I never want to cheat on my Bf. So how can I stop lusting after this boy I see at night school?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for four years and I do love him loads, but have recently starting feeling lust for a boy who is goes to my night school. I would never cheat on my bf but I can't stop thinking about this boy in a sexual way. I don'...
A. 3 December 2011: Why not try spicing things up with your bf? Take all the lust you have inside and focus it on your man. Guarenteed he'll love it!!!... (read in full...)
Should I cool it off? He says he likes spending time with me but is not sure if he sees a future with me.
Q. ive been seeing this guy for about 3/ 4 months now and I wanted to know what we were, just to make things clear for us both, and his reply was that he doesnt really know. He likes spending time with me but not sure if he sees a future with me. i a...
A. 3 December 2011: Cool it off a little bit, give him time to miss you. If he asks you to come over, instead of jumping at the chance, tell him things like 'I would, but i'm tired, think i'm just going to get some rest' or 'Sorry, i'm having a girly night in with ... (read in full...)
Where is he getting his sexual needs met? I'm worried he has an addiction to meeting new people....
Q. I have been datiing this man for a year and we fist we all over on another and then as a year approached it became less. i know how relationships go and they do settle down in the sex department the longer your together. i was even married for 15 ...
A. 2 December 2011: Just tell him straight. Tell him you would like to have more sex!
You find each other attractive, what's stopping you from initiating the sex yourself?? Men find that really sexy you know. One night when you're at his place, go to the bathroom... (read in full...)
Did he put his ex before me, and should he have told me he went out?
Q. My boyfriend and I just broke up for what seems like such a stupid reason, so I need some advice on whether he is right (if so I need to remodel my thoughts) or I am right. I'm trying to keep it short and to the point. I was having a bad day, he ...
A. 2 December 2011: Well i still think you should sit down and talk with him, tell him that this situation has hurt you and explain that you're worried about this ex gf. Hopefully he'll listen and you two can talk like adults.... (read in full...)
Did he put his ex before me, and should he have told me he went out?
Q. My boyfriend and I just broke up for what seems like such a stupid reason, so I need some advice on whether he is right (if so I need to remodel my thoughts) or I am right. I'm trying to keep it short and to the point. I was having a bad day, he ...
A. 2 December 2011: This is simply a lack of communication between you two. You're both wrong here...
You just ASSUMED he would be going to bed around midnight, but his plans changed.
Yes, he should really have let you know that his plans had changed and that... (read in full...)
Why does my girlfriend get jealous over nothing?
Q. What is wrong with my girlfriend? She gets way too jealous over absolutely nothing. If I'm with one of my girl friends(Friends who are girls) then she gets jealous when all they are is friends. She has a ton of guy friends but I don't get jealous ...
A. 30 November 2011: She's a control freak. She's probably had a string of boyfriends who have gone out and cheated on her purely because she kicks off at them for talking to another female!!!
Wow, this girl is damaged, she won't let you speak to another girl, ye... (read in full...)
I don't feel the spark for my boyfriend whom I am in a long distance relationship with, and I have cheated on him three times now!
Q. Dear cupid, I need your help. I have been dating my boyfriend for 1year now. its a long distance relationship. Of late my boyfriend does call me as usual and all but lately I feel like he's kinda changed he is too busy for me, he doesn't give me ...
A. 27 November 2011: You are craving closeness, this is the one thing your boyfriend can't give you as you are in a LDR. You look for this closeness elsewhere. After the first time you cheated, you longed for that closeness again, so cheated further.
You know what's c... (read in full...)
How can you tell if you 'squirt' during sex?
Q. This is a bit of a strange question, and i'm not sure if anyone can actually answer, but it's worth a shot i guess. A few years ago, someone once told me that i 'squirt' during sex. I know what squirting is, but no-one else has ever told me thi...
A. 26 November 2011: Thanks very much for all your answers, i don't think i'm a squirter as such, never noticed it before, was probs just very wet.
Fi x... (read in full...)
