Missing the ex as just in a friend?
Q. Do you ever miss your ex not in a romantic way but just their friendship and company? Or is that impossible?...
A. 13 January 2011: Over the last few months, yes i have missed my ex for his company. It's not like i always wanted him to come round and have wild sex with me everywhere or anything. But just to have a cuddle, even sit and talk or watch a film.
It's not impossib... (read in full...)
How long will a woman chase a man by phone only?
Q. How long will a woman chase a man if the chasing can only be done by phone? How can I shorten the chase and how can I drag it out if needed? Please at least let me know if you are male or female....
A. 13 January 2011: Why on earth are you asking this? Are you planning to let some poor woman chase you for long periods of time or something??? Because i doubt it'll work. As xanthic said, women won't continue a chase for long...... (read in full...)
I'm older than my boyfriend, am I doing anything bad?
Q. I am 17 will be 18 in March. My boyfriend is 15 and will be 16 in February! I feel like he and i are on the same level and no relationship ive ever been in has been as good as this one is! Sometimes, I feel bad because I'm older. I just need a ...
A. 13 January 2011: To be honest, girls who date younger men are not doing anything bad or wrong at all. Look at Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher, happily married and noone bats an eyelid!!
However, school kids can be a little harsh. If people in school are saying d... (read in full...)
I hate him and so do our teenagers! I'm only staying because of the toddlers.
Q. My husband and I have been together 17 years and had 4 children. We have 2 teenagers and 2 toddlers. Our first 15 years together were great years. The last 2 years have been pure missery. My husband did a complete 180 and is a totally different ...
A. 12 January 2011: My, this is a tricky situation, it must be so hard for you right now.
How old are you're 2 teens now? Your husband may be good with the babies but if you stuck around would he be the same with the babies when they get to their teens? If i were you... (read in full...)
From phone to meeting in person: how can I make it natural, not awkward?
Q. Hello all! I've been talking to a guy for nearly 3 years on the phone. I just wondered when we do meet in person how can I make it where the situation won't be so awkward?...
A. 12 January 2011: I agree with jadesketcher, meet somewhere public to begin with and tell someone where you are meeting and what you plan to do.
I also agree with other posters, just be yourself. You seem to have no problem talking on the phone, so hopefull... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to have cyber sex, but I'm concerned that if he records the session, it will leak out!
Q. Me and my boyfriend are in a long-distance relationship and he wants me to have cyber-sex with him. Its been a year into our relationship and I'm not sure of the whole thing. What if he records the session just for his sake and it gets leaked by ...
A. 12 January 2011: Tell him what you've told us. If he loves you, he'll understand, or just not record it!!... (read in full...)
Struggling to have sex... help?
Q. Hey all :) Recently me and my boyfriend are struggling to have sex. when we first started having sex we both had a lot more free time and were having sex almost everyday. Since September we both have more commitments and have been having sex abo...
A. 11 January 2011: Maybe try some new things in the bedroom, dress up for him. You can buy alsorts of outfits and stuff from different places or you can easily make a schoolgirl outfit from what you have in the wardrobe. If you're both not too shy, try some roleplay. ... (read in full...)
He is verbally abusive, how do I get him to change his behaviour?
Q. Hi Whenever my bf gets angry i.e. like when i try to call him when he is at work or when he is busy, he verbally abuses me. He calls me names, if i have known that he is busy i would have never called him in the first place. We discussed a ...
A. 11 January 2011: You tell him these words exactly:
"You need to stop calling me names, I am not going to let you treat me like this anymore, so either you cut it out, or i walk!"
If he's busy when you call, all he needs to say is "I'm busy right now with (... (read in full...)
Ideas for "secret admirer" notes needed please!
Q. Hi, my boyfriend is attending college hours from where I live and plays baseball. My spring break happens to fall on the week of his birthday so I am going to go up. I told him I couldnt come for his birthday but I will be there the next week. But ...
A. 11 January 2011: Find out where he is going out for his birthday and make sure you're there wearing a cracking outfit and a wig, making you unrecognisable, he'll love that!!!... (read in full...)
I don't feel as bad as I should after this huge loss, has anyone been through anything like this before? Any advice for me?
Q. Today my girlfriend and our 3 month old baby girl died in a car accident. Everyone is feeling so sorry for me. I'm sad but I don't want people feeling bad for me. My mom is saying that i'm in Denial. I don't really think I am. Anyway, so i'm ...
A. 10 January 2011: When i was 17 my father drowned in a scuba diving accident. When i was told i didn't really feel anything, my mother and brother were in tears, but i just couldn't feel anything. For me life went on as normal, i saw my friends, went to college, but ... (read in full...)
My mother wants me to choose... her or my baby's father???
