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Why does sex hurt so much when I'm on top?

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Question - (30 October 2010) 3 Answers - (Newest, 31 October 2010)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

OK so im 16 years old and sexually active, but theres a problem and i dont know if its normal or what should i do. whenever me and my bf are having sex and he is on top it doesn't hurt me at all not one bit, But then when he tells me to get on top its absolutely pain-full the same problem with doggystyle im worried because i want to try different things but it hurts to much. So if you could answer that would be great thanks:)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2010):

its probably because of the position. Just take it slow and softly and try to ease yourself into it. Use a lubricant if needed.

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A female reader, fi_the_tree United Kingdom +, writes (31 October 2010):

fi_the_tree agony auntThere is one good thing that can come from you being on top - that you control how deep the penetration goes. You can go online and find lots of different positions that sre designed for shallow penetration. Have a look at some of these and experiment with your boyfriend, i'm sure he'd be up for trying something new, just tell him to be gentle with you whilst you are exploring these positions.

Of course, if he is grabbing you and actually moving you around, you could always tie his hands to the bed whilst you're on top, that way you can have full control of how deep the penetration goes!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010):

it might just be that your boyfriends penis goes too deep when u are in those positions. I get the same when i'm on top. It feels sort of the same as when I lost my virginity, but it goes away after a little while and a little patience. If it hurts too much don't do it. It could just be where his body is hitting your cervix. try doing it a lot more gently than you are, work out what hurts and what you can do to make it not hurt. Doggie style isnt for everybody either, it allows rough penetration. have you tried lying facing the same way with your back to him and your leg pushed back over his and being penetrated this way? See if this hurts as its not as deep a penetration and leaves your hands free to play. x

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