Q. I have a boyfriend and he's in 7th grade. I'm in 8th. All the guys talk to him and say stupid things like blink twice if she's forcing you. (They are immature) And they get me and push me into him and say "why are you raping him!!!" Then they make ...
A. 28 February 2011: They are making fun of you because they are immature, stupid and possibly jealous. Guys would love to date an 'older woman' so just ignore their stupid games. next time they physically push you, thats a form of physical bullying. These people are ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my bf's bi-curious fantasies?
Q. During sex, while talking about our sexual fantasies, my boyfriend told me the thought of sucking a man's c*** turns him on because it is "wrong" and "taboo". I brought it out by telling him I fantasize him being done by another man. He said he ...
A. 28 February 2011: I think you should just try and talk to him about it as much as possible hun, be supportive of him and tell him you are open minded and that you won't run a mile if he opens up.... (read in full...)
Baby on the way, when is the right time to.....
Q. I found out a few weeks ago that I am 12 weeks pregnant. Me and my partner are very happy, we have been together 1 1/2 years, I Know that isn't a long time but we love each other. We want to keep this baby because with his job and me working part ...
A. 27 February 2011: Your parents need to be told as soon as possible!!! Then you can choose when to tell everyone else, bear in mind you may start showing very quickly, so don't leave it too long!... (read in full...)
Am I puritan for staying a virgin at 18?
Q. I am an 18 year old girl who is a virgin. All of my friends have had sexual relations prior to turning 18. They say I am a puritan and should be having sex at my age. I think I am right in that I want to wait until I am married. Am I wrong ?...
A. 27 February 2011: No you are not wrong at all. It is your right to choose to wait until you are married.... (read in full...)
I need some good comebacks for this sleazebag!
Q. Hi! A bit of help needed. I live in a shared house with four guys and two girls. Most of the time it is really great only something happened today and I want your opinions. It concerns one of the guys. When I first moved in he was overly friendly ...
A. 27 February 2011: There are endless ways to get this guy back. Put up poster around your area with his picture on saying he is a perve and should be avoided, little pranks like i have previously mentioned.
However, sit down with your housemates and discuss what you... (read in full...)
I don't want to tell my friend that I wet the bed at their house!
Q. This is so embarrassing but I need to find out and didn't know where else to ask. Last night, after a night out, I slept at a friends house in their bed. They took the couch. When I woke in the middle of the night, I'd wet the bed. I was mo...
A. 27 February 2011: Also in future, try not to drink so much. Alternate soft and alcoholic drinks throughout the night, means you'll be less drunk. And make sure you go to the loo before going to bed.
The last guy i was with, he wet the bed twice in the space of... (read in full...)
I need some good comebacks for this sleazebag!
Q. Hi! A bit of help needed. I live in a shared house with four guys and two girls. Most of the time it is really great only something happened today and I want your opinions. It concerns one of the guys. When I first moved in he was overly friendly ...
A. 27 February 2011: Put itching powder in his underpants, or ink in his shampoo/showergel. None of this will probably help, but it's a great way to get revenge!!!... (read in full...)
I don't want to tell my friend that I wet the bed at their house!
Q. This is so embarrassing but I need to find out and didn't know where else to ask. Last night, after a night out, I slept at a friends house in their bed. They took the couch. When I woke in the middle of the night, I'd wet the bed. I was mo...
A. 27 February 2011: How did you wet the bed? Had you had too much to drink? This has happened to me before and yes it's embarrassing, but you have to own up to it. True friends will understand and will be grateful that you mentioned it. These things happen hun, we've ... (read in full...)
I have a noticeable mustache, I wear glasses, I'm overweight, and I've been told I look like a man and that I'm ugly. Please help!
Q. Hi well I’m 14 going on 15 and I’m very insecure I’ve always been overweight but not that much overweight. I’m 165 pounds I gained 30+ pounds in a year. I’ve been trying to lose but no success. I’m also very much unattractive. I feel very much use...
A. 27 February 2011: Just to point out on what chigirl said about the hair on your top lip, whatever you do, DON'T shave it!!! It'll just grow back thicker and darker, like a mans beard!!! Waxing can be painful, and if it needs doing often, can be pretty costly ... (read in full...)
I am so hurt.... I really feel dead inside!
Q. So I posted another question and it's about how me and my ex have been broke up a month and my ex that I haven't heard from in a month had his guy friend that I do not know anything about and he doesn't know me send me a text message.He said that my ...
A. 27 February 2011: Hmmmmmm, maybe your ex was trying to make you jealous perhaps? But at the end of the day, we aren't mind readers and we don't know what he was truly thinking. The only way you'll find out for sure is to ask your ex why he was being so rude to you ... (read in full...)
Is age just a number?? I like him but he is younger than me!!