My b/f wants me to finger myself in front of him and I don't feel too good about it
Q. My boyfriend wants me to finger myself but i dunno what to do as i feel embarrassed even when he talks about it, im 18 years old and my boyfriend is 17 years old, we have slept together and i am now pregnant but still i dont know what to do, when we ...
A. 25 November 2011: Don't do anything that you're not comfortable doing, end of.
If he doesn't like it, then he can jog on!!!... (read in full...)
Can't get alone with my girlfriend, how can I?
Q. Hello. I have an issue. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a while and we very mych love each other. We are sexually active and have been for a month or two. Now I'm sure you understand that two people in love like to be alone every now and ...
A. 25 November 2011: Hmmmm, the only thing i can suggest is saving up for a motel room for the night.... (read in full...)
Should I wait like a lady for my boyfriend to pick me up like my mum says?
Q. My bf of 2 years has night shifts and at the end of the week, I usually drive over to his house and wake him up because he is capable of sleeping till night time (cause of his night shifts)... Well I never saw anything wrong with that cause if we go ...
A. 25 November 2011: No, you shouldn't have to wait at all! Your mum is old fashioned, next thing you know, she'll be insisting that you a chaperoned!!!
If the system you have now actually works for you both, why change it??... (read in full...)
My gran has cancer and I want her to be around to see me get married and have kids....should I talk to my partner about getting married sooner?
Q. Just wondering if others can offer some advice. My gran, who i am really close to is in her 80s. I have always had this wish that she could be around to see me marry and provide her a great grandchild. WHen my grandfather passed away, it made me...
A. 24 November 2011: I think you should confide in your partner. He may not want to be married just yet, and that is something that you will have to accept, but then again, he may think that letting your gran be a part of your special day is a wonderful idea.
All y... (read in full...)
What is the main cause of juvenile delinquency and drug addiction?
Q. What is the most common cause,in families of juvenile delinquency and drug addiction? My sister kids are all dropped out of school, and into drugs and crime. It's a real frightening situation from the outside. I'm talking about serious drugs......
A. 24 November 2011: Send them on the Maury Show, that Dee West fella will sort them out...... (read in full...)
Can my new Facebook friend be trusted? Should I send him the picture he wants?
Q. I met a guy on Facebook, he said he likes me, he is really nice and sweet. But there's something weird about him, he wants me to send him my picture but he doesn't want to give me his phone number. He said he is just being careful and I'm being ...
A. 24 November 2011: I can't believe how bloody stupid some people can truly be...
Us Brits have stereotypes about young American girls, being dumb, reckless and extremely naive. Now i seriously hope that you are bright, intelligent and cyber safe, but at the moment t... (read in full...)
Marriage stereotypes....
Q. After having heard some comments last night, and searching the web a bit for answers, I have this question, and would like to hear different inputs. The topic is marriage, and it appears to me that there are certain stereotypes out there. A...
A. 23 November 2011: There are lots of stereotypes in this world, when it comes to marriage, not everyone has this view of the men being trapped forever etc etc.
In my personal opinion, the reason why so many marriages end up in divorce is because people get married ... (read in full...)
I feel ugly, insecure and depressed because all my friends have boyfriends and I don't
Q. Nowadays I feel as though I'm a jinx when it comes to finding love. Ever since my friends and I began college/uni, nearly all of my friends have managed to find boyfriends and move on with their lives, whereas I have not. I have had a male frien...
A. 22 November 2011: Confidence is key in a situation like this. Take some time for yourself, then when you next plan to go out with your single friends, go and get your hair and nails done, get a new outfit and instead of worrying about finding a guy, just enjoy ... (read in full...)
I didn't like the message my b/f received on his phone
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 9 months now and things are getting serious. He has asked me to move in with him at Christmas and we see each other every day. Everything is great but the problem is he works nights, he is a taxi driver, and in ...
