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reader, Serpico  +, writes (26 October 2010):
I have never ever heard a woman say - "I wish I lost it earlier to someone who didnt matter so much." I have heard countless say the opposite. Food for though for those ladies thinking about it.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2010): He was wonderful throughout. He kissed me, he told me loved me, and he never left my side that night.
However, the very day after, he stopped texting and calling, and I did all the texting and calling.
Now, we don't speak. He ignores my calls and texts. We haven't spoken in about a week, and I presume we won't. He got what he wanted.
I lost my virginity to him over two months ago. I'm almost 26. I waited a long time, obviously, and he knew this. He just didn't care.
If I could, I would take it back. When I lost it, I wanted it to be with someone who loved me. He tricked me, as if I'm not a human being with feelings. I would have given it to someone who loved me and who wanted to be with me.
I regret it, but there's nothing I can do about it.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (18 October 2010):
 Let's see I lost mine when I was 18 to my pot dealing boyfriend. It lasted 5 minutes and it hurt like hell. So if I could rewind that clock, I would definitely stuck it out for someone worth losing it to.
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reader, londonmiss  +, writes (17 October 2010):
 I lost it at 16 to my boyfriend of 5 months. It was lovely, i wouldn't change it for the world.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (16 October 2010):
 I lost it at 19 to the guy I married 4 years later. It did NOT go as expected. It took a month for him to fit in and for us to get it right! But, it's still a fond (if not painful) memory. Lots of smiles, laughs... I wouldn't go back and change my mind in the least. I waited until I found the right guy and it turned out that my taste was accurate!
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reader, mandee19 +, writes (15 October 2010):
It was very painful. Also, I dated the guy for a while after that but we eventually broke up. I would have liked to have held onto it a little longer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2010): "Losing your virginity" is not nearly as significant as "learning to love".
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (15 October 2010):
 My first time was with my first serious boyfriend. We were at a party and one of friends tried to hide in the wardrobe (he was very drunk lol)
We took it really slow and it was a great experience for both of us. I wouldn't change a thing...
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reader, Sweety Pie +, writes (15 October 2010):
 Hmm... I dont regret it. It was with a long term boyfriend and was really sweeta and didnt hurt that much.
But all in all it wasn't brilliant sex. I was a bit dissapointed. First couple of times wern't that great tbh. But we were both virgin, and it improved over time! It wasn't until I slept with someone who really knew what he was doing I discovered how good sex can be :)
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reader, Napalm_Angelripper  +, writes (15 October 2010):
 I'm not with him anymore, but I don't regret the person I lost it to. I spent a great deal of time with him, and had a very meaningful relationship with him. Although I hurt him, which I regret very deeply, I am still glad it was with him.
It was kind of embarassing though! We had to go through six condoms in one sitting because they kept getting stuck inside of me, hahaha!! It wasn't extremely hurtful, but I don't know if that was due to past experiences when I was a lot younger. But he was also very gentle with me, and wasn't rough at all, that might've had something to do with it.
-The Resident Metalhead
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reader, daletom +, writes (15 October 2010):
My wife and I exchanged virginity (she took mine, and I got hers in return) on our wedding night.
Physiologically I was rather disappointed and ashamed that I hurt her more than necessary. That was largely because I was too eager, we were both nervous, and neither of us knew what we were doing. And, on balance, it must not have been horrific - we had sex 4 more times in the next 24 hours.
Mentally and emotionally it was extremely significant, meaningful, and awesome. I certainly didn't expect to have such a poor performance, but what REALLY surprised me was the emotional intensity I felt during and right after the coupling. I was actually sobbing with the emotions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2010): I can sum it up in 4 words...Not Like The Movie! Ha ha
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2010): Yes! I would go back and NOT do it with who i did it with. WE did it that one time and he dumped me a few weeks later. I think he just wanted to take my virginity away from me and he fed me a bunch of lies, sayig he loves me he'll go to college with me, marry me. ALL BS! Then I got together with the love of my life who doesnt value me as he should because i was not a virgin when we got together (he was not either) and still 6 years down the road My husband is the one who reminds me of the A hole who took it away from me. I would take it back due to what i am dealing with because of who i am with. If i were single or with someone else who knows, it may not be a big as a deal to them. But my husband calls me nasty names because i was not a virgin when we started dating. Sucks....big time. I would take it back. honestly i think about it every day b/c i think my life with my husband would be better. really sucks.
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reader, Anadin +, writes (15 October 2010):
 i would have to be in the same category as dirtball hehe it was good but regret who it was with
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reader, dirtball +, writes (15 October 2010):
 Mine was pretty much what I expected. I don't regret doing it, but I do regret who it was with because she caused me great pain.
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reader, Jen1689 +, writes (15 October 2010):
 I wouldn't change a thing about it. I lost it when I was 20 to my now-fiance. It was perfect and everything I was expecting it to be.
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (15 October 2010):
 I lost it to a virgin too, very awkward. If i was stil a virgin i wasnt gonna refrain.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (15 October 2010):
I lost it to an older girl, so to be honest I had a great time.
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reader, kirra07 +, writes (15 October 2010):
Losing my virginity was a pretty bad experience overall. It hurt like hell, and then afterwards I found out the condom broke so I had to go to the clinic the next morning to get the morning after pill (which I hadn't even heard of until then). So it was pretty stressful. But it was with my first boyfriend, and we stayed together after that for another 3 years. So I probably wouldn't have changed my mind if I could go back. Maybe delayed it a few weeks or a month.
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