It bothers him if I hang out with my friends, but he hangs with his
Q. Lately i have been feeling like i am more "Go with the flow" when it comes to my boyfriend doing the things he wants to do. I feel that i am restricted to doing only the things he feels is alright for me to do. Since i was little i'd always been ...
A. 19 September 2010: You're right, it's not fair. Ask him why he soesn't like you hanging out with your friends. My feeling is that either he doesn't trust you around other guys, or he doesn't trust other guys around you. Either way, he needs to know that you would ... (read in full...)
Did I make a mistake with this conversation with my ex?
Q. my ex and i have been talking on and off for a year..he knows i want to get back and i think eventually we might actually see each other..i called over a week ago and asked if he wanted to talk more often and maybe get together soon and he said he ...
A. 19 September 2010: I don't think you have made a mistake at all. You and your ex were just talking about different things. To me it's nice that he was asking about your family and how they were doing. It's clear he still cares enough to ask how certain people are ... (read in full...)
Mom breaking into our phone conversation made things weird with me and ex
Q. i was talking to an ex on the phone who i am trying to get back with. I have no privacy at home and i am in my mid twenties so you can imagine how horrible that is. My mother must have known i was on the phone and knocks and i knock back givin...
A. 19 September 2010: Just be honest with him, tell him you weren't sure what was going on and your mum was trying to call you aswell, so if he heard anything that confused him then it was probably you talking to your mum.
He'll probably just laugh and say 'ok then' Ha... (read in full...)
Pain in stomach after pleasuring???
Q. Hey I'm abit embarrassed to ask my friends this question because it is a bit personal so i have decided to ask you lot. Well i am in a wierd relationship with someone and been feeling very horny over him. Due to this i have been pleasuring mysel...
A. 19 September 2010: How long do these pains last? A few hours? Days? If you're really worried, maybe go and see your doctor. Also, try cutting down on 'pleasuring yourself' aswell, i know you said he really excites you, but it might help if you cut it down.... (read in full...)
Losing weight...
Q. This isn't a relationship problem but I really need some advice, please! It's about my weight. I was absolutely disgusted with my appearance and determined to lose some weight, so I signed up for a gym. I've been faithful to the gym and I've see...
A. 19 September 2010: You can still do everything you do in the gym at home. If you run for 30mins on the treadmill, do a 30min run round the block, if you do 10 mins on the stepper, run up and down stairs for 10mins. If you use dumbells, find other things around your ... (read in full...)
How to get my virgin girlfriend to have sex with me?
Q. Dear Readers, I would like to have some advise on how to convinced my girlfriend to have a sexual intercourse with me... Since she is still a virgin, it is extremely complicated to convinced her.. She always tells me to wait and wait and wait......
A. 19 September 2010: You can't change someone's mind, you can't control how people think. If she wants to wait, then you have to wait until she's ready.
If you truly love your girlfriend you will respect her wishes and will wait for her to be ready. Try finding ... (read in full...)
How can I make this relationship work?
Q. Dear Cupid, im only 16 and i've had 4 boyfriends so far. Moct of them ended up breaking my heart so i decided to stay single for junior year. But me and my neighbor have been really close this summer and still to this day. He asked me to be his ...
A. 17 September 2010: There is only one thing you can do, just be yourself!! If you have been close to your neighbour for a while, then your relationship should blossom!... (read in full...)
How do you mend a broken heart?
Q. It's the age old question really. I guess many people have come on here to ask for help regarding this but hi everyone. How do you mend a broken heart? My boyfriend of two years and I split last week and well... I'm really not coping well I gu...
A. 16 September 2010: Find a hobby that you would quite like to do, learn to play an instrument, or even a new language. It's a great way to meet and make new friends and you'll be doing something that you actually want to to.
My heart is broken right now, i've jus... (read in full...)
Help!!! What does it mean when a guy "blows hot and cold" towards you?
Q. One minute hes soo sweet, considerate and perfect gives you all his attention and then hes a total idiot who doesn't care if you exist. why would he behave like that?? thnx..xx...
A. 16 September 2010: My ex is exactly like that, even now after we've split!!
Maybe he is going through something stressful during the times that he is 'cold' with you? Or maybe he's insecure and thinks that everything is going 'too well' and sabotages it to see if y... (read in full...)
21st birthday ideas?
Q. Hi.. I'm in need of help.. 21st birthday party?? I'm not sure how I should go about planning the only birthday party I have ever and will ever have.. Its a big day.. I did try and look for items on the net but there is not enough that gets my ...