A. 22 November 2011: I don't understand why he's giving his mobile number out to customers. Surely if they want a taxi then they'll just ring the taxi company right??? If the customer wants your bf to pick them up in future, surely he should be giving his cab number, so ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to feel comfortable about my boyfriend occasionally watching porn
Q. I'm hoping to settle this whole porn issue (though it isn't one at all) once and for all. I watch porn myself and I know my boyfriend does. But why do I get so touchy when the subject comes up? Or when I see hot women in a movie? I am attractive, I ...
A. 22 November 2011: Here's a suggestion, why not make your own video that you can share together? Surely you can accept that if it's between you and your bf, no-one else has to know it exists, you'll have a massive boost and feel sexy because of it and he'll want to ... (read in full...)
He abused me so I left the relationship. But how do I stop emotional binge eating I've been doing since the split?
Q. August, I got out of an emotionally abusive relationship. He would call me fat then try to get me into nude modeling (makes sense right?). Also I was 17 and he was 27. He'd say I belong to him and other manipulative ^^^t like that. Anyways one day ...
A. 22 November 2011: Counselling is what's needed here. What a disgusting excuse for a man. Well done for getting out of the relationship!
You're eating because you need some comfort, you have been through a lot. The more you talk about these things, the faster y... (read in full...)
He lied to me and I'm starting to have my doubts about him
Q. Two days ago my boyfriend told me he had to go do some work-related stuff. He told me it would take him a couple of hours and he would come see me right after he was done. Five hours or so later (it was really late by then, around 12am or somethin...
A. 21 November 2011: He lied, the trust has been broken. The minute the trust is gone, the relationship is broken. You will be forever second guessing yourself. My advice, find someone who is trust worthy...... (read in full...)
Can my new Facebook friend be trusted? Should I send him the picture he wants?
Q. I met a guy on Facebook, he said he likes me, he is really nice and sweet. But there's something weird about him, he wants me to send him my picture but he doesn't want to give me his phone number. He said he is just being careful and I'm being ...
A. 19 November 2011: I can't believe that you even have to ask this question!!! NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO DON'T DO IT!!!!
As others have said, block him and let him try his luck with someone else!... (read in full...)
I want to lose weight, but I can't seem to stop eating.
Q. I’ve been saying for months now that I’m going to eat healthy and lose weight but there’s always something there to stop me. I find that when I’m stressed I pig out and when I’m due on my period I just want to eat loads of chocolate and cake. I’ve ...
A. 19 November 2011: What diets have you tried just out of interest?... (read in full...)
He doesn't take care of me when I'm sick
Q. Something is bothering me a bit. I am currently very sick, and yesterday I was much worse. I was at my boyfriend's house when suddenly my symptoms got really bad. I begged him to drive to the winn dixie right next to his house to get me some ...
A. 19 November 2011: I'm exactly the same, i would expect my bf to take care of me when i'm sick if i take care of him when he's sick! I don't think you're over-reacting at all, it's just common sense!!
Talk to him about it, tell him that you do your best to look aft... (read in full...)
How do I ride him successfully?
Q. hi everyone. my man wants us to try different positions and its exciting but my problem is how to be on top. we've tried it but l just can't do it, l feel so heavy like my body wont move up or down and its so bad, once in he'll slide out coz l ...
A. 19 November 2011: Instead of hauling yourself up and down, try rocking your hips backwards and forwards, he's less likely to slide out of you doing this. Also, you get great clitoral stimulation and he'll feel like his penis is way up inside you! Orgasms all ... (read in full...)
I just don't feel myself and I feel so alone through it all.
Q. I really need some advice. In the past year I just feel like I don't know who I am anymore. At the beginning of the year I realised that my 4 year relationship was unhealthy and not really going anywhere. It took me til June to finally cut all ties ...
A. 17 November 2011: Woah!!! First things first, stop the sleeping around!! This friendship you had, won't be salvaged easily, don't expect it to happen overnight! Try talking to him, tell him that you aren't sure of who you are anymore and feel lost.
You know you... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is in need of a confidence boost... might a sexy photoshoot do that or will it do the opposite?