Q. Is it wierd to fall for a guy that iss 3 years younger then you, cuz i think i have but we really dont care about age , but what i am asking is is it wierd to fall for a guy 3 years younger?...
A. 27 February 2011: No hun, my last boyfriend was 4 years younger than me, and we were together for 3 and a half years! If you like each other, then age doesn't matter. All the best!!... (read in full...)
Taking the contraceptive pill and my periods have changed... is this normal??
Q. started taking the pill as directed from the first day of my period. i'm taking it at the same time everyday, but it seems to have affected my period. my period came properly and heavily for 4 days, then lightened off and almost disappeared for 2 ...
A. 27 February 2011: Sounds pretty normal to me. I've been on the pill for a LONG time now (i'm talking 10 years) and i can predict my period down to the time of day (morning, afternoon, night)!!!
But like you, i have 4 days of flow, then it seems to stop for a day, t... (read in full...)
Bra size.... how do I measure myself for correct sizing??
Q. how can i measure myself to make sure i am wearing the crrect bra size?...
A. 27 February 2011: Go to your nearest Marks and Spencers lingerie section and ask one of the staff there to measure you. Wear the most comfortable bra that you have when you go.
All the fitters are female, and you leave your bra on when getting measure, so there's ... (read in full...)
I need some good comebacks for this sleazebag!
Q. Hi! A bit of help needed. I live in a shared house with four guys and two girls. Most of the time it is really great only something happened today and I want your opinions. It concerns one of the guys. When I first moved in he was overly friendly ...
A. 27 February 2011: I don't know how accurate this this, and whether or not the message will get across, but next time he touches you tell him 'sick tear git' (i think that's the correct pronunciation!) Basically it means F*** Off in turkish!!!
If he understo... (read in full...)
I'm moving in with my boyfriend soon. How can I break the news to my parents? Advice needed!
Q. I've got a bit of a problem regarding moving in with my boyfriend. It's not that I'm having doubts about doing it, but that I daren't tell my parents. I'm 21 and have been with him for just over a year and he currently lives with a friend who is ...
A. 26 February 2011: Unfortunately it's just one of those things that has to be done. You just need to tell them straight up. They can't stop you moving out, but they need to know all the same. I'm sure they will be supportive and appreciate the fact that you have sat ... (read in full...)
Three significant relationships have all ended due to circumstance. Is it my fault?
Q. Is it true that women just want bad guys? I'm a good natured guy, and whenever I'm in a relationship with someone I will do anything to try and keep them happy and show them I care. Unfortunately I've just gone through my 3rd break up from a signif...
A. 26 February 2011: Maybe it is just circumstantial... You seem to be a very caring and genuine guy all round, so don't go changing yourself to find a different sort of girl. You will eventually find a girl who appreciates and loves you exactly the way you are.
Uni c... (read in full...)
My Mum is coming between my first love and me!!
Q. Ok so i'm 15 in yr 10 goin' on to work experience etc and my friends who don't go to my school (they go to a grammar one) have a friend who's in yr 11 (just turned 16) and when i met him he was really nice and fun to talk to. Then one night (l...
A. 25 February 2011: I can see your mums point on this, she just wants you to do well in your exams and wants you to stay safe, but at the same time, she can't run you're life forever. As you say, you're in year 10 now, even though you are only young you seem to be ... (read in full...)
I love him , but why do I feel so unsure of this relationship? Help!
Q. I am a 21 yr old young woman, I have been seeing this guy for more than four years and we had our ups and downs. I love him. I have tried to change myself and be with other men but I couldn't find the relief and the peace I feel when I am with him. ...
A. 25 February 2011: You need to talk to him about this sweetie. We don't know your full situation and the only way you'll get to the bottom of it is by discussing it with him.
All the best, i hope you can work things out :)... (read in full...)
Should I go to my friend's birthday party even if my ex is invited?
Q. so one of my friends Birthday is today and his girlfriend and I planed out a surprise Birthday party at a restaurant, the problem is that he made friends with my ex and she invited him. Honestly I cant stand my ex because he talked a lot of ugly ...
A. 25 February 2011: Yes i think you and your fiance should still go. Be civil with your ex though. He'll more than likely be on his best behaviour and don't make any attempt to drag the past up.
You've put all that work in to planning this surprise for your friend, ... (read in full...)
What are the laws regarding underage sex in the USA?
Q. What are the (United States') laws on underage sex? Thanks!...
A. 25 February 2011: Why don't you look them up yourself?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's Mum keeps inviting his Ex round to the house!!!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months now (seeing him for 6) and everything was great at first. Also, I got on well with his Mum. Not long after we got together, his Mum's Grandma died (my boyfriends great grandma) and I missed an import...
A. 24 February 2011: Talk to your boyfriend about this, surely he can talk to him mum about not having the ex round anymore as it's upsetting you.... (read in full...)
Should I meet up with my birth mother?
