Can you feel when something has happened to your soulmate, even if you don`t know them yet?
Q. This morning/night I woke up at like 3:30 am for no reason whatsoever and just instinctively knew that something had happened to, dare I say, my soulmate. I know this sounds crazy and everything, and no, I wasn`t drunk or high (I know there will be ...
A. 19 March 2012: Not so long ago (I'm talking a couple of weeks here) I woke up very abruptly at 5am with a sense of dread. I couldn't get back to sleep at all so put a film on. At 6am i had a text from my ex saying that at 5am a stolen truck had hit his car and had ... (read in full...)
How could he move on so quick?
Q. Me and my boyfriend of five and a half years called it quit a month and two weeks ago. One month after we separated he post pics on Facebook of him and his new girlfriend. My heart hurt in a place I never felt before. I don't know whether to move ...
A. 18 March 2012: Sweetie, my ex dumped me, then got with his new girlfriend the next day!!! Its not nice, believe me I know!! Yes you're hurting, but you need a distraction now, something to help take your mind off of things. Turn these feelings you have into ... (read in full...)
What do I say to my crush?
Q. This sounds pretty pathetic, i mean i'm 27 for goodness sake and can easily talk to others, but i'm genuinely stumped on how to go about this!!! I work for a bookies and recently transferred to a different shop closer to home. Whilst in my old...
A. 12 March 2012: I am so made up right now!!!... (read in full...)
What do I say to my crush?
Q. This sounds pretty pathetic, i mean i'm 27 for goodness sake and can easily talk to others, but i'm genuinely stumped on how to go about this!!! I work for a bookies and recently transferred to a different shop closer to home. Whilst in my old...
A. 12 March 2012: ***UPDATE***
Well!!! Still been chatting to my crush and things are getting more flirty and heated. I've found out today that the directors from his current job want to see him this week. He seems to think it might be them offering him a better j... (read in full...)
What do I say to my crush?
Q. This sounds pretty pathetic, i mean i'm 27 for goodness sake and can easily talk to others, but i'm genuinely stumped on how to go about this!!! I work for a bookies and recently transferred to a different shop closer to home. Whilst in my old...
A. 9 March 2012: Thanks guys, have been chatting to him, but I get the feeling he's not massively interested really, even though he hasn't said otherwise. I'm not getting my hopes up...... (read in full...)
What do I say to my crush?
Q. This sounds pretty pathetic, i mean i'm 27 for goodness sake and can easily talk to others, but i'm genuinely stumped on how to go about this!!! I work for a bookies and recently transferred to a different shop closer to home. Whilst in my old...
A. 8 March 2012: Well I'll just have to see how things go. He hasn't exactly said that nothing would ever happen, so I guess there could still be a possibility! Main thing is we're chatting, which was my question in the first place :)... (read in full...)
What do I say to my crush?
Q. This sounds pretty pathetic, i mean i'm 27 for goodness sake and can easily talk to others, but i'm genuinely stumped on how to go about this!!! I work for a bookies and recently transferred to a different shop closer to home. Whilst in my old...
A. 8 March 2012: Not massively when you think about it, few hours on the train. I've just commited to 3 years at university in Liverpool though... (read in full...)
What do I say to my crush?
Q. This sounds pretty pathetic, i mean i'm 27 for goodness sake and can easily talk to others, but i'm genuinely stumped on how to go about this!!! I work for a bookies and recently transferred to a different shop closer to home. Whilst in my old...
A. 8 March 2012: Well we did get round to chatting on facebook in the end!! We have a good giggle but nothing could ever happen between us as he is moving to London fairly soon for work (i'm up Liverpool way)
Thanks for your answers guys, take care :)... (read in full...)
How do I get this guy to leave me alone without involving the police
Q. He is starting to annoy me......... there is this guy i went out with for 3 months and now he fancys me big time:O i do not like him in that way only as a friend iv tried talking toh ima dna ll but it hasnt worked. What he dose to me is he always ...
