She wants to take a "Mommy Break". Would getting her a weekend by herself for V-Day be unromantic?
Q. Would it be horribly un-romantic for me to book a beachfront room for my wife to take a 2-day getaway by herself, as a Valentines Day gift? She has been talking about wanting to take a "mommy break" as in, get away for a couple days to relax, read, ...
A. 7 February 2011: Coming from a woman, this is such a wonderful idea. Get it booked immediately!!! She'll love you for it. Have the kids give her some flowers and some chocolates when she gets back from it too as an extra little surprise :)... (read in full...)
I've got the French maid costume, but what do I do after I put it on?
Q. My boyfriend has told me before that one of his fantasies is for me to dress up as a french maid. As we are at different universities we hardly see each other at all any more, so I thought I'd surprise him when I go to visit him next. The thing is...
A. 7 February 2011: Get a feather duster to go with the outfit, then when you guys are alone, start flicking the duster over things around the room, then start flicking it over him. Feathers on the skin is a very intense sensation, slow it down and kiss him all over as ... (read in full...)
My friend can't have kids? Can she carry mine?
Q. My friend just found out she can't have kids . She's very upset and she's 16. Can my friend carry my baby even if she can't have kids?...
A. 7 February 2011: Depends on her circumstances. Do you know exactly why she can't have children? It may be because she can't produce eggs, in this case then it is possible for artificial insemination into the womb.
There may be problems with her womb itself, ... (read in full...)
How do I prove to him I won't text my ex again?
Q. so i stupidly texted my ex bf behind my sons dad also my man and he says he forgives but hes so distant...how can i make things bettr between he and i and prove i wont do it again...
A. 6 February 2011: Here's what you do:
1. Sit him down and sit on his knee with your phone.
2. Tell him how sorry you are for texting your ex behind his back and that you want to make it up to him and prove that you wont do it again.
3. Let him watch you ... (read in full...)
I didn't tell my abusive ex that we now have a daughter because I'm afraid what he might do
Q. I left my very abusive husband 2009 while I was three months pregnant. I had been living in a safe house to escape his verbal abuse which was making me ill to the point of not being able to eat. I had lost so much weight I couldn't stand up at one ...
A. 6 February 2011: Oh dear, this is a messy situation. First of all, well done for getting yourself out, it must have been very traumatic for you.
You say he has contacts that could make your life a misery, does he even know where you live in the UK now? Because ... (read in full...)
I just don't know what to do any more and it hurts.
Q. How do you move on once and for all? I've liked this guy for over 2 years, we've slept together a few times in the past. He lives quite a few hours away and a relationship probably wouldn't have worked so i sort of just had to accept that. ...
A. 5 February 2011: Oh honey, i feel your pain. If you really want to get over him then yes, contact needs to be cut completely. I'm talking deleting/blocking from internet sites/MSN, changing your email address and phone number too. Your network provider can do this ... (read in full...)
What do I say to these people about my boyfriend?
Q. ok so this is really embarassing, but i have an ugly boyfreind. i mean hes not that ugly, but he had acne (which i know he cant help cuz i have it 2)but what pisses me off is that every ones making fun of me for it. now grantit, hes been suspended ...
A. 5 February 2011: Tell everyone else to kindly remove their big fat noses from your business. Lots of people suffer with acne, and those who don't think they are better for some reason.
What goes on between you and your boyfriend is your business, no-one elses.... (read in full...)
She wanted space, broke up, and already she's in a new relationship. Why will she not answer my questions?
Q. My ex of 25 months and I broke up but a week after we broke up she got into a relationship. She say with a dude she said was her friend. When I ask is she moving on, she won't answer my ? She wants our 8 by 10 photo we took, the promise ring, and ...
A. 2 February 2011: What she's doing is just not nice. On facebook, just change your status to single, hers will change to just "in a relationship"
You can either give her the stuff back, or tell her she doesn't deserve to have it back as she's hurt you. Then you... (read in full...)
The constant worrying is driving me insane!
Q. dear readers my boyfriend and i started having sex about 6 months ago and he uses a condom every time, but the thing is im always very concerned that it will break! he doesnt seem to feel the worry i do and probably thinks im being rediculous...
A. 1 February 2011: If you are seriously worried then get your hands on a Femidom. It's like a condom for ladies, you insert it inside your vagina and it stops sperm getting through.
It doesn't seem very flattering, but if you're worried, discuss it with someone ... (read in full...)
I think she wants me to pop the question but I'm terrified!
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for a little over a year. We have become very close over the course of the past year. Recently, she has let me know that she is ready to move onto the next phase of our relationship, i.e. she wants me to pop THE ...
