What do I do about a bf who doesn't listen to me, respect me or do anything I want to do?
Q. I have a bf--i think....well, we have been fighting heaps and he has been treating me like crap, doesn't do anything i ask. Anything i do he rejects...... I have done everything for him. Hell, i gave him a threesome with another chick....he doesn't ...
A. 14 April 2011: Well if you want to be walked all over then that's fine. I was in a similar situation not to long ago, i was with a total loser, but it took me a long time to realise how bad it was and i broke away. To be honest i've never felt better hun!!!
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My brother tried to kill himself over a girl, and because of that I refuse to talk to her now. Am I wrong?
Q. hi aunts and uncles, i really need some advice. I'll start from the beginning. About four years ago my brother got together with a girl and they went out for ages and they started to argue. A lot went on and they split up after about two years....
A. 12 April 2011: I don't think you are wrong at all. You are looking out for your own interests and your brothers too. I seriously think that your brother should go and have some form of counselling if he has tried to commit suicide in the past. It's serious stuff, ... (read in full...)
What do I do about a bf who doesn't listen to me, respect me or do anything I want to do?
Q. I have a bf--i think....well, we have been fighting heaps and he has been treating me like crap, doesn't do anything i ask. Anything i do he rejects...... I have done everything for him. Hell, i gave him a threesome with another chick....he doesn't ...
A. 12 April 2011: You walk away from him, right now!!!
He clearly doesn't respect you and you could do so much better hun, truly!! Tell him what a waste of space he is and tell him you're gone for good.... (read in full...)
He walks all over me. I want him to respect me. How do I do it?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have low self esteem. My boyfriend senses this so he feels that things are super "safe" with me because I will never leave him. So sometimes he enjoys driving me up the wall and rarely apologizes anymore. Most days he's sweet but some...
A. 11 April 2011: You tell him straight, respect me or i walk! Men resepct powerful women, especially women who can stand up for themselves.
Yes it'll be tough, but why should you dress for HIM all the time?? There's nothing wrong with slobbing out in your scruffie... (read in full...)
How does a tit wank work?
Q. I apologise in advance as i don't know a nicer way to word it and i don't want this to seem inappropriate but how would a tit wank work? Like how would you sit? Does it even work anyway? Especially seeing as my boyfriend is quite a bit ta...
A. 11 April 2011: You'll just have to play around with different positions, yo lying down, him lying down, you kneeling etc. It is possible so give it a go...... (read in full...)
3 years we've been together and suddenly he's calling me by his ex's name?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 happy years but in the last month he has been getting my name wrong and calling me by his ex-girlfriends name. This has happened on 2 occasions now and it has shocked and upset me so much. When It happened the ...
A. 30 March 2011: I don't think that you're making a big deal out of this at all. He shouldn't be slipping up like this, it does set the alarm bells ringing. Are your names similar in anyway? Or are they totally different? This is a tough one to call. He may very ... (read in full...)
Would any boyfriend stand seeing his girlfriend with facial hair?
Q. I'm 22 now and i've had this problem since I was 14. Unfortunately, when the hair started to grow very light, i didn't know that tweazing and waxing it would make it worst. Now, i'm at the point where i shave almost everyday (and if i skip a day,...
A. 29 March 2011: Let us know what happens!... (read in full...)
Would any boyfriend stand seeing his girlfriend with facial hair?
Q. I'm 22 now and i've had this problem since I was 14. Unfortunately, when the hair started to grow very light, i didn't know that tweazing and waxing it would make it worst. Now, i'm at the point where i shave almost everyday (and if i skip a day,...
A. 28 March 2011: It may very well be the reason he lost interest in you. As much as we all say it's not.... appearance is very important to a lot of people. Try talking to him about it and ask him to be honest with you. If he loves you, he'll be honest with you. ... (read in full...)
Would any boyfriend stand seeing his girlfriend with facial hair?
