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Can someone give me some contraception advice?

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Question - (20 October 2010) 3 Answers - (Newest, 20 October 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Hello i am 16 and i have several questions to ask

1.) i am on the POP and it has made me feel really depressed and my period has been on for 4 of the 5 weeks i have been taking it. Also i cant bring myself to have sex anymore as it has made my confidence drop to zilch. DOes anyone know of any other contraceptives (other than condoms obvs i still use them) that i could take? I was thinking about the injection but apparently it works the same way as the POP?

2.) i go to the sexual health clinic when i have problems or go to get more pills, and when i first asked about contraception etc, but everytime i go they treat me like shit. The first time i went i was in my uniform and the receptionist embarressed me infront of everyone asking me if i was even old enough to have sex. Then she asked me why i hadnt come with my partner which made me feel as if i was a slut or something. Then the next time i went, my friend came with me, and a nurse asked why, and i said for support, as my friend also wanted to go on a pill, but wanted to go with me to see what it was like etc, and the nurse made a comment about me not being mature enough if i cant do things on my own :S. i was just wondering if there is anywhere else i could go, because im not sure if u have to pay or go with an adult at an actual doctors surgery.

Thanks for any feedback, much appreciated

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A female reader, tennisstar88 United States +, writes (20 October 2010):

tennisstar88 agony auntI was on the depo shot for 3 years..Personally, I hated it..I bled the whole last month before I had to go and got my next scheduled shot. When I discussed this with my gyno he said every girl's body is different some bleed the whole 3 months. Plus, he recommended being on it no more than 3 years any longer and you risk infertility.

There's other pills you can take such as the one that you have only 4 periods out of year, or those Nuva rings and other implantations they can insert. Now you're probably limited at the sexual health clinic what is available for contraceptives. Usually the clinics only offer the Pill and the depo.

That receptionist/nurse/medical assistant is rather rude. At least you're a teenager trying to get means to prevent a pregnancy. The next time she says a rude comment I would report it to the gyno you see that day. I'm sure you're not the only girl she looks down upon.

I'm not how health insurance goes in Britain but in the U.S. you have to be on your parent's health insurance or have a job that offers those health benefits. Even then health insurance doesn't cover birth control..I ended up paying almost $150 for the pill that you have 4 periods a month. And the Pill was $25.

So as jmc930 states, as much as you hate the rude nurse..it's better to get free pills than no birth control at all.

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A female reader, fi_the_tree United Kingdom +, writes (20 October 2010):

fi_the_tree agony auntMaybe your pill is too strong. I don't know much information on POP, but i've been on Cilest since i was 16, and it works well for me, my periods are like clock work, i know what day it arrives and also what time of day (morning, afternoon, evening) Look online for different types of contraceptive, or ask your GP.

With regards to the receptionists, they shouldn't be speaking to you the way they have. If it was me, I would make a complaint. At the very least they would get a warning, and could potentially lose their jobs as well.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2010):

You definitely need to figure out another option for contraceptives, especially if the pill isn't working. The injection is much the same from what I understand, too, but there are other options, like implants and vaginal rings you could give a try if the doctor thinks they're appropriate for you. You especially shouldn't be having a period for four weeks straight while taking the Pill.

It's true that it will be more expensive and not as private at a regular doctor's surgery clinic (you would probably have to have parental permission to get contraceptives there), so it would be best if you continued to go to the sexual health clinic, despite how bad the receptionist makes you feel. If the way she is treating you really is a big problem for you, just know that the receptionist is not the boss, and she could probably easily lose her job if you reported her to the doctor who oversees the clinic. She shouldn't be treating people like that, especially in a setting where people who need the help are coming to that clinic. You're doing nothing wrong; you're being quite smart about having safe sex. She shouldn't judge you.

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