A. 15 September 2010: Have a theme party! The theme could be anything. For example: 1. Traffic light party - if you wear red you are unavailable, amber/orange you're sort of looking for someone, green means you are available. 2. Colours - everyone has to wear bl... (read in full...)
Disturbing boy in my class
Q. There is a guy in my class who iz always rubbing me.!!!! Rubbing my back legs chest hips butt and trys for my other part also. He trys to put my hand in his pants. He acutualy one stuck his hand down his pants then when I was not paying attentio...
A. 15 September 2010: You need to tell someone about this, it is totally unacceptable for anyone to put their hands down their pants and then wipe their hands on someone else!!!
Ask to speak to the principal in confidence, this way it will be kept private.
You sho... (read in full...)
How can you stop yourself from getting too jealous?
Q. Hey how can you stop yourself from geting too jelous? My bf has alot of female friends that parts ok, the problem is the ones that have a crush on him or messed around with him in the past (hes friends with hes ex's). I get jelous/mad/upset just ...
A. 14 September 2010: Sounds like your bf is a bit of a player!
You have every right to be jealous, no girlfriend should have to sit and watch her bf hang out/text other girls! He should be devoted to you.
You need to tell him how much it upsets you just at the ment... (read in full...)
What will happen to my hair if I dye it again?
Q. I got my hair dyed and highlighted a few days ago and my highlights turned orange-ish red instead of blonde, probably because the rest of it was dyed medium brown and so dark. Well I hate it, every time I look at it I hate it even more. I ...
A. 14 September 2010: Try a toner. My hair is naturally dark and when i last had highlights done the hair dresser warned me that they may not turn out totally blonde, but she would put a toner on to try and get rid of the reddy/orangey colour. before she put the toner ... (read in full...)
How can I spice up the sex life?
Q. So i dont like giving head because my gag reflexs work like crazy and itsends me into a gagging fit. What are some things i can do to spice up the sex life without that. Also im not very expierenced im 20 and just started having sex 2 years ago and ...
A. 14 September 2010: wrap your entire hand around the shaft (like your holding a microphone) and keep your lips against the top of your hand. Move your head and hand together gripping firmly (but not too tight!) This gives the illusion of deep throating, without the gag ... (read in full...)
How do I prove that I'm willing to change?
Q. My ex and I were together for almost 3 and a half years. We'd always had problems during the relationship, which lead to us being on and off quite alot. But in the end we always got back together. Back in June, we broke up, and days later he starts ...
A. 13 September 2010: So, I have a little update for you...
I have been trying my best to be as honest as i can with my ex at all times, but now i feel like he's starting to slip away even further. I hate thinking i'm going to lose him and i don't know if what i am doi... (read in full...)
Should I call her?
Q. We were in love for 10 months and we were so happy together, the problem was that i hardly got to see her so we wud spend most our time on the phone or i.m-ing each other. then one day she just started ignoring me, she wouldnt answer my calls or ...
A. 13 September 2010: Yes, call her and tell her you love her and that you want to be with her. If she doesn't feel the same way then move on.
Sometimes we have to put our hearts on the line for those we love...... (read in full...)
I want to tell him it's over for good... but how!!!
Q. I hate my boyfriend, he a controlling manipulative SOB ad i just can't stand him anymore, i tried to break up with him 12 times in the last month and nothing worked! i even told that i cheated before 3 days and he still doesn't want to let me go. h...
A. 13 September 2010: Just tell him that you can't be with him anymore. If you can get hold of these pictures you say he has of you, then delete/destroy them.
There is no point in continuing in a relationship if you're not happy. Bite the bullet, tell him it's over, an... (read in full...)
How do I know if shes the right one for me?
Q. Im the type of guy who isn't in contact with alot of people. Its not something i wake up and try to accomplish. I tend to focus on things which dont seem important to most people. Being like this in my nature i dont come across many women, and when ...
A. 13 September 2010: Hmmmmm, tough one. I think you just know if you have found the right person for you, you find yourself doing things you wouldn't normally do, you find yourself sacrificing things for the other person, and they do the same for you aswell. Take it ... (read in full...)
I don't want to eat but I have to. How to lose weight?
Q. I want to lose weight. I exercise every day but I eat a lot. I don't want to eat but I just have to. I don't know what to do! Help!...
A. 13 September 2010: Eat little, and often. To be honest i'm not the best person to reply as i've never had issues with weight, but i'm sure there are plenty of others on here who could advise you better.