Q. I'm 22 now and i've had this problem since I was 14. Unfortunately, when the hair started to grow very light, i didn't know that tweazing and waxing it would make it worst. Now, i'm at the point where i shave almost everyday (and if i skip a day,...
A. 28 March 2011: you can bleach the hair inbetween laser treatments. Shaving will mean that the hair grows back thicker and darker each time, waxing should mean the hairs grow back slower and finer over time (but it is very painful...)
You can buy hair removal ... (read in full...)
I've not had sex, but I think I have an STI! Help!
Q. I am only 13 years old, I have never had sex or done anything sexual apart from masturbating but I have an sti! I don't know what to do and I'm to embarrassed to tell my parents what should I do?...
A. 27 March 2011: first of all dmartin89, this is a bloke we're dealing with...
But again, what makes you think you have an STI? It could be nothing. If you're not brave enough to talk to your parents, then go and see your doctor.... (read in full...)
Should I shave my pubic hair?
Q. [Mod note: Combined two questions] i was talking to my male friend who said that girls should only have hair on their head, arms and eyes/brows. the problem is i have pubic hair, i am 13 nearly 14, should i be shaving ? i am really scared to shave...
A. 27 March 2011: It's totally up to you whether or not you shave your pubic hair. Ask your mum to show you properly how to shave your legs and armpits, but if you don't want to shave down there then you can buy electric trimmers or creams to keep yourself neat and ... (read in full...)
My ex and I are friends, I told him I had sex with someone else and he screamed at me!
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of over a year a few weeks ago. Still wanting to remain friends, I decided we should still be able to talk about anything. I had sex with a friend of mine a few days ago. For some INCREDIBLY stupid reason, I told my ex. ...
A. 27 March 2011: He was probably upset as it has only been a few weeks since you split and you had sex with someone else. Think about how you might react if it was the other way around...... (read in full...)
My cousin has a total lack of respect for me
Q. How should I deal with my cousins behaviour? I am not quite sure what this means when someone does this but my cousin refuses to engage in serious conversation with me like he does with the other women in the family. He avoids serious topics a...
A. 25 March 2011: Start speaking to him like a child. If he starts getting annoyed by it and confronts you, just tell him "I'm speaking to you like a child because you are acting like a child" He sounds a bit stuck up and snobish in my opinion, maybe he needs t... (read in full...)
I want to show my sick ex that I care, but it's difficult because he has a girlfriend
Q. Hi everyone, hoping for some more excellent advice. I have an ex who isn't too good at the moment. He has major back problems and premature arthritis due to a bad car crash 5 years ago where he broke his back by crushing a lower vertebrae. He ha...
A. 24 March 2011: Some very interesting thoughts there. I spoke to him again briefly last night, and he said he was ok, he had gone to work himself but was still in alot of pain. I think i kind of freaked out a bit as he had told me the other day that surgery was an ... (read in full...)
I want to show my sick ex that I care, but it's difficult because he has a girlfriend
Q. Hi everyone, hoping for some more excellent advice. I have an ex who isn't too good at the moment. He has major back problems and premature arthritis due to a bad car crash 5 years ago where he broke his back by crushing a lower vertebrae. He ha...
A. 24 March 2011: I must say that's an interesting idea, and maybe if she was older than she is (she's 18 right now) then it could possibly be a solution. But i get the impression from some of her other actions that she hasn't got the level of maturity to be able to ... (read in full...)
I want to show my sick ex that I care, but it's difficult because he has a girlfriend
Q. Hi everyone, hoping for some more excellent advice. I have an ex who isn't too good at the moment. He has major back problems and premature arthritis due to a bad car crash 5 years ago where he broke his back by crushing a lower vertebrae. He ha...
A. 23 March 2011: His gf is a dental nurse, so tends to work Monday to Friday 9-5.
Thanks for your answer, i have talked to him in the past and have always said that i would take him to the hospital if needed.... (read in full...)
Guy and feelings--how can we get you to open up?