Q. I want to give my girlfriend a boost to her confidence. I tell her regularly that she is beautiful and gorgeous, but she is still self-conscious of the size of her body. She isn't obese by any means, but she is admittedly a LITTLE on the big side. ...
A. 17 November 2011: Did you know, that sex is one of the best forms of exercise?? WIN-WIN i think!!!!
Photo shoot sounds like a wicked idea aswell, i would be made up with a christmas gift like that!... (read in full...)
Boyfriend will only sleep on the couch, not with me
Q. please help my boyfriend and i have been together for 9 months now been staying together for the past 3 months, in the past month or so he has stopped sleeping in the bed with me and will only sleep on the couch. there has been a few times whe...
A. 17 November 2011: That's weird, you need to be asking him why he sleeps on the couch!... (read in full...)
What can I do about these teenaged girls calling me a pedophile?
Q. hi, basicly i got called a peado on the way to work by two school girls about 15 years old cos essentially i looked at them, i got through the cow gate (i go accross a field) i noticed they were waitibng for me to get through so they could pass ...
A. 17 November 2011: No, YOU need to speak to the headteacher, not your sister!... (read in full...)
My best friend tried to have sex with me, but I don't want to! What do I do, who do I tell?
Q. Hi I'm 16 and I have a guy friend who I joke with a call my best friend. Well he knows me better than other people and we used to be close till he got a girlfriend who hates that I'm his "best friend". Last year december me and my best friend (bf) ...
A. 16 November 2011: First of all, well done for finding the strength to push him off of you and tell him how it is!!!
I think you should tell his gf to be honest. Tell her about how he forced himself on you even though you said no. Tell her that you don't want som... (read in full...)
What comes first, friends or girlfriend?
Q. I am 19 and my boyfriend the same. This is his first relationship, but not my first. We have been together almost 5 months. I have a problem with him putting his friends before me. I value friendships myself, and think friends are important, and you ...
A. 16 November 2011: Ever heard of the saying 'bros before hoes' and 'chicks before dicks'??
Basically meaning that friends come before a relationship. Maybe you should spend more time with your friends, so if this relationship doesn't last, it's not like you'll h... (read in full...)
What can I do about these teenaged girls calling me a pedophile?
Q. hi, basicly i got called a peado on the way to work by two school girls about 15 years old cos essentially i looked at them, i got through the cow gate (i go accross a field) i noticed they were waitibng for me to get through so they could pass ...
A. 16 November 2011: First things first, you did nothing wrong. These girls think it's funny to hurl abuse at strangers, shows you how mature they are!!
I really think that you should speak to the school and inform them that two female pupils wearing school uniform ... (read in full...)
Other Non-Pregnancy Methods
Q. Hello everyone, I thank you for taking your time reading this, I was only wondering if there is any other way to prevent pregnancy other than condoms and birth control pills. I really appreciate it, thank you....
A. 13 November 2011: Don't have sex, that's a great way not to get pregnant!
I'm just saying what you're all thinking ;)... (read in full...)
How can I cover a bruise on my face?
Q. I have a bruise on my face and i am worried as i have to go out on Wednesday and i don't want people to notice it. i have very short hair so it might be hard to hide it that way. i could put make up on it but i'm not sure if it would still be ...
A. 7 November 2011: Put toothpaste on it at night! Works for me when i have bruises. Might take a night or 2 to totally go, but it should reduce it enough to be able to hide it under make up easier.
If you're sat pondering whether this works or not, try it next tim... (read in full...)
My parents disapprove of our relationship and I'm not sure what I'm letting myself in for....advice please!
Q. Hi Hope you can give me some advice on something I have no idea about! In my past I have had 3 very bad relationships. A lot of this was down to the fact they had money. Money never interested me, I just want to be happy, but my parents want...
A. 7 November 2011: Follow your heart, if you are happy with this man then everyone else can bugger off!!!... (read in full...)
