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writes:I love my current boyfriend. He is kind and patient. We are doing well overall. We have been together for over a year. I asked my boyfriend for permission to hang out with my guyfriend for his birthday. I missed it. So I hung out with him the next weekend. I told him all about my bf and how much I cared about him. I got stuck at his place late and he tried to tell me it was too late to drive. Then I ended up falling asleep. When I woke up I felt him trying to grind on me. I told him it was wrong and he needed to stop. And that I needed to leave but then he pulled me back saying I couldn't leave. Then he tried to force me to kiss him. I made him stop. And then I left his place. I feel betrayed.I feel so upset. I could barely drive home. I almost got into an accident. I feel so bad. I have never cheated and never ever want to cheat. I did not want this to happen. I know this guy liked me but he promised to respect my relationship. Do I and if so how do I tell my boyfriend? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you. I told him. I couldn't keep it in, and it worked out. My boyfriend was upset at the guy. The other guy apologized too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2010): Tell your BF. If I was your BF, well look at me, and you can only imagine what my intent would be to the man who disrespected your body in such a inhumane way. Be honest and tell him about this. His reaction could be angry towards the man and not necessarily towards you. However, if you have a strong relationship and communicate this openly, you can take steps together to prevent such a horrible act from happening again. Try not to drive with any extreme emotion in you. I once did that going 100mph and slammed on the brakes on a hwy, spun out, went around several cars...and I'll just tell you I lived. BE VERY CAREFUL you seem like a nice girl so be smart and watch out. Best to you.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (11 October 2010):
 You just need to be honest with him. He may not like what he hears, but reassure him that you did everything in your power to stop him and that you feel awful, but you wanted to be totally honest with him.
He'll appreciate it more that you were open with him. Sit him down, tell him that this is going to be hard for you, but that you need to talk to him about it. I also suggest you don't see this friend again if he's going to force himself on you...
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