A. 31 January 2011: Look, don't be getting yourself into anything you're not ready for. Are you sure she wants you to 'pop the question'?? She may simply think that the next level could be to get a dog or move in together (that's assuming you don't live together ... (read in full...)
I cant stand my dad's girlfriend! How do I handle this situation?
Q. i would like to say thank you in advance and im sorry that this is so long. my parents split up when i was in fourth grade and my dad got together with this woman and i can not stand her. like at first she put on an act and everything so me being a ...
A. 31 January 2011: You need to speak to your dad alone, without her around. Tell him everything that's going on. She has no right to be calling anyone names, and he needs to tell her that what she is doing is unacceptable. Ask your dad if you 2 can go for coffee or ... (read in full...)
How do you stop caring when you know things aren't going to go anywhere?
Q. I am absolutely smitten with this guy, I rarely see him, maybe once a week, but I feel so attracted to him and although I get asked out very often by guys he is the only one I want as a boyfriend. I thought he liked me too and I thought it was all ...
A. 30 January 2011: That is an option yes, but ultimately you more than likely just end up hurting the guy you are with because you won't be over the guy you really like.
Don't be that person, the one who breaks a decent blokes heart, because you're not ready to... (read in full...)
How do you stop caring when you know things aren't going to go anywhere?
Q. I am absolutely smitten with this guy, I rarely see him, maybe once a week, but I feel so attracted to him and although I get asked out very often by guys he is the only one I want as a boyfriend. I thought he liked me too and I thought it was all ...
A. 30 January 2011: Hmmmm, i'm in a similar situation, and i would like to hear others advice to. Even though i'm going through it to, my advice may not relevant to you. Hope you get some good answers hun x... (read in full...)
Time of the month she turns into someone else.
Q. Hey everybody, Really need your help so here goes. Thanks in advance. I've been dating this girl for a couple of months now and everything was going well up until a week ago. It's the time of the month and I don't want to sound like just a ...
A. 29 January 2011: Advise her to go and see her doctor to see if anything can be done about her mood swings when she is on her period. All women are different, and some suffer more than others. It's comforting to know that there are guys out there willing to stick by ... (read in full...)
Why did she say I was the first but then tell the doctor differently?
Q. hey , well I am in a great relationship with my girlfriend had ups and downs but we talk about our problems which I thin maes us strong. I am the kind of guy who believes in plain speain and no lies as I hate liars. Anyways my girlfriend and I have ...
A. 29 January 2011: If you are worried about STI's then both of you should go and get tested. If your results come back negative, then you know that you are both safe and can try to move forward. Just tell her calmly that all you want her to be is honest and loving ... (read in full...)
The answer to all your problems (well most) right here!
Q. I don't know about you guys but there are some questions I see time and time again. How 'bout we answer some of those questions right here and hope that anyone about to post the same question has a quick look at the articles first? 1. Why won't h...
A. 28 January 2011: 25. My ex is with my best friend!! How do i cope? : You bin off your so called mate. He/she clearly doesn't think much of you as they jumped into bed with your ex, simple!!!
26. Can i get an STI from having sex? Yes, you can. Always use protecti... (read in full...)
Why did you even ask?
Q. What brought you to Dear Cupid? Most likely it's because of some problem in your life or relationship. That's how most of us stumbled upon this place. You came here hoping that these anon people on the internet could offer you some insight into ...
A. 28 January 2011: You know what I find astounding on DearCupid? The amount of posts on basic sex education!!! I mean, what do schools teach kids these days??? Or were these people on Mars when it was taught??? Unless some people are just really daft. I learnt alot ... (read in full...)
My friend backed out and I'm uncomfortable meeting him alone
Q. I was going to meet up with this guy i know and my female friend at first tomorrow for a coffee, but my friend has decided that she wants to go to see her boyfriend. I dont really want to meet this guy alone. Some things happened that now make it ...
A. 28 January 2011: If you're not comfortable meeting him on your own, just tell him something came up, and can you meet another time.
Tell your friend the truth, maybe next time she won't ditch you for a fella...... (read in full...)
First Valentine's with my girlfriend and I have no money. Need suggestions!
Q. Valentine's Day is about three weeks away and I've got no money at all to buy her anything. Besides, this is our first time together. What should I do?...
A. 25 January 2011: Make her a card for starters, i always love hand made things. Maybe cook her a nice dinner? Or take her for a romantic walk somewhere. Not everything is about money. Good luck!!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been cheating with his ex wife
Q. I need some advice from someone i recently found out that my boyfriend of a year has been cheating on me with his ex wife my heads in bits. We have argued about it and he says he never slept with her he was only helping her out with money but we ...
A. 25 January 2011: The only way to regain your trust, is for him to prove that you can trust him.......simple.
If he can't do that, then he is only going to hurt you further. Make sure he knows this, otherwise he might think he's doing the right things to build th... (read in full...)