A. 6 March 2012: You tell him to stop and if he doesn't, then you will take legal action against him.
Simple as that!!!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend helps himself to the food in my home and I don't like it!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for six months. I see him at weekends and he stays at my house. When we go out he pays for meals. I am also generous. However, he gets up in the night or early morning and helps himself to food in my house. This really ...
A. 6 March 2012: Come to a compromise, get him to buy some bits to put in a cupboard in your kitchen so he can help himself to his own food in your house.
This is what i used to do at my ex's house, worked fine :)... (read in full...)
Do I pick the one my parents want and live an okay life or pick who will make me happiest but know I will have to start all over?
Q. I have been in some real shitty relationships since I was about 17. I was always the 'untouchable' hottie who everyone thought was gorgeous but never got a chance with. I got real sick and started to finally date this older guy who at the time was ...
A. 6 March 2012: I vote 'be happy'... (read in full...)
I figured out a way to break into her email to see if she's been lying and cheating. Should I?
Q. I know it seems like here and else where there is the thing that if you look at someones email its almost as bad as killing someone but I have never seen it like this. Sometimes there are circumstances which make it almost so pressured to find out ...
A. 5 March 2012: Honestly, i think you should! If you find out that she's been lying/cheating, then you can dump her and get on with your life.
However, if you find an inbox full of boring stuff, you can be safe in the knowledge that nothing is going on. Then you... (read in full...)
Whats a good way of rejecting an invitation to date?
Q. Quick question - A guy just asked me out, I said no and made a bit of a mess of explaining why (basicaly I just wasn't intrested) Whats a good way of rejecting an invitation to date? One that doesn't involve shocked babbling on my part please!...
A. 4 March 2012: I find just being straight with someone is the best way. If you weren't interested in going on a date with someone, just say 'no thank you, but I'm not interested in dating right now'
Yes it may suck and you might feel bad, but people prefer s... (read in full...)
I was wondering if you guys/girls think I could become pregnant.
Q. Me and my boyfriend are in a pickle. We had sex and he finished inside of me. BUT some factors will affect this. This was on 3/1/12. Today is 3/3/12. 1. I am on birth control, the pill Ortho-Tricyclen. But on 2/29/12 I couldnt take my pill. ...
A. 3 March 2012: Only a pregnancy test can answer this question for you.... (read in full...)
How can I use this money to make more money quicker?
Q. Hi all, I do hope somebody can offer some advice on my situation as I'm feeling rather down. I went on an expensive luxury holiday 6 months ago and had the ussual holidays blues after getting back as we all do. I waited and waited for these to wea...
A. 27 February 2012: Get yourself to the nearest bookies!!! Be warned though, you could lose it all. I watched a guy lose £6,000 on 3 horses!!!!
Listen to what others have put about your quality of life in all seriousness. They make alot of sense... Good luck... (read in full...)
I feel like I should go farther with my 18 y.o. b/f
Q. I just started dating this guy I've liked for a really long time. He's 17 turning 18 next month and I'm 14 turning 15 in July. I know it's a huge age difference but I do really like him and according to his friends (who are also my friends), he ...
A. 27 February 2012: No it doesn't make you a bad person. Its only natural that you want to try new things. Just remember that it is illegal to have sex with a minor (under 16) and he could end up in real trouble!
It's good that he isn't pressuring you into anything... (read in full...)
How can I calm my girlfriend down without stirring up her temper?
Q. Hello everyone I've been having a lot of rough times with my girlfriend and one main problem seems to reoccur a lot is the fact when it comes to us arguing it never stops. She says it's because I'm an idiot I have no idea how to do anything righ...
A. 22 February 2012: She doesn't need calming down... she needs dumping!!!! She needs to be told that she is a horrible person when she fights with you!! If it's her binder, then shouldn't she check that everything is in there for the next day???
She's emotiona... (read in full...)
Could my baby look like my lover?
