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writes:Well,I think Im ugly,,,,,,I have a flat but,bushy eyebrows but that all wrong.But guys where I live hate flat butts.:( Then the girls I hang with are all really pretty,and have all been in a relationship,had a kiss or whatever,but me?Nope.The guy I like is a total nerd(like me)really atheletic(like me)and I cant get over him.So I really need help!Please Help Me!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010): So you feel pressure to look a certain way? Its our differences that make us special. Embrace it. If I had a friend with one wooden leg Id kick it out from under him haha...make him swim in circles in the water. Of course with good intention as my embrace is intended to show him, hey man I love ur physical feature difference...it makes you very unique. Stop trying to be a certain someone or have a certain image...look at me...im ugly if not that scary lol. Im not exactly a small guy and different looking i e bigger than most guys but ppl become curious as to why I look the way I do...Ill be damned if they make fun of me lol. Nonetheless, approach this guy youre interested in and just be yourself...forget about your girlies and become ur own person both inside and out as it doesnt hurt to develop your own sense of class these days with all the stereotypes n typical looks, especially those surrounding american culture. Good luck sweetie.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (30 October 2010):
 these are all changeable things! you can go to a salon and get your brows waxed, and doing squats is supposed to give your butt a really good shape. but all that will probably not change how you'r having trouble gathering the courage to do something with this guy. set a date that you will ask him out on, meet use your cute butt and eyebrow goals to get to that point of gathering up your confidence. it's gonna be fine, worst case you'll have a new look?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010): All you need is confidents. When your confident about yourself other people can sense that. Tell this boy you like him and be confident. If he says no then HIS bad luck. If he says yes than YOUR good luck. And you prob not ugly, i bet your real pretty and just lack confidents. GOOD luck, i hope you get him.
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reader, EtTuBrute +, writes (30 October 2010):
 Well, I have eyebrows that need a waxing, I'm not the skinniest gal around, my teeth aren't perfectly white, and I could go on.
My point is everyone has things they hate about themselves. Even those "pretty" girls you hang out with have their issues. It's also a common thing to compare yourselves to others but if you do that, you'll never be happy.
Focus on the things that you like about yourself and use them to your advantage. Do you think you have pretty hair? Do it up then!
I say "pretty" because the term is relative! Not everyone wants to date a supermodel. Looks only go so far in a relationship. Personality is key. Be yourself and if things don't work out, don't fret. There are lots of males out there just waiting to be crushed upon. ;)
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reader, jellybeans20009 +, writes (30 October 2010):
One of the hardest parts about living is living with yourself.
We can't change who we are. Rather, we need to be "first rate versions of ourselves and not second rate versions of somebody else" (random quote I looked at).
If you've got a flat butt, exercise to make them bigger. Take care of your health. There are little things here and there that you can do for yourself to make yourself pretty. Always make sure you're well groomed, have good teeth, nice hair, and is healthy mentally and physically. Most importantly happiness and good morals is the most attractive quality.
Looks are temporary. Guys who go for pretty girls just for their looks...usually with some time will realize that they don't work out. Why? Because all of us, not just guys put looks above a lot of things that should matter more.
You will find someone to love you for you but not until you start to love yourself first.
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reader, Odds +, writes (30 October 2010):
 Well, what you lack in look you'll have to make up for in personality and intitiative. I know women really prefer to be chased, but if the choce is between being single and stepping out of your comfort zone, I know which I'd pick.
So, make a move and ask out the nerd. Be flirty, friendly, even a little physical (patting him on the chest when he makes you laugh is a good one). Don't fish for compliments - they feel better unprompted anyway, and most guys prefer to express affection through actions. And never, ever flake on a date.
If things don't work out with the nerd, don't despair, just find a new guy to consider. If you feel they are out of your league, then don't bother - most guys will sleep with a girl that's below their standards, but not date them, and that's a surefire route to unhappiness. But at least make some effort. Best of luck to you.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (30 October 2010):
 Go online and get some advice on how to dress appropriately for your 'flat butt' as you say! There is a style to suit everyone! Eyebrows can be waxed aswell, go and spend some money on a new look, get your hair and nails done...and make sure you get that big stick you'll be using to beat guys off when you come out looking officially gorgeous!!!!
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1 +, writes (30 October 2010):
The best advice I can give you is build your self-esteem. Go to different websites with advice on bulding self-esteem. Be yourself!! Also, work with what you have. If your eyebrows are bushy, go get them waxed. I think it is that you just have not found yourself yet. It is always important to take good care of yourself. Make sure your hygene is where it should be. Floss and take care of your skin, eat right as best as possible, drink water. Dress presentably. Try out different looks and find what suits you. Whatever you do...do not attempt to draw attiention to yourself by dressing sluty, or being loud and obnoxious. No need for that.
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