Attracted to blondes!
Q. alright for some reason I am really attracted to blondes. So I am at this high school dance last night and when I walk in right away I see this girl who has a smoking hot body. at first I was almost intimidated but thinking of the last girl I ...
A. 25 January 2011: Awesome, take it slow and see how things go.
Treat her well dude!!! :)... (read in full...)
I'm leaving my abusive partner, but should I give my children the chance to say goodbye?
Q. hello, about a month ago i posted a question about wanting to leave my abusive fiancee and needing help. i have decided to leave, and have a plan in place to get out of here as soon as i have the money saved .. probably mid april or so. i have ...
A. 24 January 2011: First of all, well done for finally making the decision to get out of there!! How do your children feel about him? I know they are only young but if they have ever expressed that they don't like him then maybe he shouldn't be lucky enough to have ... (read in full...)
Infatuation or love? I can't decide and I can't get him out of my mind
Q. Well a year on and i am still infatuated, if that's the word, with the same guy. i don't think i'm ever going to move on. i love him more than words can describe. I know deep down he loves me too, or why would he put up with me? As i know i can be a...
A. 24 January 2011: Maybe this is more infatuation than love as such. I'm in a similar situation, although not as long as a year.
Everyone tells me to move on, but i just can't do it, it's weird. My advice would just be to try and keep busy, the more you can function... (read in full...)
How do ladies feel about their man going to a strip club?
Q. Ladies, how do you feel if your boyfriend goes to a strip club? My boyfriend has been to a few over the last year for bachelor parties. I feel like him seeing other girls half naked makes me less appealing. It makes me super insecure about myself ...
A. 24 January 2011: When i was in Australia, i knew a group of guys (who were my friends too) that always went to strip clubs on random nights out. One night, i ended up going out with them and they walked past this strip club. All of them kind of looked at me, and i ... (read in full...)
Do all women do this? Is there something wrong with me?
Q. Dear cupid women only: i dont know how to put this but please hear me out. every time when i bath i have to put my finger inside my vagina to 'wipe/remove' white discharge. i went to see my GP. he said nothing is wrong. i have to do like this eve...
A. 24 January 2011: Are you on any sort of contraception? Pills? Injection? Coil? Maybe as your body has changed over time, the dosage may not be right, causing your body to produce more discharge.
If you have seen your doctor, and they have said that nothing ... (read in full...)
Tips on how to stop gagging during a blowjob and how to make it more enjoyable for the man?
Q. So i've been curious about this for a while and I would like to know if there are any tips to giving a blow job and not gagging during or gagging less. Ive tried not going down as far but its less enjoyable for him. I really would like to give my ...
A. 16 January 2011: If you don't want to go as deep, then try grasping his penis between the base and your mouth, sounds gross, but let your saliva seep down into your hand, this will give me the sensation that your whole mouth is around his whole penis, and move your ... (read in full...)
Why does she want to know everything when she is in a relationship with someone else?
Q. The girl that I love is in a relationship with someone else. She knows that I am really upset and some of the things I have done for her. Today, she suddenly asked me she wants to know everything. I did not expect she would ask me these kinds o...
A. 16 January 2011: It may be hard for you to tell her just what you think of this guy incase it upsets her, but I really think you should just be honest with her and tell her that, she'll appreciate you much more for telling her the truth. But be supportive at the ... (read in full...)
Attracted to blondes!
Q. alright for some reason I am really attracted to blondes. So I am at this high school dance last night and when I walk in right away I see this girl who has a smoking hot body. at first I was almost intimidated but thinking of the last girl I ...
A. 16 January 2011: You just have to wait until she texts/calls you. Apart from that there's not much more you can do...... (read in full...)
Why does she want to know everything when she is in a relationship with someone else?
Q. The girl that I love is in a relationship with someone else. She knows that I am really upset and some of the things I have done for her. Today, she suddenly asked me she wants to know everything. I did not expect she would ask me these kinds o...
A. 16 January 2011: What do you mean by 'everything'? Does she want to know what you've been doing? Or does she just want to know what you think of her new relationship? If it's the first, then she has no right to know what you've been doing with yourself as you are ... (read in full...)
If they've lost interest then why don't they just say so?
Q. About a year ago I met someone online. We seemed to hit it off immediately and, after a few months, I travelled at a fair amount of expense to meet up (it's relatively long distance). However, since then contact from this person has become ...
A. 16 January 2011: Thank you very much. Chin up, and onwards and upwards!!!... (read in full...)
Does this silence mean it's over?