My mum is on a diet right now, not sure if you have this in ... (read in full...)
Hurting mentally and emotionally in Ohio
Q. I am sorry to say this, but, I am so glad there are others going through this and I'm not alone. My bf of 2 years is really bad into the porn all he wants to do is look at masturbation and not touch me, it hurts so much I cant even think straight, I ...
A. 13 September 2010: I'll tell you what will make you feel better.......being nowhere near this sorry excuse for a boyfriend!!!!
You are not being treated right at all, what gives him the right to smash your confidence like that???? So, here's what you are going to... (read in full...)
I have hair in places that I don't want it!
Q. um well this is awkward but i've been getting ALOT of hair in places it shouldnt be and where it should be but theres alot of it. i use nair, veet, or i shave but it grows back the next daay. Is there anyway i can get rid of it or when i shave it or ...
A. 12 September 2010: It depends on where this hair is growing...
A pricey (but effective) treatment is electrolysis - where an electrical pulse is sent through the hair, killing the folical, meaning that the hair won't grow back.
As i said it's pricey though. Y... (read in full...)
Girlfriend got some single guys number at the bar
Q. Is it ok for my girlfriend to get some single dudes phone number at a bar? My GF went out with her single girlfriend last night an they were approached by two single guys. Apparently, these guys sat there and hung out with them until close. My...
A. 12 September 2010: If i were you, i would just ask her to delete this guys number and move on from it... (read in full...)
What can I do to surprise him??
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months and I wanted to give him a surprize on our 7th month anniversary. But I am a boring person was wondering what should I do to give him a pleasant surprize. Really wish to do something nice for him? ...
A. 12 September 2010: Treasure hunt???? That would be awesome if someone did that for me!!!! Get him a card or present as the 'treasure'
Or cook him dinner maybe? there are loads of nice things u can do for him. Do some research on the web... (read in full...)
Took pill, got sick, now pregnant?
Q. I'm worried im pregnant,made love a few times this month,was a day behind with my pill so last day took was weds rather than tues usually i get period on the friday but havent had it yet. the night after i had sex i went out got drunk and threw ...
A. 11 September 2010: It may well depend on your brand of pill. Read through the information leaflet that comes with them. For example, my contraceptive pill says that if you vomit within 3 hours of taking it, then extra precautions should be used for at least 7 days.
... (read in full...)
Whilst I was on holiday a random boy tried to split me and my boyfriend up. I'm so angry.
Q. Hey everyone some adivce would be greatly appreciated. Im 18 and my boyfriends 19, ive been with him for a year and a half, im going to say i would like to think where the perfect match and that we will be together for a very long time, but these ...
A. 11 September 2010: You need to forget about this incident hun. Not so long ago someone told my ex boyfriend that i had been getting sh^gged above a chippy, by all it's employees!!! Vicious rumours that weren't true, and i stood my ground as i know i did nothing ... (read in full...)
How do I change where we are in our relationship right now and how do I make things better?
Q. I have been dating a man for almost 2 years now. I am 20 years old and he is 30. He is one of the most serious relationships ive been in. i dated in school but nothing serious and i wasnt sexually active with any of them. And then when i graduated i ...
A. 10 September 2010: Woah, wait a minute.... He's hit you, busted your nose, choked you, kicked you into a closet, lied, more than likely cheated, given you drugs, threatened you and even pulled a gun on you???????
This is not a relationship, this is verbal, emotiona... (read in full...)
He left me for his old g/f he found on facebook, so why is he acting this way now?
Q. Ive been with my husband for 8 yrs... All of a sudden he found an old GF on Facebook... He talked to her 2 weeks and decided to ddrop everything for her, he says things are going good for them and they get along good.. house and all. It has been a ...
A. 10 September 2010: He left you for his old GF, my advice is to change your phone number, and get on with your life.
I know it can be hard, after all he was your husband, but you deserve someone who won't run off with someone else.
xx... (read in full...)
Will we ever work? Why wont he work hard for something we both want, instead of bailing?
Q. I really need help. Im struggling from moving on from my first love even though in my brain i know i will find someone else, and that we have too much going against us. im sorry this is long, but im looking for answers from men out there who have ...
A. 10 September 2010: Our relationship was very on and off. It seemed like everything would be great for a couple of weeks, then all of a sudden it would go horribly wrong for the next 2 weeks, then it would be great again.
Very frustrating, but i stuck with him, and... (read in full...)