Q. I tell my guy I like him and that he turns me on but I don't get that from him. The other day I got him to say he likes me and he said that he's already told me that he liked me and cared BUT I certainly don't remember that. You ladies know when a ...
A. 23 March 2011: It's not an issue that can be forced unfortunately. In time, he will open up to you when he feels more comfortable. Alot of people (both men and women) believe that if they open up, then they are more likely to get hurt. Others just find it very ... (read in full...)
Why am I jealous of my son spending time with his girlfriend?
Q. My 16 year old son has his first serious girlfriend whom he has been dating a few months. At first I liked her well enough but lately they spend so much time together I have been feeling jealous of the time and affection that he gives to her and not ...
A. 23 March 2011: You just have to keep telling yourself that your son loves you as well as his girlfriend. Try and be polite to his girlfriend and be interested in what she is doing right now. It may be hard at first, but if your son sees that you are making his ... (read in full...)
Will my ex come back to me ?
Q. I'll try and keep it short. I broke up with my ex girlfriend 7 weeks ago. we had a great realtionship together which lasted for 11 months, it was both our first long relationship with strong, passionate feelings involved. we cared for each other ...
A. 23 March 2011: Hmmmmm, tough one, you said and did some pretty rotten things to her after the break up, it's a toss up as to whether or not she will come back to you.
For your own sanity, i suggest you prepare for her NOT coming back to you. Always prepare ... (read in full...)
I am a virgin and not pregnant. But why have I not had a period since January?
Q. I am 16, and I am really confused. My last period started January 5th, and I havent gotten one since. There is no possible way I could be pregnant, I am a virgin. What is going on with my body? It is really starting to worry me that I have missed ...
A. 23 March 2011: Hmmmmm, well if you have been having periods for a long time and they have suddenly stopped, then it may very well just be down to stress, seeing as there's no contraceptive hormones in the way.
Sorry to hear that you have family in hospital... (read in full...)
What would cause you to cheat on your partner?
Q. Women, a question of honesty! Why do women decide to cheat on their men? Plz in detail...
A. 22 March 2011: Interesting question... I used to be a cheater (yes i know, how awful of me) and i guess it was just all about the excitement. Well that was until hearts got broken :( There are many reason why women cheat, they may not be happy in their relatio... (read in full...)
I am a virgin and not pregnant. But why have I not had a period since January?
Q. I am 16, and I am really confused. My last period started January 5th, and I havent gotten one since. There is no possible way I could be pregnant, I am a virgin. What is going on with my body? It is really starting to worry me that I have missed ...
A. 22 March 2011: Wait, you don't have a family doctor? And you've never been to see a Gynaecologist??? You need to seriously start thinking about getting your health into check!!! Go and sign up at your doctors office, you need something in place should you ever ... (read in full...)
I'd really love to get some flowers
Q. How do you get a guy to give you flowers with out you actually straight out telling him especially if you want it to be a surprise? One of my friend heard me complaining so she went around my back and e-mailed him to buy me some flowers which I ...
A. 21 March 2011: Years ago I had a conversation with my exs mum, and i told her that i would absolutely love for him to walk through the door of our flat and present me with a bunch of flowers for no reason whatsoever. Anyway, a couple of days later he does just ... (read in full...)
I am a virgin and not pregnant. But why have I not had a period since January?
Q. I am 16, and I am really confused. My last period started January 5th, and I havent gotten one since. There is no possible way I could be pregnant, I am a virgin. What is going on with my body? It is really starting to worry me that I have missed ...
A. 21 March 2011: Do you take any medication or contraceptive pills? This might be why. How long have you had your periods? Sometimes the body takes a while to settle into a routine if you have just started having them.
But if you're really worried, go and see the ... (read in full...)
I feel like a facebook stalker!
Q. Okay, so I feel like a facebook stalker. A little while back, something popped up on my newsfeed. A guy from my church who friended me a while back (in addition to quite a few other people at the same time) had posted something on his blog and he ...