Q. If a woman is pregnant and sleeps with another man can the baby have features of the man who is not the father?...
A. 21 February 2012: Oh god, some of these answers made me laugh!
Thanks to HonestAnswer, Cerberus and especially CindyCares!!!
You guys cheered me right up!... (read in full...)
Is there something going on between my ex and one of our friends?
Q. Arghhhhh! I need someone to calm me down a bit!!! My thoughts are running away with me and i'm totally freaking out!!! I'm trying to get over my ex at the minute, and it's going well so far, apart from this one thing that's literally tortur...
A. 21 February 2012: Thanks for all your answers guys! You lot are right, no point in confronting them, they have every right to be together if they want to be. Just need to keep moving forward in life.
Thanks again :)... (read in full...)
Is there something going on between my ex and one of our friends?
Q. Arghhhhh! I need someone to calm me down a bit!!! My thoughts are running away with me and i'm totally freaking out!!! I'm trying to get over my ex at the minute, and it's going well so far, apart from this one thing that's literally tortur...
A. 21 February 2012: The reason why myself and the other guy are worried is because we still love our exes, him especially. He didn't want to split from his gf, but he had no choice. Neither of us like the fact that our exes are getting so close so soon after painful ... (read in full...)
Is there something going on between my ex and one of our friends?
Q. Arghhhhh! I need someone to calm me down a bit!!! My thoughts are running away with me and i'm totally freaking out!!! I'm trying to get over my ex at the minute, and it's going well so far, apart from this one thing that's literally tortur...
A. 21 February 2012: Ooops, slight error. It wasn't 4 weeks ago that the guy came to see me, was about a 3 weeks. Just re-read it and noticed my mistake!... (read in full...)
I want to give him this letter now I've told him my biggest secret, but he is being weird about it. What should I do?
Q. Hi all. On Thursday I revealed my biggest secret to date- I was sexually abused by my cousin for 4 years. (23 years old now). I never open up about my feelings but I told this friend finally. It was extremely difficult and slightly harder because he ...
A. 20 February 2012: In my experience, ignoring something doesn't make it get any better or go away. This needs confronting if you ever to truly move forward in life...... (read in full...)
I want to give him this letter now I've told him my biggest secret, but he is being weird about it. What should I do?
Q. Hi all. On Thursday I revealed my biggest secret to date- I was sexually abused by my cousin for 4 years. (23 years old now). I never open up about my feelings but I told this friend finally. It was extremely difficult and slightly harder because he ...
A. 20 February 2012: I think you need to explain to him that you feel like he's the only one you can trust, but you don't want to put pressure on him.
It's clear you haven't spoken to anyone else, but i think getting some therapy would help you to move on. I hope you... (read in full...)
How do I distance myself from a friend that only uses me?
Q. I am a 34 year old woman and I have a friend whom I really love. I just have one problem. I dont think he really cares for me and I need to seperate myself from him, I just dont know how. Everytime he ask me for something I do my best to get it for ...
A. 19 February 2012: Wow, what a dick!!! He asked you to pay for his trip away???? And because you couldn't get the funds in time he's now ignoring you???
Here's what you do...
BLOCK EVERY FORM OF CONTACT YOU HAVE WITH HIM!
I'm talking cell numbers, email addr... (read in full...)
Working so hard during term time means I always get ill during the holidays! How do I stop this?
Q. I'm at college and need some advice. I work really hard all year to try and get the best grades that I can. At the moment I am working at grades A and B however whenever the holidays come around I always get ill. I usually stay behind at college ...
A. 15 February 2012: Maybe try taking some more time for yourself during term time. I appreciate that you want to do well at college, but maybe spend one night a week having a break from college work and relax, have a soak in the bath or read a book/magazine. This will ... (read in full...)
I feel it's too late for him, but I don't want to hurt him either
Q. Okay, hi everyone! :)...... Hope you can all give me some good advice, as I'm in a very confusing situation atm. I'v been with my boyfriend 3 years. We've had lots of ups and downs. Mainly downs. He can be very difficult. Jealous and controlling....