An ex of my husband wont leave us alone on facebook
Q. Hi, my husband and I have been married for about 3 months now. and he just recently got a FB account. about 2 weeks ago his ex (with her 4 years were engaged) friend requested him as well as all of his other close friends. so it annoyed me she ...
A. 9 September 2010: I think you should both block her, that way she can't find either of you on facebook, not even through mutual friends.
Problem solved!!!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is giving me mixed signals, but he says he loves me!
Q. I have been dating this guy for almost a year. We have been going out for drives and movies but he has never tried to kiss me or hold my hand till about 2 months back. Last month we made love for the first time. He says it was the first time for ...
A. 9 September 2010: You need to ask him if he likes you or not. If he stalls, says 'ermmmmm' or says 'I don't know', then you need to let him go.
Of course if he does say that he likes you, then you need to tell him that you don't feel like you're a part of this rel... (read in full...)
Will we ever work? Why wont he work hard for something we both want, instead of bailing?
Q. I really need help. Im struggling from moving on from my first love even though in my brain i know i will find someone else, and that we have too much going against us. im sorry this is long, but im looking for answers from men out there who have ...
A. 9 September 2010: Hmm, this sounds fairly familiar to my ex...
Even tho my ex and i broke up, I always maintained that I would always be there for him if he needed anything (that's just my caring nature) My ex used to close of and shut me out all the time, and just... (read in full...)
How do I tell mom that I want to be on birth control?
Q. I'm 15 and I want to go on birth control, but I just don't know how to tell my mother. I want to be straight up with her but I'm scared that she will think I'm actually having sex when I'm not. I just want to be sure there aren't going to be any ...
A. 7 September 2010: If i were you, i would just tell her. I assume you will be 16 soon, and then may start to think about having sex.
If i had a daughter who said it to me, i'd be relieved that she had her head screwed on enough to at least go on birth control ... (read in full...)
I want to fix things but don't know how to approach my ex
Q. My bf and I broke up 3 weeks ago. I guess he wanted it more than I did so you can say he broke up with me. It wasnt a bad break up but we were together for 2 years! I have been doing fine without him except these past couple of days have been really ...
A. 6 September 2010: Hi there.
This is a tough one, if i were you i would just drop him an email explaining that you would like to spend some time talking with him to see if you can fix the problems in your relationship.
Explain that you miss his company, and tha... (read in full...)
Birth Control and Period
Q. I just recently started taking birth control about a couple weeks ago I started my pills the first day of my period as the doctor told me. It's been over 2 weeks now and I am still bleeding is this normal? ...
A. 5 September 2010: Get back to the doctor....
It may just be your body adjusting to the hormones in the birth control pills, but if you're worried, go back and see your doctor.... (read in full...)
I don't know how to trust but I really want to!
Q. I've been with a girl for a while now, and we got back together a few days ago after a fight that split us up. The reason we broke up in the first place is because I have extreme trust issues, and I get paranoid and my imagination goes wild. I start ...
A. 5 September 2010: I'm going to suggest one thing, and one thing only...
Sit her down, and read your post on here to her... Talk things through together, like adults.... (read in full...)
How can I stem this flow of rumours that's going about?
Q. ok, so my ex ended things in may, and since then ive got together with a girl i really like, my ex used to lie about a lot of things, like being stalked, or boys going for her in school ect, but i was able to deal with it, because i felt like if i ...
A. 5 September 2010: Hey there,
Your ex sounds like a serial liar, and as long as you know yourself that nothing she has ever said happened, then you have nothing to worry about.
She can shout her mouth off all she wants, she's only doing to it for attention. You k... (read in full...)
Help! How can I let him know that I care so that he will understand?
Q. My boyfriend has brought up some complaints a few times over the course of our relationship, and though I feel like I have been making an effort, he still complains about the same things. (I think it is justified, however). I am not demonstrativ...
A. 5 September 2010: Wow, you already said you have very low self esteem anyway, maybe you should start working on that, once you start feeling more comfortable about yourself, you can start to relax more with your boyfriend. Start by making yourself look amazing, ge... (read in full...)
How do I prove that I'm willing to change?
Q. My ex and I were together for almost 3 and a half years. We'd always had problems during the relationship, which lead to us being on and off quite alot. But in the end we always got back together. Back in June, we broke up, and days later he starts ...
A. 5 September 2010: Thank you all for your replies so far.
Some varied opinions, which is useful to have. But most of you are right, i just need to keep being totally honest about every little thing that happens. If a friend of his txts or speaks to me on facebook... (read in full...)
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