Why am I having all these low feelings about my ex when I was fine for a few weeks?
Q. I need some advice. I split wth my boyfriend 3 months ago, he ended it a really horrible way when i arrived back from a week away on business. anyway - what's with me, i thought i was fine, but now all of a sudden i can't get him out my mind, i find ...
A. 20 February 2011: Sweetie, i feel your pain. I've been feeling this way for 9 months now. Some days are better than others, but you do need to grieve. I still have grieving left to do, and i don't think i'm gonna be over my ex anytime soon. But i'm doing my best to ... (read in full...)
My parents never stop fighting...
Q. Hi i just need to tell this to someone. It is about my parents they are always fighting. Actually my dad always starts first to yell at my mom and it is always becouse of my grandmother(my fathers's mother)She and my mum are like cat and dog. They ...
A. 20 February 2011: if i were in your shoes, i would go down and give the lot of them a damn good earful!!!
How dare they raise their voices, threaten each other, force their kids to take sides etc. This is ultimately going to end up really badly if the worst sh... (read in full...)
I'm 31, and I don't want a girlfriend right now. Why do others give me a hard time about this?
Q. Hi everyone. I am back and I've got a really important question. I guess all questions on this forum are important. It hasn't happened for a few months, which is good, but sometimes people insult me when I say I don't want a girlfriend. They either ...
A. 20 February 2011: These people have no right sticking their noses in. Next time one insults you, tell them to get stuffed, and to remove their rather large noses from your business.
If you are happy being single, then that's fine. As long as you are happy.
... (read in full...)
First crushes...Any stories to share?
Q. Have you ever told your crush that you like him or her? How old were you? What was their repsonse? Well for me I have a crush on this boy for 2 years+ but I'm just to shy and i'm just to scareed to do it, and then I think what would happen if he ...
A. 20 February 2011: I had a major crush on a guy in my year for 5 long years. During that time he had other girlfriends and stuff, but i never really had any classes with him, but he was part of my circle of friends.
So, ALL of my friends knew that i liked him, and... (read in full...)
Is this real, or am I hallucinating?
Q. This may be the strangest question in terms of love, but I really would like help! I've gone to my parents, to the counselor, and even my neighbor. They don't believe me! Okay, so let me set the scene; I'm 15, as it should already say on the post. ...
A. 19 February 2011: i agree with the walking dude, go and see a medium. Your situation may seem strange, but i find it fascinating!!! Would love to hear what the medium says to you. Let us know!!!... (read in full...)
Is it weird for a male teacher to call you hunny?
Q. Is it weird for a male teacher whos like 30 to call a 14 female hunny? Cause today in class i went up to him privately and asked him if i could redo a quiz and he was like whats that hunny? and he kinda tends to flirt sometimes... but i dont know if ...
A. 19 February 2011: Teachers have to be very careful about how they address children nowadays, all these little words, like sweetheart, sport, hunny etc etc can be dangerous and some may even find them offensive.
To be honest i think it was just a slip of the tong... (read in full...)
Is a cheater always a cheater?
Q. do u think once a cheater is always a cheater? thanks for ur comments in advance....
A. 18 February 2011: No, when i was younger i used to cheat on my boyfriends. Then one day i met an amazing guy, and i suddenly thought to myself 'im not gonna screw this one up' and i never cheated again.
So i agree with Vintage, i think can change if they want to.... (read in full...)
I love him but I hate his guts!
Q. My ex-boyfriend damaged me. I have not moved on. I cried day in and day out behind the dirty way he dumped with a phone call at two in the morning telling me we were over and that he had moved in with his ex that previous day. There's no need to ...
A. 18 February 2011: The worst thing you can do to him, is ignore him - totally. Change your phone number if you have to.
You may be coming up with all sorts of ideas to get revenge, but don't. He expects 14 months of you suffering to be made right with a bunch of... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of dreaded stretch marks???
Q. hi everyone okay lets get to the point I'm 11 stone 11lbs Im not particularly fat i don't look 'massive' i just look a bit Podgey but!.. i am covered in stretch marks i have them from the top of my thighs to just underneath the back of my calves i ...
A. 18 February 2011: Have you ever heard of a product called Bio Oil??? You can buy it in the UK and is supposed to be very good for reducing the appearance of scars and stretch marks.
All you do is massage it into the areas where your stretch marks are using a circul... (read in full...)
Friends taking the piss?
Q. My friends always take the piss when one of us gets a gf, no matter who she is. What can I do to stop or deal with this?...
A. 18 February 2011: The one who has the gf should tell everyone else to get a grip coz they're jealous!!... (read in full...)
I think his plan is crazy. What do YOU think?
Q. i have another problem my mate wants to undergo this plan but i don't know what to do. the plan is for him to go out with my girlfriend for a day and if she likes it they go out and she dumps me but if not it stays the same as it was help, what ...