Q. hello everyone I need your advice. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and im an adult. My mother keeps on telling me she is going to get me and him to break up every single day. I am pregnant by him and im tired of hearing ...
A. 9 January 2011: Just keep reinforcing to her that you will not choose between her and your bf. Or if you want to scare her a little, tell her you choose your bf, then pack a bag and stay with your bf or a friend for a couple of days if you can. Maybe she'll realise ... (read in full...)
My mother said I was a disappointment to her... on my birthday too!
Q. Hi, my name's Clare and it's my 18th birthday today. I suffer with severe depression, diagnosed 4 years ago. A lot of stuff has happened in my life to cause me to be down (I won't go into it), but recently I've been happy. I started a music ...
A. 9 January 2011: First of all, Happy 18th Birthday, even though it may not have seemed very happy for you.
I don't know why your mum wouldn't have chosen today to tell you either, and i don't think that's very fair. You have obviously had to deal with alot in ... (read in full...)
After reading the messages I don't trust him at all!!! What should I do?
Q. ok so i had one of my friends message my boyfriend on myspace to mess with him to see if he would cheat or anything cause i really wanted to know. so she sent him a message and said hey you seem pretty cool and i wanna get to know you better. my ...
A. 9 January 2011: Don't go back to him. Why on earth are you having his child at your age???? You have a whole life ahead of you. He blatantly told someone else that he was single, when he wasn't, you were right to end this. Now you have to do what's best for your ... (read in full...)
His foreplay made me really wet... is this normal?
Q. so last night me and my boyfriend went to the movies but we didnt watch the movie if you know what i mean, we made out the whole time. So anyway when we were leaving the theater it felt like i had gotten my period cause my panties felt wet.. but ...
A. 9 January 2011: Yes, you can get sexually aroused even if your boyfriend goes nowhere near your vagina. It's nothing to worry about and it is completely normal.... (read in full...)
I waited for her to be ready for a relationship, but in the meantime she had unprotected sex with another guy and might be pregnant !
Q. Hi I'm a 23 year old guy from the UK and I've just had the worst couple of days of my life. I haven't slept, I can't eat and all I can think about are the awful things that I found out the other day and that are still unfolding. As ever this is...
A. 9 January 2011: You just need to be supportive of her. Reassure her that you will be there for her if she needs to talk. You've tried not to put any pressure on her, and continue to do so. She should realise that you just want to be there for her, offer to take her ... (read in full...)
My ex is fliritng with a guy on facebook, I don't want to loose her!
Q. hahaha...this is so interesting and hurting at the same time..if you av been following my stories then i dont av to repeat..i broke up with my girlfriend less than two weeks ago..i have kept the no contact rule for a while until i saw she had ...
A. 9 January 2011: Just ignore it. She's clearly doing it to get a reaction out of you. I'm in a similar situation. My ex has a gf now, and she constantly comments on his statuses, posts on his wall etc on facebook with stuff trying to get a reaction out of me. I'm ... (read in full...)
I can't trust my boyfriend after I saw him hugging these girls!
Q. In college, i saw my boyfriend and he hugged this girl saw me and walked off, then while me and my bestfriend went to get some lunch and he was pressing himself up againist these two girls, and he spends alot of time with these two girls, i know he ...
A. 9 January 2011: The only way you can fully trust him, is if he proves to you that you can trust him. If he can't do this, then you will always be wondering if there's something going on. It won't be worth the pain it'll cause.... (read in full...)
I'm never going to get laid!
Q. hey everyone! just looking for some advice on what i should do...ive been going out with my girlfriend for 8 months and she refuses to have sex with me, will not even do oral stuff with me. she says she loves me but im not sure how to go about this. ...
A. 9 January 2011: Now all you can do is be supportive of her decision and wait for her to be ready. You're not a pig as such, people have urges and i admire you for respecting her choice to wait.
Just keep reassuring her that everything will be ok, and that you... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble finding a female that wants me and not cheat on me what do I do?
Q. im having trouble finding a girl that wants to be with me for me and not want to cheat on me all the time every girl but one has cheated on me . . . i need hints and tips on relationships from females and males! please help me...
A. 8 January 2011: I don't think there are any hints and tips we can give you. I doubt you're the sort of guy to mistreat a girl, therefore it may not be down to you as to why these girls cheat on you all the time.
I know women bash men all the time about cheating... (read in full...)
I thought I was moving on until I saw the pictures of him
Q. Update and a new question(s): If you've read my last 2 pleas for help and advice, then you already know I'm recently out of a 3 year relationship. Since he told me about his cheating in November, I've gone through an emotional roller coaster t...
A. 8 January 2011: I think it's wise to find out all the answers, if you have all those answers you can finally get closure and you will never again sit and wonder what happened. It's clear he's struggling with it though, so maybe try not to push it too hard, you said ... (read in full...)