A. 14 February 2012: I'm in a very similar emotional situation right now, and i have decided that i need to move on. Yes he'll be hurt, yes it'll be hard but i know myself that things won't change, because he's not prepared to work on himself to fight for me.
As mu... (read in full...)
Should I tell this mean girl off or just keep my mouth shut?
Q. Hello :) This girl and I use to be friends since 7th grade and now we are in 9th. We are not friends anymore because we fight constantly and she causes so much drama. I've been waiting for her to be mad at me for I can tell her we will never be...
A. 14 February 2012: Just tell her straight, something along the lines of "I'm sick of you treating me like something you stood in. I'm better than that and I don't need friends like you, so stay away from me!"
Confide in trusted teachers if you think she is interfer... (read in full...)
I'm going to meet my girlfriend's parents but I cant tell them that I met my G/f online! What do I say?
Q. Hi, basically I have been with my gf for 2 years, and I'm ready to meet her parents. However the main thing is to explain how we met. It's complicated, becuz we met online and that's not cool for her parents, so I need an idea on how we met. She ...
A. 9 February 2012: Wow, lying to parents from the off is a REALLY bad idea!!! So what if you guys met online??? Surely when they get to know you, they won't care how you met, but will see a nice young man who treats their daughter the way she should be treated. I ... (read in full...)
Maybe I do lack empathy but has my girlfriend's moaning gone beyond the norm?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together 3 years, living together for one. We have good times, we have a healthy relationship in most aspects, but by god there is a problem. She moans and whinges and goes hysterical on a fairly regular basis. ...
A. 9 February 2012: Hmmmm, maybe just tell her straight? Talk to her and explain that the 'outbursts of crazy' are making you feel miserable.
Everybody moans, you can't stop that from happening. Try suggesting the counselling again, offer to go with her for moral su... (read in full...)
I'm bisexual, and if my mom gets to know she's going to kick me out!
Q. My problem is that i'm bisexual, i haven't told her about me and my mom thinks that it's wrong. And yes, i know tht its wrong.. but i've dated 3 girls and more guys thn 7. Should i tell her? she might kick me out or tell my whole family and my aunt ...
A. 8 February 2012: The only way you can be happy is to be true to yourself. It seems harsh that your mum would kick you out and your aunt report it to the newspaper.
Being bi-sexual is not wrong by any means, it may be frowned upon in your culture, but you can't he... (read in full...)
B/f says he wants to marry me but talks about this girl every day
Q. My fiancé and I have been together for a little over a year. We have come to our "plateau" in our relationship. But he will not communicate with me at all. He thinks I do everything wrong and he does everything right. I want to just sit and have a ...
A. 5 February 2012: If he refuses to talk to you, then force him to listen to what you have to say. If he doesn't respond, then he doesn't really care about you in my opinion...... (read in full...)
My B/f says he's desensitized from all the sex and needs a three day break! Is that even possible? And he watched porn the very next night!
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been having sex pretty much every night for the past week to the point where he can't cum. He says he's desensitized from all the sex and needs a three day break, which we both agreed to under certain conditions: he not ...
A. 28 January 2012: Some people have some proper stupid excuses for things!!! This is definately the strangest one i've heard so far!!!
Get your pleasure pearls out, play him at his own game!!... (read in full...)
I am a sex addict and I need help!
Q. Hello. My name's Anon and I'm a sex addict. In the past I'd always been skeptical about the existence of sex addiction as a medical condition, in contrast to addictions to alcohol, drugs or gambling, but now believe it to be true and accept that ...
A. 27 January 2012: I think you need to come clean with your wife. Tell her you think you have a problem and that you want help. Yes she'll probably be very angry, but hopefully she'll want to help.
Bear in mind that if she wants to come along to therapy with you... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for being unhappy with the engagement ring?