A. 18 February 2011: Why is he planning to go out with your gf? Whose idea was it? To be honest, i wouldn't stand for this...... (read in full...)
Help me get my self esteem back...
Q. I have a problem that's been irritating me. I never feel I'm beautiful. My friends keep telling me that I'm pretty and even a lot of guys have been interested in me and said I'm attractive but I've never felt that way. I know it's lack of ...
A. 18 February 2011: Here's what you are going to do...
1. Have a nice soak in the bath, wash your hair, shave your legs and exfoliate. Moisturise once out of the bath.
2. Invite the girls round, tell them to bring make up, hair stuff (curling irons/straighten... (read in full...)
Boyfriend listening to his dad and now saying our baby isn't his!
Q. So i'm 17, my bf is 18 we've been together for since we were in middle school, I was 12 he was 13 to be exact. Anyway, we have a 7 month old baby girl! So a few days ago my bf's dad was talking with my bf and brought up our daughter and said tha...
A. 17 February 2011: If you haven't been with either his brother or his best friend then go and get the test! Your bf will be very embarrassed when he see's that your little girl is infact his!!!
Your daughter may take after you more than she does him, how rude of ... (read in full...)
I'm 16, in love with my 25-year-old teacher! What do I do?
Q. Hey This is something i have really struggled with for the past few months. I think I am in love with my 25 year old female teacher. I am a guy and I am 16, 17 this year. If I dont talk to her, then I feel terrible that day; if i make he...
A. 17 February 2011: Think about this: Any teacher who is caught having a relationship with a minor (an under 18) is tried and ends up on the sex offenders register. All that time, effort and money put into building a career teaching is gone, taken away from them. As ... (read in full...)
I want him to like me, not her!
Q. I thought my guy friend liked me and i really like him but it turns out he likes someone else and is going out with her, How do i get him to like me instead? And also, since im his friend, he talks about her all the time and asks me for advice, how ...
A. 17 February 2011: If you are really uncomfortable with him talking to you about him and his gf, then just ask him to not talk about it. If he asks why, be honest with him, tell him it's because you have developed feelings for him, and that you wouldn't be able to ... (read in full...)
In the heat of an argument I slapped him!
Q. Okay so I posted a question earlier...It was a long story so I will make it short. I have been with a guy for six months, we are sooo into each other although there have been some issues. Valentines day didn't turn it good at all, it was terrible...
A. 17 February 2011: I think you got a VERY lucky break!!! Memo to self; don't slap him again, no matter how angry you are!... (read in full...)
Should I admit to snooping on my boyfriend's facebook? Or keep lying until he confesses?
Q. I have a big problem. I snooped in my bf's facebook, as i know his password e.t.c, and i saw some chat boxes come up saying the names of some girls that we have argued over before. when i clicked on the boxes, there wasnt any text there, but i'm ...
A. 16 February 2011: Tell him, then ask him to tell you the truth, seeing as you did it for him. If he continues to lie after you telling him the truth then he clearly isn't trustworthy, but give him a chance to explain...... (read in full...)
How can I tell my mom that I'm sexual active and may have herpes?
Q. For all the mother on this please help! I made the bigest mistake of my life I went out and had sex with someone I thought loved me and now I think I have genital herpies and I want to get tested but I'm scared to tell my mom I am sexually active ...
A. 16 February 2011: You just need to be brave and be honest with her. Tell the that you need her to be patient as it's hard for you to tell her exactly, then just go ahead and tell her.
Yes she may be mad for a while, but explain that it took a lot of courage ... (read in full...)
Poetry, do guys like it?
Q. Just a random question for the guys... What do you think about a female sending you poetry? Would you appreciate it? Or think it was strange? What if you had been hurt by someone, and they sent you a poem saying that they were sorry, what would...
A. 16 February 2011: Thanks for all your answers ladies and gents, much appreciated :)... (read in full...)
I asked my abusive partner to leave and he won't!
Q. I have been with my partner over a year now , he moved in just a week after we met, the lies had already started..I lent him moneu and never got it back and he lied what he did with it.. drugs actually, i know he loves me but he finds it fun to put ...
A. 16 February 2011: Next time he goes out, get the locks changed! Inform the police about this aswell just in case. Get some of your friends/family round to act as witnesses to what he does if you do end up changing the locks. Take pictures of your bruises and any cuts ... (read in full...)
I have so much hair down there, that prick-free sex with my guy is near impossible!!
Q. I've been seeing a lot of questions about shaving/waxing down there lately and I figured I'd chime in with my own. My dad blessed me with thick body hair (note the sarcasm). When I shave, it usually starts getting prickly the same day. Then t...