Q. I have a boyfriend who I haven't heard from for almost 2 weeks now. We're in different countries right now. I've tried calling him and left voicemails I don't know how many times but he hasn't returned any of my calls. I sent him a letter which was ...
A. 15 January 2011: I think it's disgusting that someone ignores you when there are so many ways of keeping in touch nowadays, it makes me sick that someone can let someone go through the pain and misery of not knowing where they stand with that person and not having ... (read in full...)
If they've lost interest then why don't they just say so?
Q. About a year ago I met someone online. We seemed to hit it off immediately and, after a few months, I travelled at a fair amount of expense to meet up (it's relatively long distance). However, since then contact from this person has become ...
A. 15 January 2011: It is unfortunate yes, there are better people out there for both of us, I really hope you find yours :)... (read in full...)
I haven't gotten my period yet! Is something wrong?
Q. Ok.I am now 13 turning 14 in march. i got boobs when i was about eleven and hair way before that, but i havnt got my period. im really worried about this because i know that EVERY girl in my class has got theirs. and when i say that, im not ...
A. 15 January 2011: I wouldn't worry, my period didn't kick in until i was nearly 16. It will come naturally :)... (read in full...)
For girls: Initial reaction when you interact with a guy with facial tics (a result of tourettes)
Q. I'm a 22 year old guy, I have a normal social circle of friends, and am usually very active. I have never had that much confidence when it came to people of the opposite sex, however I get along with all my friends girlfriends, so I do believe it's ...
A. 15 January 2011: Have you ever thought of using the fact that you have these tics as an ice breaker? A girl is less likely to run for the hills if she knows about it, rather than sit and wonder why you are twitching all the time.
Make a joke of it, and say that... (read in full...)
If they've lost interest then why don't they just say so?
Q. About a year ago I met someone online. We seemed to hit it off immediately and, after a few months, I travelled at a fair amount of expense to meet up (it's relatively long distance). However, since then contact from this person has become ...
A. 15 January 2011: I agree with aunt honesty, this is something i should think about doing really, getting closure. Thank you for wishing me the best with my situation, and i wish you all the best with yours. I'd love to tell my person a few home truths...... (read in full...)
If they've lost interest then why don't they just say so?
Q. About a year ago I met someone online. We seemed to hit it off immediately and, after a few months, I travelled at a fair amount of expense to meet up (it's relatively long distance). However, since then contact from this person has become ...
A. 15 January 2011: I'm in this exact same situation, I'm being ignored by someone and yes i think it is god damn rude!! However, this person knows that there are other ways to contact me (as their phone is broken so texts wont send) but still I've heard nothing! ... (read in full...)
How do I stop my ex spreading rumours about me?
Q. sarah12's profile: my ex is spreading a false rumor that i had sex with him. We had only dated for 2 weeks and he wont shut up. i just cant let it go i have to do something, but i just dont know what.. what do i do???...
A. 13 January 2011: You could do as Aunty BimBim said, ignore it, but if you want to get your own back, when people ask you just say "yeah, but he was awful"
When word gets back to him he'll soon shut up...... (read in full...)
How do I speak to her on facebook chat without her thinking I'm a stalker?
Q. hello everyone i really like this girl at college who is doing the same course as me. we speak sometimes and a bit over facebook by commenting on each others statuses but i would like to get to know her more and i want to know how to speak to h...
A. 13 January 2011: I would start with "hi, how are you?" and see where it goes from there.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is immature and I always cave in and contact him after a fight
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a little less than 2 years so here is the quickest timeline I can possibly do..... beginning: everything was cute, we would go on dates, things were good. about a month in, he starts becoming super insecure about m...
A. 13 January 2011: Wow, this sounds very similar to my ex, he was always jealous of the guys i worked with. Even tho he knew them all personally as they had met him whenever he came in to see me, he was always cold with them, all except one, the manager. I guess he ... (read in full...)
I cut him out off my life because he wasn't worth it, but do you guys think he would ever think why I am not chasing him anymore?
Q. I just recently cut off ties I was very in to b/c it was time I moved on. He was great to be around but played with my emotions. The whole thing lost it's thrill for me. I realized I was chasing someone who made himself available to me only to take ...
A. 13 January 2011: He may be, but then again he may be so out of tune he's possibly not even realised yet that you haven't spoken to him for a while, or even spotted that you have deleted him from facebook!!!
Well done for opening your eyes and cutting all contact.... (read in full...)
Missing the ex as just in a friend?
Q. Do you ever miss your ex not in a romantic way but just their friendship and company? Or is that impossible?...
A. 13 January 2011: Over the last few months, yes i have missed my ex for his company. It's not like i always wanted him to come round and have wild sex with me everywhere or anything. But just to have a cuddle, even sit and talk or watch a film.
It's not impossib... (read in full...)
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