Do guys like their hair being played with?
Q. Do guys like to have there hair played with? Not just when kissing...
A. 7 January 2011: A few of my ex's haven't necessarily liked having their hair played with, but they have LOVED having you scratch their head all over!! just lightly mind, but they all said it was really relaxing, especially first thing in the morning when they are ... (read in full...)
Why did he have to be so graphic about this woman?
Q. I sometimes work on the holidays, during school vacation...so... I knew this guy for about two years. We are kinda close but I only would like us to be friends and nothing more. We would talk about many topics: marriage, sex, life...in...
A. 7 January 2011: If you don't want to hear him speaking so graphically about women, then next time he asks you if your mad, just say "yes, because i don't want to hear you talking graphically about other women, it make me feel uncomfortable"
He can use other wa... (read in full...)
My dreams are taking their toll on me!
Q. Let me start by giving you a bit of information on my current situation. My ex and i were together (on and off) for 3 and a half years. In June '10 we broke up and a day or 2 after, he got with another girl. Of course i was heartbroken, but after a ...
A. 6 January 2011: Thank you to everyone for all your advice. I know it seems crazy for me to want him back after he got with someone else, and we have talked recently about how to move forwards and not let the same things destroy us again. In the past we used to ... (read in full...)
I feel like I am second best because it didnt work it out with his ex....
Q. hey, i need some advice, this is really hard for me to put my feelings into words but ill try. iv been with my husband now for nearly 3years, it was a whirlwind romance at the beginning. i met him online, met him in person and from that day we have ...
A. 6 January 2011: You need to chill out hun, so what if he was with his ex for longer than you have been together? HE MARRIED YOU, NOT HER!!! Therfore, he loves you, not her.
We can't change the past, so put it behind you, start talking and discussing how you can ... (read in full...)
Sex: I tend to do things I don’t want to, to avoid making a scene
Q. I'm basically just curious I’ve only slept with a few people and tend to do things I don’t want to, to avoid making a scene... I guess. It's just a few general questions about sex and what other people think. You don’t have to answer them all, ...
A. 6 January 2011: WOW, first things first, don't ever be forced into doing something you don't feel comfortable doing. If your boyfriend is going to make a scene because you won't do something, then he needs to go if he can't respect your wishes.
1. With regards ... (read in full...)
Can a one night stand turn possibly turn into a relationship?
Q. Hello Can you ever get together with someone after a one night stand or have you completely blown it?? Any opinions?? Anyone ever got with anyone after this?? ...
A. 5 January 2011: Ok, my last boyfriend wasn't technically a one night stand as such. Basically when i was 17/18 i snogged him at a friends house (he was 14 at the time) and we never really saw or spoke to each other after that. 4 years later, i bump into an old ... (read in full...)
It hurts when he looks at other women
Q. Hi, I need some insights... My bf and I are in a great relationship for over a year and half, we love each other so much and we plan on getting married. But he's a MAN and he can't help looking at other women. I know, they say it's normal, "m...
A. 5 January 2011: Show him this post, seems to sum it up in a nutshell really...... (read in full...)
Are my reasons valid for not telling him how I feel?
Q. I've never had a proper boyfriend, I've been fairly happy with that until now. Mainly because I loved this guy for longest time and that occupied my affection for other people. During this time i've tended just to hook up with people in a completely ...
A. 5 January 2011: I don't think you're the only person to feel this way, i'm sure there are lots of people who have held back their feelings because they're scared of what might be bad. More often than not the person they have feelings for ends up with someone else ... (read in full...)
Why has she kept my number?
Q. i met a girl at college and she seemed to be giving me signals of interest. anyway, we eventually exchanged numbers and began flirting and texting until almost 2am on college night (something i wouldnt expect friends to do on a college night). her ...
A. 5 January 2011: LOL i agree, just ring her and ask her out, you have nothing to lose really... (read in full...)
How do I force him to seek help?
Q. Hello, and thanks in advance I've been with my bf for 2.5 years and its been a constant battle more so this last 1.5 I'm unable to go anywhere with gf's unless he is present, unable to have my own privacy on Facebook without him having acce...
A. 5 January 2011: Here is exactly what you say to him, word for word...
"Man up, start treating me with some god damn respect or i'm GONE!!!"
He will keep doing this to you as long as you allow it to happen, so take action. If he doesn't man up, then leave him, ... (read in full...)
I feel like my infertility is hindering his happiness....
Q. I am aged 31 and have been married for 3 years. I have had an admired relationship with a faithful husband who has always been on my side and supported me. By the time of our marriage, my husband had a 4 year old son who we have happily lived with ...
A. 5 January 2011: Is adoption not a possibility? Even though it wouldnt technically be your child, the child would still be something you shared together.