A. 15 February 2011: The more you wax, the softer and finer the hairs become. Yes it may seem expensive, but regular waxing means that the hair would grow back slower and finer over time.
Try it and see, go get it done professionally the first few times, then you can ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with multiple tragedies?
Q. I rarely find any articles on dealing w/multiple tragedies and because of this I often feel SO alone, even though I have a large family that has gone thru alot of the same things. I suffer from chronic debilitating pain and most recently barely ...
A. 15 February 2011: Maverick, what a wonderful answer! Excellent advice for you to think about OP.
Everyone deserves to be happy, even after all the bad luck. Have a look at local support groups, gives you the opportunity to meet new people, who are having hardship... (read in full...)
My ex is confusing me please need advice!
Q. hi, I will try and make this not to long. I met my ex 6mths ago, we dated for about little over 3mths. things were perfect in the bigining, I really felt he was my soul mate, I still do in my heart. I have low self esteem and i was allways insecure...
A. 15 February 2011: First things first, go and see a councellor to get to the root of your insecurities, and also help you deal with the death of your father. Try and think positive about things, i know it's hard, but try and do things to cheer yourself up like a ... (read in full...)
Why has life always been such a battle for me?
Q. Hi, Can someone answer me shy is life so shitty. I've constantly had to fight for things, left school at 15, due to parents divorce, made homeless 17 due to parents. Spent years going through different rooms in sheltered accommodation, l...
A. 15 February 2011: My god, you have been through so much!! I commend you for never giving up though. Unfortunately some people just get the bum deal in life, but that doesn't mean it has to stay that way.
You are in control of your own future and you can do whatever... (read in full...)
After my boyfriend verbally abused me, he at least owes me a call on Valentine's Day!
Q. Dear Cupid My bf abuses me verbally often. Most of the time ill never fight over it. 2 days before i got so pissed off when he started abusing me mentally, hence we had a fight. He told me not to call him and i didnt. He called me yesterday (just ...
A. 14 February 2011: wait for him to call, and when he doesn't, you can go nuts at him for not bothering to call you on valentines.
It's another reason to dump his sorry arse...... (read in full...)
What can I do to prevent razor burn?
Q. Girls only please! My boyfriend and I are planning to have sex for the first time next month. I'm a little nervous, but excited. The only thing knocking my confidence is my shaving. I used shaving foam and new razors, and moisturizer afte...
A. 14 February 2011: I get this if i shave often. If you are talking about shaving your pubic hair, then leave it to grow out for a little while (a few weeks) then shave using foam. The shorter the hair is, the more irritation is caused. Also, when moisturizing ... (read in full...)
Having trouble dealing with my dad's death...and my partner doesn't understand.
Q. Hi i recently lost my dad and it was a shock. I'm not dealing with this well at all and need to see a counselor. If this doesn't work i may need to go on to take anti-depressants as my doctor thinks i'm depressed. My partner does not understand and ...
A. 14 February 2011: Ask your partner to come along to the councelling session with you. If he is there sharing your pain, then he will truly understand how hard this is for you. Ask him to go with you for moral support, as you dont think you can do this alone.
Get t... (read in full...)
We had unprotected sex three times and now she's scared she's pregnant
Q. My girlfriend started dating about 3 weeks ago. We had unprotected sex 3 times within a couple days of when we started dating. She also is not on birth control or anything. Last weekend she asked me to give her space cuz she is scared about being ...
A. 14 February 2011: Advise her to take a pregnancy test if her period is late, this is the only way to know for sure.
If you both get through this and work things out, make sure you have condoms to hand in the future...... (read in full...)
Where can I get her some flowers at such short notice???
Q. I went to Tesco to buy my girlfriend some roses for tomorrow, but they were all dried up and didn't look very nice. Obviously all the good ones were sold out. They had some others that cost £20 that looked nice but I couldn't afford that. This i...
A. 13 February 2011: If you want to be hardcore, go and queue up outside the flower shop in the morning...... (read in full...)
We hardly communicate effectively. He's sensitive. How do I improve our communication?
Q. I am in a new relationship after the death of my husband in 2007. How do I deal with an emotionally sensitive person? we hardly communicate effectively. I don't know how to handle this. ...
A. 13 February 2011: Maybe you should try and talk more on the phone then, rather than through text, to try and avoid silly misunderstandings.... (read in full...)
We hardly communicate effectively. He's sensitive. How do I improve our communication?
Q. I am in a new relationship after the death of my husband in 2007. How do I deal with an emotionally sensitive person? we hardly communicate effectively. I don't know how to handle this. ...
A. 13 February 2011: I agree with the fact that we need some more information from you, but i would hazard as guess that it's just about taking baby steps when it comes to talking. Don't flood him with your thoughts and feelings, talk about things a little bit at a time ... (read in full...)