Q. hello i am 15 and i have been adopted sence i was 2 becoz my mum could not look after me and she did not know my dad or my brothers dad and my brother so my nan and grandad decided to adopted us. my mum used to come a visit me and my brother every ...
A. 22 February 2011: Is there no-one else you can talk to about this??... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a man gives you a drawer?
Q. I have a man I'm seeing long distance. We started this relationship in early November We are two hours apart... we email and talk on the phone a few times a week... I go to visit him since he cannot be around my dogs. I have been up to see h...
A. 22 February 2011: Maybe he just wants you to leave some stuff at his place, so that when you do go and visit, you're not lugging around a massive bag of stuff.
I did this once, had some clothes and toiletries at an ex's, so if i ever stayed the night, i had fres... (read in full...)
I keep cheating on my partner with my ex! I know I am hurting others and myself, so how do I stop this?
Q. My ex and I had a baby, she is 2 now. We really never got along, but when we did it was great. About when my daughter was one there were more problems between us- just trying to get situated with all the changes. I ended up sleeping with a guy from ...
A. 22 February 2011: This won't have an easy solution, your ex will always have to be involved in your life as you had a child together, and your new man needs to realise this.
But you must stop cheating!! It's not fair on either bloke, you know you're hurting ... (read in full...)
Should I meet up with my birth mother?
Q. hello i am 15 and i have been adopted sence i was 2 becoz my mum could not look after me and she did not know my dad or my brothers dad and my brother so my nan and grandad decided to adopted us. my mum used to come a visit me and my brother every ...
A. 22 February 2011: I strongly suggest that you talk to your grandparents about this. They know you as a person and i'm sure that they will give you the best advice they can. You may regret meeting your birth mother, but then again you may not. Its a tough choice, but ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend says she can't perform oral sex because she has a sore throat! For 12 months???
Q. Hi - I have been with my girlfriend for about 2 yrs. However, during foreplay (or anytime) she will not perform oral sex on me. She has done on a handful of occasions in the past, and I perform oral sex on her regularly because she enjoys it, just ...
A. 22 February 2011: Maybe she is scared that she wont be good at it, or maybe she's just the sort of person who doesnt really like giving oral. Try not to push the subject too much, there are other ways of pleasing people... (read in full...)
My wife cheated on me 2 days ago, would you agree?
Q. It hurts so much to write this right now. I never imagined being even remotely close to cheated on but from the investigating I've done, the mere thought appears to be the inevitable... I've been with my wife for 9 years. She's 26 and I'm 30. ...
A. 21 February 2011: It does sound very suspicious, and you do have your head screwed on about things, good for you!
The healing will take time, and i love the fact that you are willing to be friendly and civil whilst your son gets to spend time with both of you.
... (read in full...)
If my hymen is already broken, does that guarantee my 'first time' will not hurt?
Q. if my hymen is already broken, will sex hurt for the first time? i used to horse ride when i was younger, i have been using tampons for 2 years and my boyfriend has fingered me a few times so i am pretty sure it's broken. does this mean sex won't b...
A. 21 February 2011: You'd be surprised how strong and flexible your hymen actually is. Like you i used to horse ride, used tampons and had been experimenting before actually having sex, but it still hurt when i did lose my virginity.
I bled a little too, but try not ... (read in full...)
Want to be friends with my ex, on my terms
Q. Heyyy theres this guy i used to have a thing with until i found out he was using me so i had a massive arguement with him ! He has stopped talking to me now but we have the same friendship group and would like it if we could be friends even if ...
A. 21 February 2011: Wait, you want him to be your friend again, but you don't want to talk to him because it upsets you?? Isn't that kind of impossible??
Maybe you should just tell him that you would like to civil with him from now on if you are in each others c... (read in full...)
The way she treated me while working out her issues has really taken a toll on the relationship
Q. Alright, so yeah I'm 15, if you're not going to take this seriously because of my age I'd suggest you just flat out don't read this. So I've been dating my girlfriend for coming up on 15 months now, awesome, but not really. I met the girl and we ...
A. 21 February 2011: Hmmmmmm, my suggestion was going to be to talk things through with her, but it seems that you have done that already and are sick of doing it.
So, i don't know how you would feel about doing this...
Buy 2 chinese lanterns from the internet (yo... (read in full...)
Why am I having all these low feelings about my ex when I was fine for a few weeks?
Q. I need some advice. I split wth my boyfriend 3 months ago, he ended it a really horrible way when i arrived back from a week away on business. anyway - what's with me, i thought i was fine, but now all of a sudden i can't get him out my mind, i find ...
A. 20 February 2011: Sweetie, i feel your pain. I've been feeling this way for 9 months now. Some days are better than others, but you do need to grieve. I still have grieving left to do, and i don't think i'm gonna be over my ex anytime soon. But i'm doing my best to ... (read in full...)
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