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend of 4 years and I just recently got engaged. I'm really happy and excited about it all, because I had been pushing the whole get married thing for so long. We shopped around for rings and at first I didn't care which one he'd...
A. 27 January 2012: It's not all about the size of the rock on your finger! Get your priorities straight. It's the thought that counts. Maybe he saw that ring and thought that it would look so very beautiful on the finger of the woman he loves and wants to spend t... (read in full...)
Adam or Eve, am I being played?
Q. am i jealous, stupid, controlling, or just kidding myself loving this person? what would you do? I have dated this 30 year old Micronesian for 3 months before we decided to be official. It was nice, I planned a whole day for the to of us and the...
A. 25 January 2012: Considering there are 6 'Red Flag moments' in 7 months, I suggest you call it quits.
Why let her carry on treating you like a fool. She'll find some other guy to manipulate...... (read in full...)
Why can't I say the LOVE word?
Q. whats wrong with me i am with a man who is the most wonderful man i have ever been with its LDR been together for nearly 3 years we are comitted and loyal to each other and i am due to move in with him soon to end the LDR been tough but been worth ...
A. 24 January 2012: Why not try calling him "dear"??
So when he hands you a drink say 'Thank you dear' It's not a scary as saying 'love' i don't think, but it's personal for the both of you.
Give it a go x... (read in full...)
Relationships, cheating, possessiveness. Help!!!
Q. Hi. I recently posted in "I cheated and he just won't stop bringing it up!! Advice pls?" Anyway... off that topic now... here's a new one: Possessiveness... My boyfriend (he's 21) of whom I have been with for 6 months, not only bring...
A. 23 January 2012: This isn't possessiveness, this is INSANITY!!!!! What a complete and utter spanner for thinking he can get away with treating someone like that. No offence intended, but it's no wonder you cheated on him to be perfectly honest! He sounds like a ... (read in full...)
Matters down under!
Q. I was wondering how most women have their pubic hair, i guess? Just because idk if a guy will be freaked out if I have hair down there, or if it's normal too. If you don't have hair down there, how do you remove it? What do guys prefer? Is having ...
A. 23 January 2012: AbigailBradbury, lots of men shave their pubic hair actually because it's been known to make their privates look bigger. Some men have their women in mind when shaving down there, one of the male posters said that he doesn't like hair in his teeth ... (read in full...)
How can I tell this teacher that I respect and appreciate what he does for my class?
Q. Hey guys, just a quick one :) There is a teacher (no, I don't fancy him/ love him etc) but I do really appreciate him. He is such a lovely guy even in class and we have had a few out of class discussions. We get on well, but I am nothing special ...
A. 19 January 2012: Why not speak to the head teacher? Tell him/her how much you appreciate what your class teacher does? They can then pass this information on to him (confidentially if you don't want to be mentioned)
I'm sure this teacher will be thrilled to know ... (read in full...)
Have you ever dated your brother or sister's friend and then asked after them over the years
Q. Have you ever dated your brother's or sister's friend in the past for a short period and as the years went by did you ever have a thought of looking them up again ie turning up on their doorstep 3 years later. Also did you ever ask your sibling ...
A. 19 January 2012: I went out with my brothers friend for a short period of time years and years ago. Needless to say it didn't work out, and my bro was very supportive of me (it wasn't a bad break-up or anything)
I can't say i've ever thought about looking the guy ... (read in full...)
How can I tell this teacher that I respect and appreciate what he does for my class?
Q. Hey guys, just a quick one :) There is a teacher (no, I don't fancy him/ love him etc) but I do really appreciate him. He is such a lovely guy even in class and we have had a few out of class discussions. We get on well, but I am nothing special ...
A. 19 January 2012: Hmmm, this is a tough one. You want to say thanks, without seeming like you are obsessed with him, without being dubbed a 'teachers pet' and without treading on any toes.
I have been a teaching assistant for a few years now, and i have seen jus... (read in full...)
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