Should I go for marriage or wait untill I fall in love?
Q. I am not in love with anyone now,but bit hurry to get married, as lust has bit more in me. should i wait untill i find a girl to love and marry or just go for an arranged marriage. would u plz advice me on this? ...
A. 13 February 2011: Let me elaborate. Are you religious? If so, do you believe in celibacy (no sex) before marriage? This why i was wondering if you just want to go with an arranged marriage just so you can have sex. If this isn't the case then forgive me if i offended ... (read in full...)
Should I go for marriage or wait untill I fall in love?
Q. I am not in love with anyone now,but bit hurry to get married, as lust has bit more in me. should i wait untill i find a girl to love and marry or just go for an arranged marriage. would u plz advice me on this? ...
A. 12 February 2011: Are you only wanting to get married so you can have sex?? The problem with arranged marriages is that you might not be attracted to your wife, and that can cause problems. I think most people on here would tell you to wait and find someone that you ... (read in full...)
Why is his death affecting me so badly?
Q. A week ago one of my friends commited suicide and totally turned my life upisde down. We don't know why he did. He was a very smart happy kid. Everyone loved him. Anyways this isn't a relationship question. But I need help. When the teachers at my ...
A. 12 February 2011: I think you need some bereavment councilling. The school should really provide this. Try to talk about it as much as you can, even if all you do is write down all your thoughts and feelings about it. You can show these to a counsellor if you do go ... (read in full...)
How do I avoid feeling down on the most romantic day of the year?
Q. You probably get this question every year but I couldn't find any previous examples, so here it goes. I'm single and the love of my life left me for someone else. What can I do to avoid feeling down on Valentine's Day? I'd be very grateful for ...
A. 12 February 2011: Agreed!!! Make it action movies, not romantic comedies that'll drag you down. Stuff with cars, fighting, shooting and explosions should stop you feeling miserable.... (read in full...)
If a girl has been with a big guy how does she feel about sleeping with a smaller man?
Q. Hello everyone i have a question mostly for the girls but i dont mind having different point of vues. if there is a girl who is used to have sex with Big guys ( if you know what i mean ) . how would she feel about sleeping with an average size guy...
A. 12 February 2011: Hmm, i'm gonna sound really awful here. Sorry to any blokes reading this. I don't know if my ex had an 'above average' sized penis, but the sex was amazing, i'm pretty sure he would sometimes end up touching my cervix whenever i was on top.
Then ... (read in full...)
Baby in June and we need some names!
Q. Me and my boyfriend are having a baby in June and we need some good names for it . I all ready thought of the names Patrick after Patrick Swayze or Morticia after Morticia Addams . But we can't decide. ...
A. 12 February 2011: You could do what the beckhams did, and name the baby after the place it was conceived in!!! Thank god he wasn't made in Peckham, London!!!
I always wanted my first born to be called Ellie if she was a girl, but one of my ex's best friends ... (read in full...)
Should I try to move on and forgive?
Q. I met him during my divorce and his divorce.We both have 2 kids from our marriages.We got serious immeditately.He moved us in after 6 months.Sex was constant and phenominal.Our kids got along fabulously.Then he found FaceBook and old crushes and new ...
A. 11 February 2011: I think you have every right to be mad at him!!! He broke your heart after you had seemingly done nothing wrong. Don't let this sorry excuse for a man walk all over you, stand up for yourself. Show him that you won't be taken for a ride any longer. ... (read in full...)
I need to end a toxic unhealthy relationship!
Q. Any advice on how to end a relationship with someone you are so attached to that the thought of not talking to them at all again brings terror and anxiety? How do you walk away from someone who you have spent every free moment with for years. The ...
A. 11 February 2011: Biggest thing is that you need to stay busy doing other things that aren't to do with this person. Go and spend time with your friends, take up a hobby and meet new people. Only you have the strength to move on and start a fresh. All the best :)... (read in full...)
She told me to leave her alone - what do I do?
Q. I gave my crush a note to tell her how I felt about her, she's a shy female, one week later, I asked her what she thought of it and she told me to leave her alone, what does that mean?? ...
A. 10 February 2011: It means that you need to leave her alone. She's not interested. Sorry dude, you need to respect her wishes.... (read in full...)
She wants to take a "Mommy Break". Would getting her a weekend by herself for V-Day be unromantic?
Q. Would it be horribly un-romantic for me to book a beachfront room for my wife to take a 2-day getaway by herself, as a Valentines Day gift? She has been talking about wanting to take a "mommy break" as in, get away for a couple days to relax, read, ...
A. 7 February 2011: Coming from a woman, this is such a wonderful idea. Get it booked immediately!!! She'll love you for it. Have the kids give her some flowers and some chocolates when she gets back from it too as an extra little surprise :)... (read in full...)
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