I wonder if family stress should be blamed for the loss of my cat to kidney disease? Or are there other factors that cause kidney failure ?
Q. Hi Readers, I lost my Cornish Rex Male cat in April of this year. He was like a friend to me and I am still very distressed about it despite having counselling and being on anti depressants. If there are any other cat lovers out there I was just w...
A. 5 November 2011: I don't know much about feline kidney failure, but as a cat owner i know about the emotional connections involved...
We've had our cat (rescue cat) for near 14 years now (human years) and i have no idea what i'll do when she dies, i'll be distraug... (read in full...)
Laundry drama. Is she being ungrateful, or am I messing up by doing an incomplete job?
Q. Since we have been living together (2 months) I have been the one doing the laundry. I have been the one primarily doing the laundry because I am much tidier than her and I generally don't like to go more than one and a half weeks without washing. ...
A. 5 November 2011: No you're not doing a half hearted job. Either get the word 'slave' tattooed on your forhead and put all of her clothes away for her, or make her do her own bloody laundry in future!!... (read in full...)
Episodes of My childhood – Unloved & Abused By My Mother
Q. This is my story...I am the eldest sister of Bluegem and whiteopal who have both recently posted letters on Dear Cupid, and I endorse everything they say about the verbal and physical abuse we suffered when growing up. This is only a little...
A. 5 November 2011: I admire you for your bravery. You have just shared something truly painful with a lot of people, that takes so much courage! Well Done!!!
Keep seeking therapy if you can, as this will help you further. When it comes to your father, take solace i... (read in full...)
Need to let go of my friend and move on but sometimes I miss her
Q. My ex bestfriend sarah and I got into a big fight at the end of the school year. I brought a girl named Leasette that she didnt like to the lunch table because Leasette was to scared to sit at the table because of her and was sitting by herself . I ...
A. 2 November 2011: The only way to move on is to concentrate on your schoolwork and try and make some new friends. But its going to take time. You're not just going to be able to stop thinking about it all until you actually leave school and get away from this horrid ... (read in full...)
Is this culture shock?
Q. Hello! Well...I am a latin woman (south american) who likes and enjoy going out. I love dance and have fun with people. I am living in US for almost 4 years now. Last weekend I went out with a friend of mine. She is american and we went to a very ...
A. 31 October 2011: People have different personalities that's all. You are used to socialising with people, your american friend might not be used to it, so may find it difficult.
Maybe next time you two go out, sit with her and help her talk to new people (only if... (read in full...)
Boyfriend made a comment about my small breasts and now I don't want to go near him
Q. Hi guys! I need help from you to build my self-confidence. I have a lovely bf and we are planning our future together. However, our sex life is a complete disaster... I run away from him every time he want to get closer to me. The issue is my ...
A. 29 October 2011: Wow, you are clearly insecure, and i don't think it's just about the size of your breasts. I think you may have abandonment or rejection issues. If these self-help phrases aren't working, then you need to take it to the next step.
Get some pro... (read in full...)
Help! I don't want to lose my best friend over this...
Q. Okay so first off let me start by saying that my best friend has been dating her boyfriend for almost 4 years.. and they live together. So a few weeks ago her and this junior were flirting and stuff and they ended up having a thing.. her boyfriend ...
A. 29 October 2011: Is she really your best friend if she's not even giving you the chance to be happy and do your own thing????
Erm......NO!! She doesn't own you, you can spend time with whoever you want, without her approval!!!... (read in full...)
Need to let go of my friend and move on but sometimes I miss her
Q. My ex bestfriend sarah and I got into a big fight at the end of the school year. I brought a girl named Leasette that she didnt like to the lunch table because Leasette was to scared to sit at the table because of her and was sitting by herself . I ...
A. 21 October 2011: Wait, your 'best friend' fell out with you because you tried to make friends with and include someone else????
GOOD RIDDANCE!! Clearly she's immature, insecure, has abandonment issues and in general is a two faced bitch. Be glad she doesn't ... (read in full...)
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