Maybe even surrogacy? Where your egg and his sperm is implanted into another uterus. But this might not be f... (read in full...)
I'm never going to get laid!
Q. hey everyone! just looking for some advice on what i should do...ive been going out with my girlfriend for 8 months and she refuses to have sex with me, will not even do oral stuff with me. she says she loves me but im not sure how to go about this. ...
A. 4 January 2011: All you can really do is talk to her about this, explain that it makes you feel bad about yourself. She has given you a reason already, but if she's adamant to stick to it then you can either respect her wishes, or finish with her (which is ... (read in full...)
Is a girlfriend really worth fighting for?
Q. A question for both girls and guys. Is a girlfriend really worth fighting for? i dont mean like you meet a girl and you try to make yourself better than the other guys shes with, but i mean if both you and the other guy have been with her and you ...
A. 3 January 2011: It depends, do you think she is worth fighting for?? I'm in a similar position, my ex is with someone else but he said he loves me. Our relationship lasted a similar length of time as yours did.
I think he is worth fighting for, so you need to ... (read in full...)
Why do the corners of my eye bleed?
Q. So I have a weird question.... why do the corner of my eyes bleed? First my best friend told me her eyes were bleeding about 6 months ago and I thought she was crazy but she whiped the corner of her eye one day and showed me and it was like purple ...
A. 3 January 2011: You may be having a reaction to your eye make up...... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend has become a stalker
Q. there is a kid that i dated in 2008 - 2009 for almost a full year. 5 months into our relationship he cheated on me with my bestfriend, i didnt know because i never paid attention because i never thought that would happen, when i found out i ...
A. 3 January 2011: You need to change any method of contact you have, phone number, email address, cell number. Block him from social networking sites and keep track of whenever you see him outside your house (that's if he goes that far)
This is the only way. Tel... (read in full...)
I took a girl's lost blackberry and everyone has found out and started abusing me on facebook!
Q. A few days after christmas my cousin had a house party and at this party i found a phone on the floor. I put it in my pocket, planning to keep it but when the party finished the girl who had lost the phone was in tears. But i didnt give it back. ...
A. 3 January 2011: You have to face up to what you did, simple as. You had every intention of keeping it in the first place, and didn't give it back until everything kicked off!! No wonder you're getting abuse and everyone is talking about you!!
Well done for givi... (read in full...)
He just replaces one woman for another and I'm feeling hurt
Q. Dear Cupid, I met a man on-line who asked me out, when I replied to him 2 days later, he said he had met someone else and was going to ask her to be exclusive. I wished him well. Several weeks later I get a message from this same man, asking m...
A. 2 January 2011: You just need to remember that this isn't your fault. You are now one of many women who have been/are being used by men all over the world.
Leave this guy in the past, he's not worthy of your sadness. There are plenty of other guys out there wh... (read in full...)
Will I ever be good enough for him?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my current boyfriend for nearly 2 years now.. and I love him with all of my heart.. he is everything I have ever wanted in a guy. He is the first guy to ever actually seem to care about me and love me.. unlike my ...
A. 2 January 2011: To be honest, it doesn't sound like there is much else you can do! You seem to be doing everything you can already, and if he can't see that, then he's blinded by his own insecurities. Maybe offer to work out with him if you can, this might increase ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my wife want me going down on her?
Q. My wife won't let me go down on her, I LOVE doing it and I am actually pretty damn good at it. (5 girls have told me I have given them their only orgasm from oral) I try to head down south but she tells me 'I don't want you doing that right ...
A. 29 December 2010: If she doesn't want you doing it, then just leave it out for now. Find out what else she wants you to do to satisfy her. She may even change her mind at some point and ask you to do it again for her. But for now, work on doing what she would like ... (read in full...)
Why do the corners of my eye bleed?
Q. So I have a weird question.... why do the corner of my eyes bleed? First my best friend told me her eyes were bleeding about 6 months ago and I thought she was crazy but she whiped the corner of her eye one day and showed me and it was like purple ...
A. 29 December 2010: You should go and see the doctor. The only other explanation i can think of would be what's called 'sleep' which you normally have in the corners of your eyes when you first wake up in the morning. Do you and your friend wear eye make-up??? This ... (read in full...)
I lied to my Mom, but I love this boy so much
Q. About 5 months ago i met my uncle's wife's brother at my little cousin's birthday party. They all live in mexico so i rarely see them. This boy and I didn't talk, we just looked at each other and smiled, through out the whole party. After that...
A. 27 December 2010: How old is this guy you're seeing? If he's a lot older than you then i can understand why your family are so against you being with him. If he is around your age then i can understand where you're coming from, but becoming pregnant just to be with ... (read in full...)
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