A. 21 March 2011: I don't think you're a freak at all, he posted it on facebook allowing all his friends to read it!
If you want to speak to him further, just message him and say that you really enjoyed reading his blog because you felt inspired/you could relate t... (read in full...)
How can I tell him I fake my orgasms without hurting his feelings?
Q. i always lie to my partner that i reach orgasm because i didnt want to hurt his feelings or to get me the wrong way, you no how guys are like,how can i tell him without hurting his feelings...
A. 21 March 2011: You don't need to hurt his feelings as such, just ask him that you would like to star exploring new techniques and positions to find out what feels good for both of you. If it feels good, tell him so, if it doesn't, try something else. There's loads ... (read in full...)
Why it is ok if my boyfriend hangs up on me but I can't do that to him?
Q. What do I do? My long distance boyfriend of about 6 years off and on was talking to me on the phone yesterday, and i was telling him about something important, i might have a brain tumor and have to go get checked next week. he wasn't even listening ...
A. 20 March 2011: He's being rude, simple as. How dare he think that there's on rule for him, and another for you!!!!!!
Dump his sorry arse now!!!... (read in full...)
Does jealousy mean he still loves me?
Q. my ex and i broke up last summer yet we still talk a lot. he recently moved to another state and we haven't talked all that much. he did come to visit and things were like we were back together as a couple. i have been doing my best not to communic...
A. 19 March 2011: This sounds exactly like my ex....it's actually freaky!! My ex found out that someone else was interested in me (i actually told him about it) and he kinda freaked out and started promising me everything I've ever dreamed of, saying that we would be ... (read in full...)
I was a narcissistic b*stard. I owe her full closure.
Q. Before I start I'm asking that you guys don't answer with remarks like you deserve it, leave her alone because what -m trying to do is needed because she needs to know I'm living up to my wrong. Its like this I hurt a really great gal awful bad. ...
A. 19 March 2011: I agree with Jonas, but if you feel you really have to do this, maybe hand write a letter and post it out to her if you know her address, if not i suppose an email will be fine for you to give her closure.
explain in the email/letter that after sh... (read in full...)
What is going on? Pregnancy test is negative!
Q. hi i 29 years old i had sex with my partner on the 25 of jan 2011 and started primulot n to delay my periods in feb from the 5th to the 14th i stopped it and got my withdrawal bleeding on the 16th which lasted 5 days,the thing is its the 19th of ...
A. 19 March 2011: Go and see your doctor. Take a sample of urine with you, you should be able to pick up a specimen jar at a chemist or your doctor surgery. It's best to collect a sample from the first wee you have in the morning. Your doctor should be able t... (read in full...)
Does jealousy mean he still loves me?
Q. my ex and i broke up last summer yet we still talk a lot. he recently moved to another state and we haven't talked all that much. he did come to visit and things were like we were back together as a couple. i have been doing my best not to communic...
A. 19 March 2011: I think his jealousy is down to the fact that he still cares for you. How long were you two together for just out of interest? He clearly regrets breaking up with you, but does have things that he is in turmoil over resulting in him not sure whether ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I want to walk away from this as I know I deserve better, but I do like him.
Q. Sorry, but this is going to be long. Ive wrote a couple of times on here and had good advice but I am still no farther foward with this guy. We have now being going together for 5 months, we live 5mins from each other. Im 19 and still at college, ...
A. 17 March 2011: Hmmmm, maybe he's just still finding his feet with the relationship. Some people just take longer to adapt to things like this, and it's perfectly normal to want to spend time alone.
As for making plans, take it one step at a time. Arrange ... (read in full...)
What happened to my G-spot?
Q. ok so i'm 23, and i'm kinda having a problem. When my bf fingers me he can't seem to find my G-spot.He used to be able to find it. I'm kinda scared..whats wrong with me?...
A. 17 March 2011: Hmmmm, maybe he's just getting lazy??? I don't think the G-spot just vanishes so there's probably nothing wrong with you. Make him work a little harder next time...... (read in full...)
