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writes:He is ugly and fat. I really like him though, Should I go out with him even though other people would take the mick?I know he likes me and has tried to kiss me before. Reply to this Question
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (20 October 2010):
 You say you really like him and yet, you find him "fat and ugly." If you're not attracted to him, don't go for it. If there is no physical and mental chemistry, it will not work and this poor guy who likes you will suffer extreme pain. If you focus on what people think, you'll never be happy. You can't live your life for others, hon. I know it's not easy to be ridiculed and made fun of but, it's even harder leading a life where you're afraid to make a move because you fear people and what they'll say. Whatever you choose to do, please be careful. I have a feeling that if you do hurt him, you'll hurt too. So, really think about this. Are you willing to start a relationship and all that comes with it? Are you willing to go through the taunts of classmates etc.? If you're not, you're not and that's ok. But, don't force yourself to do something your heart is not into. Best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2010): I'm not meaning to be rude, but you opened your question with 'he is ugly and fat'. I don't know about anyone else, but i'm thinking if I was in a relationship with someone who said that I am ugly and fat i'd be pretty gutted. If you're saying this as 'everyone says he is ugly and fat, but I like him' that's a different matter. I just think you need to think about if you like this boy as a friend, or as someone you would like to go out with. If you feel you really want to be with him, go for it. Truth is, there is always one person who will 'take the mick' no matter what you do, and it may be easier said than done, but you need to ignore these people. You're still young, and if you need more time to think about it, take as much time as you need. Good Luck :) xx
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (20 October 2010):
 If he makes you smile and treats you like a queen, then stuff what anyone else thinks!!!!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 October 2010):
No. If you're worried about what other people think, and if you're thinking that he's ugly and fat, then he's not the guy for you and you'll both end up hurt.
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reader, Aunty D +, writes (20 October 2010):
Beauty Lies Within The Beholder... The fact you have stated that his appearance seems to matter to you and that you are worried what people think, makes me think that maybe you aren't really worthy of him. How would you feel if he was doubting you because of your appearance?
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