Is he going to ever propose?
Q. Hello everyone. I've got a question about engagement. I am 20 (21 in Sept.), by boyfriend is 21 (22 in Sept.). We have been dating since May of 2009, so will be 2 years here in a few months. My mom got married in October of 2010, and about a month ...
A. 17 March 2011: I'm sure he will propose, in his own time!!! You just bought a house together, houses tend not to come cheap!!! He needs to save up for a ring first, then there'll be the cost of the wedding itself. Chill out hun and stop worrying. When the time is ... (read in full...)
How do I tease him a bit more?
Q. What can I do to tease my boyfriend a little more? He usually initiates removal of clothes, but lately as soon as we're naked, and I start heading down south to give him some oral loving he says tease me a bit more. I asked him about it and he ...
A. 16 March 2011: Lol, massaging is a good one to get him going, especially if he has sensitive skin around his ears.
Very good answer Annalisa, some great ideas in there. How about tying him to the bed aswell. My ex nearly ripped off the headboard he was so despe... (read in full...)
Will my old name be on my marriage certificate?
Q. I changed my name by deed poll years ago. I am now getting married and will have to reveal my previous name to the registrar when we give notice. Will my previous name be recorded on my marriage certificate. I am getting married in the UK. I am ...
A. 16 March 2011: Only way to find out is to ask the registry office that you are due to be married at. Congratulations by the way :)... (read in full...)
I don't want to compete for Max only to lose, and be an even bigger idiot than I feel now. Help!
Q. Alright well i'm 18 years old and at University, and I really like this guy, lets call him max. I kept getting all the vibes that he liked me back, and so i was flirty and chatty around him to try to encourage him asking me out. But then the other ...
A. 13 March 2011: Never 'compete' for anyone. If this Max fella can't see you for you, then sod him!!! If you are new to the group, spend your time getting to know the others, and give them the chance to get to know you. Maybe one of the other guys will spot you ... (read in full...)
How to cure my stretch marks for losing confidence?
Q. I am now being the whole body of my lower parts.I am so sad for that somebody thought that I am not virgin.I am now still virgin and I am now 22 years old.I felt that I looks like 60 years old women.I wanna wear short skirt what should I do? I felt ...
A. 10 March 2011: I don't know if you can get Bio Oil in China, but it's supposed to be very good for stretch marks. Look online for some if you can... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's behavior is manipulative, mean and controlling and I feel helpless because my pride, respect and self-esteem is being crushed..
Q. i'm not sure what it is i'm doing wrong. i've been dating my girlfriend for nearly 4 years. she's 5 years older than me but personally, i've never cared about age. gradually over the years, like many relationships, you are either good or you star...
A. 10 March 2011: Hmm, you're list of pro's didn't really pan out well. I seriously think that you have just answered your own question. YOU spend most of the cash, she only spends around 30% of the time being cute and sweet, you aren't sure of what she has done in ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure how to take this
Q. i have been with my partner who is 27 for a year and a half now, he suffers from severe anxiety so every now and then he likes to be alone as he gets frustrated being around the same person for too long. today in the car he told me, "sometimes i w...
A. 9 March 2011: Maybe he's worried that his anxiety will result in you leaving him maybe. I'm sure you're not the type of person to do that, but when he has these anxiety attacks he may feel as though he is pushing you away, even though he can't help it.
If yo... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's behavior is manipulative, mean and controlling and I feel helpless because my pride, respect and self-esteem is being crushed..
Q. i'm not sure what it is i'm doing wrong. i've been dating my girlfriend for nearly 4 years. she's 5 years older than me but personally, i've never cared about age. gradually over the years, like many relationships, you are either good or you star...
A. 9 March 2011: Ok, so you have managed to tell us 13 cons about being with this lady, how many pros are there?? You seriously need to weigh this up. If the cons outnumber the pros, then this lady isn't for you.
She does seem very manipulative, and you seem as ... (read in full...)
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